This perfectly describes how I feel about my daughter who has been brainwashed by this idealogy. She told us she was trans when she was 22. She is now 25. I am so heartbroken.
They don't know and they don't care. I am sorry. They think is cool and avant gard to be " with the times", and that they have '"rights" after 18 to do what they want with their lives and these persons love "virtue signaling", they like to portrait themselves as the "lovely" ones and the "understanding" ones. I know them very well, I study their psychology. I confront them when occasion arises with only one phase -you cannot change your gender, the ones who told you that are liars and It doesn't matter what profession they say they exercise, still liars. Always BE FIRM because there aren't doubts about this fact. That everybody repeat something doesn't mean is true or they are correct. Facts are facts independently of circumstances and people. Look at trans people !They really can fool us that they are the opposite gender?? Only one a person fool me but I was in Brazil, I suspected but it was well disguised until he spoke. Before anybody wants to transition they should look at the ones who already did, they are nothing, no male and not female, they are just TRANS and they never be anything else.
Therapy has to work in resolving the IDENTITY CRISIS we have at the moment and find the origen. These young people cannot accept themselves and they think their unhappiness it is because what they are, their biological reality. IT is the society that provide that answer for them through entertainment, media SM, mainly they had been pushed to it so we us parents have to fight different fronts. For sure they don't believe in science.
Now when we deal with doctors we have to make them sign a paper that we can write down and provide them where they assured us that when the treatment starts there will not be side effects of any kind, my son or daughter would be happy and that if they suicided they as doctors are responsible for it. I assure you nobody will do it. If they tell you you are a bigot you tell them that you will make them responsible for any bad outcome and that will be consequences. They do not like to be held responsible for anything looking at the amount of paperwork I have to sign before I see a doctor. Be belligerent and assertive, don't care for doctors or society bulling, be bold, be strong. You have the truth in your side, we all in this group have!
Wow!!!... ...I wish I could send this to the friend that messaged me privately after I shared a post on fb to say almost this about my daughter. She even admitted she had no idea what it was like and then still told me I should be more accepting and kind. Wish I could of been more eloquent this this^^^
Has to be one of the most narcissistic things I have ever read, where you see your child as “yours”, as if they are a projection of your dreams and platonic ideals rather than their own human person.
It sounds no different than the short sighted parent in a dozen old movies, where their child seeks to be an actor or singer or athlete instead of a doctor or a lawyer or to take over the family business.
This is so beautifully written, and so painful to read. My heart goes out to you and another parents, family and friends who have to suffer through this scam in such a deeply soul-crushing way.
Pain like no other. I'm not the parent, but a grandparent, of trans siblings. What are the chances of that? They're 15 and 10, and I just hope now that they won't start on medical treatments. It's less than a year since we were told about the first child, and months for the second.
I accepted at the start, because the thought of losing the beautiful relationship with my son was too much for me to bare. That was 3 1/2 years ago. I haven't laid eyes on him since October of 2022, when he came home to spend my birthday with me. I thought I was doing the only right and sane thing I could at this time. After he left I grieved - hard - I actually felt the physical pain in my heart and my lower belly, almost like when I gave birth to him. This happened while I was receiving some deep bodywork. Im sure I'm not alone in this. I had to go through it several more times and I'm not sure if I'm done - if I'll ever be done. Its like I'm in such mourning, so no, "they" don't know. The strongest, truest most absolute bond is between a mother and child - this is found in all of nature. We have physical, emotional, spiritual and energetic ties/strings to our children. Its no wonder this pain is so deep in every way.
After he left (he lives out west) the communication got increasingly more sporadic. I didn't understand...I was supportive, I used his new name, yes, I affirmed. I couldn't even look at the research until recently. I didn't need to, I know it goes against nature - which is never good. He is 27 now, what recourse do I have?
I suppose I will be judged for this as well. I really don't give a shit.
I sit in the quiet solitude of my grief not really knowing what to do. Is he angry with me for not saying no, and telling him not to do this? Did his therapist/transfriends say its best to cut himself off from his family? Will I ever see his beautiful face again? Is he scared, ashamed, filled with hate, sadness? Is he sick from the drugs, surgery, guilt? Is he happy, filled with joy at his new life without me?
