My daughter grew up like so many other little girls, without manifesting any problems, dancing to cartoon songs with her friends, playing with little girl toys, dolls and make-up, wearing girly clothes, and dressing as a fairy or a princess at carnival. Without any compulsion, she loved all that dancing, playing, and wearing princess clothes. At that time her life was a carefree fairy tale.
Has anyone ever tried to sit in front of the computer and read these accounts to their Trans/ non-binary FTM daughter?? I’m starting to think I need to so she knows I am not crazy.
She’s 24, college grad. We are close but she has been captured by this agenda since about the start of college in 2017.
I don’t know if can hold my mama pain back anymore.
I have been so gentle since she first came out as bi then with a girlfriend (she dated boys in high school and then complete turn around in college, super girly to ultimately dressing like a 12 year old boy with short hair and dad clothes, weight gain, etc.)
Has anyone ever tried this approach? What will WAKE THEM UP?
For my daughter I’m grateful that she has not started hormones and I do not believe plans to. She’s they/them nb but not trans.
But I’m not holding my breath and I am very focused on keeping her body intact.
No I haven’t. But I’ve left the PITT book in an obvious spot in my bedroom and I just HOPE she’ll pick it up one day while I’m out and about. I do send her screenshots of things detrans people post on X about the physical pain they’re experiencing now after years on Testosterone - she doesn’t reply or comment but I know she’s seen them. And it helps me a little to feel that at least I’ve done my best to warn her and arm her with knowledge 😔
It’s very hard. I can identify with a lot of this - the traumatized daughter, the scripted words, the swapping out of more responsible doctors for reckless ones who speed things through, etc. My daughter still lives at home and I want to keep it that way for now, but how she’s harming herself is so hard to accept.
My heart goes out to you. Dealing with the losses of the dreams, hopes, and ideas it sounds like you've had for your child can be a lot. I hope you're able to find support through all the strong emotions you're experiencing, and make your way through.
Thank you for sharing your story, I know that was not an easy task. My heart is heavy for you and your sweet daughter. It is indeed shocking and frustrating how quickly the medical field pushes our confused children into believing the trans lie. Affirming this cult delusion is wrong! I hope your daughter finds her true self and embraces how wonderful it is to be a woman, to have the ability to create another human being in her womb, to feel the miracle of life move inside of her, to listen to the heartbeat, and then to give birth. Holding a new born baby and then being able to sustain its tiny life through breast feeding is nothing short of miraculous. These groomed and manipulated teens and young adults are making horrible and permanent decisions that stops this precious cycle of life. And every therapist, psychologist, doctor, nurse, surgeon, teacher, counselor, and coach who allows this to happen must be held accountable. I pray your story will have a better outcome and that your daughter is spared going down the trans rabbit hole.
I'm sorry. This is the most dangerous cult to come along in years. Scientology is just now being outed and held to account for their crimes. This will follow the same path.
My observation is that more fathers see where this trans train is going than mothers do. I'm speaking from female experience that women tend to follow bandwagons uncritically. Even worse, our culture appears to default to women's perceptions of right and wrong these days.
That said, I wonder about the rather passive slant this takes, as if the writer has no say in this. At the same time, I understand that the matriarchal psychology we're in (See Chris Rufo's video "Cluster B Society" a thesis pursued by Joshua Slocum for some years now, and which resonates with trends that have concerned me for over ten years now) makes resisting female authority nearly impossible.
So the writer's daughter endured one form of narcissistic abuse only to subject herself to another. Trans ideology is, for all intents and purposes, narcissistic abuse. It insists that something is wrong with 'you' that must be fixed in ways that will make life worse; it also insists that 'you' must demand people see you as you demand they see you, and not as you are; it projects onto others that the problem is 'them.' At the same time, "my dysphoria" has become a stand-in term for feeling uncomfortable, and I can't help but connect the dots from obesity to "a pervasive feeling of discomfort with one's body."
