Thank you for this article and for pointing me towards Carol Dansereau's Substack. I've subscribed to that as well. I have some friends that I'm preparing to talk to about this issue. You are helping me gain information, ammunition, with which I can hopefully get them to at least 'think' about the whole issue.
You are insightful and honest two things which,at the moment, are in short supply. My daughter thinks she’s happier as a boy (even though she is 19 she “performs” as a much younger boy.) I know and you know this is delusion and fakery and treachery on the part of the doctors and various other physician’s and strange, hybrid “creatures” circulating in the world at the moment. Not in my lifetime did I ever dream I would be confronted with actual evil on the streets of my country and those of other “modern”, “civilised” western nations. I mean I didn’t really understand what evil looked like or felt like. I was blissfully unaware until it started to be displayed in plain sight! I’m a spiritual person not necessarily religious - as in church going religious - but I have pleaded for help for my daughter, my family and myself and our human societies and I now have hope because I stopped expecting that hope to come from “lost” humans and turned to the divine which I now understand exists in all of us and everything. This is a concept as old as humanity and is US and our planet and our existence. Even with all the craziness and ugliness going on at the moment I have hope and belief that, as usual, we’ll work it all out! Be strong - I know how hard it is but as mother’s we are the life givers and we will be the ones to catch the reality and the knowledge and hold it steady.❤️
My heart breaks for you and your family knowing the depth of despair you so eloquently write about. It feels like we are screaming and no one can hear us, even our own family and friends. The truth is right in front of us but we are told what we see, we know is not true. The self-destruction of our children slowly happening in front of our eyes and no one will help us stop it. For sure, none of these people who are trying to be “kind” and “respectful” will be there to help our children deal with the aftermath of the permanent damage to their bodies while in mental distress when they wake up one day in the future with full developed brains and see what they have done with no turning back. These so called well-meaning people who could have helped us save our children will all scurry away like the cowards that they are.
I’m sorry about your daughter. This insanity needs to end. My mother refused to join the DAR in spite of her family’s participation. She was infuriated by their refusal to allow the brilliant Marian Anderson to sing in DAR Constitution Hall because of her race. Whereupon Eleanor Roosevelt invited her to sing in front of the Lincoln Memorial. Because of my mom I never joined.
Many of us have experienced disappointing (to say the least) communications with friends and families blissfully outside of GC. It's not in their feed. If they identify as liberal/progressive, their tribal affiliations are pro-trans--do not question a trans identity.
They will be acquainted with affirming parents, and those parents are often quite vocal in celebrating their child's new gender identity. (Which then makes the silent, suffering parents the problem.)
Brilliantly written article,and the absolutely incontrovertible TRUTH. I have never been able to understand how anyone in their right mind believed the lies being pushed by the ideologues in the first place ,but how can they continue to double down even as more and more evidence of real life harm emerges from the shadows ?? Reality and truth will win in the end ,but the damage of all this is incalculable. God help the victims and anyone else impacted by this horror 🙏❤
Children can no more "consent" to have their healthy breasts and genitalia removed or take puberty blockers than they can
"consent" to have sex with an adult.
Similarly, parents and doctors can no more approve such permanent mutilation simply because a minor child desires it than they can approve pedophilia.
Ultimately society will see the truth and ban the practice as we have banned female genital mutilation. Do people support that practice if the parents consent? I truly hope not
It is monstrous to believe otherwise and those who do will ultimately be held to account for their actions.
Excellent! If this person has a reasonable amount of empathy, intelligence or humility, you will receive a sincere apology soon.
I started speaking against this as soon my beloved only son declared his "womanhood", eleven years ago. I stood up to my professors who told me I "just wasn't educated yet" and my employer whose gender training forced me onto the side of the grass opposite the "allies". I denied every "friend" who admonished me to "just accept/affirm". As far as I'm concerned, they're all complicit in crimes against humanity. The potential grief over the loss of any of these people, who I don't actually miss at all, could never compare to the deep and unconditional love I have for my precious firstborn.
I'm so sorry for the re-traumatization your professors, employer, and "friends" put you through, as if watching your son embrace this madness weren't painful enough. Yes, it's our love for our children that keeps us going.
