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Still Standing's avatar

Mine still talks to me. He got through college and has a job, but oh it's like walking on eggshells to be around him. I CANNOT acknowledge a lie. He was the boy who tried out his brother's crazy inventions if we didn't grab him. Who loved purple and orange, and yes, flashy jewelry and unicorns.

The one who was actually into football and baseball, scouting and martial arts in the way my other boys weren't while always being empathetic, and caring and kind. The person I see now is narcissistic and selfish, he thinks decorating his apartment in pink and buying hello kitty somehow makes him female. He has not just "feminized" but infantilized.

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I know ... you described my situation my son ... so gifted but throwing everything away because he can’t deal with the fact that he was created as a handsome 6 foot tall man with size 12 shoes but thinks he is a woman! Sometimes I think I must have done something wrong and he’s trying to punish me... I don’t know I’ve wracked my brain until it hurts. I did divorce which I regret when he was 11 maybe that was it or I didn’t pay enough attention to him because my daughter had a chronic illness and I paid more attention to her? I keep thinking I was a bad mother even though others say I wasn’t. I understand you wanting to be silent and I understand i you put pain but keeping silent keeps this nonsense going. I understand you our tears I shed some when o read your story because it sounded so much like mine. My son cut me off totally about 3 months ago ... he works a decent job and was with a woman who was a gender studies graduate ... she kicked him out of his apartment and I have no idea where he is living now... he said he was moving to a place with other like minded persons in Oakland. My daughter won’t share his info and she enables his delirium but I don’t force her she has her own problems. I just pray for him everyday sometimes several times a day. I don’t know what else to do. I know my son has self esteem problems but I didn’t see it when he was younger he was all boy! I’m sad and bewildered like you and I wanted to stay silent but I’ve been to Catholic bible study and a lady shared with me about her granddaughter and she was distraught and not knowing what to do. I don’t give in to my son I never called him by his “new name “ he says I don’t love him because I won’t go along with his delusional thinking. I won’t because it’s against God and it will be him I will have to answer to in the end. God be with us in these terrible situations.

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