Yikes. Rufo is saying that “female leadership” (WOMEN) are perpetuating everything that’s wrong with society. Women’s emphasis on caring is overpowering the rationality of previously male-dominated institutions like higher education. That’s quite a contention. Blaming women and mothers for the crisis with our kids (which most people understand to be strongly perpetuated by the internet) is outrageous an misogynist. I am also a believer in balance and think men and women both have important qualities to bring to leadership in society, but I’m not sure how he has come to the conclusion that women are somehow in charge of everything and that’s why society is going to hell in a handbasket. In the US we have yet to have a female President and we are losing significant reproductive rights by the day. Not the outcomes one would expect in a country dominated by women’s hysteria.
You’re thinking too literally. We don’t need a female president to see that women’s values and naïveté about human nature is driving society into the ground. Rufo supplies plenty of evidence to support this claim. Case in point: it’s “kind” to let men dressed as women into women’s restrooms. Well women generally don’t rape and indulge sexual perversion in public so let them in! But a male dominated mind knows and is prepared for threats! More women defend this INVASION than men because men historically protected women from invasion in a general sense, as they understand that men by nature are invaders!
I watched Rufo's video. It's well-reasoned and I agree 100% with the premise. Seems quite unreasonable however that Rufo attributed the cause only to women, and only to the left. Traits of narcissism, BPD, and antisocial PD are evident in leaders, celebrities and influencers across both the left and the right.
>I can't help but connect the dots from obesity to "a pervasive feeling of discomfort with one's body."
They are very big dots, really. More young people suffer from obesity than ever, more & more every year. Our food culture is badly broken - too many kids now grow up without ever seeing a meal cooked from scratch in their household, and even parents who cook at home find their efforts disregarded in favor of the bright and flashy fast food advertised so colorfully on TV.
Young people suffering obesity have body image issues that no amount of "acceptance" can help. They know they don't look like the people on TV and they know their weight isn't healthy. At very young ages, they start to be ashamed of their bodies & they dress to hide instead of to express themselves. They lose themselves online, where no one can see what they look like. And it goes beyond the strictly physical - the girls have earlier & earlier puberties, before they are psychologically ready to handle going through such changes. The boys have delayed puberties & other endocrine issues, leading to juvenile impotence & erectile dysfunction.
This shame also creates a vicious cycle with obesity - eating in public or with friends makes them acutely uncomfortable with themselves. They seclude themselves and survive on delivery and packaged goods. All these issues are wrapped up together - isolation, internet addiction, sedentary lifestyle, obesity, self-hate, self-destruction - they all compound to worsen each other, and together they render young people perfectly desperate for any solution to the misery in which they find themselves. "Trans" is one such solution, video games are another, opioids are another, suicide is another.
More & more young people take their own lives every year, and it is plain at this point that so-called Psychologists have absolutely no idea how to deal with the problems young people currently face. They tell them they have disorders and that they need medication and that they need to "work on themselves" and all of it is complete horse pucky! They need to be off their smartphones and out in the world, learning that they are a human being and not some kind of synthetic digital creature - and, above all else, they need adults to be off their smartphones along with them. We, the adults, are failing to protect them. We are failing to be there with them in our terrifying time. We have left them to digital parents, who care not for them in the slightest.
This is so heartbreaking. I don’t mean to add to anyone’s burden but this needs to be said. Separation & divorce has a devastating effect on kids, even when the parents think they are behaving honorably. Divorce shatters a child’s world. No amount of civility can erase the confusion & disorientation on a child’s psyche. Married couples having problems in their relationship used to stay together for the sake of the kids. That is a value that needs to be reclaimed. Adults need to get over themselves and commit to their marriages & the well-being of their children as a priority. Those who do often find that their perseverance pays off. Their marriage improves & their children are spared the tragic consequences of questioning their identity & place in the world. Divorce is sometimes necessary & appropriate, but it should be avoided at all costs, for the sake of the kids.
Getting divorced is unfortunate and rarely taken lightly, ESPECIALLY when kids are involved. However staying in a toxic or dysfunctional relationship is not any healthier for children. The caution is to be very careful who you have a child with.
