My stepdaughter was socially transitioned at a Catholic School without my husband’s knowledge or permission despite court orders stating the mother had to inform him of health, education and other life changing things. She never did. I’m a retired RN. I told my SD that no one cares about her sexuality but please don’t do anything to permanently alter your body. She turned 18 early this year and
1. Officially changed her name but hasn’t bothered to inform us of her new name
2. Despite being a cutter she now has a “piercing regime”. She has the obligatory septum piercing!
3. Tattoos to cover her cutting marks
4. She’s stated she wants nothing to do with me for the foreseeable future and that I am responsible for her eating disorder (we had her ONE weekend a month & her mother took her to dieticians, got bloods taken etc all behind our back!)
5. She’s blamed ME not her domestically violent mother for her mental health issues.
I’ve found these resources for my hubby through Dr Az because other than seeing her at her brother’s high school grad next year and supporting my husband and stepson at her funeral from liver cancer in about a decade, I’m not dealing with her. She’s dead to me!
If you haven’t seen the WPATH files thread @shellenberger you should check them out.
I’m mourning the loss of a bright, beautiful girl who’s turned into a manipulative, selfish beast that I don’t recognise who lies and manipulates everyone.
"My son suddenly, out of nowhere, self-diagnosed himself as trans at age 15. I realized he thought he was trans because he was quirky and socially awkward and had been bullied in middle school."
Just substitute "daughter" for son and you have my story. I am a school counselor, and I feel your pain. I had to tread extremely lightly when I was working. I recently went to a job interview where they threw me a trans scenario. It's scary, confusing and pressurized to be working in the schools these days. I was shamed by a teacher over accidentally calling our daughter her given name. Our daughter said she required a 20-minute lecture by her teacher about whether I was respecting her. My daughter spat out a threat that I had better remember to use her chosen name. The shame on parents is immense. As a counselor I could often pull staff aside off the record and many agreed that what was going on was insanity, but all were afraid to lose their jobs.
Dr Az said that many transgender people especially if autistic or on the spectrum gain comfort from”passing” as the other sex. Thus misgendering or deadnaming proves they’re not passing which then hurts their fragile, young egos. If you haven’t seen it, get on YouTube and watch Heretics with Andrew Gold where he interviews Dr Az. It is a really good interview. Also Trigonometry Raw with Konstantin Kissin and Frances Foster have had Helen Joyce on a couple of times as well as a few of the nurses from the Tavistock Clinic. Definitely worth a look.
Well this parent was clearly feeling very disempowered when she wrote this. She apparently felt like she had less power in the situation than her son AND the school, even though the opposite was true.
It's a good reminder, that among the first things we must do to respond to or prepare for situations like this is remind ourselves that We Are In Charge, that We Know Best, and to believe in ourselves, in our instincts and our knowledge of our kid, and in our ability to lead our kid to a healthier place, even when we realize there are major things that we missed.
If we are unable to do those things, everything else pretty much becomes impossible.
Education and Learning. These are the most important tools everyone needs. The USA supports these tools and our children are privileged to these tools. However, the school system has now changed because of the trans ideology. The people in charge of our children’s education and learning process have been influenced and are wearing blinders. Sex education has been moved to the forefront and innocent minds are being exposed to adult concepts. This is child abuse! I cannot trust the education system any more and I fear for my granddaughter who will start kindergarten this fall. Her parents know her - not the teachers or principal - yet they have all the control over what she will be taught, even if it means confusing her about her own body. I hate the trans cult. I am helpless and must watch from afar to see if my darling granddaughter gets pushed into the rabbit hole one day. I ache inside and pray constantly. When will this nightmare end?
The groomers in the education system have behaved in such an unforgivable fashion because they knew the ideology to which they adhered was ascendant, and that made them (pardon the expression) bullet-proof. I imagine they never envisioned parents joining TERFs and detransitioners in the trenches, and the cultural tide turning against them. Suffice to say, I wish they all face Karma somewhere down the road.
