Our daughter reached out to us in mid-November 2021, shortly after her 21st birthday. She had not spoken to us since January 2021, and that had been to tell us she never wanted to see or speak to us again. She started coming over for dinner, almost every night. It was not always pleasant. In the second week after contacting us, she called begging to be picked up from the flat where she was living. We picked her up and she did not sleep another night at her flat. The following week we helped her move her belonging out of the flat. Her room was like a tornado had been through it – she was clearly in a very bad place, mentally. We put in a huge day of packing and cleaning and managed to remove all her belongings, including furniture.
Wow, I'm so sorry. It seems like her trans friends keep dragging her back in. 😒 She also seems to have made a big step in telling you that she doesn't like what the testosterone has done though. Thoughts are with you 🙏🏻
Praying for your family. Your love for your daughter is so bright. She is blessed to have you, and someday she will see that. We are with you, in understanding, in prayer, and in love and support.
I am so sorry this is happening to your family. She clearly wants to make a shift, but is too depressed perhaps to manage. It seemed like getting out of your regular environment with her may have created a bit of a shift. I wonder if you can go somewhere together where there are no cell phones or internet for a period of time, as a means of reconnecting and gaining trust back in the relationship. She obviously knows you love her and feels safe coming home. And clearly the people she has been with are emotionally manipulative. Stay strong, Mama.
Small mercy's that she is home. Keep giving her the love and strength you are giving her when you respond each time to her pleas. I send you all my love and strength too, its so damn difficult to get through to them 😔 admitting the testosterone was a mistake was a massive step. 💜
It sounds like your daughter has a serious psychological disorder that left her vulnerable to the influence of the trans cult, which has made her condition worse. The fact that she keeps returning to you seems to be a sign that she knows she's too unstable to function on her own and that she feels safer with you than with the thugs masquerading as her friends. It does sound like she needs inpatient psychiatric care at the moment. I hope you'll be able to get her admitted and that she can receive the care she needs, focused on her underlying mental health issues rather than the toxic smoke screen of gender. Wishing the best of everything to you and your family.
Gut wrenching. You are her anchor — a near-impossible role, but your daughter’s only hope. It’s criminal that your family should be in this horrific situation. Where are the adoring trans fans now? Where are the YouTube influencers and the TikTok trutrans darlings? Isn’t that what life as a trans person is — happily passing and posing?
This is the future we see for our own kids. The reason we fight so hard. Assuming she was ever under the care of a prescribing clinician, please let them know how their handiwork turned out.
My heart goes out to you. Our daughter is also captured, living with a trans person Ind has underlying mental health issues that have not been addressed due to her being sucked into the cult. We are managing to maintain contact but only just and we cannot discuss it with her ever. I dread what the future holds, as I think will you. We have to hang on in there somehow and stay strong. Your daughter's behaviour shows that she knows that you are there for her, no matter what, and that is something to hold onto. I sincerely believe they are not doing it on purpose to hurt us and that we have to blame the cult, not the victim.
I'm so sorry for what you, your daughter and your entire family are going through. I'm glad that she does call you when she needs help, and finally opened up a bit to you. Those are both positive signs. Keep going; it seems like there is a chance she will open up more and more over time. Wishing you all the best in finding a hospital. For now, though, it is good that she is home and safe with you, even though I'm sure it is beyond stressful. Keep up the good work, but do remember to look after yourself, as well. Sending love and friendship.
Your story is heart breaking but full of resolve. I pray as she matures she will become more comfortable in her own body. One day she will look around and hopefully see everyone’s body is different. First things first, work on the physical health and the mental will follow. I send a big virtual hug to you and your husband and her siblings.
This is so, so heartbreaking. I read these narratives every day, which are so sad, but I also see the strength of the love parents have for their children. It seems like every once in a while, these kids can surface from the pain and disorientation and reach out to their families. And their parents are always there, keeping the light on.
We are all united in our pain, and can bear witness for each other and offer love and sympathy from afar.
Have you considered that you should stop taking her to the hospital?