Thank you so much MLT! I do teletherapy but only in the state of Maryland. LCPCs (Licensed Clinical Professional Counselors) have to be licensed in the state where the client is (physically). For example, I could provide teletherapy to a client who lives in Delaware & drives over the state line into Maryland for sessions. Brilliant policy. I so appreciate your acknowledgement & encouragement; G-d bless!
Her mistakes as an adult are her's to own. Your biggest battle will be to stop her from committing to a second permanent action after she realizes her transition helped her not one bit of a buffalo nickel to feel better about herself.
I've witnessed this timeline recur countless times before, and with no need to lay claim to a psychic ability, realize I'll never stop seeing it regularly again over the next 50 years. So one bit of advice from the trenches:
Start looking for a respectable therapist you feel you trust for the aftermarket effects of her journey, and make sure they're experienced in CBT training to actively retrain her mind to handle the lost sense of self she'll be feeling. It's going to take her learning an entirely new set of social dynamics just to navigate the different world she'll need to reintegrate into.
And if you go ballistic with anger once it hits you just how difficult this is going to be, my favorite advice is to track down that boy who scarred her and commit yourself to some reciprocity. I admire parents of real action more than the pacifists.
Another disturbing example of the capture of medical and psychological professionals to be anything but professional -- it is clearly malpractice to harm your daughter as she joins the many others duped by the trans cult. I am sorry for the terrible pain of all this, which I am familiar with, having my young adult son cruelly stolen, too. Thank you for telling your story. I hold onto hope that collective voices of sanity will someday prevail. Though who knows how many of our children will wake up from the spell of self-harm being enabled by our sick culture.
That sounds so over the top, but it’s actually true. Saying things like ‘it’s the end of the world’ is kind of true isn’t it? I mean if this takes off, where lies humanity?
I didn't mean Biblical end of the world, just kind of....fall of Rome, fall of the Mongols, fall of the British Empire. Frankly, a new impending Dark Age marked by mutual, all-around willful ignorance and fear of reason. A conscious turning to superstition and ignorance the way I've seen with people who adhere to fundamentalist religions. Like, I can imagine potentially a real breakdown in society in which we'll find out very quickly who the truly marginalized are when Darwin takes over and it's survival of the fittest and strongest. It won't bode well for women and POC...or maybe white people if we're in the minority by then, and the far left wins. But whichever side wins, the good little girls and boys who do and think what they're told will be given status over the rest of us. Just thinking out loud...and very extremely. That it's one way things could do, esp with climate changing throwing us all into upheaval. But Stephen Pinker shows us that we suffer dips in good times for humanity, but that progress *does* move forward - and makes more peoples' lives better. Not everyone benefits but he notes that there were far fewer poor people in the last say 50 years than there were earlier in history. The number of the poor keeps moving downward. We may be in an ugly dip but it may well move back up again. It's ultimately up to all of us. And here's the thing...the far left & right (woke/Trumpies) are actually *in the minority* - if you check out humantribes.us you find that together they comprise about 8% of American political thought - which means the rest of us, however scattered across the spectrum of politics and apathy, don't want either of these mf'ers ruling *anything*!
Why are health care professionals so uncritical and so unable to stand up for what they often know is right or against what is wrong? I guess it's something to do with money. Professional bodies have been captured by evil fools, nobody at any level will oppose their diktat. Something similar is happening regarding climate research. Many people are oblivious. These are truly trying times.
There are many who are quietly resisting. Sometimes it's cowardice; sometimes it's a bid to remain in patients' and their families trust. Pediatricians are generally speaking NOT on board with this nonsense, as they know something about human development and how foolish it is medically to concretize a passing fashion or cosmetic goal, vs. lifelong health and well-being. But still, if you have a sex-dysphoric child, feel out your pediatrician or GP. Some are still referring kids to the so-called "gender clinics," which Dennis Noel Kavanaugh calls the "gender abbatoirs." These are mostly just clueless, but some may be cowards who just don't want the blood on their hands (or in their charts.)
Has anyone ever tried to sit in front of the computer and read these accounts to their Trans/ non-binary FTM daughter?? I’m starting to think I need to so she knows I am not crazy.
