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Simone Hogan's avatar

Please don’t beat yourself up wondering what you did wrong. None of us did anything wrong.

I was the more hands-off kind of parent and I keep wondering if my child would not have turned trans, had I been more controlling. It is what it is. I don’t think it’s anything we could have prevented, not with the huge influence at school.

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Lisa's avatar

I went through this period (and honestly still do at brief moments) of thinking I caused the transgenderism. I think it’s true that at times I pushed my son a little too hard, a reflection of my own perfectionism. I was also the one who suggested a therapist — BUT we are not to blame!!! We did the best we could. They are making their choices and no matter how hard we try, we can’t change them.

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