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JRG&SKB's avatar

This is all so heartbreaking and, as grandparents, we are terrified that it now is happening to us. How do we counter what becomes an inexorable path leading that leads children to irreversible harm when schools, clinicians, and child therapists -- therapists! -- are telling their parents that not supporting a supposed "choice" of pronouns will make their children commit suicide? What is happening to a therapy? How can therapists do this? They're terrifying our grandchildren's parents into forcing us, and all of the family, to be complicit in an unproven practice we believe is harmful to our grandchildren. They are tearing families apart. This is not counseling or therapy. It's nothing less than malpractice!

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JRG&SKB's avatar

This Christmas has become the most hellish in memory. It appears pronoun blackmail has become the "gift" that keeps giving before the holiday. Acquiesce to the narrative, abandon personal integrity, and be happy about it or don't see your grandchildren on Christmas.

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Barbara Pecze's avatar

Trans ideology is a pandemic that is very contagious to young people looking for acceptance and love. The acceptance and love are fake because it's a cult and easily bought into no matter what your age. Supposedly smart, intellectual politicians, surgeons, etc. are falling for this experimental ideology and cure-al. There is nothing to cure because puberty is part of the natural growth of the brain and body from childhood to adulthood. It's the emotional/mental issues that need care; taking puberty blockers, wrong-sex hormones and mutilating surgery stop the maturation of both body and brain while failing to remedy issues like depression, autism, abuse, etc. How can so many adults who went through normal puberty allow themselves to be railroaded into accepting so much harm to children? Even baby boomers in my age group are falling for this nonsense! It's time to wake up, listen to de-transitioners and really see the harm being done.

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Gary Mullennix's avatar

“Get trans influencers out of our schools”. There is only one avenue to do so and that is the School Board. Parents have to become advocates for safe schools where education is the central doctrine. It’s biologically impossible to change sex. It’s possible to amend a mind to believe anything. Schools are to educate and not socialize minds into believing they are not who they are.

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Notes from the Under Dog L.'s avatar

Perhaps the most pernicious aspect of this egregious phenomenon is the assumption people jump to when you try to convey that transgenderism is a dangerous social contagion afflicting kids who are not transgender. I was launching into this in a restaurant a couple of weeks ago. A woman at the next table interrupted to present an anecdote on some kids doing "anti gay" things. "Why do they care?" She crowed. "I think Donald Trump unleashed all kinds of evil."

If it were legal to toss this idiot into the Hudson River, I would have. She has absolutely no clue, but will leap at the chance to imply that someone else is a dreaded "bigot."

Last weekend I broached the subject with a group of retired women, one of whom taught junior high. I was saying that the university where I teach imposed gender ideology on our syllabi. "I refuse to speak to students about "gender," I was saying when she interrupted to tell me that "Kids need to discuss this," vis-a-vis her experience with young teenagers.

I said, "They need to discuss whether it's OK to be an effeminate boy or a masculine girl," I said. "The answer is yes, absolutely."

Oh no, according to this woman I am wrong. They need to discuss having been born in the wrong body. I tried to get through the wall of smug moral superiority, but could not, even though of the people there I've led the most Bohemian existence of the group -- obviously. They assumed I was a dreaded "anti-trans" bigot. They HAD NO IDEA THAT THIS IS SOCIAL CONTAGION.

Now I want to know why people do not know this.

I was then told not to share my (terrible) views with their neighbor whose transgender "daughter" died in a car accident. This "daughter" had come out in the 90s. Well, that was before this madness --even so -- this "daughter" had been a straight male so...autogynophelia is my diagnosis. Later, at this friend's house, I avoided the topic. Before we left, she gave me her card, with the title of a memoir she'd written called "Timeless Dance: A Story of Change and Loss."

Her departing line was chilling: "Read my book so you can learn about transgender." This was coasting on a pained, Evangelical grin.

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LovingMother's avatar

I hear you. Is it possible to give her your card with "Trans" by Helen Joyce written on it?

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BGMama's avatar

Not just children are suffering from mass hysteria, whole brainwashed and corrupted medical professionals and educators, schools and universities. No moral, no ethics, just delusional following of gender cult.

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AW's avatar

Got up to give this a standing ovation and “Amen!“.

Will there be any future generations at this rate of infertility from all the medication and surgeries? It’s like voluntary population control. SM outlets show off it’s less expensive to not have kids. Work remote. Go travel the world. Do you want your Starbucks quad shot macchiato or diapers and formula?

It’s the “all about me” & I deserve it” generation that has been touted since the smart phone was invented. Sure there was some SM before cell phones but kids didn’t have instant visual access to the WWW 24/7 like they have in the last 12+ years. Evil predators will find a way to make money and do illicit activities and the web has given them carte blanche to take advantage of our kids. Some narcissistic parents sadly offer up a stamp of affirmation for their own benefit (ex Jazz’s mom). It’s all sick and needs to stop.

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anonmom's avatar

I was a lifelong Democrat. The Dems have completely sold out kids on this issue. I will never vote for a Democrat again.

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Julie's avatar

Me neither.

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Luc's avatar

"There does seem to be a 5-to-10 year regret rate, which is proved by an increasing number of detransitioner lawsuits. "

5 to 10 years hmmm what else happens in 5 to 10 years? Right. Brain maturation!!

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George Q Tyrebyter's avatar

What are the policies of your school? If they support gender woo delusion, run for school board. Radicalize your friends.

