Lose your child or facilitate harm to her. That was my choice when my sixteen year old daughter told me, seemly out of the blue, she was trans. That was a little over a year and half ago. Turns out I was being overly optimistic, as now I know that if I lose her she will still be harmed. I don’t even have a Solomon’s choice. I would absolutely give her up if it would save her from harm, but it won’t. So why shouldn’t I affirm? I know parents who do, who have followed their daughters into the trans cult. They don’t want to lose them. They put rainbow yard signs out and get their daughters on testosterone. As one friend told me, “I want to be supportive.” But really, it is not supportive. It is fear. I understand the fear. So why don’t I affirm my daughter? Why don’t I use her pretend male name and pronouns and go along with her belief that she is somehow a boy? Do I love my daughter less than they do? Do I love her more? I don’t know. I only know that when she was screaming at me that if I did love her I would be helping her find a surgeon to remove her breasts, I knew I could never do something like that. She made it very clear that she would eventually cut me out of her life if I didn’t “get with the program.” But I could never forgive myself for participating in hurting her to hang on to her, even if in the end I still lose her and she is still hurt. I would never be able to face myself. I would never be able to face her.
Your enthusiasm for feeding children into the sausage grinder that is trans medicine is what is truly incomprehensible. It is beyond nauseating. It is cruel.
I can’t offer you a link because I can tell, that like me you have read them all…seen them all. I just want to offer that I am right there with you. I don’t think that we will really be okay unless our kids wake up to reality before it’s too late. I see the future for mine, and there’s no good outcome. Sorry for being negative but right now that’s what I’ve got. I am so sorry for our confused kids. I’m also really worried for us…..
Hugs to you. Thank you for understanding. One of the more difficult things had been people thinking that there is some way for me to be ok when my daughter won’t. I know they are trying to be helpful but they are living in a different world than me. They are living in a world where their children are safe.
I too was affected by gender cult mentality- told and encouraged to bind my breasts etc, wasn’t until I started dating a man who embraced my GNC female attitude and loved it that I felt so wonderful to be a woman
Gay powered (and still are) pushed into "conversion therapy" to try to force them to renounce who they are. Same thing. Black people are too obviously Black, so they're simply discriminated against, enslaved and killed. As are gay and trans people when they refuse to submit. It's all the same brand of hatred, if slightly different flavors and you are part of it.
The agenda of the WHO and the UN is to destroy America. They started this sexualization agenda many years ago. It was designed to breakdown the basic structure of civilization, which starts with the family unit. I always said to myself as I was growing up, I never want to forget what it feels like to be aa child...and I haven't. I remember very well. I was what people would call a Tomboy...I loved sports and never wanted a doll. I loved to play touch football; and was the captain of a softball team; and was an excellent swimmer. My father exerted a very strong influence on me. He got me into weight lifting too. However, at ten I started noticing boys. I had a crush on one from a distance...I liked the freckles on his nose. When we were kids there was no sexuality thing going on. When I got to be a teenager, I thought about the future...getting married and having chldren If I had been born today...people would have been on me to change my sex. Those who are doing this, are in it for various and sundry reasons.. They could be part of the program to break down our society; and then there are people who simply in it for the money. When I was a teenager, I read a lot. Thank goodness there was no TV. I happened to like Shakespeare - as his plays and words made me think. He said that Life is but a stage and men and women merely players. How right he was! We are born...and we must accept the role we are given...and noone else should influence us. I did not feel feminine as a young child - and I was a very independent teenager. I had to sit on my hands, when I boy took me on a date...and came around to open the door for me. I thought...I can open it myself. However I accepted the role. I waited for him to open the door. When I was 15, I thought about my future children...they were important to me. When I was 21, I woke up one morning and told my sister...Tonight I am going to meet "Someone." ... meaning the man I would marry. Six months later we were married. Life is not about sex...it is about the role you are destined to play. A year earlier, I had a brief meeting in a diner with a soldier I had corresponded with for a couple years...and we met for a cup of coffee. He said that he was afraid to approach me, because I looked like a snob. I had felt uncomfortable waiting for a stranger in a diner. I said to him that I wasn't a snob...I was very shy. His next words changed my life...He said that I should stop thinking about myself and think of others. Nobody is really looking at you. Most people are thinking of themselves. (We never met again). However, his words changed my life. People today are too focused on themselves (selfies and all!) ...and really need to start thinking of others and what they can do to make the world a better place.