Johanna Olson, MD is a pediatrician in the Division of Adolescent Medicine at Children's Hospital Los Angeles and Medical Director of the hospital's Center for Transyouth Health and Development.
“The Committee on Oversight and Accountability is conducting oversight of the National Institutes of Health (NIH) grant of $9.7 million to an ongoing research project titled, ‘The Impact of Early Medical Treatment in Transgender Youth,’” wrote McClain. “We are alarmed that the project’s principal investigator, Dr. Johanna Olson-Kennedy, is withholding publication of the project’s research findings which cast doubt on the efficacy of the ‘gender affirming’ model, because she believes the findings could be ‘weaponized’ by critics of transgender medical interventions for children.”
TY for sharing this. More people need to know what she is doing with the medicalization of minors and destroying families so she can profit off the ideology.
A high school teacher told me I needed to get my kid to stop it if I didn't like it. They follow whatever the child says regarding names and pronouns and anything that goes along with it. This was some years ago. It really does mess with their minds and set them up for medicalization at the hands of the Frankenstein quacks who do it for $$.
When we complained about the situation - after learning about it - the school changed it's policy to be pro Gender Ideology instead of respecting our rights as parents and our kid's health. The above was an appeal I made to a teacher after that.
This can mask some very unhealthy things happening with a small group of children... and can provide cover for bad actors of all ages.
She's beyond college now so we were on the earlyish side of all this and shocked when it hit. We tried hard to fight it but were on the losing side of things back then.
She's recently begun testosterone gel. :-( Has a small co-pay. Loves us again though.
If you listen to episode 44 of The Dark Side of the Rainbow from Gays Against Groomers about the Teachers Union you will understand why this happens. Teachers are in a tough position. As a former teacher who became a whistleblower many years ago I know what happens when teachers try to stand up and say that something is wrong.
Whenever I read a story like this I wonder where these affirming individuals will be when the tide turns on this travesty. Will they squeal that they "didn't know " that "being kind" would cause so much devastation? Will they deny their involvement in the harms being done?
They'll do what narcissists always do: ignore the question, accuse you of actually being the problem, verbally escalate and claim victim status. More people will see them for what they are, but they will never admit to having been wrong or having gone along with a stupid and harmful trend
Yep! That's exactly what I would expect! When it comes to the aftermath it will be the much vilified parents who will be obliged to pick up the pieces.
The real horror will be how the parents who went along with it behave once it's no longer fashionable or 'virtuous' - especially how they behave towards their own kids
I can't help but think some parents go along who really don't agree with it, but have been scared into affirming by the suicide threat. And others are simply acting on what is the near-unanimous medical and psychological advice of our time.
Surely not every "affirming" parent is thrilled to have a trans-identified child so they can virtue-signal.
I feel for parents of children who self-identify (or should one say they are convinced to self-id?) First there's the explosive revelation by the child after months of lying, Then there's the emotional blackmail by the "therapist" or some other "expert"- the threat of suicide if the kid doesn't get His/Her way. Of course, there is also CPS which threatens to remove kids from the home when parents resist. Parents have been robbed of all authority- they just get to go along with the insanity and they are ultimately obliged to clear up the mess.
100%. The idea that someone is 'self identifying' after being exposed to months or years of intense brainwashing is as insidious as the idea that 'gender affirming care' saves lives because there is the constant suggestion that a person might kill themselves if they don't get it. It seems to me like weaponised Neuro linguistic programming, whereby ideas are planted by repetition but those doing the repeating insist that they are just helping. There was a post on this Substack recently by a parent whose kid found it unsettling that he kept being asked if he was suicidal - cos no shit, if people keep saying the word 'suicide' to you, you're going to think about suicide
You're absolutely right about parents being scared into affirming their own kids by the unconscionable suicide threat - I'm sure they are praying for the nightmare to be over and for those responsible to be held to account. I meant the parents who might not have trans-identifying kids themselves, but who enthusiastically go along with it because they think it makes them good, tolerant (middle class) people.
