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Has anyone ever tried to sit in front of the computer and read these accounts to their Trans/ non-binary FTM daughter?? I’m starting to think I need to so she knows I am not crazy.

She’s 24, college grad. We are close but she has been captured by this agenda since about the start of college in 2017.

I don’t know if can hold my mama pain back anymore.

I have been so gentle since she first came out as bi then with a girlfriend (she dated boys in high school and then complete turn around in college, super girly to ultimately dressing like a 12 year old boy with short hair and dad clothes, weight gain, etc.)

Has anyone ever tried this approach? What will WAKE THEM UP?

For my daughter I’m grateful that she has not started hormones and I do not believe plans to. She’s they/them nb but not trans.

But I’m not holding my breath and I am very focused on keeping her body intact.

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It’s very hard. I can identify with a lot of this - the traumatized daughter, the scripted words, the swapping out of more responsible doctors for reckless ones who speed things through, etc. My daughter still lives at home and I want to keep it that way for now, but how she’s harming herself is so hard to accept.

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My heart goes out to you. Dealing with the losses of the dreams, hopes, and ideas it sounds like you've had for your child can be a lot. I hope you're able to find support through all the strong emotions you're experiencing, and make your way through.

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God bless you

I think at some point in the future- hopefully sooner rather than later - we will look back upon this whole phenomenon like we do lobotomies

Hoping that day arrives sooner rather than later. Many, like your daughter, won't get there unscathed

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Thank you for sharing your story, I know that was not an easy task. My heart is heavy for you and your sweet daughter. It is indeed shocking and frustrating how quickly the medical field pushes our confused children into believing the trans lie. Affirming this cult delusion is wrong! I hope your daughter finds her true self and embraces how wonderful it is to be a woman, to have the ability to create another human being in her womb, to feel the miracle of life move inside of her, to listen to the heartbeat, and then to give birth. Holding a new born baby and then being able to sustain its tiny life through breast feeding is nothing short of miraculous. These groomed and manipulated teens and young adults are making horrible and permanent decisions that stops this precious cycle of life. And every therapist, psychologist, doctor, nurse, surgeon, teacher, counselor, and coach who allows this to happen must be held accountable. I pray your story will have a better outcome and that your daughter is spared going down the trans rabbit hole.

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I'm sorry. This is the most dangerous cult to come along in years. Scientology is just now being outed and held to account for their crimes. This will follow the same path.

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My observation is that more fathers see where this trans train is going than mothers do. I'm speaking from female experience that women tend to follow bandwagons uncritically. Even worse, our culture appears to default to women's perceptions of right and wrong these days.

That said, I wonder about the rather passive slant this takes, as if the writer has no say in this. At the same time, I understand that the matriarchal psychology we're in (See Chris Rufo's video "Cluster B Society" a thesis pursued by Joshua Slocum for some years now, and which resonates with trends that have concerned me for over ten years now) makes resisting female authority nearly impossible.

So the writer's daughter endured one form of narcissistic abuse only to subject herself to another. Trans ideology is, for all intents and purposes, narcissistic abuse. It insists that something is wrong with 'you' that must be fixed in ways that will make life worse; it also insists that 'you' must demand people see you as you demand they see you, and not as you are; it projects onto others that the problem is 'them.' At the same time, "my dysphoria" has become a stand-in term for feeling uncomfortable, and I can't help but connect the dots from obesity to "a pervasive feeling of discomfort with one's body."

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This is so heartbreaking. I don’t mean to add to anyone’s burden but this needs to be said. Separation & divorce has a devastating effect on kids, even when the parents think they are behaving honorably. Divorce shatters a child’s world. No amount of civility can erase the confusion & disorientation on a child’s psyche. Married couples having problems in their relationship used to stay together for the sake of the kids. That is a value that needs to be reclaimed. Adults need to get over themselves and commit to their marriages & the well-being of their children as a priority. Those who do often find that their perseverance pays off. Their marriage improves & their children are spared the tragic consequences of questioning their identity & place in the world. Divorce is sometimes necessary & appropriate, but it should be avoided at all costs, for the sake of the kids.

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Thank you so much MLT! I do teletherapy but only in the state of Maryland. LCPCs (Licensed Clinical Professional Counselors) have to be licensed in the state where the client is (physically). For example, I could provide teletherapy to a client who lives in Delaware & drives over the state line into Maryland for sessions. Brilliant policy. I so appreciate your acknowledgement & encouragement; G-d bless!

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Sep 23, 2023·edited Sep 24, 2023

Her mistakes as an adult are her's to own. Your biggest battle will be to stop her from committing to a second permanent action after she realizes her transition helped her not one bit of a buffalo nickel to feel better about herself.

I've witnessed this timeline recur countless times before, and with no need to lay claim to a psychic ability, realize I'll never stop seeing it regularly again over the next 50 years. So one bit of advice from the trenches:

Start looking for a respectable therapist you feel you trust for the aftermarket effects of her journey, and make sure they're experienced in CBT training to actively retrain her mind to handle the lost sense of self she'll be feeling. It's going to take her learning an entirely new set of social dynamics just to navigate the different world she'll need to reintegrate into.

And if you go ballistic with anger once it hits you just how difficult this is going to be, my favorite advice is to track down that boy who scarred her and commit yourself to some reciprocity. I admire parents of real action more than the pacifists.

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I hope that you're all able to figure out a way of stopping this "transition".

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Sep 23, 2023·edited Sep 23, 2023

Another disturbing example of the capture of medical and psychological professionals to be anything but professional -- it is clearly malpractice to harm your daughter as she joins the many others duped by the trans cult. I am sorry for the terrible pain of all this, which I am familiar with, having my young adult son cruelly stolen, too. Thank you for telling your story. I hold onto hope that collective voices of sanity will someday prevail. Though who knows how many of our children will wake up from the spell of self-harm being enabled by our sick culture.

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I so desperately want to create and move to a safe country with other sane people.

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Why are health care professionals so uncritical and so unable to stand up for what they often know is right or against what is wrong? I guess it's something to do with money. Professional bodies have been captured by evil fools, nobody at any level will oppose their diktat. Something similar is happening regarding climate research. Many people are oblivious. These are truly trying times.

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I’m so sorry and I know your pain.

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This was so heartbreaking to read. Thank you for sharing.

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