Whoever said “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” has not yet met a mother whose son has been captured by the trans-insanity and medical malpractice of this generation.
It strikes me that you're so keen to praise your daughter's intelligence, and yet you never consider that maybe she's right and you're wrong. You use her "specialness" as a way to justify conceptualizing her in a continually infantilized state, never seeing her as an equal.
The way you talk about her makes it sound like you don't really know her as a person or care about what she wants at all. It makes me so sad when I read through these accounts of parents who can't seem to see that their children are happy and living well.
I have this fantasy... if I were in that position, I would give up everything and move to Alaska. Somewhere where people still live real lives and do real things. Get him away from the toxic culture... What do you think?
This works if the child is under 18, or maybe 16, then there is much more that can be done. But so many fall into this in late high school or over 18. Then when we parents try to help, or voice concerns, they move, break contact, cut us off. It's a nightmare. But yes, when the child is younger there are more options to make drastic changes, which is usually necessary. I have had the thought that maybe if I move to a beautiful country that is not infected, they would eventually follow since life isn't currently going great for them. It's a growing thought.
You have a good idea but Alaska isn't far enough. Someone on here managed to save her young daughter by moving home to a former Soviet State and someone else took her children back to China. But, the Western World has the trans disease - kinda like any country that ever heard of anorexia.
You might find the graph and chart in this article interesting though:
I don't think of it as a geographical distance. Getting them among real people and cutting off the smart phones would be enough. You could go among the Amish. Or take them on a sailboat exploring some interesting places. And so on. I figure.... if you want your kid to be sane, take him among sane down-to-earth people where men are good role models...
All good things to do - except that the mind bug would probably just infect the Amish who do not deserve that.
I actually have a daughter in this and we tried things along the lines you suggest. Many of the girls get the mind bug during high school. How do you 100% cut high school kids off of the internet? We actually were dinosaurs regarding cell phones but there was the school with the teachers and the kids there... The schools teach "gender identity" like it is science. Homeschooling is a good idea. But, I have read of home schooled girls going to college and getting messed up by transmania.
Going after medicalization (most would drop the identity if there were no "medicine" to shoot for):
1) Currently "trans medicine" is part of Obamacare/ACA including in medicaid. The current administration wants to eliminate that and the opposition wants to reopen the government with it present.
Bottom line, insurance must stop covering the euphemistically termed "GAC" as currently required.
2) We must go after insurance fraud to take the financial wind out of "GAC":
“Revelations of Insurance Fraud at MI Children's Hospital Exposes Troubling 'Gender-Affirming' Practices”
“The doctors who tried to transition Jonni Skinner reportedly put false medical diagnoses in Skinner's chart to mask the gender affirming care, diagnosing him with "endocrine disorders" he did not have.”
“Republican State Rep. Brad Paquette is sounding the alarm on the University of Michigan and Mott's Children's Hospital committing insurance fraud to transition children.”
3) In the end, perpetrators of "GAC" should be arrested.
This is so very heartbreaking for all of you going through this. Yes never give up on your sons ❤️. I am so very sorry… this trans ideology will implode at some point having hurt so many people. It is beyond shameful
I envy those families where both Mom and Dad are on Team Sanity, working together to try to save their kid(s) from themselves. Regrettably, my otherwise rational wife has bought this hucksterism and medical malpractice completely and literally refuses to engage with me on the subject. Add in the influence of friends (online and otherwise), therapists, medical professionals, and the general zeitgest (my son now lives in a very blue city in a very blue state), I am utterly alone. To add insult to injury, I am perceived as the crazy one. The good news is that I still have a decent relationship with my son. The small hope I have is to continue to hold myself out as the loving voice of sanity, don't push too hard or too much, and hope that someday the fever breaks and my amazing son returns to his senses.
It really does feel like we are alone on a small island of sanity sometimes. Groups like this are a true lifeline. I had to go out of state to find an online therapist we could trust with our son. But as long as he is surrounded by enablers, he sees no reason to try my recommended therapist.