It’s no relief to know this break with reality is shared by so many parents and children. It is particular madness to see so many people participating in this effort to do so much harm to so many others.
For those of us who watch in stunned amazement that something so humanely wrong not only happens but seems to be accelerating, is nothing compared to the rage and sadness mothers like you experience. I hope you and your husband and family will stay the non-affirmation course. What else is a parent to do?
Nature has developed we parents as the deepest caretaker a child will ever have. We have to continue being parents, continue to care more for them than we do ourselves.
Paradox Institute www.the paradoxinstitute.com. And a therapist Stephanie Winn www.sometherapist.com. Either or both might help you in your efforts. Thanks for the testimony and sharing the pain and outrage.
Yes, I feel your pain too. I lost many liberal friends, woke family members, and even my "best" friend for not affirming this atrocity on humanity. You are correct in believing that your daughter will cut you off after 18. Mine did as well in a gradual way- it's as if the cult has a playbook on it. It took exactly 6 months before she went "no contact". Now it's been 22 months since she left for college at 18 and got hormones from Planned Parenthood. Never returned for holidays or vacations, never responds to calls, texts, gifts, etc. Tomorrow is Father's Day and we don't expect a call. She's now dropped out of college! We were paying for her phone all this time and are thinking of stopping her service-- Other readers: do you think this is a good idea?? It is a desperate feeling to lose a child this way! She's about to be cut off altogether from her inheritance as well. My husband and I have had it with this sick game! My advice to you would be to try to remove her from her environment, possibly with your family, for a long amount of time. Take away all access to the internet. Show old family photos of good times when things were "normal". Engage her in a new activity together- maybe a dance class or other hobby where you can both learn together. Because this is a social contagion, she needs to be removed from the influence soon, before she turns 18. Best of luck to you- I didn't have this chance because my daughter did this to herself the minute she left home, while having kept it all secret. Secrecy, lies, and deception is the basis of this evil cult mindset.
I would cut off my daughter’s phone if she went no contact. I am fine with agree to disagree. But if she cuts me off she will be paying her own effing way. I fully anticipate that this is what is going to happen at some point.
yes. I believe kids should be absolutely certain how firm a parent's boundaries are. As much as they might rage against our rules now, at some point they will learn why the rules are there. There's nothing quite like the harsh reality of adulting to make one reconsider life choices. If my teen is going to behave like a toddler throwing a tantrum, she damn well will be treated as one.
Thank you-your thoughts, feelings, rage, experiences are exactly mine.
I have already lost the most important thing, my son, so now I have nothing more to lose. We must keep shouting-at all costs. Becoming an activist against this madness helps me keep my sanity now.
Yeah I am not a parent, but I don't "wake up" my lib friends because it's HARD to live with this truth. It's painful to have to carry the weight of being a "bigot" because you know sterilizing children is evil. To wake up others would be passing the weight on to them, when they don't want to know any way. It's so freakin weird and awful.
Thank you for sharing this. I feel your pain, the rage, the disbelief, the overwhelming fear, the tightrope of trying to maintain a relationship while wanting to shake some sense into my daughter! Wake up - it’s a cult and it’s lying to you. You do not need to change; you are quirky, beautiful, smart, funny, sensitive and loving.
Bless you for being true to what you know is right ... what a tragedy .. to confuse essence with biology ... yes, sometimes kids know, and sometimes they may be correct, that their essence is masculine in a female body, or feminine in a masculine body ... and real affirmation would accept that and move on with making meaning life, however one is ... whatever your essence is, whether it may change, or not, doesn't mean you're born in the wrong body .. what a horrible thing to tell children ...
In the name of affirmation .. affirmation would not twist natural reality to lead down a road of toxic absurdity ...