These are all questions left unanswered because he will not talk to me and I still don't know why. I no longer have the space for anger. I feel numb, honestly.
😢😢😢😢😢so sorry :( my heart aches with yours…I miss my two daughters and my son so so so much too 😢😢😢😢😢 But, we won't lose hope, and in the meantime, yes, we carry on …
I know the feeling, the numbness, gut wrenching pain, worry, unbearable grief, nightmares.. words can't express the fear in our hearts knowing we are truly in a battle with evil. Not knowing each day if they are alive or dead. Its too much & so surreal
Since I smelled a rat when this trans thing started, I went down the rabbit hole, and would come out sounding the ALARM on FB. When the 'kind' and 'compassionate' would signal their allegiance to this toxin, I would gently try to explain to them what I had learned; I still assume that most people haven't got half a clue what this trans thing does to a person's body, not to mention that it fools no one anyway. (Yesterday on zoom, a "man" named Tom with "he/him" pronouns. NOT. FOOLED. It makes THEM look foolish, sorry to say.)
Anyway, my most legion unfriendings were over this issue, which amazes me. It's just so brazenly WRONG. I'd throw out all the gory details and they'd accuse me of being "chaotic" (it was evidence after evidence after evidence).
One of the most cloying "be kind" and "gosh, Dog, I thought you were smarter than this" people finally unfriended me over posting a PITT piece like this in response to her wailing that Trump was going to shut this shit down.
Imagine screaming into the void at people so kind that they cannot hear how much this is hurting people.
It's amazing. That anyone ever thought this was a good idea in the first place is amazing. All of it. Amazing.
And I am SO SORRY that this happened to you, and to anyone with this experience. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain of this.
I am so sorry. The sadness and isolation is just awful. I also wrote a PITT article about my son and our relatives who affirm him and are unforgivably clueless and rude to me: Against "Be Kind" https://www.pittparents.com/p/against-be-kind?utm_source=publication-search We are not alone, but it does not help very much when our sons are being destroyed. My only path for now is to take care of myself, partly because life goes on, but also in the far away thought that perhaps I can help him later on
Ugly crying here! I’m sad, exhausted, angry beyond words! I now understand the phrase, “with a heavy heart”! My son was stolen from us and no one understands except those going through this unimaginable denial of reality! I’m tired of holding my feelings and thoughts inside for fear of losing what’s left of my relationship with my SON! God help us all!!
And to my liberal friends….you know nothing of our struggle and the daily pain of seeing your adult living in a state of delusion….so just save your speeches and virtuous words…..you really don’t know anything.
Right there with you, and I feel exactly the same about my own adult son. I tried to tell my daughter she has no idea how it feels to be the parent, to lose your son that you know is living in a mental illness that you will not ever affirm. It is heartbreaking beyond words. Love to you, and prayers that some day this madness will end.
So very heartbreaking, I feel deeply for all of you Moms, and Dads here. I am so sorry you are enduring such pain. I have no children, but my adult niece, transitioned around age 30, six years ago. I had a hard time with it especially having her breasts cut off and sporting the new man chest and scars on social media. I was trying to adjust, but she’s cut me off completely. I can only imagine the heartbreak a parent feels. I am so drawn to all of your stories, all of it such a demonic nightmare happening in our world.
Thank you for expressing this in the written word, what so many of us feel.
Yes, if Only they knew!
When my "daughter" went to a school formal in a suit with shaved hair & oversized man's shoes; another parent said "you've been robbed". Others thought this was a cruel comment. It did cut through me, but it's probably the only thing thats ever been said to me that showed some insight into the pain I feel with every milestone. Its less cruel than "they look great, just accept it". This was 5 years ago.... still on this horrendous journey.
This perfectly describes how I feel about my daughter who has been brainwashed by this idealogy. She told us she was trans when she was 22. She is now 25. I am so heartbroken.
This is exactly how I feel. Thank you for being able to put it into words!