Except this round instead of bing 'naked' they are wearing the 'wrong' clothes & the world is admiring them for it while we parents point out the obvious truth! Ugh
Wow! This was incredibly articulate, heart-breaking, and spot-on, based on what I have seen as a therapist, working with a few young men who identify as trans. Thank you for writing this - I have shared it with some colleagues. Please, continue speaking up, as your words connect with others in your situation, and communicate the truth. Providers need to hear this! Don't let unaware, uncurious, stupid people get in your way. I believe that moms (and dads) like you are more powerful than you realize, so please keep fighting the good fight! Meanwhile, as a therapist, I am over here cheering you on, forwarding your messages, and doing my best to help these kids with REAL therapy that addresses root causes and guiding kids in building skills to help them deal with reality. Don't give up!!
Michele - parents have existed in a vacuum for so long that we need to hear there is someone on the 'inside' fighting for our cause. Thank you for giving us that insight and thank you for being an ethical medical professional.
This could be my son’s story. He’s 22 now and slowly going the way of no contact with us. We love him but won’t acknowledge him as anything than what he actually is- our beautiful, sensitive, talented son. Because you can’t change what you were born as. What are our next steps? What do we do? Patience that he will figure it out doesn’t seem good enough. But since he won’t listen to us and therapy has “helped him realize” that he “had helicopter parents who cared too much” which is why he flunked out of college and won’t do anything other than a part time job…*(type B non helicopter parent here, btw)… what do we do?
So true! This echos our experience in so many ways. Our son was away at college and got "help" from campus providers. By the time he told us, he'd been on these drugs for 7 months! No wonder he refused every attempt we made to get him help. The cult had already recruited him. The only thing we will "affirm" is the fact that he's suffered terrible tragedies and is hurting. We are trying to stay grounded in reality and constantly searching for ways to expose the lies. That seems to be the only thing we still have control over.
I’m paralyzed by what to do. I need concrete steps. 1. 2. 3. I’ll do anything but all of the above is too overwhelming. It just leads me to feeling hopeless and helpless.
I think that getting these boys and girls back out in nature (and away from their phones and computers) might help. Even if the family didn't have a history of doing things together outside it's never too late to begin. Gardening, hiking, birdwatching, etc....these hobbies are therapeutic. Nature (and reality) beckon the lost and broken.
"Psychiatry is a fraudulent pseudoscience, a drug racket, and a social control mechanism. It's 21st Century Phrenology, with potent neuro-toxins. Psychiatry has done, and continues to do, FAR MORE HARM than good. So-called "mental illnesses" are exactly as "real" as presents from Santa Claus, but NOT more real. The DSM-5 is nothing more than a catalog of billing codes. EVERYTHING in it was either invented, or created. NOTHING in it was discovered."
"Myth of Mental Illness", - Dr. Thomas Szasz, //"Toxic Psychiatry", Dr. Peter Breggin, // "Anatomy of an Epidemic", & "Mad in America", - both Mr. Robert Whittaker. Also, please visit: madinamerica.com
What a strange coincidence! I woke up thinking about Thomas Szasz this morning! I'm so glad I read him in graduate school. Thanks for putting him in the spotlight here. His Wiki page is surprisingly thorough and refers to his website, which is dull but also so informative.
I really like Szasz's ideas around freedom of drug use. Transgender activists are so stuck in this notion that only transitioning people ought to be able to use hormones, which really reinforces gender stereotypes. Personally i think they ought to be sold over the counter for anyone to use.
"Coincidence"? I think not! Hey, like my Grandmother always said, "Great minds think alike.".... Whitaker's books are much newer and more easily readable, more current. Breggin & wife are still going strong, last I checked, at 80+yrs old! Reading Szasz can feel like a long, hard gym workout with the heavy weights! Thanks! Happy Friday, & have a good weekend! ~bb
This is so much of our story—a son who vanished overnight. Where is my anger? I hear it acknowledged by parents again and again but I’m now wondering if I have feared to unleash it. Thank you for modeling it so eloquently, if anger can even be hitched to that word. I’ll definitely be mulling over this marvelous piece for some time.
Hi Linda - it took me a while to verbalize my anger. Once I realized the level of abuse our fragile young people - and children! - have been subject to it became clear: all of these 'therapists,' politicians & teachers, etc. leveraged their careers on the backs of our kids & at the cost to our families. Anger also makes me feel like I can 'do' something - though I'm not sure if that's entirely accurate. Good luck to you, fellow mom.
