PITT is written and edited exclusively by parents with children that identify or have identified as “trans”. We were born of parent support groups and have pooled our efforts to bring our stories to others, in the hopes that we can help our children and other children that have been swept up in gender madness — but also so we can help other parents, like ourselves, as they delicately pick their way through the gender insanity maze.
Really liking what you are posting. So helpful. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
This is what we were recommended for our child and we believe it helped tremendously. Our child has desisted.
Besides individual child support sessions to address high anxiety and depression we had:
1. debriefings from her therapist to us + coaching for the parent with a different therapist but in same practice. So both therapist could easily communicate, while making sure we were all in the same boat;
2. DBT for child+parents (two rounds, since the information to absorb is a lot for the kids. I would highly recommend DBT, it gives everybody skills for life and provides a common language for families to facilitate deeper and more effective communication);
3. joint parent+child sessions with parent coach (which were very difficult at the beginning and only started after months of individual child therapy and after first round of DBT).
It has to be noted that this approach takes substantial time (for us around two years with one of them requiring around 6h of combined weekly therapy when we did DBT; all remote) and a significant financial commitment (our insurance companies only covered these expenses partially, specially since we had to go out of network), which of course can be a major obstacle. Also this might be particularly helpful for those families with younger, live at home kids. I am part of parent support groups in which some kids are already in college and scarily this type of support seems out of reach.
It is refreshing to know that there are a good therapist out there. I hope that this one passes on her/his sagacious advice to her/his collegues. I pray that she/he has the strength to raise her/his issues to the medical boards, WPATH and DMS authors too, even if anonymously. We need collective voices against the one-seize fits all affirmation model. Please join our voices.
I do not know even where to start. My almost 23 year old made this revelation after she was 18. She returned home after announcement because she was not thriving living alone. She has claimed she was adhd for years and a psychiatrist diagnosed her with depression not adhd. She didn’t like that assessment. She has always had OCD. She went to an affirming therapist for a few months to deal with anxiety and that ended. Her friends that she met o. The internet at 19 are her influencers. We treat all of them with respect and kindness but we do not affirm the lie. She did start taking Testosterone 7 months ago when one of her friends told her planned parenthood handed it out like candy. I miss her voice, I miss her beautiful face and red hair (now green and a mullet). I know the world of anime (JoJo’s Bizaar Adventure and Dorohedoro) are also influencers. I also know this is rebellion, trying to find her way in the world away from mom and dad. I sit back, love her and pray for the day she walks away. I wish there was a magic Detrans diet but there isn’t and the mama in me wants to fight with all I have but I know it would drive a wedge between us. This social contagion is just too destructive and I don’t see her coming out unscathed.
Thank you! Please tell me you are taking clients?
Really liking what you are posting. So helpful. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
This is what we were recommended for our child and we believe it helped tremendously. Our child has desisted.
Besides individual child support sessions to address high anxiety and depression we had:
1. debriefings from her therapist to us + coaching for the parent with a different therapist but in same practice. So both therapist could easily communicate, while making sure we were all in the same boat;
2. DBT for child+parents (two rounds, since the information to absorb is a lot for the kids. I would highly recommend DBT, it gives everybody skills for life and provides a common language for families to facilitate deeper and more effective communication);
3. joint parent+child sessions with parent coach (which were very difficult at the beginning and only started after months of individual child therapy and after first round of DBT).
It has to be noted that this approach takes substantial time (for us around two years with one of them requiring around 6h of combined weekly therapy when we did DBT; all remote) and a significant financial commitment (our insurance companies only covered these expenses partially, specially since we had to go out of network), which of course can be a major obstacle. Also this might be particularly helpful for those families with younger, live at home kids. I am part of parent support groups in which some kids are already in college and scarily this type of support seems out of reach.
It is refreshing to know that there are a good therapist out there. I hope that this one passes on her/his sagacious advice to her/his collegues. I pray that she/he has the strength to raise her/his issues to the medical boards, WPATH and DMS authors too, even if anonymously. We need collective voices against the one-seize fits all affirmation model. Please join our voices.
I do not know even where to start. My almost 23 year old made this revelation after she was 18. She returned home after announcement because she was not thriving living alone. She has claimed she was adhd for years and a psychiatrist diagnosed her with depression not adhd. She didn’t like that assessment. She has always had OCD. She went to an affirming therapist for a few months to deal with anxiety and that ended. Her friends that she met o. The internet at 19 are her influencers. We treat all of them with respect and kindness but we do not affirm the lie. She did start taking Testosterone 7 months ago when one of her friends told her planned parenthood handed it out like candy. I miss her voice, I miss her beautiful face and red hair (now green and a mullet). I know the world of anime (JoJo’s Bizaar Adventure and Dorohedoro) are also influencers. I also know this is rebellion, trying to find her way in the world away from mom and dad. I sit back, love her and pray for the day she walks away. I wish there was a magic Detrans diet but there isn’t and the mama in me wants to fight with all I have but I know it would drive a wedge between us. This social contagion is just too destructive and I don’t see her coming out unscathed.