I'd probably be obsessing over a they/them nonbinary identity if I were a kid now. There's medical procedures for that too.
I am a therapist and I can see her if you are in CA or NY, if she is not connected to one yet I may be able to help her though and out.
Your lack of compassion for trans people who are just trying to exist is nauseating.
Your enthusiasm for feeding children into the sausage grinder that is trans medicine is what is truly incomprehensible. It is beyond nauseating. It is cruel.
Your enthusiasm for trans suicide is sick. Good day, bigot.
And good day to you, lemming.
I can’t offer you a link because I can tell, that like me you have read them all…seen them all. I just want to offer that I am right there with you. I don’t think that we will really be okay unless our kids wake up to reality before it’s too late. I see the future for mine, and there’s no good outcome. Sorry for being negative but right now that’s what I’ve got. I am so sorry for our confused kids. I’m also really worried for us…..
Hugs to you. Thank you for understanding. One of the more difficult things had been people thinking that there is some way for me to be ok when my daughter won’t. I know they are trying to be helpful but they are living in a different world than me. They are living in a world where their children are safe.
A stellate ganglion block combined with EMDR psycho therapy is the way out for ROGD girls. Cannabis also helps (its healthier than shrink meds).
Here's a link you might find helpful. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-mind/202104/the-definitive-guide-helping-people-trapped-in-cult?amp
I too was affected by gender cult mentality- told and encouraged to bind my breasts etc, wasn’t until I started dating a man who embraced my GNC female attitude and loved it that I felt so wonderful to be a woman
Gay powered (and still are) pushed into "conversion therapy" to try to force them to renounce who they are. Same thing. Black people are too obviously Black, so they're simply discriminated against, enslaved and killed. As are gay and trans people when they refuse to submit. It's all the same brand of hatred, if slightly different flavors and you are part of it.
What are you talking about?!
Your lack of compassion and arrogance is nauseating.
Not to mention them being a dumb ass.
The agenda of the WHO and the UN is to destroy America. They started this sexualization agenda many years ago. It was designed to breakdown the basic structure of civilization, which starts with the family unit. I always said to myself as I was growing up, I never want to forget what it feels like to be aa child...and I haven't. I remember very well. I was what people would call a Tomboy...I loved sports and never wanted a doll. I loved to play touch football; and was the captain of a softball team; and was an excellent swimmer. My father exerted a very strong influence on me. He got me into weight lifting too. However, at ten I started noticing boys. I had a crush on one from a distance...I liked the freckles on his nose. When we were kids there was no sexuality thing going on. When I got to be a teenager, I thought about the future...getting married and having chldren If I had been born today...people would have been on me to change my sex. Those who are doing this, are in it for various and sundry reasons.. They could be part of the program to break down our society; and then there are people who simply in it for the money. When I was a teenager, I read a lot. Thank goodness there was no TV. I happened to like Shakespeare - as his plays and words made me think. He said that Life is but a stage and men and women merely players. How right he was! We are born...and we must accept the role we are given...and noone else should influence us. I did not feel feminine as a young child - and I was a very independent teenager. I had to sit on my hands, when I boy took me on a date...and came around to open the door for me. I thought...I can open it myself. However I accepted the role. I waited for him to open the door. When I was 15, I thought about my future children...they were important to me. When I was 21, I woke up one morning and told my sister...Tonight I am going to meet "Someone." ... meaning the man I would marry. Six months later we were married. Life is not about sex...it is about the role you are destined to play. A year earlier, I had a brief meeting in a diner with a soldier I had corresponded with for a couple years...and we met for a cup of coffee. He said that he was afraid to approach me, because I looked like a snob. I had felt uncomfortable waiting for a stranger in a diner. I said to him that I wasn't a snob...I was very shy. His next words changed my life...He said that I should stop thinking about myself and think of others. Nobody is really looking at you. Most people are thinking of themselves. (We never met again). However, his words changed my life. People today are too focused on themselves (selfies and all!) ...and really need to start thinking of others and what they can do to make the world a better place.
