Whoever said “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” has not yet met a mother whose son has been captured by the trans-insanity and medical malpractice of this generation.
I envy those families where both Mom and Dad are on Team Sanity, working together to try to save their kid(s) from themselves. Regrettably, my otherwise rational wife has bought this hucksterism and medical malpractice completely and literally refuses to engage with me on the subject. Add in the influence of friends (online and otherwise), therapists, medical professionals, and the general zeitgest (my son now lives in a very blue city in a very blue state), I am utterly alone. To add insult to injury, I am perceived as the crazy one. The good news is that I still have a decent relationship with my son. The small hope I have is to continue to hold myself out as the loving voice of sanity, don't push too hard or too much, and hope that someday the fever breaks and my amazing son returns to his senses.
It really does feel like we are alone on a small island of sanity sometimes. Groups like this are a true lifeline. I had to go out of state to find an online therapist we could trust with our son. But as long as he is surrounded by enablers, he sees no reason to try my recommended therapist.
Wow! This was incredibly articulate, heart-breaking, and spot-on, based on what I have seen as a therapist, working with a few young men who identify as trans. Thank you for writing this - I have shared it with some colleagues. Please, continue speaking up, as your words connect with others in your situation, and communicate the truth. Providers need to hear this! Don't let unaware, uncurious, stupid people get in your way. I believe that moms (and dads) like you are more powerful than you realize, so please keep fighting the good fight! Meanwhile, as a therapist, I am over here cheering you on, forwarding your messages, and doing my best to help these kids with REAL therapy that addresses root causes and guiding kids in building skills to help them deal with reality. Don't give up!!
This could be my son’s story. He’s 22 now and slowly going the way of no contact with us. We love him but won’t acknowledge him as anything than what he actually is- our beautiful, sensitive, talented son. Because you can’t change what you were born as. What are our next steps? What do we do? Patience that he will figure it out doesn’t seem good enough. But since he won’t listen to us and therapy has “helped him realize” that he “had helicopter parents who cared too much” which is why he flunked out of college and won’t do anything other than a part time job…*(type B non helicopter parent here, btw)… what do we do?
So true! This echos our experience in so many ways. Our son was away at college and got "help" from campus providers. By the time he told us, he'd been on these drugs for 7 months! No wonder he refused every attempt we made to get him help. The cult had already recruited him. The only thing we will "affirm" is the fact that he's suffered terrible tragedies and is hurting. We are trying to stay grounded in reality and constantly searching for ways to expose the lies. That seems to be the only thing we still have control over.
I’m paralyzed by what to do. I need concrete steps. 1. 2. 3. I’ll do anything but all of the above is too overwhelming. It just leads me to feeling hopeless and helpless.
I think that getting these boys and girls back out in nature (and away from their phones and computers) might help. Even if the family didn't have a history of doing things together outside it's never too late to begin. Gardening, hiking, birdwatching, etc....these hobbies are therapeutic. Nature (and reality) beckon the lost and broken.
"Psychiatry is a fraudulent pseudoscience, a drug racket, and a social control mechanism. It's 21st Century Phrenology, with potent neuro-toxins. Psychiatry has done, and continues to do, FAR MORE HARM than good. So-called "mental illnesses" are exactly as "real" as presents from Santa Claus, but NOT more real. The DSM-5 is nothing more than a catalog of billing codes. EVERYTHING in it was either invented, or created. NOTHING in it was discovered."
"Myth of Mental Illness", - Dr. Thomas Szasz, //"Toxic Psychiatry", Dr. Peter Breggin, // "Anatomy of an Epidemic", & "Mad in America", - both Mr. Robert Whittaker. Also, please visit: madinamerica.com
What a strange coincidence! I woke up thinking about Thomas Szasz this morning! I'm so glad I read him in graduate school. Thanks for putting him in the spotlight here. His Wiki page is surprisingly thorough and refers to his website, which is dull but also so informative.
"Coincidence"? I think not! Hey, like my Grandmother always said, "Great minds think alike.".... Whitaker's books are much newer and more easily readable, more current. Breggin & wife are still going strong, last I checked, at 80+yrs old! Reading Szasz can feel like a long, hard gym workout with the heavy weights! Thanks! Happy Friday, & have a good weekend! ~bb
This is so much of our story—a son who vanished overnight. Where is my anger? I hear it acknowledged by parents again and again but I’m now wondering if I have feared to unleash it. Thank you for modeling it so eloquently, if anger can even be hitched to that word. I’ll definitely be mulling over this marvelous piece for some time.
Omg did we just become best friends!