They don't know and they don't care. I am sorry. They think is cool and avant gard to be " with the times", and that they have '"rights" after 18 to do what they want with their lives and these persons love "virtue signaling", they like to portrait themselves as the "lovely" ones and the "understanding" ones. I know them very well, I study their psychology. I confront them when occasion arises with only one phase -you cannot change your gender, the ones who told you that are liars and It doesn't matter what profession they say they exercise, still liars. Always BE FIRM because there aren't doubts about this fact. That everybody repeat something doesn't mean is true or they are correct. Facts are facts independently of circumstances and people. Look at trans people !They really can fool us that they are the opposite gender?? Only one a person fool me but I was in Brazil, I suspected but it was well disguised until he spoke. Before anybody wants to transition they should look at the ones who already did, they are nothing, no male and not female, they are just TRANS and they never be anything else.
Therapy has to work in resolving the IDENTITY CRISIS we have at the moment and find the origen. These young people cannot accept themselves and they think their unhappiness it is because what they are, their biological reality. IT is the society that provide that answer for them through entertainment, media SM, mainly they had been pushed to it so we us parents have to fight different fronts. For sure they don't believe in science.
Now when we deal with doctors we have to make them sign a paper that we can write down and provide them where they assured us that when the treatment starts there will not be side effects of any kind, my son or daughter would be happy and that if they suicided they as doctors are responsible for it. I assure you nobody will do it. If they tell you you are a bigot you tell them that you will make them responsible for any bad outcome and that will be consequences. They do not like to be held responsible for anything looking at the amount of paperwork I have to sign before I see a doctor. Be belligerent and assertive, don't care for doctors or society bulling, be bold, be strong. You have the truth in your side, we all in this group have!
Wow!!!... ...I wish I could send this to the friend that messaged me privately after I shared a post on fb to say almost this about my daughter. She even admitted she had no idea what it was like and then still told me I should be more accepting and kind. Wish I could of been more eloquent this this^^^
Has to be one of the most narcissistic things I have ever read, where you see your child as “yours”, as if they are a projection of your dreams and platonic ideals rather than their own human person.
It sounds no different than the short sighted parent in a dozen old movies, where their child seeks to be an actor or singer or athlete instead of a doctor or a lawyer or to take over the family business.
This is so beautifully written, and so painful to read. My heart goes out to you and another parents, family and friends who have to suffer through this scam in such a deeply soul-crushing way.
Pain like no other. I'm not the parent, but a grandparent, of trans siblings. What are the chances of that? They're 15 and 10, and I just hope now that they won't start on medical treatments. It's less than a year since we were told about the first child, and months for the second.
I’m just at the very start of this horrifying journey - 27 yr old son. I am devastated and don’t know where to find support.
😢 I am so so sorry 😢 there are sadly so many others suffering in this same way 🙏
You might want to look up (PITT parents with inconvenient truths about trans).
And I pray that you will find hope in God in the midst of your suffering 🩵
Living this unacknowledged medical malpractice nightmare every minute of every day. Horrendous.
My favorite part “…how he has already altered his body and mind, in a charade of repairing what is not broken;”
& yep, agreed, tis a lonely place amongst family when they just don’t get it & even when they do, it’s awkward
I accepted at the start, because the thought of losing the beautiful relationship with my son was too much for me to bare. That was 3 1/2 years ago. I haven't laid eyes on him since October of 2022, when he came home to spend my birthday with me. I thought I was doing the only right and sane thing I could at this time. After he left I grieved - hard - I actually felt the physical pain in my heart and my lower belly, almost like when I gave birth to him. This happened while I was receiving some deep bodywork. Im sure I'm not alone in this. I had to go through it several more times and I'm not sure if I'm done - if I'll ever be done. Its like I'm in such mourning, so no, "they" don't know. The strongest, truest most absolute bond is between a mother and child - this is found in all of nature. We have physical, emotional, spiritual and energetic ties/strings to our children. Its no wonder this pain is so deep in every way.
After he left (he lives out west) the communication got increasingly more sporadic. I didn't understand...I was supportive, I used his new name, yes, I affirmed. I couldn't even look at the research until recently. I didn't need to, I know it goes against nature - which is never good. He is 27 now, what recourse do I have?
I suppose I will be judged for this as well. I really don't give a shit.