Thank you, Christa! Perhaps it is that anger that has given me voice—to speak and write. I was definitely feeling it when writing “No Grief Allowed.” When considering the villains at our ASD son’s university that pushed him down the conveyer belt of medicalization and the predators that carried him away, God help me with what may come if we get word that he is dead. Compassionately fighting this battle with you and maybe no longer crawling back into the paper cage due to fear and intimidation.
It breaks my heart that so many have been deceived and harmed in this way. And how incredibly agonizing for the parents. We will not sit back. Standing with you and all the PITT parents until this madness is no more.
I have experienced this too with my daughter when she went away to college…it infuriates me to see the madness of this all!! How this got lumped into gay rights; and is therefore irrefutable! She never was interested in anything remotely associated with being “a boy” and to this day still isn’t; but believes that she was “born in the wrong body”!! And that the medical community is pushing dangerous surgeries and synthetic hormones; making billions of dollars off of our children, and leaving them sterile and sexually dysfunctional, all in the name of “compassion” is a crime against humanity !! And as parents, we are just supposed to sit back and watch them slowly being killed while crazy liberals cheer them on makes me so angry and so sad and so broken!!
It strikes me that you're so keen to praise your daughter's intelligence, and yet you never consider that maybe she's right and you're wrong. You use her "specialness" as a way to justify conceptualizing her in a continually infantilized state, never seeing her as an equal.
The way you talk about her makes it sound like you don't really know her as a person or care about what she wants at all. It makes me so sad when I read through these accounts of parents who can't seem to see that their children are happy and living well.
Beautifully said! I am with you.
Yup. Take tiger parents seriously when they say We. Are. Done.
I ❤️ you 🐅 parents. Thank you for sharing this touching essay.
Stop pleading, and start doing.
Get them out of the trap. Save them.
What a horrible story, as this boy sinks deeper and deeper into the quicksand.
But, how?
I have this fantasy... if I were in that position, I would give up everything and move to Alaska. Somewhere where people still live real lives and do real things. Get him away from the toxic culture... What do you think?
This works if the child is under 18, or maybe 16, then there is much more that can be done. But so many fall into this in late high school or over 18. Then when we parents try to help, or voice concerns, they move, break contact, cut us off. It's a nightmare. But yes, when the child is younger there are more options to make drastic changes, which is usually necessary. I have had the thought that maybe if I move to a beautiful country that is not infected, they would eventually follow since life isn't currently going great for them. It's a growing thought.
Very much worth trying. -- hug --
You have a good idea but Alaska isn't far enough. Someone on here managed to save her young daughter by moving home to a former Soviet State and someone else took her children back to China. But, the Western World has the trans disease - kinda like any country that ever heard of anorexia.
You might find the graph and chart in this article interesting though:
https://www.pittparents.com/p/why-is-this-happening-and-who-can?utm_source=publication-search
Closing down the American Medical Societies and Re-pathologizating the trans identity would be good moves, IMO.
“The Battle Upstream: Challenging the false belief causing medical harm
Mia Hughes' speech from The Bigger Picture Conference 2025”
https://genspect.substack.com/p/the-battle-upstream-challenging-the
I don't think of it as a geographical distance. Getting them among real people and cutting off the smart phones would be enough. You could go among the Amish. Or take them on a sailboat exploring some interesting places. And so on. I figure.... if you want your kid to be sane, take him among sane down-to-earth people where men are good role models...
All good things to do - except that the mind bug would probably just infect the Amish who do not deserve that.
I actually have a daughter in this and we tried things along the lines you suggest. Many of the girls get the mind bug during high school. How do you 100% cut high school kids off of the internet? We actually were dinosaurs regarding cell phones but there was the school with the teachers and the kids there... The schools teach "gender identity" like it is science. Homeschooling is a good idea. But, I have read of home schooled girls going to college and getting messed up by transmania.
Going after medicalization (most would drop the identity if there were no "medicine" to shoot for):
1) Currently "trans medicine" is part of Obamacare/ACA including in medicaid. The current administration wants to eliminate that and the opposition wants to reopen the government with it present.
