Remorse.... yes, I can understand that. Remorse for missing the signals that something was amiss. Remorse for not voicing one's concerns when everything came to light. Remorse for not adequately supporting the family undergoing this trauma and one's powerlessness in the face of so much opposition. There are so many moments which one can regret not acting or acting inappropriately while this mania manifests.
Remorse is something which is felt by decent, honest and caring people. It is not generally experienced by activists or people with a personal agenda. The people encouraging the young & impressionable to believe that they are Trans, that they need to be affirmed and that any opposition is hateful will never experience remorse. They will justify their actions in many ways. They were being helpful. They were serving as a guiding light. The young person was liberated from the chains imposed upon him? her by bigoted, selfish parents.
Remorse shall only come to them when the pendulum has swung and retribution is at hand. Remorse, not for their wrongdoing, but for themselves and their careers.
Much as I do acknowledge the horror you have experienced & the feelings of deep pain and so on, I don't think 'remorse' should be your burden. Unless you "played along" or affirmed your nephews transition then you should not wear any guilt or shame. The trans cult is insidious & it has the power of creating fear in those that are caught up in it's clutches!!
The parents fear losing their child if they don't affirm, health professionals fear being ridiculed &/or losing their jobs & the rest just are just plain scared & ignorant.
Regret for what happened to your nephew is natural but the remorse should be cast upon those that did serious wrong & harm by him if they ever face up to it!! Bless you & bless all the families caught up in this nightmare...
Remorse? Why, do you think that you could have done anything about it and you didn't? You are hurt, we all are. All here in this platform are hurt. This is the club of the broken parent's hearts. It is what it is, we only can move forward and fight against this so it doesn't happen again, the future demands us to do it for the ones that still are there exposed to the malice of lies.
I am thankful for your "letter", your frustration is palpable but truthful, authentic and human!
Turn your remorse to action. Organize and kick any school board member who supports trans ideology out. Move up to city council members, mayor, state reps and federal congressional members. Get mad and do something.
We are on the brink of a technocratic state who with their fancy tools (AI, data...) dictate the truth or rather the scientism to be mandated. The populace now pays the corporate stakeholders with their own children. Recognizing it is key, speaking out however possible, and refusing to lie and comply with their agenda will help.
You're a wonderful aunt to care so much, and to be willing to question rather than cheerfully affirm, like so many family members end up doing. Praying for your nephew and for all of our kids to wake up from this nightmare.
Thank you for sharing. This caught so many of us by surprise. And yet so many are still buying into the lies. Our eyes have been opened and praying that theirs will be too.
I pray that you will receive peace in your heart one day. I pray that you will still have a relationship with him and be able to help him heal from any hurts or angers that impacted that. I often pray that my step daughters relationships with the trans community will become hostile and broken. So that she will return to us.
I can't believe what has happened to our 'profession'! What about us being scientist-practitioners? Thank you for taking a stance, even at great cost to yourself. I wrote this article, about what I call Fake News Gender Dysphoria (FNGD).
Not discounting the grief you are feeling, but when I think of 'remorse,' I think of regret. As a matter of fact, I think regret and remorse are synonyms. Regret/remorse for things I failed to do or things I did. Do you feel as though there was something you could have done to prevent all this?
As grandparents, our hearts are so torn around our child’s acquiescence to the demands made by her daughter to be a boy. Truly, we do not know who all the people are that coerced the child to proceed down this trail. We are grieving.
I hope I have captured the incalculable evil of gender ideology and the terrible damage it has done to families. And as a mother too I wanted to bring this issue to light. But I have been reported to my professional body for posting 'harmful tweets' and it looks like I may be struck off and lose my practising license . But I don't care. It is my obligation as a clinical psychologist to speak out, and I will continue to do so. .
There is a clinical psychologist in Lincoln Maine, the name of Gordon Street. He’s all in on this gender nonsense. How do I combat this? I’ve reported him? My district recently rehired an autogynephile as a soccer coach who had documented misconduct as a male nurse. Sexually explicit material at work. I do not even understand what planet I’m living on.
I quit a job over having to help market / communicate the trans garbage to students/parents at a school board ... I am glad that there are people who will stick with their values more than a paycheque.
I too am a clinical psychologist. I haven't yet been reported, but have been fired immediately every time I told a client that I think GAC is unethical, or that I don't believe men are women. None of these people was "trans." I expect that someone will report me sooner or later. I am of retirement age, but not yet ready to stop working. If I am forced, I hope that I will be able to use the situation to get attention to our side of the argument against GAC.