I sit in the quiet solitude of my grief not really knowing what to do. Is he angry with me for not saying no, and telling him not to do this? Did his therapist/transfriends say its best to cut himself off from his family? Will I ever see his beautiful face again? Is he scared, ashamed, filled with hate, sadness? Is he sick from the drugs, surgery, guilt? Is he happy, filled with joy at his new life without me?
These are all questions left unanswered because he will not talk to me and I still don't know why. I no longer have the space for anger. I feel numb, honestly.
Dammit I miss my son 😢
😢😢😢😢😢so sorry :( my heart aches with yours…I miss my two daughters and my son so so so much too 😢😢😢😢😢 But, we won't lose hope, and in the meantime, yes, we carry on …
I know the feeling, the numbness, gut wrenching pain, worry, unbearable grief, nightmares.. words can't express the fear in our hearts knowing we are truly in a battle with evil. Not knowing each day if they are alive or dead. Its too much & so surreal
Since I smelled a rat when this trans thing started, I went down the rabbit hole, and would come out sounding the ALARM on FB. When the 'kind' and 'compassionate' would signal their allegiance to this toxin, I would gently try to explain to them what I had learned; I still assume that most people haven't got half a clue what this trans thing does to a person's body, not to mention that it fools no one anyway. (Yesterday on zoom, a "man" named Tom with "he/him" pronouns. NOT. FOOLED. It makes THEM look foolish, sorry to say.)
Anyway, my most legion unfriendings were over this issue, which amazes me. It's just so brazenly WRONG. I'd throw out all the gory details and they'd accuse me of being "chaotic" (it was evidence after evidence after evidence).
One of the most cloying "be kind" and "gosh, Dog, I thought you were smarter than this" people finally unfriended me over posting a PITT piece like this in response to her wailing that Trump was going to shut this shit down.
Imagine screaming into the void at people so kind that they cannot hear how much this is hurting people.
It's amazing. That anyone ever thought this was a good idea in the first place is amazing. All of it. Amazing.
And I am SO SORRY that this happened to you, and to anyone with this experience. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain of this.
I am so sorry. The sadness and isolation is just awful. I also wrote a PITT article about my son and our relatives who affirm him and are unforgivably clueless and rude to me: Against "Be Kind" https://www.pittparents.com/p/against-be-kind?utm_source=publication-search We are not alone, but it does not help very much when our sons are being destroyed. My only path for now is to take care of myself, partly because life goes on, but also in the far away thought that perhaps I can help him later on
Ugly crying here! I’m sad, exhausted, angry beyond words! I now understand the phrase, “with a heavy heart”! My son was stolen from us and no one understands except those going through this unimaginable denial of reality! I’m tired of holding my feelings and thoughts inside for fear of losing what’s left of my relationship with my SON! God help us all!!
And to my liberal friends….you know nothing of our struggle and the daily pain of seeing your adult living in a state of delusion….so just save your speeches and virtuous words…..you really don’t know anything.
Right there with you, and I feel exactly the same about my own adult son. I tried to tell my daughter she has no idea how it feels to be the parent, to lose your son that you know is living in a mental illness that you will not ever affirm. It is heartbreaking beyond words. Love to you, and prayers that some day this madness will end.
So very heartbreaking, I feel deeply for all of you Moms, and Dads here. I am so sorry you are enduring such pain. I have no children, but my adult niece, transitioned around age 30, six years ago. I had a hard time with it especially having her breasts cut off and sporting the new man chest and scars on social media. I was trying to adjust, but she’s cut me off completely. I can only imagine the heartbreak a parent feels. I am so drawn to all of your stories, all of it such a demonic nightmare happening in our world.
Sending all of you prayers of peace and hope.
Thank you for expressing this in the written word, what so many of us feel.
Yes, if Only they knew!
When my "daughter" went to a school formal in a suit with shaved hair & oversized man's shoes; another parent said "you've been robbed". Others thought this was a cruel comment. It did cut through me, but it's probably the only thing thats ever been said to me that showed some insight into the pain I feel with every milestone. Its less cruel than "they look great, just accept it". This was 5 years ago.... still on this horrendous journey.