If we’ve learned nothing else about the dangers and lunacy of gender ideology and “gac” , it not only destroys our kids, our families, but also other relationships - even longtime friendships.
This is so true! I lost most of my old friends because of the reaction towards me. I refuse to explain to any of them. Until they walk in our shoes we shouldn’t be judged for parenting.
This really hit home for me! Same story, except with daughters, who were friends and my ex-BFF started our friendship from our kids. The betrayal hurts so much! Even after I made every attempt to be heard, apologize, explain my stance, etc., she refused to communicate anymore and blocked me! Trans destroys everything in its path, including relationships- even best friendships! I'm so sorry you became another casualty, of many, to this evil ideology.
I'm so tired of this word: "journey". If your kid has been indoctrinated into a dangerous cult at school it is all ok because he/she has embarked on a gender journey! Just let them keep discovering their path to medicalization.
The most rigid minds today are not on the right, but on the left. The left used to be the”thinking class”. That’s been abdicated in favor of a rigid orthodoxy of lockstep groupthink.
People see things differently. It's part of our human nature.
One sign of maturity is to understand that a person may see things differently from the way you do.
Having said that, there seem to be very few things that people see AS differently as the ideology of trans identity. And because of it, not only are children damaged, but laws are changed and challenged, women are re-defined, threatened and attacked, gays and lesbians are negated and hurt, and scientific findings are ignored. It's hard to respect and accept someone else's point of view when it has such disastrous consequences, especially for vulnerable children. And doubly hard when you try to explain what's going on to your friends and people you thought you knew and trusted only to find that they can't seem to take in any new information. We have a crisis of truth-sorting going on in the modern age which has enormous ramifications. It sure takes a lot of patience, faith, and persistence to keep at it.
I, too, become fatigued with trying to 'convince' people we're not bad. That I have to set up a researched and appropriate argument to people I love and trust. I'm thankful I haven't shared with too many people for many reasons-but yeah- the judgement is insane. I'm so sorry. It seems a huge time of reckoning to see who true friends are. I'm sorry she didn't just listen and let you grieve. big hugs to you
I developed an immunity to people looking at me like I’m crazy. I see the moment that it happens. Now I take it as a piece of information about the other person.
I was sharing my trans issues of my FtM daughter a few years ago to someone I trusted at work, someone I liked, she kind of sluffed off my issue and dove headlong into how one of our VP's that she works with has a trans child and how affirming the VP is and how hard it has been for her, and I slowly exited the discussion crushed, but I still hold firm to reality my opinions have not changed on trans, I pray others have. Also at work the sanctioned LGBTQIA+++ affinity group had a trans person come in and tell her story (FtM) in the auditorium to those in attendance, I attended, and at the end asked my question of: do we have much research on cross sex hormones and surgeries for positive outcomes on people? The answer was gibberish, based on feelings, but I did ask in front of them all, this was prior to covid.
Your essay, unfortunately resonates. The breaking point with a decades long friendship was around her judgement and stunning lack of compassion after my son fell into the trans abyss. This heinous ideology is fueled by destruction -- the body and mind of those it seduces, the intact family, friendships, and the hearts of mothers and fathers. It's all so cruel and relentless.
It's painful ... I had a friend I also went to and cried about all this. That was more than 5 years ago ... she's never asked me about it again. She doesn't ask about my family ... my confused son ... I can see now she's not really a friend. Neither were lots of my relatives. So many people. I'd love to say I just moved on - but not really. It's been blow after blow ... I have met new friends and that helps. Also had a few friends who DID stay and hang around. I am thankful for them.
It's crazy how trauma and grief can literally pull back the veil on who true friends are. It's crushing to find out but I know in the long run I'm better off without people who can't hold your hand through hard times.
Yes, I have had this happen too. The decades long friendships that were suddenly gone were hard at first until I found new ones that did not judge me negatively. There is a name that may fit some of those who cancel us, "Dark Woke". See if this fits: https://www.wrongspeakpublishing.com/p/whats-happened-to-liberal-women
It works both ways. I was cut dead because I tried to explain to a grandma/guardian that her granddaughter had been targetted by the transgender cult due to her anxiety and depression on the death of her (single) Mom compounded by her undermining appearance.
I am so sorry your friend failed you. I remember when a pretty liberal friend suggested I take my daughter to a gender clinic and I refused. She didn't believe my daughter was trans but she thought gender clinics provide nuanced evaluation (ha!). She said "I disagree with you but I know you and I am sure you will do right by your daughter". And then she never brought it up again. Now, that's a true friend - telling you when she disagrees, yet respecting and not undermining your parental authority. She was also very happy for me when my daughter desisted.
Sorry and it’s your ex-friend’s loss for sure. I have had various reactions among some of the parents we have known since our kids were little. It’s weird to see the allies defending the weirdness and trying to normalize it. They have no clue but hopefully with time they will come to their senses. It makes me angry but in an odd way thankful since I see it for what it is, insanity and creationism on the left. I’m still a lefty but close to the center, for what it’s worth.