Bottom line, insurance must stop covering the euphemistically termed "GAC" as currently required.
2) We must go after insurance fraud to take the financial wind out of "GAC":
“Revelations of Insurance Fraud at MI Children's Hospital Exposes Troubling 'Gender-Affirming' Practices”
https://townhall.com/tipsheet/amy-curtis/2025/11/07/mi-hospital-gender-affirming-care-diagnoses-n2666045
“The doctors who tried to transition Jonni Skinner reportedly put false medical diagnoses in Skinner's chart to mask the gender affirming care, diagnosing him with "endocrine disorders" he did not have.”
“Republican State Rep. Brad Paquette is sounding the alarm on the University of Michigan and Mott's Children's Hospital committing insurance fraud to transition children.”
3) In the end, perpetrators of "GAC" should be arrested.
Yeah. But I prefer solutions that families can do themselves. Not waiting for govt to change the laws.
I very much doubt it would infect the Amish! :-)
There is another option. Rember those long wilderness programs for kids who fell deep into the drug trap? Could be done for this as well.
Prayers for your little girl!
This is so very heartbreaking for all of you going through this. Yes never give up on your sons ❤️. I am so very sorry… this trans ideology will implode at some point having hurt so many people. It is beyond shameful
Powerful. Amen.
Omg did we just become best friends!
I am a tiger mother and I'm fighting and will fight to the end to save my son
I envy those families where both Mom and Dad are on Team Sanity, working together to try to save their kid(s) from themselves. Regrettably, my otherwise rational wife has bought this hucksterism and medical malpractice completely and literally refuses to engage with me on the subject. Add in the influence of friends (online and otherwise), therapists, medical professionals, and the general zeitgest (my son now lives in a very blue city in a very blue state), I am utterly alone. To add insult to injury, I am perceived as the crazy one. The good news is that I still have a decent relationship with my son. The small hope I have is to continue to hold myself out as the loving voice of sanity, don't push too hard or too much, and hope that someday the fever breaks and my amazing son returns to his senses.
You should change your name from grieving father to fighting father. Hang in there!
I LOVE that and will give it some thought. Thank you!!
Same story here. Our marriage is hanging on by the thinnest of threads.
It really does feel like we are alone on a small island of sanity sometimes. Groups like this are a true lifeline. I had to go out of state to find an online therapist we could trust with our son. But as long as he is surrounded by enablers, he sees no reason to try my recommended therapist.
Misgendering is done with drugs and scalpels (not with pronouns).
That label was projected on us (by the people who were actuallydoing it).
In our canon of Western Liberty we had a Danish story about this type of fawning "expert":
Kejserens Nye Klæder "The Emperor's New Clothes" by Hans Christian Andersen
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKJK4pYlnVc
Except this round instead of bing 'naked' they are wearing the 'wrong' clothes & the world is admiring them for it while we parents point out the obvious truth! Ugh
Wow! This was incredibly articulate, heart-breaking, and spot-on, based on what I have seen as a therapist, working with a few young men who identify as trans. Thank you for writing this - I have shared it with some colleagues. Please, continue speaking up, as your words connect with others in your situation, and communicate the truth. Providers need to hear this! Don't let unaware, uncurious, stupid people get in your way. I believe that moms (and dads) like you are more powerful than you realize, so please keep fighting the good fight! Meanwhile, as a therapist, I am over here cheering you on, forwarding your messages, and doing my best to help these kids with REAL therapy that addresses root causes and guiding kids in building skills to help them deal with reality. Don't give up!!
Michele - parents have existed in a vacuum for so long that we need to hear there is someone on the 'inside' fighting for our cause. Thank you for giving us that insight and thank you for being an ethical medical professional.
There are a bunch of us- you are not alone!
This could be my son’s story. He’s 22 now and slowly going the way of no contact with us. We love him but won’t acknowledge him as anything than what he actually is- our beautiful, sensitive, talented son. Because you can’t change what you were born as. What are our next steps? What do we do? Patience that he will figure it out doesn’t seem good enough. But since he won’t listen to us and therapy has “helped him realize” that he “had helicopter parents who cared too much” which is why he flunked out of college and won’t do anything other than a part time job…*(type B non helicopter parent here, btw)… what do we do?