She’s 24, college grad. We are close but she has been captured by this agenda since about the start of college in 2017.
I don’t know if can hold my mama pain back anymore.
I have been so gentle since she first came out as bi then with a girlfriend (she dated boys in high school and then complete turn around in college, super girly to ultimately dressing like a 12 year old boy with short hair and dad clothes, weight gain, etc.)
Has anyone ever tried this approach? What will WAKE THEM UP?
For my daughter I’m grateful that she has not started hormones and I do not believe plans to. She’s they/them nb but not trans.
But I’m not holding my breath and I am very focused on keeping her body intact.
No I haven’t. But I’ve left the PITT book in an obvious spot in my bedroom and I just HOPE she’ll pick it up one day while I’m out and about. I do send her screenshots of things detrans people post on X about the physical pain they’re experiencing now after years on Testosterone - she doesn’t reply or comment but I know she’s seen them. And it helps me a little to feel that at least I’ve done my best to warn her and arm her with knowledge 😔
It’s very hard. I can identify with a lot of this - the traumatized daughter, the scripted words, the swapping out of more responsible doctors for reckless ones who speed things through, etc. My daughter still lives at home and I want to keep it that way for now, but how she’s harming herself is so hard to accept.
My heart goes out to you. Dealing with the losses of the dreams, hopes, and ideas it sounds like you've had for your child can be a lot. I hope you're able to find support through all the strong emotions you're experiencing, and make your way through.
God bless you
I think at some point in the future- hopefully sooner rather than later - we will look back upon this whole phenomenon like we do lobotomies
Hoping that day arrives sooner rather than later. Many, like your daughter, won't get there unscathed
Thank you for sharing your story, I know that was not an easy task. My heart is heavy for you and your sweet daughter. It is indeed shocking and frustrating how quickly the medical field pushes our confused children into believing the trans lie. Affirming this cult delusion is wrong! I hope your daughter finds her true self and embraces how wonderful it is to be a woman, to have the ability to create another human being in her womb, to feel the miracle of life move inside of her, to listen to the heartbeat, and then to give birth. Holding a new born baby and then being able to sustain its tiny life through breast feeding is nothing short of miraculous. These groomed and manipulated teens and young adults are making horrible and permanent decisions that stops this precious cycle of life. And every therapist, psychologist, doctor, nurse, surgeon, teacher, counselor, and coach who allows this to happen must be held accountable. I pray your story will have a better outcome and that your daughter is spared going down the trans rabbit hole.
I'm sorry. This is the most dangerous cult to come along in years. Scientology is just now being outed and held to account for their crimes. This will follow the same path.
My observation is that more fathers see where this trans train is going than mothers do. I'm speaking from female experience that women tend to follow bandwagons uncritically. Even worse, our culture appears to default to women's perceptions of right and wrong these days.
That said, I wonder about the rather passive slant this takes, as if the writer has no say in this. At the same time, I understand that the matriarchal psychology we're in (See Chris Rufo's video "Cluster B Society" a thesis pursued by Joshua Slocum for some years now, and which resonates with trends that have concerned me for over ten years now) makes resisting female authority nearly impossible.
So the writer's daughter endured one form of narcissistic abuse only to subject herself to another. Trans ideology is, for all intents and purposes, narcissistic abuse. It insists that something is wrong with 'you' that must be fixed in ways that will make life worse; it also insists that 'you' must demand people see you as you demand they see you, and not as you are; it projects onto others that the problem is 'them.' At the same time, "my dysphoria" has become a stand-in term for feeling uncomfortable, and I can't help but connect the dots from obesity to "a pervasive feeling of discomfort with one's body."
Yikes. Rufo is saying that “female leadership” (WOMEN) are perpetuating everything that’s wrong with society. Women’s emphasis on caring is overpowering the rationality of previously male-dominated institutions like higher education. That’s quite a contention. Blaming women and mothers for the crisis with our kids (which most people understand to be strongly perpetuated by the internet) is outrageous an misogynist. I am also a believer in balance and think men and women both have important qualities to bring to leadership in society, but I’m not sure how he has come to the conclusion that women are somehow in charge of everything and that’s why society is going to hell in a handbasket. In the US we have yet to have a female President and we are losing significant reproductive rights by the day. Not the outcomes one would expect in a country dominated by women’s hysteria.
