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Sly Fawkes's avatar

As a teenager, I started saving money to get enormous, well-nigh cartoonish breast implants when I turned eighteen. I felt self-conscious about my modest endowment because people teased me about it. They bullied me about a lot of other things too. By the time I was eighteen, I no longer wanted oversize breast implants, or any breast implants at all. My B-cup boobs managed to get in the way when I was doing things like swinging a golf club (badly). I also no longer wanted to give gross men who thought all women should look like Penthouse pets what they wanted. I'd decided my small boobs and big butt were, at least to some degree, and anti gross pig barometer. I learned, however, that there are gross pigs who will go ahead and use a woman for sex while making her feel bad about the parts of her body she's insecure about.

I know that getting ridiculously large breast implants is not the same thing as having one's breasts removed altogether or having one's genitalia permanently surgically altered. I could always have had the stupid breast implants removed. However, getting oversize breast implants would not make me become "my true self" as I believed it would when I was a teenager any more than taking cross-sex hormones and having radical surgical procedures will make anyone else into their "true self." Plus, I'd desisted from this idea by the time I was eighteen.

I don't want to downplay the distress anyone feels when we've learned to hate our bodies (and ourselves) because people have belittled and hurt us. I'm almost sixty years old now and I'm still dealing with the repercussions of other people's abuse. I've had minor cosmetic procedures done over the years. I had liposuction to reduce the fatty padding under my chin and veneers put over my four top front teeth. I've never had a rhinoplasty, and I've never had breast implants or liposuction on any other part of my body. Doing these things would not make me become "my true self." The idea that cosmetic procedures will make a person become their true self is a lie fed to us by an industry that profits from people's insecurities.

People who have been severely abused (including bullying) tend not to like themselves. "Gender affirmation" is a way of eradicating the "weird kids" who have been bullied into not liking who they are. This includes kids on the autism spectrum, gay kids, gender-nonconforming kids, and other oddballs like me, who was straight, liked wearing baggy clothes, and didn't like adhering to the misogynistic roles assigned to my sex.

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Brent Bowlby's avatar

It's so hard to live in Minnesota these days. My daughter was transed 4+ years ago in Minnesota. Everyone from CPS, the play therapist, school, my Ex, and others hid this from me while illegally withholding my daughter from me. I share co-legal. Now that it's legal to trans a minor in Minnesota, I really wonder if right minded people are going to put up with this? I haven't and I am in constant lawsuits to fight this evil cult that has taken over almost everything in Minnesota.

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