My 4-year-old nephew is now a niece. This news came to us through our 4-year-old, who announced, “Benny says he’s a girl now. His mom and dad told me he’s a girl now, so I think he is a girl.” Whoa, whoa, whoa, I thought, in this record-scratch moment. We knew it might be coming; we’d heard some rumors. Benny had been showing up to family gatherings in dresses and skirts for a while, but clothes are clothes.
How can any parent take seriously what a 4 year old says? A child that age doesn’t understand anything about sex! A child of that age can also say he’s a crocodile.would his parents then put him in a river in Florida? This is so ridiculous as to be unbelievable! The gender cult has planted these ideas into people’s brains, and some people swallow that crap? How can any adult believe such utter nonsense? Yes, get him Johnnie the Walrus! Maybe it will help him and also his Gullible parents!
You people impress me with your stupidity. If someone comes out as transgender as a small child, you just claim that they don’t know enough about gender to know what they are, but if someone comes out when they’re older, you say that they were manipulated, and in some cases, that they would have known when they were younger. Anyone see the contradiction here?
Thank you for sharing this thoughtful, truthful, open and honest essay. I love and admire how you framed this with your child. And I respect and agree with your painstaking decision. We need more truth tellers for our future generations like yourself.
So much truth in what you are saying. We too, are feeling the sting of wanting to love, while at the same time being true to our convictions and biological truth. I just want to be a family and not be "forced" to agree with things that hurt my soul. We too, have decided we must be true to truth and with that comes the possibly of letting go of our daughter and our beautiful, much loved and wanted grandchild. It hasn't quite gone there yet, but after a horrific confrontation (forced by my daughter), I can see that it might happen. I pray not, but it isn't really my choice anymore. My heart breaks for you too.
Who cares what the parents think or call you? They are insane. There is no such thing as trans and especially not a transkid. You need to triple down. And next time you see Benny, maybe you should ask if he wants to marry a boy? Because no girl is going to date or marry him ever if he continues to do this. Also tell him his parents are lying to him. If I were you I'd send this kid a birthday card with a boy theme on it every year. Address it to Benny. Put money inside it.
As a parent who lived the nightmare of having a kid who identified as trans, I would have done anything to prevent the devastation. It may sound harsh, but eliminating a few people from our lives to avoid the pain she and my family lived seems like a small price to pay. It’s a sacrifice I’d more than be willing to make.
Losing a relationship is hard, but I believe you took the right path. I hope you sleep well knowing that you’re not contributing to your nephew’s destruction, and you’re teaching your daughter something very important in today’s world--truth.
But the right one! The tide is turning (and for those of us deep into it not fast enough) however, it won't keep turning if we support this fantasy, when we dont believe it ourselves. We need to keep reminding people of clear reality and truth. My heart goes out to you and your family but I am also so grateful for your strength to do what is right. I am finding when I bring it up that when I start questioning a bit and talk about it leading to medicalization people are reflecting more and listening to what I am saying. Not all but if it helps just 1 or 2 to figure this out, that's a win. Thank you
Stick with the truth. Small children will believe anything you tell them; telling them they can change sex is child abuse. This gender nonsense is cruel and crushes families; we all have to stand against it so it won't become the norm. I applaud both you and your daughter.
Only 4 years old. Need I say more? I cannot believe that it’s come to this. This little boy is only 4 years old! He should not even be thinking about gender issues. He should be happy, carefree and playing with toys. In my book, what these parents are doing to this child is nothing short of child abuse. To refuse this child his cousin/aunt’s love is wrong. He can’t even play with his cousin anymore?! These parents are nuts! To keep him away from family that has loved him from birth. All in the name of gender ideology. What do you think that teaches this little boy? What do you think this little boy is feeling about losing his cousin so abruptly ??!! Trust me, this child will pay the price and his mental health will suffer. This world has gone crazy! All these “study’s” have only begun. We have no concrete evidence of consequences yet. And when we do, can we please compare them to all the other study’s on lost broken children that have nothing to do with gender. And a study on these little children that have been taught they can be the opposite sex and be estranged from family that dearly love them. I dare you to. Because breaking up families over gender is ridiculous. Society has simply created a new way to abuse children. And calling it legal! Tragic.
Heartbreaking. That poor little boy, being brainwashed into believing he is a girl. I admire the writer and the way these parents are handling the situation. If I were in their shoes, the decision would be easy: I would say goodbye to this relationship--sad, yes, but protecting their daughter from being indoctrinated by this ideology is more important than saving a relationship with a relative.
You not only have the right to make this choice, you also have the duty to do so, because the well-being of their own child is the first duty of every parent. I’m so, so sorry for all of you, but most of all for Benny. He hasn’t deserved this, poor child. But -you made the right choice.
"Benny’s parents have told us that we must affirm Benny as a girl, or we cannot have a relationship with them."
First of all, people that think politics trumps blood have something seriously wrong with them. That applies whether you're a MAGA Trump voter who cut off your progressive family members or a gender lunatic who cut off family members who believe in biology (aka Science!)
Secondly, "support my decision or I'll cut you out of my life" is the behavior of a rebellious teenager not a functional adult. If your son is so mentally fragile at 4 years old that you are cutting off family members lest his delusions be cracked a little, you have problems almost as large as his.