If we’ve learned nothing else about the dangers and lunacy of gender ideology and “gac” , it not only destroys our kids, our families, but also other relationships - even longtime friendships.
This is so true! I lost most of my old friends because of the reaction towards me. I refuse to explain to any of them. Until they walk in our shoes we shouldn’t be judged for parenting.
This really hit home for me! Same story, except with daughters, who were friends and my ex-BFF started our friendship from our kids. The betrayal hurts so much! Even after I made every attempt to be heard, apologize, explain my stance, etc., she refused to communicate anymore and blocked me! Trans destroys everything in its path, including relationships- even best friendships! I'm so sorry you became another casualty, of many, to this evil ideology.
I'm so tired of this word: "journey". If your kid has been indoctrinated into a dangerous cult at school it is all ok because he/she has embarked on a gender journey! Just let them keep discovering their path to medicalization.
The most rigid minds today are not on the right, but on the left. The left used to be the”thinking class”. That’s been abdicated in favor of a rigid orthodoxy of lockstep groupthink.
People see things differently. It's part of our human nature.
One sign of maturity is to understand that a person may see things differently from the way you do.
Having said that, there seem to be very few things that people see AS differently as the ideology of trans identity. And because of it, not only are children damaged, but laws are changed and challenged, women are re-defined, threatened and attacked, gays and lesbians are negated and hurt, and scientific findings are ignored. It's hard to respect and accept someone else's point of view when it has such disastrous consequences, especially for vulnerable children. And doubly hard when you try to explain what's going on to your friends and people you thought you knew and trusted only to find that they can't seem to take in any new information. We have a crisis of truth-sorting going on in the modern age which has enormous ramifications. It sure takes a lot of patience, faith, and persistence to keep at it.
I, too, become fatigued with trying to 'convince' people we're not bad. That I have to set up a researched and appropriate argument to people I love and trust. I'm thankful I haven't shared with too many people for many reasons-but yeah- the judgement is insane. I'm so sorry. It seems a huge time of reckoning to see who true friends are. I'm sorry she didn't just listen and let you grieve. big hugs to you
I developed an immunity to people looking at me like I’m crazy. I see the moment that it happens. Now I take it as a piece of information about the other person.
I was sharing my trans issues of my FtM daughter a few years ago to someone I trusted at work, someone I liked, she kind of sluffed off my issue and dove headlong into how one of our VP's that she works with has a trans child and how affirming the VP is and how hard it has been for her, and I slowly exited the discussion crushed, but I still hold firm to reality my opinions have not changed on trans, I pray others have. Also at work the sanctioned LGBTQIA+++ affinity group had a trans person come in and tell her story (FtM) in the auditorium to those in attendance, I attended, and at the end asked my question of: do we have much research on cross sex hormones and surgeries for positive outcomes on people? The answer was gibberish, based on feelings, but I did ask in front of them all, this was prior to covid.
Your essay, unfortunately resonates. The breaking point with a decades long friendship was around her judgement and stunning lack of compassion after my son fell into the trans abyss. This heinous ideology is fueled by destruction -- the body and mind of those it seduces, the intact family, friendships, and the hearts of mothers and fathers. It's all so cruel and relentless.
It's painful ... I had a friend I also went to and cried about all this. That was more than 5 years ago ... she's never asked me about it again. She doesn't ask about my family ... my confused son ... I can see now she's not really a friend. Neither were lots of my relatives. So many people. I'd love to say I just moved on - but not really. It's been blow after blow ... I have met new friends and that helps. Also had a few friends who DID stay and hang around. I am thankful for them.
I lost many relatives too. Trans ideology is the divisive work of the enemy.
It's crazy how trauma and grief can literally pull back the veil on who true friends are. It's crushing to find out but I know in the long run I'm better off without people who can't hold your hand through hard times.
Yes, I have had this happen too. The decades long friendships that were suddenly gone were hard at first until I found new ones that did not judge me negatively. There is a name that may fit some of those who cancel us, "Dark Woke". See if this fits: https://www.wrongspeakpublishing.com/p/whats-happened-to-liberal-women
It works both ways. I was cut dead because I tried to explain to a grandma/guardian that her granddaughter had been targetted by the transgender cult due to her anxiety and depression on the death of her (single) Mom compounded by her undermining appearance.
I am so sorry your friend failed you. I remember when a pretty liberal friend suggested I take my daughter to a gender clinic and I refused. She didn't believe my daughter was trans but she thought gender clinics provide nuanced evaluation (ha!). She said "I disagree with you but I know you and I am sure you will do right by your daughter". And then she never brought it up again. Now, that's a true friend - telling you when she disagrees, yet respecting and not undermining your parental authority. She was also very happy for me when my daughter desisted.
Sorry and it’s your ex-friend’s loss for sure. I have had various reactions among some of the parents we have known since our kids were little. It’s weird to see the allies defending the weirdness and trying to normalize it. They have no clue but hopefully with time they will come to their senses. It makes me angry but in an odd way thankful since I see it for what it is, insanity and creationism on the left. I’m still a lefty but close to the center, for what it’s worth.
^^this^^