So true! This echos our experience in so many ways. Our son was away at college and got "help" from campus providers. By the time he told us, he'd been on these drugs for 7 months! No wonder he refused every attempt we made to get him help. The cult had already recruited him. The only thing we will "affirm" is the fact that he's suffered terrible tragedies and is hurting. We are trying to stay grounded in reality and constantly searching for ways to expose the lies. That seems to be the only thing we still have control over.
I’m paralyzed by what to do. I need concrete steps. 1. 2. 3. I’ll do anything but all of the above is too overwhelming. It just leads me to feeling hopeless and helpless.
I think that getting these boys and girls back out in nature (and away from their phones and computers) might help. Even if the family didn't have a history of doing things together outside it's never too late to begin. Gardening, hiking, birdwatching, etc....these hobbies are therapeutic. Nature (and reality) beckon the lost and broken.
"Psychiatry is a fraudulent pseudoscience, a drug racket, and a social control mechanism. It's 21st Century Phrenology, with potent neuro-toxins. Psychiatry has done, and continues to do, FAR MORE HARM than good. So-called "mental illnesses" are exactly as "real" as presents from Santa Claus, but NOT more real. The DSM-5 is nothing more than a catalog of billing codes. EVERYTHING in it was either invented, or created. NOTHING in it was discovered."
"Myth of Mental Illness", - Dr. Thomas Szasz, //"Toxic Psychiatry", Dr. Peter Breggin, // "Anatomy of an Epidemic", & "Mad in America", - both Mr. Robert Whittaker. Also, please visit: madinamerica.com
What a strange coincidence! I woke up thinking about Thomas Szasz this morning! I'm so glad I read him in graduate school. Thanks for putting him in the spotlight here. His Wiki page is surprisingly thorough and refers to his website, which is dull but also so informative.
I really like Szasz's ideas around freedom of drug use. Transgender activists are so stuck in this notion that only transitioning people ought to be able to use hormones, which really reinforces gender stereotypes. Personally i think they ought to be sold over the counter for anyone to use.
"Coincidence"? I think not! Hey, like my Grandmother always said, "Great minds think alike.".... Whitaker's books are much newer and more easily readable, more current. Breggin & wife are still going strong, last I checked, at 80+yrs old! Reading Szasz can feel like a long, hard gym workout with the heavy weights! Thanks! Happy Friday, & have a good weekend! ~bb
This is so much of our story—a son who vanished overnight. Where is my anger? I hear it acknowledged by parents again and again but I’m now wondering if I have feared to unleash it. Thank you for modeling it so eloquently, if anger can even be hitched to that word. I’ll definitely be mulling over this marvelous piece for some time.
Hi Linda - it took me a while to verbalize my anger. Once I realized the level of abuse our fragile young people - and children! - have been subject to it became clear: all of these 'therapists,' politicians & teachers, etc. leveraged their careers on the backs of our kids & at the cost to our families. Anger also makes me feel like I can 'do' something - though I'm not sure if that's entirely accurate. Good luck to you, fellow mom.
Thank you, Christa! Perhaps it is that anger that has given me voice—to speak and write. I was definitely feeling it when writing “No Grief Allowed.” When considering the villains at our ASD son’s university that pushed him down the conveyer belt of medicalization and the predators that carried him away, God help me with what may come if we get word that he is dead. Compassionately fighting this battle with you and maybe no longer crawling back into the paper cage due to fear and intimidation.
It breaks my heart that so many have been deceived and harmed in this way. And how incredibly agonizing for the parents. We will not sit back. Standing with you and all the PITT parents until this madness is no more.
I have experienced this too with my daughter when she went away to college…it infuriates me to see the madness of this all!! How this got lumped into gay rights; and is therefore irrefutable! She never was interested in anything remotely associated with being “a boy” and to this day still isn’t; but believes that she was “born in the wrong body”!! And that the medical community is pushing dangerous surgeries and synthetic hormones; making billions of dollars off of our children, and leaving them sterile and sexually dysfunctional, all in the name of “compassion” is a crime against humanity !! And as parents, we are just supposed to sit back and watch them slowly being killed while crazy liberals cheer them on makes me so angry and so sad and so broken!!