Return of the Tiger Moms (and Dads)

Whoever said “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” has not yet met a mother whose child has been captured by the trans-insanity and medical malpractice of this generation.

Anger doesn’t begin to tell the story of how we moms feel. Not to mention the dads who have been blamed, alongside moms, for being ‘alpha male’ or for not being strong enough, for being too religious or not religious enough, for giving too much parental advice for not giving enough parental advice, for taking away the internet and for not taking away the internet, for putting food on the table and raising a family at the same time fighting off schools, online groups, medical professionals, and a so called ‘progressive’ society slathering to take our child.

We. Are. Done.

They have taken from us our very hearts, our minds are gone with stress, our emotions wrought with worry, our bodies exhausted from never ending battles. But we have to take heart. We’ve been locked in a paper cage for long enough. It is time for us tiger parents to come forth from our separate caves of pain, band together, and take back our sons - no matter the cost to us. There is strength in our numbers and now that we are connected, we can wrest back the future for all of our sons. Whatever their age and wherever they live and whoever they think they are: they will always be our precious sons.

As parents, we know these sons are not just your ‘regular’ sort of kids. Boys and young men who believe they can change their sex are typically, strikingly, extraordinary. Many are highly intelligent, sensitive, kind, empathetic, open to new ideas, creative, talented, passionate, brilliant at a level you’ve never seen before. Yet these gifts come with a darker side as these sons also tend to see things in black and white, are socially awkward, self-despising, lacking in confidence, argumentative, angry, and, like every young person on the planet, feel like they don’t fit in.

They really are special and this is what makes them so susceptible to trans ideology. Their self judgement is so harsh, that they believe something is always ‘wrong’ with them and that they just need to ‘fix’ it so they can ‘fit in.’ But it’s actually the exact opposite: there really is something ‘right’ about them that we as parents and surrounding community need to preserve and protect. Their difference is what we should cherish, not destroy.

Our son’s experience is echoed in the many stories I have read about children and young adults caught in the trans-cult web. Our son inherited his genius - and social awkwardness - from grandfathers on both sides. He also inherited a distaste for violence of any sort from his Auntie and Uncle who met at Woodstock. He tended toward individual sports (sailing, hiking, swimming) rather than the team ‘bro’ league. He was an outlier - talented in everything from science to music; from running to writing. He could talk to anyone and knew something about everything. Everyone brightened up a little when he walked into the room.

Then…when COVID hit, he turned to online ‘friends’ and groups. He became depressed because of the loss of his friend group that seemed to dissolve as the year progressed. This, sadly, drew him toward a friendship with a predator who sexually assaulted him at 14. This trauma spun our son into complete darkness. His world collapsed, as did ours.

His giant brain, in trying to ‘solve’ the problem of the trauma created a convoluted thought pattern that went like this: “Who is physically opposite of a person who would attract a homosexual predator?” …..a woman. This argument, by the way, is known as the fallacy of ‘transposition’ where A=B so B=C. I can’t think of a better description of the entire trans movement.

At his point our son started to think he’d rather be a woman as women’s bodies typically don’t attract male homosexual predators. We tried to talk to him, but this is when he was so closed it was impossible to get through. He had vanished literally overnight.

Taking this trauma response to his affirming therapist, he was told that the root of his depression, loneliness, and unresolved anger toward men is because he actually is a woman. My son’s therapist who is supposedly trained in the field of psychiatry not only supported my son’s fallacy of transposition but added her own layer of illogical deduction, making him more mentally unstable.

So, he decided this must be true.

Taking the affirming therapist’s advice, he asked his ‘friends’ online who said he looked like a woman when he dressed a certain way. Sadly, our son felt so unconfident in his own skin, he believed it all, listening to people online vs. his family and friends at home.

So, he decided this was the truth.

Planned Parenthood prescribed him female hormones at his request. Just like that. In the first appointment and without even seeing a doctor. At ‘best’ these incorrect hormones rearrange his body so he looks like a person who is neither male nor female, having aspects of both. At worst, these drugs taken over a period of time can cause irreversible damage including infertility, sexual dysfunction, psychosis, chronic pain, liver and kidney disease, early dementia, heart complications, and early death. But Planned Parenthood thought this was a good idea.

So, he reasoned, it must be safe to take these drugs,

His progressive boss and teachers called him feminine pronouns. People in authoritative roles may think they are being ‘kind’ but they are in actuality colluding with a mentally ill person: To me, it is cruel to perpetuate a fantasy. If a student came saying he could fly - would you encourage him to jump off the building? In essence, they repeated back to our son the insane script he had written in his head.

So, he decided, it must be true.

‘Doctors’ in white coats said in a very official way that he could change his gender. In my eyes this is criminal behavior that will go down in history as an even worse medical atrocity than doctors performing lobotomies in the early 1900s. Surgically deforming a healthy person’s body to match their mentally ill mind is the highest form of medical malpractice I can imagine, creating forever patients with long term, irreversible, and tragic physical and mental consequences.

So, he thought, of course this must be true.

As a loving parent, I can see how our son started down this path. Life is complicated and confusing. It is frustrating and violent. It makes even those of us with solid mental states want to retreat into a fantasy world that is softer, gentler, and kinder. Like Peter Pan, we want to live in a world that we create and stay young forever with no responsibilities, no obligation in this rough world. It is patently obvious how he sought out ‘professional’ advice and was supported each step of the way further into the devolution of his mental illness. Each step he felt shored up to go the next step, and the next. It is the same story you have all shared about your own precious sons.

It literally breaks my heart to see that what our son is chasing - what all these lost boys and young men are seeking - is love, acceptance, inclusion, and understanding. What horrifies me to no end is the people around him - knowingly or not - who are pushing him further into delusion and ultimately much further away from what he is seeking. In doing so, they are destroying every fiber of his being; the very fabric that is our son. As he unravels, so do we.

But this is not the end of my son’s story. Nor is it the end of story for your son or for any young person caught in the trans-cult.

This is a plea to those connected in any way to our ‘extra-ordinary’ sons to stop. Stop and think about what you are doing and saying. Stop and think of how you might be spinning someone further into a mental health decline and lifelong physical pain when you can and should gently guide them away from the ledge. Stop and think if you want this to be your legacy or if you want to be the person who stands up, shakes off former errors, and course corrects so you can be on the right side of history. It is imperative for everyone, from aunties and cousins to doctors and therapists to researchers and scientists to teachers and mentors - we must all stop the insanity of this trans movement that is destroying our very best of the next generation.

Now is the time to make the world a saner place so our sons have the opportunity to grow into the men they were born to be. It is our duty as parents to forge ahead, going directly against the doctors, Planned Parenthood, therapists, teachers, disillusioned friends, online groups, community leaders, ‘progressives’ who think they are being ‘kind’ and anyone who is pushing the trans agenda in any way. This sick illusion needs to stop. Lawsuits, medical license revoking, reporting of those who perpetuate harmful lies, speaking truth in this vortex - we parents need to support it all and support each other. It needs to happen now.

We tiger parents must come out of our paper cages. Together, safety in the number of our little tribe, we will no longer let fear, intimidation, and bullying push us away or shut us down. We must respond as the tiger moms and dads do: Protecting our young at whatever the personal cost.

Our extra-ordinary sons are worth it. Our families are worth it. Our future is worth it.