Have you considered suing? I think that lawsuits and their threat are the only measures that will really bring down the proponents and organizations behind this.
The consumers who stop using my services have the legal right to do so for any reason, so unless they report me I accept whatever decision they make. I actually would prefer that they choose to leave my practice.
The insurance companies that were harassing me have stopped contacting me since Trump was elected and started attacking the DEI game. I don't yet have a basis for proving that I have been discriminated against with regard to reimbursements. One has to have information about what other contracted professionals have been paid who have given those companies the information they demanded, and who qualify as people of color, "trans," etc. If I do find out that what I suspect is accurate, I will pursue legal action.
Thank you! We are not at all past the "trans" horror here in Oregon. True Believing Democrats and socialists are completely in control of the state, and the gender racket is generating vast sums of money for some of the hospitals here.
Thank you for sharing this perspective. The tragedy really does ripples out from the victim, to the parents; to the aunts, uncles, cousins; to the friends; to the neighbors; and broader community.
I’ve had to take ownership of a few things during this journey. One is my own plummet into ideology, starting as a teenager. With the help of MTV and after-hours PBS, I formed the belief, as one commenter stated above, that sex was really no big deal. And I hung onto this belief, blowing through a couple of marriages and eventually stabilizing somewhat and raising children.
We often counsel one another with “don’t be so hard on yourself,” and “their transition isn’t about you,” and so forth.
Well at the time my daughter started to struggle, I had fully jumped on several liberal bandwagons. I was taking my children to Planned Parenthood rallies and other protests, I was a big-time liberal keyboard warrior on Facebook. I even affirmed her for the first few weeks (we are 5 years in) even saying we’d keep it from her stepfather—the only dad she’s ever known due to my poor choices. God, I made a mess.
I’ve changed significantly since then, but that radical change must look like insanity to my daughter. Mom used to be cool, now she’s crazy.
So, yes, my daughter was aided and abetted by the Internet, therapists and schools, friends and their parents.
But who exposed her to all that? Who bought her a cell phone and computer? Who sent her to public school? Who put down those crazy Conservatives? Who exposed her to literature and other family structures? Who gave her a very loosely defined, feel-good, anything-goes definition of “spirituality?” Who modeled toxic femininity and not accepting and loving her own body? Who failed to arm her against the idea that propaganda is very real and that to society, she is nothing more than an experiment, cannon fodder, really. Who failed to protect her against the groomers?
Me. I did all of the above. Because it was easier to let a computer and a school system raise my child.
It’s not like I didn’t have choices. There is so much I could have done differently.
And who is continuing to be a less than imitation-worthy example by getting lost in her little phone crying to her little PITT friends while her other children need her…me.
God help us.
That’s not to put any of you down. We’re all hurting, including the trolls who come in here to defend this crap. But shit, it’s a new day. What am I going to do TODAY. How will I protect children TODAY. Something tells me it’s not by crying into a Substack.
PS, you are my hero of the day. Thank you for sharing your process of coming into the light of truth that it does matter who we sleep with and what we believe. It took me a while to figure that out, too. My little family suffered some for it, but probably not as much as they might have. (Thank God for His grace). Anyway, I wholeheartedly commend you for your next steps, because I know you’re going to do just what is needed for your children and family. Your “crying with the PITT crew” is much appreciated! May God continue to be with you and bless you.
I'm glad you've begun the u-turn. We all can say we didn't do everything we should by our kids ... we all can say we failed in some way. Don't think you own the gold medal for that. People are allowed to grow and change - we should grow and change. We should never be the person we were at 18, 25, 35 ... You are allowed to do that. Your daughter is allowed to do that. Show her the best way possible - DO IT YOURSELF. Be the walking model she needs to see ... thanks for sharing.
Thank you. This comment really speaks to me and I see myself in much of it. Taking responsibility is very important. I think we actually MUST be hard on ourselves. Not in terms of blame or self-hate of course, but in terms of responsibility and making changes to ourselves first.
Remorse.... yes, I can understand that. Remorse for missing the signals that something was amiss. Remorse for not voicing one's concerns when everything came to light. Remorse for not adequately supporting the family undergoing this trauma and one's powerlessness in the face of so much opposition. There are so many moments which one can regret not acting or acting inappropriately while this mania manifests.
Remorse is something which is felt by decent, honest and caring people. It is not generally experienced by activists or people with a personal agenda. The people encouraging the young & impressionable to believe that they are Trans, that they need to be affirmed and that any opposition is hateful will never experience remorse. They will justify their actions in many ways. They were being helpful. They were serving as a guiding light. The young person was liberated from the chains imposed upon him? her by bigoted, selfish parents.