Please be patient with her, it sounds like her anxiety has eaten her alive. She isn't refusing to interact, she literally can't.
Her body is in fight/flight/freeze constantly. It's not her fault. She needs help getting out of this pit and that's what therapists specialize in.
I'm so sorry.
Wow, I'm so sorry. It seems like her trans friends keep dragging her back in. 😒 She also seems to have made a big step in telling you that she doesn't like what the testosterone has done though. Thoughts are with you 🙏🏻
Praying for your family. Your love for your daughter is so bright. She is blessed to have you, and someday she will see that. We are with you, in understanding, in prayer, and in love and support.
I am so sorry. I am tempted to say move house, but I know things are never that simple. Hugs x
I am so sorry this is happening to your family. She clearly wants to make a shift, but is too depressed perhaps to manage. It seemed like getting out of your regular environment with her may have created a bit of a shift. I wonder if you can go somewhere together where there are no cell phones or internet for a period of time, as a means of reconnecting and gaining trust back in the relationship. She obviously knows you love her and feels safe coming home. And clearly the people she has been with are emotionally manipulative. Stay strong, Mama.
That attachment piece is so important. I wish there was a therapeutic place for moms and daughters, that of course is not affirming.
Small mercy's that she is home. Keep giving her the love and strength you are giving her when you respond each time to her pleas. I send you all my love and strength too, its so damn difficult to get through to them 😔 admitting the testosterone was a mistake was a massive step. 💜
It sounds like your daughter has a serious psychological disorder that left her vulnerable to the influence of the trans cult, which has made her condition worse. The fact that she keeps returning to you seems to be a sign that she knows she's too unstable to function on her own and that she feels safer with you than with the thugs masquerading as her friends. It does sound like she needs inpatient psychiatric care at the moment. I hope you'll be able to get her admitted and that she can receive the care she needs, focused on her underlying mental health issues rather than the toxic smoke screen of gender. Wishing the best of everything to you and your family.
Gut wrenching. You are her anchor — a near-impossible role, but your daughter’s only hope. It’s criminal that your family should be in this horrific situation. Where are the adoring trans fans now? Where are the YouTube influencers and the TikTok trutrans darlings? Isn’t that what life as a trans person is — happily passing and posing?
This is the future we see for our own kids. The reason we fight so hard. Assuming she was ever under the care of a prescribing clinician, please let them know how their handiwork turned out.
My heart goes out to you. Our daughter is also captured, living with a trans person Ind has underlying mental health issues that have not been addressed due to her being sucked into the cult. We are managing to maintain contact but only just and we cannot discuss it with her ever. I dread what the future holds, as I think will you. We have to hang on in there somehow and stay strong. Your daughter's behaviour shows that she knows that you are there for her, no matter what, and that is something to hold onto. I sincerely believe they are not doing it on purpose to hurt us and that we have to blame the cult, not the victim.
I'm so sorry for what you, your daughter and your entire family are going through. I'm glad that she does call you when she needs help, and finally opened up a bit to you. Those are both positive signs. Keep going; it seems like there is a chance she will open up more and more over time. Wishing you all the best in finding a hospital. For now, though, it is good that she is home and safe with you, even though I'm sure it is beyond stressful. Keep up the good work, but do remember to look after yourself, as well. Sending love and friendship.
Your story is heart breaking but full of resolve. I pray as she matures she will become more comfortable in her own body. One day she will look around and hopefully see everyone’s body is different. First things first, work on the physical health and the mental will follow. I send a big virtual hug to you and your husband and her siblings.
This is so, so heartbreaking. I read these narratives every day, which are so sad, but I also see the strength of the love parents have for their children. It seems like every once in a while, these kids can surface from the pain and disorientation and reach out to their families. And their parents are always there, keeping the light on.
We are all united in our pain, and can bear witness for each other and offer love and sympathy from afar.
I'm so sorry for you, your daughter and your family. X
I’m so sorry. Are you getting any help? It may be good to talk to a professional