The fact that the medical and psychological consensus encourages something so clearly harmful can only make people suspicious of those institutions. I don't have children but I feel awful for all the parents whose children have been told they have a condition that can be fixed with hormones and surgery, and who must be terrified of having their kids taken away if they resist the madness. It's pure evil.
Yup. That’s the boat I am in. None of my progressive friends understand why I don’t affirm my kid’s gender delusion. I get stern, reprimanding looks and even the occasional lecture.
Schools have betrayed parents and the children they "teach". Yes: "What these teachers are doing is causing irreversible mental and potentially physical harm to other people’s kids." And it is a full-pledge medical scandal now.
Geneticist Baron Robert Winston states categorically we cannot change sex, canceled detransitioner Exulansic inventories those who have died trying on her Death List.
It depends to some degree on the laws where you are, but a good general thing to remember is that even when there are crazy woke laws on the books, a kid who feels like the opposite sex almost always has a diagnosable mental health condition.
And mental health care is the purview of the parent, not the school.
That is the ground upon which to assert our rights, in most scenarios.
"[Interrupts] We use ____ pronouns for {kid's name}."
"No, (his/her) pronouns are (his/her). That is my instruction to you as (his/her) parent. This is not up for discussion. If my child attempts to engage you in discussion on this matter, please redirect their attention to me about it."
"That is not a question that is in your purview. I will be happy to communicate that to you officially if needed, or have my attorney get in touch to help you understand. Let's please move on to what we're supposed to be talking about here."
A key thing to remember: Do Not Explain, Do Not Justify. They are not entitled to an explanation of matters that are not in their purview; do not concede that ground to them.
Not. Their. Business. They must stay in their lane, as educators.
The thing is, we have to be well-prepared to back those boundaries up before we set them, meaning that if we suspect there's even the slightest chance at any resistance from the school staff, we MUST consult with a locally-knowledgeable source of legal information beforehand, and be ready with an action plan that addresses all potential scenarios of response from the school.
Of course, the best approach is the proactive one, where we get ahead of any potential issues at whatever appropriate regular parent-school meetings are taking place.
If the kid has an IEP, make it part of it.
If needed, find a therapist or better yet Psychologist who we are POSITIVE thinks the gender stuff is nonsense, and get from them a letter addressed to the school or To Whom It May Concern asserting that the kid is under treatment for ____ and our instructed pronouns/name/whatever for them to use are PART OF THE TREATMENT and their cooperation is requested/required.
And finally, we have to know that if we have the misfortune to run into a true zealot, it's quite possible that they will file a frivolous report with the state child services agency accusing us of abuse.
And at some point, it may make sense simply to home-school rather than fight the school.
Yes, but who would you be having that conversation with? Hopefully no one at the school, because you are maintaining an appropriate boundary with them. Any discussion of therapy is outside their purview.
The trans cult loves to bog people down with endless debates over the minutia of language. It’s a trap. Don’t fall for it. You can’t control what language they use and they can’t control what language you use.
If you need a response or comeback, the best is “The only conversion going on is of young future gay kids being transitioned for not conforming to stereotypes of sex.”
Here’s the study to back that up, which showed that 88% of prepubescent boys who thought they were girls changed their minds by the end of puberty, and most turned out gay:
Experientially, many LGBs report going through a period of gender dysphoria when they were very young and trying to understand their own feelings and/or struggling with internalized homophobia.
My stepdaughter was socially transitioned at a Catholic School without my husband’s knowledge or permission despite court orders stating the mother had to inform him of health, education and other life changing things. She never did. I’m a retired RN. I told my SD that no one cares about her sexuality but please don’t do anything to permanently alter your body. She turned 18 early this year and
1. Officially changed her name but hasn’t bothered to inform us of her new name
2. Despite being a cutter she now has a “piercing regime”. She has the obligatory septum piercing!
3. Tattoos to cover her cutting marks
4. She’s stated she wants nothing to do with me for the foreseeable future and that I am responsible for her eating disorder (we had her ONE weekend a month & her mother took her to dieticians, got bloods taken etc all behind our back!)
