WOW, another layer. As I read all these essays I find often another brick on the wall that I didn't think of, thanks for sharing! But this open up another window, this man story and your own son took measures just in case "they change their mind". Why a transgender will do that if they are so sure that they are born in the wrong body? Is some sanity left in them? Or it is a game that they play but they don't really believe it deep down? Or in the case of trans women, do they think they have to become mothers in order to be real? So many questions come to my mind of the cause that a transgender will considerer the possibility at all that MAYBE what they "feel" or "believe" is not good at all. There's hope if that is the case, therapists should be able to work from that.
“i was thinking about how my older son told me recently that my now 31-year old trans-woman son is down and out. He is struggling with jobs, money, and housing”
Our sons are similar in terms of age & that mine is not speaking to me either. This is the comment I am waiting to hear too from his brother.
I feel like I live in a different world with all these bizarre things going on. None of us want to be part of it, it’s insane
This is beautiful and devastating. And horrifying and loving.
A child is what has saved my daughter from this cult so I hope this comes true for your son one day.
At the same time, the sperm and eggs banks are part of the problem in our society allowing young people to think they can mess with their bodily clock and biology and evolution and have kids when they are “ready “. No one is ever ready. We have to just jump in.
Wow, that's expensive. I'm sure my son who also transitioned MtF is not paying a storage fee. As I was the one to tell him that estrogen would make him infertile, he did store some sperm. I doubt he has the funds for that.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is one that should not exist but here we are in 2026. I have written quite a bit about how the baby making markets are very much so tied into LGBTQ+ culture. Here is one: https://margox.substack.com/p/adventures-in-baby-making
You are such a good Mom . I can't believe this is a reality at all its all evil and insane . I pray your grandchildren get to say thank you to you someday .
530$ a year to store sperm? That's insane... I wonder how many young people actually have their sperm or egg stored. I can be wrong but I guess that they most often say: "I'll adopt, there are already too many people, I don't need to procreate". When you have "gender dysphoria" the last thing you may want to worry about is your eggs or sperm. After all they refer to the "wrong gender". My daughter didn't preserve her eggs. She'll "adopt" - even though there is an adoption ban in my country and a very long waiting list, but she probably doesn't know that. Why didn't I tell her that? She probably doesn't care and discussing such topics with non-affirming parents is not allowed by her cult (Reddit).
"I am heartbroken and devastated that my son chose to follow trans ideology. I can hardly believe this is my reality. Trans ideology is insanity." My sentiments exactly.
It's bizarre that the statement I'm about to make is considered on par with being a member of the KKK or a Nazi by the woke "be kind" crowd, but here we are.
Why are these gender-confused young people not being advised that there isn't a right way to be a male or a female? They are falling for a laundry list of sex stereotypes. Male isn't machismo, short hair, a love for sports, a passion for fixing cars, or wearing pants. Female isn't domesticity, frilly dresses, long hair, and makeup.
Trans ideology is homophobic and misogynistic. It's amazing that people claiming to "believe in science" have fallen so hard for this religion. It's a social contagion.
"It's amazing that people claiming to "believe in science" have fallen so hard for this religion." Yes. But, it is the official science of one party now, I am afraid to say. And, I do dislike those lawn signs.
I think the adults, pharma, the medical system, insurance, and government policies are to blame. If young people did not have free "transition medicine" paid for by insurance and presented as safe and a human right they would likely just experiment with clothing, etc. for a time.
"Trans/Cis" is what they are taught in school now.
It’s not “acting like your child is actually dead”; it’s losing your child to a malignant and malevolent cult — a cult that encourages the child to disown his/her family members unless those family members also “accept” and “love” every doctrine & dogma of the evil cult.
The assisted reproduction /reproductive endocrinology specialties have some disturbing parallels to the endocrinology that “affirms” and provides toxic, exogenous hormonally-induced aesthetic sex trait modifications.
There is so much hubris in all of it. I have only dealt with the REs and not the transgender end of endocrinology, but all I can say is there is a genuinely callous attitude toward limits. Natural boundaries. Ethical constraints are ignored. There is a god complex going on in a lot of endocrinology.
Banking sperm or eggs is no guarantee of progeny down the road. Assisted reproduction is fraught with pitfalls and loss, and great expense, making the losses even harder to bear.
Fertility is never a guarantee, it is always a gift. Relying on REs after voluntarily destroying one’s own fertility, and expecting miracles that have been predatorily promised (I see REs as profit-and-power-mad predators… they prey on people’s hopes and dreams, they get people hooked into sometimes years of failed attempts at pregnancy and birth, but always promising, stoking the hope of success, it’s so tragic to me…) it’s a racket, like “sex changes” are.
How many young people imagine they are dodging the foreclosure of their fertile future by “banking” gametes before voluntarily destroying their reproductive system in the name of “gender affirmation”? Isn’t it suspect that the same specialty that administers the endocrine destruction also profits from “assisting” reproduction in patients who their specialty destroyed in the first place?
Blithely destroying fertility and pinning hopes on banked gametes ignores the enormous obstacles inherent in assisted reproduction. It is no panacea. I’ve been there.