How can any parent take seriously what a 4 year old says? A child that age doesn’t understand anything about sex! A child of that age can also say he’s a crocodile.would his parents then put him in a river in Florida? This is so ridiculous as to be unbelievable! The gender cult has planted these ideas into people’s brains, and some people swallow that crap? How can any adult believe such utter nonsense? Yes, get him Johnnie the Walrus! Maybe it will help him and also his Gullible parents!
You people impress me with your stupidity. If someone comes out as transgender as a small child, you just claim that they don’t know enough about gender to know what they are, but if someone comes out when they’re older, you say that they were manipulated, and in some cases, that they would have known when they were younger. Anyone see the contradiction here?
Thank you for sharing this thoughtful, truthful, open and honest essay. I love and admire how you framed this with your child. And I respect and agree with your painstaking decision. We need more truth tellers for our future generations like yourself.
So much truth in what you are saying. We too, are feeling the sting of wanting to love, while at the same time being true to our convictions and biological truth. I just want to be a family and not be "forced" to agree with things that hurt my soul. We too, have decided we must be true to truth and with that comes the possibly of letting go of our daughter and our beautiful, much loved and wanted grandchild. It hasn't quite gone there yet, but after a horrific confrontation (forced by my daughter), I can see that it might happen. I pray not, but it isn't really my choice anymore. My heart breaks for you too.
I’m sorry for this loss. Keep talking to any family members that you can. Keep telling your kids the truth and you keep them safe
It must be so hard and difficult though... You are brave. Keep on fighting for the truth
Who cares what the parents think or call you? They are insane. There is no such thing as trans and especially not a transkid. You need to triple down. And next time you see Benny, maybe you should ask if he wants to marry a boy? Because no girl is going to date or marry him ever if he continues to do this. Also tell him his parents are lying to him. If I were you I'd send this kid a birthday card with a boy theme on it every year. Address it to Benny. Put money inside it.
As a parent who lived the nightmare of having a kid who identified as trans, I would have done anything to prevent the devastation. It may sound harsh, but eliminating a few people from our lives to avoid the pain she and my family lived seems like a small price to pay. It’s a sacrifice I’d more than be willing to make.
Losing a relationship is hard, but I believe you took the right path. I hope you sleep well knowing that you’re not contributing to your nephew’s destruction, and you’re teaching your daughter something very important in today’s world--truth.
Your situation has made me aware of my own guilt and anxiety on this issue which I myself face.
A completely impossible choice ❤️
But the right one! The tide is turning (and for those of us deep into it not fast enough) however, it won't keep turning if we support this fantasy, when we dont believe it ourselves. We need to keep reminding people of clear reality and truth. My heart goes out to you and your family but I am also so grateful for your strength to do what is right. I am finding when I bring it up that when I start questioning a bit and talk about it leading to medicalization people are reflecting more and listening to what I am saying. Not all but if it helps just 1 or 2 to figure this out, that's a win. Thank you
Stick with the truth. Small children will believe anything you tell them; telling them they can change sex is child abuse. This gender nonsense is cruel and crushes families; we all have to stand against it so it won't become the norm. I applaud both you and your daughter.
It’s child abuse. Stand in the way.
Only 4 years old. Need I say more? I cannot believe that it’s come to this. This little boy is only 4 years old! He should not even be thinking about gender issues. He should be happy, carefree and playing with toys. In my book, what these parents are doing to this child is nothing short of child abuse. To refuse this child his cousin/aunt’s love is wrong. He can’t even play with his cousin anymore?! These parents are nuts! To keep him away from family that has loved him from birth. All in the name of gender ideology. What do you think that teaches this little boy? What do you think this little boy is feeling about losing his cousin so abruptly ??!! Trust me, this child will pay the price and his mental health will suffer. This world has gone crazy! All these “study’s” have only begun. We have no concrete evidence of consequences yet. And when we do, can we please compare them to all the other study’s on lost broken children that have nothing to do with gender. And a study on these little children that have been taught they can be the opposite sex and be estranged from family that dearly love them. I dare you to. Because breaking up families over gender is ridiculous. Society has simply created a new way to abuse children. And calling it legal! Tragic.
It's both sad and cruel.
Heartbreaking. That poor little boy, being brainwashed into believing he is a girl. I admire the writer and the way these parents are handling the situation. If I were in their shoes, the decision would be easy: I would say goodbye to this relationship--sad, yes, but protecting their daughter from being indoctrinated by this ideology is more important than saving a relationship with a relative.
You not only have the right to make this choice, you also have the duty to do so, because the well-being of their own child is the first duty of every parent. I’m so, so sorry for all of you, but most of all for Benny. He hasn’t deserved this, poor child. But -you made the right choice.
"Benny’s parents have told us that we must affirm Benny as a girl, or we cannot have a relationship with them."
First of all, people that think politics trumps blood have something seriously wrong with them. That applies whether you're a MAGA Trump voter who cut off your progressive family members or a gender lunatic who cut off family members who believe in biology (aka Science!)
Secondly, "support my decision or I'll cut you out of my life" is the behavior of a rebellious teenager not a functional adult. If your son is so mentally fragile at 4 years old that you are cutting off family members lest his delusions be cracked a little, you have problems almost as large as his.