Notes From the Debris Field It was the summer of 2018 when the transgender hurricane hit our family. At 21, our never gender distressed son made the inexplicable announcement he was transgender. Any attempts at discussion were shut down and within weeks he'd estranged himself from us.
The saddest part about this whole trans-cult is that parents really do lose their children, and their children lose themselves. Grieving for a lost child is very painful as you are stuck in a limbo state that is haunting and cruel. So many calendar dates are painful as the months slowly pass for special holidays, birthdays, Mother's Day, and Father's Day. Not knowing where your child is as he or she have chosen to reject you because the groomers brainwashed them, is unthinkable. I watched my sister grieve for over a year. Everything changes, but the memories and they at times bring comfort but at other times bring sorrow. I am so sad for your pain; you are not alone. We grieve together. We hope together.
After 3 years of her not being allowed to change herself while still doing school (as I prayed the time delay would change her plan), my only baby girl moved out last summer and then she quit talking to me just one day before Thanksgiving 2023, at age 23. So it has only been a little over 3 months. All thru the holidays. But I have this "please take me, God, strike me dead now if it might bring her back out of this, back to reality, and back to my family" thought every single day and night. Her 24th birthday will be April 1. Three days before my own birthday which I ignored every year after her birth so it would not distract from hers. God, help me. Help all of us. Please. I know it is only by Your grace and will that I survive this tearing of my heart into tiny pieces every day. Please work a miracle and wipe this trans cult off the face of the earth and bring our lost babes home. Please. Amen.
Wondering what we may be able to accomplish together. A sizable faction of trans culture is separating & dividing. Kids are told that their parents don’t love them, or even despise them if they do not affirm. The adults preaching this to your children are telling them that they accept, love, affirm, support them unconditionally as their true authentic selves (uhm, I would argue that most of the adult population continues to explore that well into old age). Who are the most vulnerable in our world? Children & teens… most notably those with significant & multiple maladjusted trauma reactions/responses (eating disordered behaviors, depression, dysregulated anxiety to identify a few). So many who share on this platform blow me away with the strength of humanity expressed in your writing. The more ways in which we can gather, communicate, & organize, I believe, we can do something to counteract the purposeful ATTEMPT to destroy the western family structure. Ideas? Thoughts? Suggestions?
That is perhaps one of the hardest things; your child is not dead and yet he's not alive. I have sometimes felt in my most unhappy moments that perhaps it would be better if my son were dead, then I could grieve in peace. I wouldn't have to battle against those who have been captured by the ideology. I feel so guilty saying it. I wonder if these kids who estrange themselves from their parents have any conception of the pain they are inflicting on those who love them most.
I am SO, SO, embarrassed for my medical profession of which I have always been so proud. No more. I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. To have had a male member of the armed forces stand before a room of “compatriots” and lecture them on DEI, tolerance, broadening their minds, especially the ones who are resistant to transgenderism while dressed in a skirted uniform, pearl earrings, and a delicate, effeminate voice, nearly made me vomit. They will never “get it”
September 2021 for us, I still don’t know how I got through that first year. There is no going back though, only forward through the debris. It’s slow and difficult and there have been so many days of just not moving at all.
Another “survivor” having to deal with the grief of losing a loved and cherished child, the cruelty is not lost on me. I’m so sorry for your pain and that of your husband. When and if you can we must all fight this insidious infection that has afflicted our lives and that of the children we brought into this world. I know it’s exhausting I live with my child and I’m still trying to find a way to reach her in her delusion but I refuse to give in l.
And in today's news... Doritos Spain has hired a "non-binary" influencer with a twitter history of posting wishes he could sodomize a 12 year old, and liked staring at an 8 year old with lust.
(other news sources have the story, but only this one has the actual receipts)
2/ I was looking through photos yesterday. So many memories - the silly dress ups she wore, the piano recitals and school sports days, the birthday parties, the holidays with grandma, etc etc. This stupid ideology cannot erase my memories even if it's temporarily erased hers. At least I hope it's temporary. I truly hope that yours is too - hold on to the memories ❤️
I feel like I'm living in a field of debris too, my life has also been destroyed by this horrible ideology.
I don't know why I keep reading these stories ... the words cut deep, they evoke sadness and grief and I always end up crying a paragraph or two into the story. Actually, I do know why I read them ... it's because I can relate to the stories, the pain, and it helps to know that there are other people out there going through the same trauma.
