First it stole her appearance: her beautiful long blonde hair, her brightly-colored dresses and skirts, her crystal-blue eyes and vibrant smile. It left her looking like a homeless person, with unkempt hair, baggy, ill-fitting clothes, poor hygiene and dead eyes.
I hear you, sister. My glorious girl is a mess of testosterone acne, thinking masculinity is a low voice, swearing, piercings, tattoos and body modifications. I am devastated. I can't say her name, I can't even say I have a daughter.
One thing we shared was playing The Sims - now at Sims4. A recent update enables players to add mastectomy scars to Sims, all new Sims are now bisexual and gender has to be assigned. I know this sounds ridiculous, but I have been playing this game for 20+ years now, and this is not normal. It's grooming. Children play this game. So maybe EA Games needs to be called out on this bizarre behaviour. If most of us were trans/queer, the human race would have died out a long time ago.
Your story sounds so much like mine. You expressed it so well. The "dead" eyes is so familiar. I don't understand where that came from. My beautiful girl was so sweet and happy go lucky, now she has "dead" eyes. Never gets excited about anything I say or want to do with her. Her older brother calls her the name and all. I can't use the name. She's just always angry with me. She's 20 and this started 2 years ago. I just keep hoping she wakes up. Nothing I say matters.
Of course every family story is different to some degree but your first three paragraphs could have been written by me about my daughter, word for word. Not one thing different. It is all so horrible.
Heartbreaking. From happy child to crushed teen. How can anyone be okay with causing this change? She didn't do it by herself. Enduring sympathy for your family.
I live in Minnesota as well and it is getting really bad. In the book Transnation by Dr. Grossman she documents a story of a Minnesota father who lost his daughter to foster care because of an unwillingness to affirm. That is one of the fears that keeps me up at night.
I am starting to think of ideas as living things, not in biological terms, but in the sense that they grow and take root. The end of this heart shattering piece says she is not sure who the perpetrator is, and it seems weird because that thing is an idea. But when you see ideas as their own sort of life force then the one that overthrew her daughter was almost a type of evil entity. That entity grows more and more powerful when others feed it their attention and praise. We have to stop this thing from spreading and taking a great hold on humanity.
I don't know about you guys but this situation and a couple of others have started to push my agnostic self back into religion. I might not be settled on who god is exactly but I am starting to get a damn good understanding of what evil looks like and I know there must be something to keep it in balance.
I hope the power of truth eventually knocks your daughter out of the spell she is under. And I pray for parents like you.
i recognize that whatever a person entertains they become . i was so lost and angry and God saved me and filled my home with the smell of roses in the middle of winter . i believe he’s working and listening. Ask God to reveal his truth and himself to you and he will
Having lost both my kids to this demented cult, I have learned a few coping tools and areas where I can push back without risking too much damage to the relationships.
The first is to never censor any evidence of their cis-gendered identity around the house, such as individual or family portraits. I stand firm by telling them “If you want me to respect your present and future, then you must respect my past.”
The second is that I have made crystal clear that I will not pay for any surgeries, telling each kid that, if transitioning is so important to them, then they darn well ought to be motivated to earn enough to pay for it themselves. My hope is that the time and effort required to do so will mellow their enthusiasm for blowing all that hard earned money on a social fad.
Keeping my fingers crossed that I get at least one kid back someday.
i’m so very sorry . i have same issue one daughter ftm and another with body dysmorphia. this a demonic disorder. i pray we all get our kids back from this cult .
Your essay would be heartbreaking if it was nonfiction. It's even more painful to read because it's true. I know about this horrid truth because "it" stole my son and robbed him and our family in ways that resonate with your essay. That said, I imagine each parent's experience of loss is as idiosyncratic as each precious child ensnared by this evil cult. Thank you for your will and energy to write about a theft that can feel beyond words in a culture that is enabling this madness. I, too, will hold onto "my memories, my convictions, and my hope."
Well, we all know the perpetrator's puppet at least . We see him on Tv sonetimes shaking hands with ghosts.
I hear you, sister. My glorious girl is a mess of testosterone acne, thinking masculinity is a low voice, swearing, piercings, tattoos and body modifications. I am devastated. I can't say her name, I can't even say I have a daughter.
