Oregon's State Assistance Encouraged My Daughter's Absence

“Just be glad she’s still in school” is what the officer who met up with my daughter at her new school tells me. A school district where I hadn’t even registered my daughter. No, I had reported her as missing 73 days previously. “She looks healthy” they added.

The officer referring to my daughter as “she” gives me a little relief from the previous “wokes” I’ve tried to challenge over the last year. Looking back, I can see how the poisoning of her mind took place right in front of my eyes. “The program helped her get a food card” is what I was told. She doesn’t have to tell the officer where she is living. I wasn’t listed as the parent on her new school records. The school and homeless youth program apologize, claiming they didn't know I was her legal guardian.

It was seven weeks ago when the new school’s district secretary signed the transfer request from the previous school where I was listed as her guardian. I had reported my daughter missing 25 days before that transfer request was made.

“We’ll add you to the school documents now and you’ll get calls of her truancy and be able to at least see her classes, grades, and attendance” is what I was told.

“But she doesn’t want to come home, and nobody can make her” is what they say.

“She might stop going to school and run further if you react” they tell me.

“At least you’ll be able to know when she’s attending school now right? Look at that as a win at least” is what is being said.

All this from a school I never registered her to attend. The programs provide supplies, medical care, and food as “rewards” for being estranged from her family at 15 years old. That is what is happening. These programs, her friends, and the schools show her “respect” by using her new name and pronouns. I am supposed to be glad she’s still in school, alive, and no longer missing.

They removed my daughter from the missing persons list but she’s still missing from my home. More salt poured into a traumatized mother’s wounds. State funded kidnapping with funds that they could have used to help with her mental health issues, and to encourage stability, accountability and family relationships. Instead they created a toxic triangulation game of turning a daughter against her mother so they could feel pleased in adding another number to their yearly quota of kids they “helped”.

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