I mean, I wish there weren't so many of you going through this trauma but it helps to know that someone truly understands.
I'm grateful to have a number of close friends who are supportive and understanding ... to a point. But they cannot understand the way these authors can.
My heart truly breaks for you. If only our kids understood how they are attached and intertwined with our hearts. Usually that only happens when they have their own children. An option that is being eliminated.
I get your past relationship hurts too, but the issue with meeting new people is they still ask questions. How many children do you have? Is she in college?… Today I was just telling my aesthetician about how we dealt with her acne problems as a teenager and then she asked me how her skin was now. I was taken off guard by that and didn’t know how to answer so I just poured it out.
And perfect point as to why they estrange from all family. We know the truth, and they know we know the truth.
The sheer malevolence embedded in this ideology is limitless ,so only God knows how this will end. It's like humanity has gone completely insane !! Sending prayers and love to all those affected by this madness 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
My son came over yesterday to my home with his wife. We haven’t seen them since January 27th.
My oldest son, I could tell was having a hard time seeing his brother only 14 months different in age look like 1/2 women 1/2 man.
My 27 year old son had girl t-shirt, bra, and women shorts on. Long hair and a diamond ring on. But man shoes cuz of big feet. He looked unhealthy in my opinion.
He was more quiet but still my son when we did interact.
The only cheerleader in the home was his wife using his woman name and pronouns. None of us spoke those during this time.
We all were on eggshells trying not to mess up. It was sad and awkward for my oldest son and me.
I feel more concerned now how my oldest son is doing. I truly feel like he left with his heart broken because my son was his best friend and now he can’t even look at him. They have nothing in common.
Why did this cult come into our family and break it into pieces. How can we even begin to get help and heal him when his wife totally believes in this cult. I just have to pray her heart wakes up, as she is the key to get this stopped.
Her family has given up on them. I truly have gone numb but do worry for his health but I’m at lost of how to make him see he’s in a cult.
All I can do is pray. It’s in Jesus’ hands to turn this around. My heart aches for all of us in this sick cult we have to endure. Prayers to you all. 🥲
The saddest part about this whole trans-cult is that parents really do lose their children, and their children lose themselves. Grieving for a lost child is very painful as you are stuck in a limbo state that is haunting and cruel. So many calendar dates are painful as the months slowly pass for special holidays, birthdays, Mother's Day, and Father's Day. Not knowing where your child is as he or she have chosen to reject you because the groomers brainwashed them, is unthinkable. I watched my sister grieve for over a year. Everything changes, but the memories and they at times bring comfort but at other times bring sorrow. I am so sad for your pain; you are not alone. We grieve together. We hope together.
sending love. you are not alone. we understand.
My heart aches for everyone captured by this…..this man has some interesting videos…. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UBbeKT6QqUs
After 3 years of her not being allowed to change herself while still doing school (as I prayed the time delay would change her plan), my only baby girl moved out last summer and then she quit talking to me just one day before Thanksgiving 2023, at age 23. So it has only been a little over 3 months. All thru the holidays. But I have this "please take me, God, strike me dead now if it might bring her back out of this, back to reality, and back to my family" thought every single day and night. Her 24th birthday will be April 1. Three days before my own birthday which I ignored every year after her birth so it would not distract from hers. God, help me. Help all of us. Please. I know it is only by Your grace and will that I survive this tearing of my heart into tiny pieces every day. Please work a miracle and wipe this trans cult off the face of the earth and bring our lost babes home. Please. Amen.
Wondering what we may be able to accomplish together. A sizable faction of trans culture is separating & dividing. Kids are told that their parents don’t love them, or even despise them if they do not affirm. The adults preaching this to your children are telling them that they accept, love, affirm, support them unconditionally as their true authentic selves (uhm, I would argue that most of the adult population continues to explore that well into old age). Who are the most vulnerable in our world? Children & teens… most notably those with significant & multiple maladjusted trauma reactions/responses (eating disordered behaviors, depression, dysregulated anxiety to identify a few). So many who share on this platform blow me away with the strength of humanity expressed in your writing. The more ways in which we can gather, communicate, & organize, I believe, we can do something to counteract the purposeful ATTEMPT to destroy the western family structure. Ideas? Thoughts? Suggestions?