That's one massive 'inconvenient truth' laid bare right there, and at the risk of losing a long-term friendship. I salute your courage to speak (and learn) the truth, and so eloquently. There are so many friendships and familyships sunk by people buying into the much more convenient untruths passed off as truth that abound in our modern societies around this cult and beyond. We're all going down without the life raft of truth. Thank you for contributing to our collective sanity and survival. I hope your friend sees the light and helps you save your son. ❤💙
To the author, I echo every one of your sentiments. It’s a very lonely place to be. Our anger & sensitivity is heightened & it is exhausting. It just never goes away does it. ❤️
“[…] trying to justify the complete eradication of his history (which we're not allowed to discuss, or show pictures of, or acknowledge--let alone mourn--in any way)”
To me, this is one of the biggest indicators that a trans-identified person is mentally unstable. There are people who are born into abusive cults that they later escape, and they don’t have a problem with pictures of themselves as young children. (I read a lot of memoirs by people who have left cults.) How much self-loathing do you have to have to want every memory of your childhood gone? What did that little baby do, that s/he should never be seen again?
I don’t think this has been common in trans people until about the last twenty years, either. The trans people I met or read about prior to the current wave of trans activism were perfectly okay seeing pictures of themselves as young children, or mentioning in passing what their birth name was.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have kids, but they’re pretty young and neither is trans-identified.
Spot on. Sadly I too failed to see the harm when it wasn’t my child. When I didn’t understand the full ramifications of this ideology. Now I just wait for the rest of the world to wake up to reality. Hoping and praying it is sooner and not later.
This is a thoughtful and comprehensive description of the journey of a parent when a child becomes engulfed in the trans cult. It is a sad journey but you carried it out by trying to find legitimate scientific data and other meaningful reasons for transition and could not. Thank you for your story and I also liked the part where you said how you were with your child when he was young. Those were good days. I hope you find happiness in the future.
Thank you for this article and for pointing me towards Carol Dansereau's Substack. I've subscribed to that as well. I have some friends that I'm preparing to talk to about this issue. You are helping me gain information, ammunition, with which I can hopefully get them to at least 'think' about the whole issue.
You are insightful and honest two things which,at the moment, are in short supply. My daughter thinks she’s happier as a boy (even though she is 19 she “performs” as a much younger boy.) I know and you know this is delusion and fakery and treachery on the part of the doctors and various other physician’s and strange, hybrid “creatures” circulating in the world at the moment. Not in my lifetime did I ever dream I would be confronted with actual evil on the streets of my country and those of other “modern”, “civilised” western nations. I mean I didn’t really understand what evil looked like or felt like. I was blissfully unaware until it started to be displayed in plain sight! I’m a spiritual person not necessarily religious - as in church going religious - but I have pleaded for help for my daughter, my family and myself and our human societies and I now have hope because I stopped expecting that hope to come from “lost” humans and turned to the divine which I now understand exists in all of us and everything. This is a concept as old as humanity and is US and our planet and our existence. Even with all the craziness and ugliness going on at the moment I have hope and belief that, as usual, we’ll work it all out! Be strong - I know how hard it is but as mother’s we are the life givers and we will be the ones to catch the reality and the knowledge and hold it steady.❤️
My heart breaks for you and your family knowing the depth of despair you so eloquently write about. It feels like we are screaming and no one can hear us, even our own family and friends. The truth is right in front of us but we are told what we see, we know is not true. The self-destruction of our children slowly happening in front of our eyes and no one will help us stop it. For sure, none of these people who are trying to be “kind” and “respectful” will be there to help our children deal with the aftermath of the permanent damage to their bodies while in mental distress when they wake up one day in the future with full developed brains and see what they have done with no turning back. These so called well-meaning people who could have helped us save our children will all scurry away like the cowards that they are.
I’m sorry about your daughter. This insanity needs to end. My mother refused to join the DAR in spite of her family’s participation. She was infuriated by their refusal to allow the brilliant Marian Anderson to sing in DAR Constitution Hall because of her race. Whereupon Eleanor Roosevelt invited her to sing in front of the Lincoln Memorial. Because of my mom I never joined.