5. She’s blamed ME not her domestically violent mother for her mental health issues.
I’ve found these resources for my hubby through Dr Az because other than seeing her at her brother’s high school grad next year and supporting my husband and stepson at her funeral from liver cancer in about a decade, I’m not dealing with her. She’s dead to me!
If you haven’t seen the WPATH files thread @shellenberger you should check them out.
I’m mourning the loss of a bright, beautiful girl who’s turned into a manipulative, selfish beast that I don’t recognise who lies and manipulates everyone.
Home school, continue to call these creeps and idiot tyrants what they are, and we’ll all strive to put this pervert sickness back where it belongs.
"My son suddenly, out of nowhere, self-diagnosed himself as trans at age 15. I realized he thought he was trans because he was quirky and socially awkward and had been bullied in middle school."
Just substitute "daughter" for son and you have my story. I am a school counselor, and I feel your pain. I had to tread extremely lightly when I was working. I recently went to a job interview where they threw me a trans scenario. It's scary, confusing and pressurized to be working in the schools these days. I was shamed by a teacher over accidentally calling our daughter her given name. Our daughter said she required a 20-minute lecture by her teacher about whether I was respecting her. My daughter spat out a threat that I had better remember to use her chosen name. The shame on parents is immense. As a counselor I could often pull staff aside off the record and many agreed that what was going on was insanity, but all were afraid to lose their jobs.
Dr Az said that many transgender people especially if autistic or on the spectrum gain comfort from”passing” as the other sex. Thus misgendering or deadnaming proves they’re not passing which then hurts their fragile, young egos. If you haven’t seen it, get on YouTube and watch Heretics with Andrew Gold where he interviews Dr Az. It is a really good interview. Also Trigonometry Raw with Konstantin Kissin and Frances Foster have had Helen Joyce on a couple of times as well as a few of the nurses from the Tavistock Clinic. Definitely worth a look.
Well this parent was clearly feeling very disempowered when she wrote this. She apparently felt like she had less power in the situation than her son AND the school, even though the opposite was true.
It's a good reminder, that among the first things we must do to respond to or prepare for situations like this is remind ourselves that We Are In Charge, that We Know Best, and to believe in ourselves, in our instincts and our knowledge of our kid, and in our ability to lead our kid to a healthier place, even when we realize there are major things that we missed.
If we are unable to do those things, everything else pretty much becomes impossible.
Education and Learning. These are the most important tools everyone needs. The USA supports these tools and our children are privileged to these tools. However, the school system has now changed because of the trans ideology. The people in charge of our children’s education and learning process have been influenced and are wearing blinders. Sex education has been moved to the forefront and innocent minds are being exposed to adult concepts. This is child abuse! I cannot trust the education system any more and I fear for my granddaughter who will start kindergarten this fall. Her parents know her - not the teachers or principal - yet they have all the control over what she will be taught, even if it means confusing her about her own body. I hate the trans cult. I am helpless and must watch from afar to see if my darling granddaughter gets pushed into the rabbit hole one day. I ache inside and pray constantly. When will this nightmare end?
The groomers in the education system have behaved in such an unforgivable fashion because they knew the ideology to which they adhered was ascendant, and that made them (pardon the expression) bullet-proof. I imagine they never envisioned parents joining TERFs and detransitioners in the trenches, and the cultural tide turning against them. Suffice to say, I wish they all face Karma somewhere down the road.
It is happening. No denials possible. We have the Cass Report from U. K.
We also have reports coming out in USA.
Johanna Olson, MD is a pediatrician in the Division of Adolescent Medicine at Children's Hospital Los Angeles and Medical Director of the hospital's Center for Transyouth Health and Development.