WOW, another layer. As I read all these essays I find often another brick on the wall that I didn't think of, thanks for sharing! But this open up another window, this man story and your own son took measures just in case "they change their mind". Why a transgender will do that if they are so sure that they are born in the wrong body? Is some sanity left in them? Or it is a game that they play but they don't really believe it deep down? Or in the case of trans women, do they think they have to become mothers in order to be real? So many questions come to my mind of the cause that a transgender will considerer the possibility at all that MAYBE what they "feel" or "believe" is not good at all. There's hope if that is the case, therapists should be able to work from that.
What a good, caring mother you are, in the face of all this insanity, and often the loss of contact with our children.
“i was thinking about how my older son told me recently that my now 31-year old trans-woman son is down and out. He is struggling with jobs, money, and housing”
Our sons are similar in terms of age & that mine is not speaking to me either. This is the comment I am waiting to hear too from his brother.
I feel like I live in a different world with all these bizarre things going on. None of us want to be part of it, it’s insane
This is beautiful and devastating. And horrifying and loving.
A child is what has saved my daughter from this cult so I hope this comes true for your son one day.
At the same time, the sperm and eggs banks are part of the problem in our society allowing young people to think they can mess with their bodily clock and biology and evolution and have kids when they are “ready “. No one is ever ready. We have to just jump in.
❤️ thank you for sharing.
Wow, that's expensive. I'm sure my son who also transitioned MtF is not paying a storage fee. As I was the one to tell him that estrogen would make him infertile, he did store some sperm. I doubt he has the funds for that.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is one that should not exist but here we are in 2026. I have written quite a bit about how the baby making markets are very much so tied into LGBTQ+ culture. Here is one: https://margox.substack.com/p/adventures-in-baby-making
You are such a good Mom . I can't believe this is a reality at all its all evil and insane . I pray your grandchildren get to say thank you to you someday .
Thank you for sharing your story.
530$ a year to store sperm? That's insane... I wonder how many young people actually have their sperm or egg stored. I can be wrong but I guess that they most often say: "I'll adopt, there are already too many people, I don't need to procreate". When you have "gender dysphoria" the last thing you may want to worry about is your eggs or sperm. After all they refer to the "wrong gender". My daughter didn't preserve her eggs. She'll "adopt" - even though there is an adoption ban in my country and a very long waiting list, but she probably doesn't know that. Why didn't I tell her that? She probably doesn't care and discussing such topics with non-affirming parents is not allowed by her cult (Reddit).
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What a loving thing for you to do!! I hope he comes to his senses, detransitions and reconciles with you.
"I am heartbroken and devastated that my son chose to follow trans ideology. I can hardly believe this is my reality. Trans ideology is insanity." My sentiments exactly.
We are all heartbroken and devastated our children have chosen this trans ideology path. My prayers are with all who are suffering.
It's bizarre that the statement I'm about to make is considered on par with being a member of the KKK or a Nazi by the woke "be kind" crowd, but here we are.
Why are these gender-confused young people not being advised that there isn't a right way to be a male or a female? They are falling for a laundry list of sex stereotypes. Male isn't machismo, short hair, a love for sports, a passion for fixing cars, or wearing pants. Female isn't domesticity, frilly dresses, long hair, and makeup.
Trans ideology is homophobic and misogynistic. It's amazing that people claiming to "believe in science" have fallen so hard for this religion. It's a social contagion.
"It's amazing that people claiming to "believe in science" have fallen so hard for this religion." Yes. But, it is the official science of one party now, I am afraid to say. And, I do dislike those lawn signs.
I think the adults, pharma, the medical system, insurance, and government policies are to blame. If young people did not have free "transition medicine" paid for by insurance and presented as safe and a human right they would likely just experiment with clothing, etc. for a time.
"Trans/Cis" is what they are taught in school now.
It’s not “acting like your child is actually dead”; it’s losing your child to a malignant and malevolent cult — a cult that encourages the child to disown his/her family members unless those family members also “accept” and “love” every doctrine & dogma of the evil cult.
The assisted reproduction /reproductive endocrinology specialties have some disturbing parallels to the endocrinology that “affirms” and provides toxic, exogenous hormonally-induced aesthetic sex trait modifications.
There is so much hubris in all of it. I have only dealt with the REs and not the transgender end of endocrinology, but all I can say is there is a genuinely callous attitude toward limits. Natural boundaries. Ethical constraints are ignored. There is a god complex going on in a lot of endocrinology.
Banking sperm or eggs is no guarantee of progeny down the road. Assisted reproduction is fraught with pitfalls and loss, and great expense, making the losses even harder to bear.
Fertility is never a guarantee, it is always a gift. Relying on REs after voluntarily destroying one’s own fertility, and expecting miracles that have been predatorily promised (I see REs as profit-and-power-mad predators… they prey on people’s hopes and dreams, they get people hooked into sometimes years of failed attempts at pregnancy and birth, but always promising, stoking the hope of success, it’s so tragic to me…) it’s a racket, like “sex changes” are.
How many young people imagine they are dodging the foreclosure of their fertile future by “banking” gametes before voluntarily destroying their reproductive system in the name of “gender affirmation”? Isn’t it suspect that the same specialty that administers the endocrine destruction also profits from “assisting” reproduction in patients who their specialty destroyed in the first place?
Blithely destroying fertility and pinning hopes on banked gametes ignores the enormous obstacles inherent in assisted reproduction. It is no panacea. I’ve been there.
Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to you. We are with you.