Remorse shall only come to them when the pendulum has swung and retribution is at hand. Remorse, not for their wrongdoing, but for themselves and their careers.
Much as I do acknowledge the horror you have experienced & the feelings of deep pain and so on, I don't think 'remorse' should be your burden. Unless you "played along" or affirmed your nephews transition then you should not wear any guilt or shame. The trans cult is insidious & it has the power of creating fear in those that are caught up in it's clutches!!
The parents fear losing their child if they don't affirm, health professionals fear being ridiculed &/or losing their jobs & the rest just are just plain scared & ignorant.
Regret for what happened to your nephew is natural but the remorse should be cast upon those that did serious wrong & harm by him if they ever face up to it!! Bless you & bless all the families caught up in this nightmare...
remorse...I feel more: anger, sadness, revulsion, disgust
Remorse? Why, do you think that you could have done anything about it and you didn't? You are hurt, we all are. All here in this platform are hurt. This is the club of the broken parent's hearts. It is what it is, we only can move forward and fight against this so it doesn't happen again, the future demands us to do it for the ones that still are there exposed to the malice of lies.
I am thankful for your "letter", your frustration is palpable but truthful, authentic and human!
Turn your remorse to action. Organize and kick any school board member who supports trans ideology out. Move up to city council members, mayor, state reps and federal congressional members. Get mad and do something.
We are on the brink of a technocratic state who with their fancy tools (AI, data...) dictate the truth or rather the scientism to be mandated. The populace now pays the corporate stakeholders with their own children. Recognizing it is key, speaking out however possible, and refusing to lie and comply with their agenda will help.
I pray your nephew wakes from his trance.
You're a wonderful aunt to care so much, and to be willing to question rather than cheerfully affirm, like so many family members end up doing. Praying for your nephew and for all of our kids to wake up from this nightmare.
Thank you for speaking the words I want to say and yet can’t find. Thank you for sharing your story so we know we are all not alone.
Thank you for sharing. This caught so many of us by surprise. And yet so many are still buying into the lies. Our eyes have been opened and praying that theirs will be too.
I pray that you will receive peace in your heart one day. I pray that you will still have a relationship with him and be able to help him heal from any hurts or angers that impacted that. I often pray that my step daughters relationships with the trans community will become hostile and broken. So that she will return to us.
Hi Sandra
I can't believe what has happened to our 'profession'! What about us being scientist-practitioners? Thank you for taking a stance, even at great cost to yourself. I wrote this article, about what I call Fake News Gender Dysphoria (FNGD).
https://x.com/Psychgirl211/status/1808825717204922755
Not discounting the grief you are feeling, but when I think of 'remorse,' I think of regret. As a matter of fact, I think regret and remorse are synonyms. Regret/remorse for things I failed to do or things I did. Do you feel as though there was something you could have done to prevent all this?
No, there was nothing I could have done. Blindsided.
As grandparents, our hearts are so torn around our child’s acquiescence to the demands made by her daughter to be a boy. Truly, we do not know who all the people are that coerced the child to proceed down this trail. We are grieving.
I also wrote an article about the horrors faced by Transwidows and the Transfatherless:
https://x.com/Psychgirl211/status/1892144048871227734
I hope I have captured the incalculable evil of gender ideology and the terrible damage it has done to families. And as a mother too I wanted to bring this issue to light. But I have been reported to my professional body for posting 'harmful tweets' and it looks like I may be struck off and lose my practising license . But I don't care. It is my obligation as a clinical psychologist to speak out, and I will continue to do so. .
There is a clinical psychologist in Lincoln Maine, the name of Gordon Street. He’s all in on this gender nonsense. How do I combat this? I’ve reported him? My district recently rehired an autogynephile as a soccer coach who had documented misconduct as a male nurse. Sexually explicit material at work. I do not even understand what planet I’m living on.
I quit a job over having to help market / communicate the trans garbage to students/parents at a school board ... I am glad that there are people who will stick with their values more than a paycheque.
This saddens me to hear this!! Praying that all of the good you are doing will shine further than you will ever know!!! 🙏🏻♥️
I too am a clinical psychologist. I haven't yet been reported, but have been fired immediately every time I told a client that I think GAC is unethical, or that I don't believe men are women. None of these people was "trans." I expect that someone will report me sooner or later. I am of retirement age, but not yet ready to stop working. If I am forced, I hope that I will be able to use the situation to get attention to our side of the argument against GAC.