“The Committee on Oversight and Accountability is conducting oversight of the National Institutes of Health (NIH) grant of $9.7 million to an ongoing research project titled, ‘The Impact of Early Medical Treatment in Transgender Youth,’” wrote McClain. “We are alarmed that the project’s principal investigator, Dr. Johanna Olson-Kennedy, is withholding publication of the project’s research findings which cast doubt on the efficacy of the ‘gender affirming’ model, because she believes the findings could be ‘weaponized’ by critics of transgender medical interventions for children.”
https://oversight.house.gov/release/mcclain-probes-9-7-million-taxpayer-funded-study-buried-by-activist-researcher-on-puberty-blockers%EF%BF%BC/
TY for sharing this. More people need to know what she is doing with the medicalization of minors and destroying families so she can profit off the ideology.
I started speaking to my school board two years ago. Haven't stopped. God Bless.
And God bless you. ❣️
It irks me to no end the people who deny this is happening because they somehow some way have their kids in a normal school.
Perfect article.
A high school teacher told me I needed to get my kid to stop it if I didn't like it. They follow whatever the child says regarding names and pronouns and anything that goes along with it. This was some years ago. It really does mess with their minds and set them up for medicalization at the hands of the Frankenstein quacks who do it for $$.
That teacher was failing to respect your rights as a parent to direct your kid's mental health care.
When we complained about the situation - after learning about it - the school changed it's policy to be pro Gender Ideology instead of respecting our rights as parents and our kid's health. The above was an appeal I made to a teacher after that.
This can mask some very unhealthy things happening with a small group of children... and can provide cover for bad actors of all ages.
That sucks, I'm sorry. Were you able to regain any control over your kid's school-hours life?
No. Thank you though.
She's beyond college now so we were on the earlyish side of all this and shocked when it hit. We tried hard to fight it but were on the losing side of things back then.
She's recently begun testosterone gel. :-( Has a small co-pay. Loves us again though.
If you listen to episode 44 of The Dark Side of the Rainbow from Gays Against Groomers about the Teachers Union you will understand why this happens. Teachers are in a tough position. As a former teacher who became a whistleblower many years ago I know what happens when teachers try to stand up and say that something is wrong.
Thanks for the reference, that looks like an interesting podcast.
Whenever I read a story like this I wonder where these affirming individuals will be when the tide turns on this travesty. Will they squeal that they "didn't know " that "being kind" would cause so much devastation? Will they deny their involvement in the harms being done?
They'll do what narcissists always do: ignore the question, accuse you of actually being the problem, verbally escalate and claim victim status. More people will see them for what they are, but they will never admit to having been wrong or having gone along with a stupid and harmful trend
Yep! That's exactly what I would expect! When it comes to the aftermath it will be the much vilified parents who will be obliged to pick up the pieces.
The real horror will be how the parents who went along with it behave once it's no longer fashionable or 'virtuous' - especially how they behave towards their own kids
I can't help but think some parents go along who really don't agree with it, but have been scared into affirming by the suicide threat. And others are simply acting on what is the near-unanimous medical and psychological advice of our time.
Surely not every "affirming" parent is thrilled to have a trans-identified child so they can virtue-signal.
I feel for parents of children who self-identify (or should one say they are convinced to self-id?) First there's the explosive revelation by the child after months of lying, Then there's the emotional blackmail by the "therapist" or some other "expert"- the threat of suicide if the kid doesn't get His/Her way. Of course, there is also CPS which threatens to remove kids from the home when parents resist. Parents have been robbed of all authority- they just get to go along with the insanity and they are ultimately obliged to clear up the mess.