It’s no relief to know this break with reality is shared by so many parents and children. It is particular madness to see so many people participating in this effort to do so much harm to so many others.
For those of us who watch in stunned amazement that something so humanely wrong not only happens but seems to be accelerating, is nothing compared to the rage and sadness mothers like you experience. I hope you and your husband and family will stay the non-affirmation course. What else is a parent to do?
Nature has developed we parents as the deepest caretaker a child will ever have. We have to continue being parents, continue to care more for them than we do ourselves.
Paradox Institute www.the paradoxinstitute.com. And a therapist Stephanie Winn www.sometherapist.com. Either or both might help you in your efforts. Thanks for the testimony and sharing the pain and outrage.
Yes, I feel your pain too. I lost many liberal friends, woke family members, and even my "best" friend for not affirming this atrocity on humanity. You are correct in believing that your daughter will cut you off after 18. Mine did as well in a gradual way- it's as if the cult has a playbook on it. It took exactly 6 months before she went "no contact". Now it's been 22 months since she left for college at 18 and got hormones from Planned Parenthood. Never returned for holidays or vacations, never responds to calls, texts, gifts, etc. Tomorrow is Father's Day and we don't expect a call. She's now dropped out of college! We were paying for her phone all this time and are thinking of stopping her service-- Other readers: do you think this is a good idea?? It is a desperate feeling to lose a child this way! She's about to be cut off altogether from her inheritance as well. My husband and I have had it with this sick game! My advice to you would be to try to remove her from her environment, possibly with your family, for a long amount of time. Take away all access to the internet. Show old family photos of good times when things were "normal". Engage her in a new activity together- maybe a dance class or other hobby where you can both learn together. Because this is a social contagion, she needs to be removed from the influence soon, before she turns 18. Best of luck to you- I didn't have this chance because my daughter did this to herself the minute she left home, while having kept it all secret. Secrecy, lies, and deception is the basis of this evil cult mindset.
I would cut off my daughter’s phone if she went no contact. I am fine with agree to disagree. But if she cuts me off she will be paying her own effing way. I fully anticipate that this is what is going to happen at some point.
yes. I believe kids should be absolutely certain how firm a parent's boundaries are. As much as they might rage against our rules now, at some point they will learn why the rules are there. There's nothing quite like the harsh reality of adulting to make one reconsider life choices. If my teen is going to behave like a toddler throwing a tantrum, she damn well will be treated as one.
Thank you-your thoughts, feelings, rage, experiences are exactly mine.
I have already lost the most important thing, my son, so now I have nothing more to lose. We must keep shouting-at all costs. Becoming an activist against this madness helps me keep my sanity now.
Stay strong my friend.
You too
Yeah I am not a parent, but I don't "wake up" my lib friends because it's HARD to live with this truth. It's painful to have to carry the weight of being a "bigot" because you know sterilizing children is evil. To wake up others would be passing the weight on to them, when they don't want to know any way. It's so freakin weird and awful.
I totally understand the rage 😡
Way to many of us are going through this ! Way to many 💔
yes- all of it. I am so sad for you and for all of us who have been thrown unwillingly into this unrecognizable societal disaster.
Thank you for sharing this. I feel your pain, the rage, the disbelief, the overwhelming fear, the tightrope of trying to maintain a relationship while wanting to shake some sense into my daughter! Wake up - it’s a cult and it’s lying to you. You do not need to change; you are quirky, beautiful, smart, funny, sensitive and loving.
Bless you for being true to what you know is right ... what a tragedy .. to confuse essence with biology ... yes, sometimes kids know, and sometimes they may be correct, that their essence is masculine in a female body, or feminine in a masculine body ... and real affirmation would accept that and move on with making meaning life, however one is ... whatever your essence is, whether it may change, or not, doesn't mean you're born in the wrong body .. what a horrible thing to tell children ...
In the name of affirmation .. affirmation would not twist natural reality to lead down a road of toxic absurdity ...
I'd probably be obsessing over a they/them nonbinary identity if I were a kid now. There's medical procedures for that too.
I hope your daughter can see through the cult ...