I am the mother of an ROGD adult with severe mental health problems and trauma. She was rushed into medicalisation by her therapists and has now been on testosterone for three years and has had a double mastectomy. Our once close relationship is strained, and she has threatened to end contact with me unless I affirm her as a man and use the 'correct' pronouns. This feels wrong to me. It feels like a lie.
As parents of adult children, all we can do is watch in anguish as they make terrible mistakes; and keep loving them even when they reject us.
The following is a song about the agony of loving your child and letting them go. I hope that sharing it might help other PITT parents, especially of adult and estranged children.
From a struggling South African mom
Love me when I most need it that is when I less deserved it. In the Bible Jesus tell us that it would come a time that mothers will envy childless women, He describes a time of tribulation, an awakening and I think that time has came. These times are not for the faint of heart because are daring and madness prevails, the loonies are ruling the asylum. These times are opportunities to grow stronger and never give up, love until it hurts and this is something that a mother like you understands perfectly! Hope and Faith keep us all strong, life on Earth is short and it is just a passage.
I am so sorry for your pain. I know and understand. My son will be 21 next month and I have not seen or heard from him for almost three years. It's as though he was taken by the Pied Piper and I wonder if these kids like him have any idea of the sadness they leave in their wake. I can't imagine doing something like this to my own parents and family. They are entranced, aided and abetted by people who should know better. Being 'kind' does not mean this.