100%. The idea that someone is 'self identifying' after being exposed to months or years of intense brainwashing is as insidious as the idea that 'gender affirming care' saves lives because there is the constant suggestion that a person might kill themselves if they don't get it. It seems to me like weaponised Neuro linguistic programming, whereby ideas are planted by repetition but those doing the repeating insist that they are just helping. There was a post on this Substack recently by a parent whose kid found it unsettling that he kept being asked if he was suicidal - cos no shit, if people keep saying the word 'suicide' to you, you're going to think about suicide
You're absolutely right about parents being scared into affirming their own kids by the unconscionable suicide threat - I'm sure they are praying for the nightmare to be over and for those responsible to be held to account. I meant the parents who might not have trans-identifying kids themselves, but who enthusiastically go along with it because they think it makes them good, tolerant (middle class) people.
The fact that the medical and psychological consensus encourages something so clearly harmful can only make people suspicious of those institutions. I don't have children but I feel awful for all the parents whose children have been told they have a condition that can be fixed with hormones and surgery, and who must be terrified of having their kids taken away if they resist the madness. It's pure evil.
Yup. That’s the boat I am in. None of my progressive friends understand why I don’t affirm my kid’s gender delusion. I get stern, reprimanding looks and even the occasional lecture.
They will forget all about it if it did not affect them personally.
Schools have betrayed parents and the children they "teach". Yes: "What these teachers are doing is causing irreversible mental and potentially physical harm to other people’s kids." And it is a full-pledge medical scandal now.
I am so sorry... this is really evil
Geneticist Baron Robert Winston states categorically we cannot change sex, canceled detransitioner Exulansic inventories those who have died trying on her Death List.
It depends to some degree on the laws where you are, but a good general thing to remember is that even when there are crazy woke laws on the books, a kid who feels like the opposite sex almost always has a diagnosable mental health condition.
And mental health care is the purview of the parent, not the school.
That is the ground upon which to assert our rights, in most scenarios.
"[Interrupts] We use ____ pronouns for {kid's name}."
"No, (his/her) pronouns are (his/her). That is my instruction to you as (his/her) parent. This is not up for discussion. If my child attempts to engage you in discussion on this matter, please redirect their attention to me about it."
"That is not a question that is in your purview. I will be happy to communicate that to you officially if needed, or have my attorney get in touch to help you understand. Let's please move on to what we're supposed to be talking about here."
A key thing to remember: Do Not Explain, Do Not Justify. They are not entitled to an explanation of matters that are not in their purview; do not concede that ground to them.
Not. Their. Business. They must stay in their lane, as educators.
The thing is, we have to be well-prepared to back those boundaries up before we set them, meaning that if we suspect there's even the slightest chance at any resistance from the school staff, we MUST consult with a locally-knowledgeable source of legal information beforehand, and be ready with an action plan that addresses all potential scenarios of response from the school.
Of course, the best approach is the proactive one, where we get ahead of any potential issues at whatever appropriate regular parent-school meetings are taking place.
If the kid has an IEP, make it part of it.
If needed, find a therapist or better yet Psychologist who we are POSITIVE thinks the gender stuff is nonsense, and get from them a letter addressed to the school or To Whom It May Concern asserting that the kid is under treatment for ____ and our instructed pronouns/name/whatever for them to use are PART OF THE TREATMENT and their cooperation is requested/required.
And finally, we have to know that if we have the misfortune to run into a true zealot, it's quite possible that they will file a frivolous report with the state child services agency accusing us of abuse.
And at some point, it may make sense simply to home-school rather than fight the school.
Yes, but who would you be having that conversation with? Hopefully no one at the school, because you are maintaining an appropriate boundary with them. Any discussion of therapy is outside their purview.
The trans cult loves to bog people down with endless debates over the minutia of language. It’s a trap. Don’t fall for it. You can’t control what language they use and they can’t control what language you use.
If you need a response or comeback, the best is “The only conversion going on is of young future gay kids being transitioned for not conforming to stereotypes of sex.”
Here’s the study to back that up, which showed that 88% of prepubescent boys who thought they were girls changed their minds by the end of puberty, and most turned out gay:
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.632784/full
Experientially, many LGBs report going through a period of gender dysphoria when they were very young and trying to understand their own feelings and/or struggling with internalized homophobia.