Switch to the R Party. The D Party wants to remove the breasts of your daughter, and remove the penis of your son. Change parties.

You cannot be a Dem and stop gender madness.

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Julie's avatar

I agree. The Democratic Party is a lost cause. I think they are going to have to lose so dramatically that they become irrelevant. At that point maybe they can rebuild into something reasonable.

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LovingMother's avatar

I agree - but I find alot of establishment Republicans don't care - like the WSJ, Haley, etc. i do not understand why the entire country is not behind DeSantis. He's been such a leader. And, he was a Jag.

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Polly's avatar

Because there's a lot not to like about him. Just because a politician may be on the right side of the trans issue doesn't mean he's on the right side of everything else.

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Jessica's avatar

I'm a Trump supporter, but I like Desantis too. WHat is he not right about?

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LovingMother's avatar

Hi Polly, I guess I don't really see that. For instance, I think abortion should just be worked out on the state level with each state setting it's own line of how many weeks or months. Then, maybe we can all chill a little about it as I think over some time states would gravitate towards something reasonable instead of the crazed opposite ends that drive news sales/media.

But, even if I didn't think DeSantis was all around excellent (including in getting Americans out of Israel), I am a single issue voter until we defeat Gender Ideology. I don't see any other candidate being effective on that issue. It is the one issue really destroying us all.

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BeadleBlog's avatar

The children are following the adults. The adults have formed a mob of mass hysteria and they are pied piping the children over a cliff.

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AlexEsq's avatar

Regarding the impact of school-based programs that introduce "gender" at very young age and seemingly encourage trans identification: more people should emphasize the MAGICAL thinking that characterizes the child's mind.

This kids actually believe they can change sex. They actually believe "they can be born in the wrong body." Of course these are false. Of course these are statements by adults that children will routinely mis-interpret. We are embodied beings. One body for a life-time. That is how it works. No do overs.

I think that video games, where your character dies & then immediately resurrects and you can choose whatever attributes you want from an extensive menu: I think this kind of gaming encourages kids to believe that they can do this with their own bodies.

Children are magical thinkers. Toying with that by teaching nonsense is abusive.

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

Very well written piece. "... this phenomenon is socially influenced and has become contagious." This is exactly how I feel about this trans-cult. I hate the "coming out" influence that is happening, especially in grade schools. This should not be allowed to happen as these innocent young minds are being confused and tricked into thinking and believing in a lie. The so-called therapy "experts" are not giving good advice at all and are doing as much harm as the surgeons who are removing perfectly healthy body parts! Now teachers have been given a free reign to influence all children, keep secrets from their parents, and promote an impossible fantasy. This is madness. And you are right, common sense has also been ignored which is just shocking. You mention the 5–10-year regret rate - this will be the next sad phase we will all have to deal with, and I hope the lawsuits will come along with it - justice must be served.

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Average Dad's avatar

Obama care opened door for gender reassignment surgery, because insurance companies must cover sex reassignment surgeries but strangely not the reversal of such surgeries. Tea Party fought it tooth and nail with all we had, in the end, the Uni Party destroyed our winning efforts. aka John McCain peace be upon him and Bart Stupak largely the last ardent pro life democrat representative.

https://www.cnbc.com/2018/03/27/work-health-insurance-obamacare-coverage-spur-sex-change-surgery-boom.html

https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/11/nyregion/in-new-york-insurance-must-cover-sex-changes-cuomo-says.html

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33370073/

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Polly's avatar

I've got news for you, sex reassignment surgery has been covered by insurance companies for many years. I used to work for GM in their workers comp office & it was FULLY covered by their insurance going back into the 1970s. More than one man had sex reassignment surgery on GM's dime. I don't know how working on the line caused gender dysphoria but a suppose a good lawyer & psychiatrist team can argue anything. I would wager that sex reassignment surgery was covered by most major insurance companies LONG before Obamacare.

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Average Dad's avatar

Ok well Obamacare forced all insurance companies to cover it. Claiming it discriminatory to not cover it. I think the data shows this is largely true. https://www.thedailybeast.com/obamacare-now-pays-for-gender-reassignment

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Rainy's avatar

Thank you for writing this! It’s like I’m hearing my own story through your words as a parent with my trans-identifying 14 year old daughter. It’s all so scary, she’s been captured by this ideology that does not seem congruent with her at all! Not to mention all her friends at school are “trans”, which should raise everyone’s eyebrows in my opinion. I’ve had to say “no” on three occasions with two doctors who asked us if she wanted testosterone, which scared me very much (because we weren’t even at those doctors offices about anything to do with gender issues). I feel like we parents are human shields trying to protect our venerable kids from medical harm . Meanwhile everyone on my social media is waving trans flags and protesting school curriculum to be “inclusive “; we are fighting to protect our children from all angles! I used to consider myself a “liberal”, and I don’t have anything against trans people. I just know in my heart and gut that this is not right for my daughter, that it was socially influenced, and continues to be held-up by all of the institutions surrounding her, which is why her trans identity has proliferated longer than it should have, or at all, if not for all of these outside & peer influences.

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Tanya Tarvyd's avatar

This is very reminiscent of the opioid epidemic, believing that the health care professionals had your best interests at heart. In this case it could be monetary or ideological. Whatever it is there will be severe consequences in the future and the children will pay along with the families.

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Awoman's avatar

It affects all ages. My son was 30 when he got captured. Same story as all the others. Video games, isolation during the pandemic etc.

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Gretchen's avatar

Mine was 33.

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