One thing we shared was playing The Sims - now at Sims4. A recent update enables players to add mastectomy scars to Sims, all new Sims are now bisexual and gender has to be assigned. I know this sounds ridiculous, but I have been playing this game for 20+ years now, and this is not normal. It's grooming. Children play this game. So maybe EA Games needs to be called out on this bizarre behaviour. If most of us were trans/queer, the human race would have died out a long time ago.
Your story sounds so much like mine. You expressed it so well. The "dead" eyes is so familiar. I don't understand where that came from. My beautiful girl was so sweet and happy go lucky, now she has "dead" eyes. Never gets excited about anything I say or want to do with her. Her older brother calls her the name and all. I can't use the name. She's just always angry with me. She's 20 and this started 2 years ago. I just keep hoping she wakes up. Nothing I say matters.
It must be truly heartbreaking!
Yes I am right there with you, fighting for my daughter as well.
i will pray for you as i do all of us . this is so horrible and has torn everyone apart !
Canada's state broadcaster continues to tell us this is for the best. Let her live her true self. It is nothing short of a crime.
“...just to cosplay an identity she will never truly become.”
Please don’t give up hope. She’ll get through this. One way or the other. And she’ll need you. ♥️
I am sorry you are a victim of this evil cult!
Of course every family story is different to some degree but your first three paragraphs could have been written by me about my daughter, word for word. Not one thing different. It is all so horrible.
Heartbreaking. From happy child to crushed teen. How can anyone be okay with causing this change? She didn't do it by herself. Enduring sympathy for your family.
Thank you Anon. Your words support me!❤️🙏
Minneapolis is becoming just like California. They are trying to make this a "sanctuary state" for "Trans kids". It's horrible.
I live in Minnesota as well and it is getting really bad. In the book Transnation by Dr. Grossman she documents a story of a Minnesota father who lost his daughter to foster care because of an unwillingness to affirm. That is one of the fears that keeps me up at night.
I am starting to think of ideas as living things, not in biological terms, but in the sense that they grow and take root. The end of this heart shattering piece says she is not sure who the perpetrator is, and it seems weird because that thing is an idea. But when you see ideas as their own sort of life force then the one that overthrew her daughter was almost a type of evil entity. That entity grows more and more powerful when others feed it their attention and praise. We have to stop this thing from spreading and taking a great hold on humanity.
I don't know about you guys but this situation and a couple of others have started to push my agnostic self back into religion. I might not be settled on who god is exactly but I am starting to get a damn good understanding of what evil looks like and I know there must be something to keep it in balance.
I hope the power of truth eventually knocks your daughter out of the spell she is under. And I pray for parents like you.
i recognize that whatever a person entertains they become . i was so lost and angry and God saved me and filled my home with the smell of roses in the middle of winter . i believe he’s working and listening. Ask God to reveal his truth and himself to you and he will
Hi Deborah,
"I am starting to think of ideas as living things, not in biological terms, but in the sense that they grow and take root."
I am reading Gad Saad's "The Parasitic Mind, How Infectious Ideas Are Killing Common Sense" to try to understand this very thing. - LM
I haven't read his book but I appreciate Gad's work. It totally makes sense to see this as a mind virus.
Very well written & articulated. I wish there was a way to save our daughters.
I feel robbed of so many things, especially the change in family dynamic & tension in the house
Having lost both my kids to this demented cult, I have learned a few coping tools and areas where I can push back without risking too much damage to the relationships.
The first is to never censor any evidence of their cis-gendered identity around the house, such as individual or family portraits. I stand firm by telling them “If you want me to respect your present and future, then you must respect my past.”
The second is that I have made crystal clear that I will not pay for any surgeries, telling each kid that, if transitioning is so important to them, then they darn well ought to be motivated to earn enough to pay for it themselves. My hope is that the time and effort required to do so will mellow their enthusiasm for blowing all that hard earned money on a social fad.
Keeping my fingers crossed that I get at least one kid back someday.
i’m so very sorry . i have same issue one daughter ftm and another with body dysmorphia. this a demonic disorder. i pray we all get our kids back from this cult .
Your essay would be heartbreaking if it was nonfiction. It's even more painful to read because it's true. I know about this horrid truth because "it" stole my son and robbed him and our family in ways that resonate with your essay. That said, I imagine each parent's experience of loss is as idiosyncratic as each precious child ensnared by this evil cult. Thank you for your will and energy to write about a theft that can feel beyond words in a culture that is enabling this madness. I, too, will hold onto "my memories, my convictions, and my hope."