Thank you for writing this.
Many of us have experienced disappointing (to say the least) communications with friends and families blissfully outside of GC. It's not in their feed. If they identify as liberal/progressive, their tribal affiliations are pro-trans--do not question a trans identity.
They will be acquainted with affirming parents, and those parents are often quite vocal in celebrating their child's new gender identity. (Which then makes the silent, suffering parents the problem.)
Thanks for being vocal!
Many of us have simply given up.
Brilliantly written article,and the absolutely incontrovertible TRUTH. I have never been able to understand how anyone in their right mind believed the lies being pushed by the ideologues in the first place ,but how can they continue to double down even as more and more evidence of real life harm emerges from the shadows ?? Reality and truth will win in the end ,but the damage of all this is incalculable. God help the victims and anyone else impacted by this horror 🙏❤
Thank you for writing this. I could echo every word. I sometimes try to hide the enormity of it even from myself but the truth is always there.
Children can no more "consent" to have their healthy breasts and genitalia removed or take puberty blockers than they can
"consent" to have sex with an adult.
Similarly, parents and doctors can no more approve such permanent mutilation simply because a minor child desires it than they can approve pedophilia.
Ultimately society will see the truth and ban the practice as we have banned female genital mutilation. Do people support that practice if the parents consent? I truly hope not
It is monstrous to believe otherwise and those who do will ultimately be held to account for their actions.
Excellent! If this person has a reasonable amount of empathy, intelligence or humility, you will receive a sincere apology soon.
I started speaking against this as soon my beloved only son declared his "womanhood", eleven years ago. I stood up to my professors who told me I "just wasn't educated yet" and my employer whose gender training forced me onto the side of the grass opposite the "allies". I denied every "friend" who admonished me to "just accept/affirm". As far as I'm concerned, they're all complicit in crimes against humanity. The potential grief over the loss of any of these people, who I don't actually miss at all, could never compare to the deep and unconditional love I have for my precious firstborn.
I'm so sorry for the re-traumatization your professors, employer, and "friends" put you through, as if watching your son embrace this madness weren't painful enough. Yes, it's our love for our children that keeps us going.
That's one massive 'inconvenient truth' laid bare right there, and at the risk of losing a long-term friendship. I salute your courage to speak (and learn) the truth, and so eloquently. There are so many friendships and familyships sunk by people buying into the much more convenient untruths passed off as truth that abound in our modern societies around this cult and beyond. We're all going down without the life raft of truth. Thank you for contributing to our collective sanity and survival. I hope your friend sees the light and helps you save your son. ❤💙
To the author, I echo every one of your sentiments. It’s a very lonely place to be. Our anger & sensitivity is heightened & it is exhausting. It just never goes away does it. ❤️
“[…] trying to justify the complete eradication of his history (which we're not allowed to discuss, or show pictures of, or acknowledge--let alone mourn--in any way)”
To me, this is one of the biggest indicators that a trans-identified person is mentally unstable. There are people who are born into abusive cults that they later escape, and they don’t have a problem with pictures of themselves as young children. (I read a lot of memoirs by people who have left cults.) How much self-loathing do you have to have to want every memory of your childhood gone? What did that little baby do, that s/he should never be seen again?
I don’t think this has been common in trans people until about the last twenty years, either. The trans people I met or read about prior to the current wave of trans activism were perfectly okay seeing pictures of themselves as young children, or mentioning in passing what their birth name was.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have kids, but they’re pretty young and neither is trans-identified.
Love the letter! There might be fewer friends now but the good ones stick around.
Spot on. Sadly I too failed to see the harm when it wasn’t my child. When I didn’t understand the full ramifications of this ideology. Now I just wait for the rest of the world to wake up to reality. Hoping and praying it is sooner and not later.
This is a thoughtful and comprehensive description of the journey of a parent when a child becomes engulfed in the trans cult. It is a sad journey but you carried it out by trying to find legitimate scientific data and other meaningful reasons for transition and could not. Thank you for your story and I also liked the part where you said how you were with your child when he was young. Those were good days. I hope you find happiness in the future.
I feel the same way about old friends being insensitive to everything we are going through.