I’m sure you know that if it comes to that
There are organisations who will help,
In Uk we have Sex Matters, Lumos (JKR)…. Free Speech Union now
That we no longer have free speech in the UK 🇬🇧 not even if this our flag here anymore.
Yes, I will contact Do No Harm and try to hire a lawyer who already wants to take on the battle.
Have you considered suing? I think that lawsuits and their threat are the only measures that will really bring down the proponents and organizations behind this.
The consumers who stop using my services have the legal right to do so for any reason, so unless they report me I accept whatever decision they make. I actually would prefer that they choose to leave my practice.
The insurance companies that were harassing me have stopped contacting me since Trump was elected and started attacking the DEI game. I don't yet have a basis for proving that I have been discriminated against with regard to reimbursements. One has to have information about what other contracted professionals have been paid who have given those companies the information they demanded, and who qualify as people of color, "trans," etc. If I do find out that what I suspect is accurate, I will pursue legal action.
I pray we are enough past "TRANS" mania that your job is safe!
Thank you! We are not at all past the "trans" horror here in Oregon. True Believing Democrats and socialists are completely in control of the state, and the gender racket is generating vast sums of money for some of the hospitals here.
Thank you for sharing this perspective. The tragedy really does ripples out from the victim, to the parents; to the aunts, uncles, cousins; to the friends; to the neighbors; and broader community.
”Deep regret or guilt for a wrong committed.”
I’ve had to take ownership of a few things during this journey. One is my own plummet into ideology, starting as a teenager. With the help of MTV and after-hours PBS, I formed the belief, as one commenter stated above, that sex was really no big deal. And I hung onto this belief, blowing through a couple of marriages and eventually stabilizing somewhat and raising children.
We often counsel one another with “don’t be so hard on yourself,” and “their transition isn’t about you,” and so forth.
Well at the time my daughter started to struggle, I had fully jumped on several liberal bandwagons. I was taking my children to Planned Parenthood rallies and other protests, I was a big-time liberal keyboard warrior on Facebook. I even affirmed her for the first few weeks (we are 5 years in) even saying we’d keep it from her stepfather—the only dad she’s ever known due to my poor choices. God, I made a mess.
I’ve changed significantly since then, but that radical change must look like insanity to my daughter. Mom used to be cool, now she’s crazy.
So, yes, my daughter was aided and abetted by the Internet, therapists and schools, friends and their parents.
But who exposed her to all that? Who bought her a cell phone and computer? Who sent her to public school? Who put down those crazy Conservatives? Who exposed her to literature and other family structures? Who gave her a very loosely defined, feel-good, anything-goes definition of “spirituality?” Who modeled toxic femininity and not accepting and loving her own body? Who failed to arm her against the idea that propaganda is very real and that to society, she is nothing more than an experiment, cannon fodder, really. Who failed to protect her against the groomers?
Me. I did all of the above. Because it was easier to let a computer and a school system raise my child.
It’s not like I didn’t have choices. There is so much I could have done differently.
And who is continuing to be a less than imitation-worthy example by getting lost in her little phone crying to her little PITT friends while her other children need her…me.
God help us.
That’s not to put any of you down. We’re all hurting, including the trolls who come in here to defend this crap. But shit, it’s a new day. What am I going to do TODAY. How will I protect children TODAY. Something tells me it’s not by crying into a Substack.
PS, you are my hero of the day. Thank you for sharing your process of coming into the light of truth that it does matter who we sleep with and what we believe. It took me a while to figure that out, too. My little family suffered some for it, but probably not as much as they might have. (Thank God for His grace). Anyway, I wholeheartedly commend you for your next steps, because I know you’re going to do just what is needed for your children and family. Your “crying with the PITT crew” is much appreciated! May God continue to be with you and bless you.
I'm glad you've begun the u-turn. We all can say we didn't do everything we should by our kids ... we all can say we failed in some way. Don't think you own the gold medal for that. People are allowed to grow and change - we should grow and change. We should never be the person we were at 18, 25, 35 ... You are allowed to do that. Your daughter is allowed to do that. Show her the best way possible - DO IT YOURSELF. Be the walking model she needs to see ... thanks for sharing.
Thank you. This comment really speaks to me and I see myself in much of it. Taking responsibility is very important. I think we actually MUST be hard on ourselves. Not in terms of blame or self-hate of course, but in terms of responsibility and making changes to ourselves first.