You’re thinking too literally. We don’t need a female president to see that women’s values and naïveté about human nature is driving society into the ground. Rufo supplies plenty of evidence to support this claim. Case in point: it’s “kind” to let men dressed as women into women’s restrooms. Well women generally don’t rape and indulge sexual perversion in public so let them in! But a male dominated mind knows and is prepared for threats! More women defend this INVASION than men because men historically protected women from invasion in a general sense, as they understand that men by nature are invaders!
I watched Rufo's video. It's well-reasoned and I agree 100% with the premise. Seems quite unreasonable however that Rufo attributed the cause only to women, and only to the left. Traits of narcissism, BPD, and antisocial PD are evident in leaders, celebrities and influencers across both the left and the right.
>I can't help but connect the dots from obesity to "a pervasive feeling of discomfort with one's body."
They are very big dots, really. More young people suffer from obesity than ever, more & more every year. Our food culture is badly broken - too many kids now grow up without ever seeing a meal cooked from scratch in their household, and even parents who cook at home find their efforts disregarded in favor of the bright and flashy fast food advertised so colorfully on TV.
Young people suffering obesity have body image issues that no amount of "acceptance" can help. They know they don't look like the people on TV and they know their weight isn't healthy. At very young ages, they start to be ashamed of their bodies & they dress to hide instead of to express themselves. They lose themselves online, where no one can see what they look like. And it goes beyond the strictly physical - the girls have earlier & earlier puberties, before they are psychologically ready to handle going through such changes. The boys have delayed puberties & other endocrine issues, leading to juvenile impotence & erectile dysfunction.
This shame also creates a vicious cycle with obesity - eating in public or with friends makes them acutely uncomfortable with themselves. They seclude themselves and survive on delivery and packaged goods. All these issues are wrapped up together - isolation, internet addiction, sedentary lifestyle, obesity, self-hate, self-destruction - they all compound to worsen each other, and together they render young people perfectly desperate for any solution to the misery in which they find themselves. "Trans" is one such solution, video games are another, opioids are another, suicide is another.
More & more young people take their own lives every year, and it is plain at this point that so-called Psychologists have absolutely no idea how to deal with the problems young people currently face. They tell them they have disorders and that they need medication and that they need to "work on themselves" and all of it is complete horse pucky! They need to be off their smartphones and out in the world, learning that they are a human being and not some kind of synthetic digital creature - and, above all else, they need adults to be off their smartphones along with them. We, the adults, are failing to protect them. We are failing to be there with them in our terrifying time. We have left them to digital parents, who care not for them in the slightest.
This is spot-on, well-put, and must be gotten out there as a cause of this transgender scourge!
This is so heartbreaking. I don’t mean to add to anyone’s burden but this needs to be said. Separation & divorce has a devastating effect on kids, even when the parents think they are behaving honorably. Divorce shatters a child’s world. No amount of civility can erase the confusion & disorientation on a child’s psyche. Married couples having problems in their relationship used to stay together for the sake of the kids. That is a value that needs to be reclaimed. Adults need to get over themselves and commit to their marriages & the well-being of their children as a priority. Those who do often find that their perseverance pays off. Their marriage improves & their children are spared the tragic consequences of questioning their identity & place in the world. Divorce is sometimes necessary & appropriate, but it should be avoided at all costs, for the sake of the kids.
Getting divorced is unfortunate and rarely taken lightly, ESPECIALLY when kids are involved. However staying in a toxic or dysfunctional relationship is not any healthier for children. The caution is to be very careful who you have a child with.
Thank you so much MLT! I do teletherapy but only in the state of Maryland. LCPCs (Licensed Clinical Professional Counselors) have to be licensed in the state where the client is (physically). For example, I could provide teletherapy to a client who lives in Delaware & drives over the state line into Maryland for sessions. Brilliant policy. I so appreciate your acknowledgement & encouragement; G-d bless!