I am a tiger mother and I'm fighting and will fight to the end to save my son
I envy those families where both Mom and Dad are on Team Sanity, working together to try to save their kid(s) from themselves. Regrettably, my otherwise rational wife has bought this hucksterism and medical malpractice completely and literally refuses to engage with me on the subject. Add in the influence of friends (online and otherwise), therapists, medical professionals, and the general zeitgest (my son now lives in a very blue city in a very blue state), I am utterly alone. To add insult to injury, I am perceived as the crazy one. The good news is that I still have a decent relationship with my son. The small hope I have is to continue to hold myself out as the loving voice of sanity, don't push too hard or too much, and hope that someday the fever breaks and my amazing son returns to his senses.
It really does feel like we are alone on a small island of sanity sometimes. Groups like this are a true lifeline. I had to go out of state to find an online therapist we could trust with our son. But as long as he is surrounded by enablers, he sees no reason to try my recommended therapist.
Misgendering is done with drugs and scalpels (not with pronouns).
That label was projected on us (by the people who were actuallydoing it).
In our canon of Western Liberty we had a Danish story about this type of fawning "expert":
Kejserens Nye Klæder "The Emperor's New Clothes" by Hans Christian Andersen
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKJK4pYlnVc
Wow! This was incredibly articulate, heart-breaking, and spot-on, based on what I have seen as a therapist, working with a few young men who identify as trans. Thank you for writing this - I have shared it with some colleagues. Please, continue speaking up, as your words connect with others in your situation, and communicate the truth. Providers need to hear this! Don't let unaware, uncurious, stupid people get in your way. I believe that moms (and dads) like you are more powerful than you realize, so please keep fighting the good fight! Meanwhile, as a therapist, I am over here cheering you on, forwarding your messages, and doing my best to help these kids with REAL therapy that addresses root causes and guiding kids in building skills to help them deal with reality. Don't give up!!
This could be my son’s story. He’s 22 now and slowly going the way of no contact with us. We love him but won’t acknowledge him as anything than what he actually is- our beautiful, sensitive, talented son. Because you can’t change what you were born as. What are our next steps? What do we do? Patience that he will figure it out doesn’t seem good enough. But since he won’t listen to us and therapy has “helped him realize” that he “had helicopter parents who cared too much” which is why he flunked out of college and won’t do anything other than a part time job…*(type B non helicopter parent here, btw)… what do we do?
So true! This echos our experience in so many ways. Our son was away at college and got "help" from campus providers. By the time he told us, he'd been on these drugs for 7 months! No wonder he refused every attempt we made to get him help. The cult had already recruited him. The only thing we will "affirm" is the fact that he's suffered terrible tragedies and is hurting. We are trying to stay grounded in reality and constantly searching for ways to expose the lies. That seems to be the only thing we still have control over.
I’m paralyzed by what to do. I need concrete steps. 1. 2. 3. I’ll do anything but all of the above is too overwhelming. It just leads me to feeling hopeless and helpless.
I think that getting these boys and girls back out in nature (and away from their phones and computers) might help. Even if the family didn't have a history of doing things together outside it's never too late to begin. Gardening, hiking, birdwatching, etc....these hobbies are therapeutic. Nature (and reality) beckon the lost and broken.
"Psychiatry is a fraudulent pseudoscience, a drug racket, and a social control mechanism. It's 21st Century Phrenology, with potent neuro-toxins. Psychiatry has done, and continues to do, FAR MORE HARM than good. So-called "mental illnesses" are exactly as "real" as presents from Santa Claus, but NOT more real. The DSM-5 is nothing more than a catalog of billing codes. EVERYTHING in it was either invented, or created. NOTHING in it was discovered."
"Myth of Mental Illness", - Dr. Thomas Szasz, //"Toxic Psychiatry", Dr. Peter Breggin, // "Anatomy of an Epidemic", & "Mad in America", - both Mr. Robert Whittaker. Also, please visit: madinamerica.com
What a strange coincidence! I woke up thinking about Thomas Szasz this morning! I'm so glad I read him in graduate school. Thanks for putting him in the spotlight here. His Wiki page is surprisingly thorough and refers to his website, which is dull but also so informative.
"Coincidence"? I think not! Hey, like my Grandmother always said, "Great minds think alike.".... Whitaker's books are much newer and more easily readable, more current. Breggin & wife are still going strong, last I checked, at 80+yrs old! Reading Szasz can feel like a long, hard gym workout with the heavy weights! Thanks! Happy Friday, & have a good weekend! ~bb
This is so much of our story—a son who vanished overnight. Where is my anger? I hear it acknowledged by parents again and again but I’m now wondering if I have feared to unleash it. Thank you for modeling it so eloquently, if anger can even be hitched to that word. I’ll definitely be mulling over this marvelous piece for some time.
Fuck yes!!!!! ROAR!!!!!!!
So well written! Thank you!