That is perhaps one of the hardest things; your child is not dead and yet he's not alive. I have sometimes felt in my most unhappy moments that perhaps it would be better if my son were dead, then I could grieve in peace. I wouldn't have to battle against those who have been captured by the ideology. I feel so guilty saying it. I wonder if these kids who estrange themselves from their parents have any conception of the pain they are inflicting on those who love them most.
I am SO, SO, embarrassed for my medical profession of which I have always been so proud. No more. I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. To have had a male member of the armed forces stand before a room of “compatriots” and lecture them on DEI, tolerance, broadening their minds, especially the ones who are resistant to transgenderism while dressed in a skirted uniform, pearl earrings, and a delicate, effeminate voice, nearly made me vomit. They will never “get it”
September 2021 for us, I still don’t know how I got through that first year. There is no going back though, only forward through the debris. It’s slow and difficult and there have been so many days of just not moving at all.
Another “survivor” having to deal with the grief of losing a loved and cherished child, the cruelty is not lost on me. I’m so sorry for your pain and that of your husband. When and if you can we must all fight this insidious infection that has afflicted our lives and that of the children we brought into this world. I know it’s exhausting I live with my child and I’m still trying to find a way to reach her in her delusion but I refuse to give in l.
And in today's news... Doritos Spain has hired a "non-binary" influencer with a twitter history of posting wishes he could sodomize a 12 year old, and liked staring at an 8 year old with lust.
(other news sources have the story, but only this one has the actual receipts)
https://dailycaller.com/2024/03/04/doritos-terrifying-brand-ambassador-dylan-mulvaney-sydney-sweeney-pepsi/
2/ I was looking through photos yesterday. So many memories - the silly dress ups she wore, the piano recitals and school sports days, the birthday parties, the holidays with grandma, etc etc. This stupid ideology cannot erase my memories even if it's temporarily erased hers. At least I hope it's temporary. I truly hope that yours is too - hold on to the memories ❤️
I feel like I'm living in a field of debris too, my life has also been destroyed by this horrible ideology.
I don't know why I keep reading these stories ... the words cut deep, they evoke sadness and grief and I always end up crying a paragraph or two into the story. Actually, I do know why I read them ... it's because I can relate to the stories, the pain, and it helps to know that there are other people out there going through the same trauma.
I mean, I wish there weren't so many of you going through this trauma but it helps to know that someone truly understands.
I'm grateful to have a number of close friends who are supportive and understanding ... to a point. But they cannot understand the way these authors can.
Your story is mine. I’m so very sorry for your pain!
My heart truly breaks for you. If only our kids understood how they are attached and intertwined with our hearts. Usually that only happens when they have their own children. An option that is being eliminated.
I get your past relationship hurts too, but the issue with meeting new people is they still ask questions. How many children do you have? Is she in college?… Today I was just telling my aesthetician about how we dealt with her acne problems as a teenager and then she asked me how her skin was now. I was taken off guard by that and didn’t know how to answer so I just poured it out.
And perfect point as to why they estrange from all family. We know the truth, and they know we know the truth.
The sheer malevolence embedded in this ideology is limitless ,so only God knows how this will end. It's like humanity has gone completely insane !! Sending prayers and love to all those affected by this madness 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
My son came over yesterday to my home with his wife. We haven’t seen them since January 27th.
My oldest son, I could tell was having a hard time seeing his brother only 14 months different in age look like 1/2 women 1/2 man.
My 27 year old son had girl t-shirt, bra, and women shorts on. Long hair and a diamond ring on. But man shoes cuz of big feet. He looked unhealthy in my opinion.
He was more quiet but still my son when we did interact.
The only cheerleader in the home was his wife using his woman name and pronouns. None of us spoke those during this time.
We all were on eggshells trying not to mess up. It was sad and awkward for my oldest son and me.
I feel more concerned now how my oldest son is doing. I truly feel like he left with his heart broken because my son was his best friend and now he can’t even look at him. They have nothing in common.
Why did this cult come into our family and break it into pieces. How can we even begin to get help and heal him when his wife totally believes in this cult. I just have to pray her heart wakes up, as she is the key to get this stopped.
Her family has given up on them. I truly have gone numb but do worry for his health but I’m at lost of how to make him see he’s in a cult.
All I can do is pray. It’s in Jesus’ hands to turn this around. My heart aches for all of us in this sick cult we have to endure. Prayers to you all. 🥲