Her mistakes as an adult are her's to own. Your biggest battle will be to stop her from committing to a second permanent action after she realizes her transition helped her not one bit of a buffalo nickel to feel better about herself.
I've witnessed this timeline recur countless times before, and with no need to lay claim to a psychic ability, realize I'll never stop seeing it regularly again over the next 50 years. So one bit of advice from the trenches:
Start looking for a respectable therapist you feel you trust for the aftermarket effects of her journey, and make sure they're experienced in CBT training to actively retrain her mind to handle the lost sense of self she'll be feeling. It's going to take her learning an entirely new set of social dynamics just to navigate the different world she'll need to reintegrate into.
And if you go ballistic with anger once it hits you just how difficult this is going to be, my favorite advice is to track down that boy who scarred her and commit yourself to some reciprocity. I admire parents of real action more than the pacifists.
I hope that you're all able to figure out a way of stopping this "transition".
Another disturbing example of the capture of medical and psychological professionals to be anything but professional -- it is clearly malpractice to harm your daughter as she joins the many others duped by the trans cult. I am sorry for the terrible pain of all this, which I am familiar with, having my young adult son cruelly stolen, too. Thank you for telling your story. I hold onto hope that collective voices of sanity will someday prevail. Though who knows how many of our children will wake up from the spell of self-harm being enabled by our sick culture.
I so desperately want to create and move to a safe country with other sane people.
Haha me too. I read a lot about positivity, strength & resilience, but mostly I just want to run away from everyone, driving me insane!!
I feel like the world is falling apart around us.
That sounds so over the top, but it’s actually true. Saying things like ‘it’s the end of the world’ is kind of true isn’t it? I mean if this takes off, where lies humanity?
I didn't mean Biblical end of the world, just kind of....fall of Rome, fall of the Mongols, fall of the British Empire. Frankly, a new impending Dark Age marked by mutual, all-around willful ignorance and fear of reason. A conscious turning to superstition and ignorance the way I've seen with people who adhere to fundamentalist religions. Like, I can imagine potentially a real breakdown in society in which we'll find out very quickly who the truly marginalized are when Darwin takes over and it's survival of the fittest and strongest. It won't bode well for women and POC...or maybe white people if we're in the minority by then, and the far left wins. But whichever side wins, the good little girls and boys who do and think what they're told will be given status over the rest of us. Just thinking out loud...and very extremely. That it's one way things could do, esp with climate changing throwing us all into upheaval. But Stephen Pinker shows us that we suffer dips in good times for humanity, but that progress *does* move forward - and makes more peoples' lives better. Not everyone benefits but he notes that there were far fewer poor people in the last say 50 years than there were earlier in history. The number of the poor keeps moving downward. We may be in an ugly dip but it may well move back up again. It's ultimately up to all of us. And here's the thing...the far left & right (woke/Trumpies) are actually *in the minority* - if you check out humantribes.us you find that together they comprise about 8% of American political thought - which means the rest of us, however scattered across the spectrum of politics and apathy, don't want either of these mf'ers ruling *anything*!
Why are health care professionals so uncritical and so unable to stand up for what they often know is right or against what is wrong? I guess it's something to do with money. Professional bodies have been captured by evil fools, nobody at any level will oppose their diktat. Something similar is happening regarding climate research. Many people are oblivious. These are truly trying times.
There are many who are quietly resisting. Sometimes it's cowardice; sometimes it's a bid to remain in patients' and their families trust. Pediatricians are generally speaking NOT on board with this nonsense, as they know something about human development and how foolish it is medically to concretize a passing fashion or cosmetic goal, vs. lifelong health and well-being. But still, if you have a sex-dysphoric child, feel out your pediatrician or GP. Some are still referring kids to the so-called "gender clinics," which Dennis Noel Kavanaugh calls the "gender abbatoirs." These are mostly just clueless, but some may be cowards who just don't want the blood on their hands (or in their charts.)
I’m so sorry and I know your pain.
This was so heartbreaking to read. Thank you for sharing.