Our son was four months old when my husband sent a registered letter to my parents' house where the baby and I were staying, stating that he no longer wanted to live with either of us. Immediately my thoughts went to three frozen embryos, brother or sister of our son, three potential human beings to whom I had the responsibility of giving a chance to live.
This trans cult ideology feeds the same poisonous lies to our innocent children no matter what country or continent they live on. The hatred, annoyance, lack of parental respect and back talking is mimicked by these confused children who suddenly feel empowered by saying they are “trans”. The schools encourage and support this behavior which places a painful wedge between the parent/child relationship. When our parenting authority was undermined by the very first person in authority (teacher, coach, principal, doctor, therapist) it caused a negative destructive ripple effect that has been felt around the world. We need to continue our fight, gather our strength from one another, and demand the respect we deserve! These are OUR children. God help us!
I would like to add some specifics to my previous comment.
The support groups which are run by laymen and LGBTQ Allies are a problem for me. My family attended a PFLAG group run by “trained” volunteers and “trained” teenagers ran the teen portion. It was a mouthpiece for all that is woke, trans and hedonistic. It had no basis in science and no mental health professional supervision. It was a gripe session, a cheering session for anyone who wanted to claim to be persecuted and an indoctrination soup that told my kid what to think and say. I only went because I wanted my kid to know I love her.
On the other hand, I have had more positive experiences with support groups lead by qualified mental health professionals. One that I recommend is the Gender Dysphoria Support Network. Meetings are directed by social workers.
I also had a social worker at the partial hospitalization program demand to know why I did not use my child’s chosen name and pronouns. I replied that my daughter’s symptoms got much worse, the more focus was put on gender. Furthermore, my child told me that I was only to use her given name and pronouns.
These are very difficult times to navigate. If something doesn’t sit right with you, pay attention!
I would ask any group:
How do you deal with Gender Dysphoria, comorbid mental health conditions, affirming and non-affirming issues, keeping the family together?
The world has gone mad. Hang in there friend. Don't give up hope. Live and take care of yourself, your future, your health, so that when your children see you being healthy, happy (I know it's hard to think that will ever come, but it will), they will see you as a stable and loving place to come back to. In the meantime, you have to go on. You are given this one life. Keep getting up and going. Show them what resilience, strength, and grace looks like.
"Beam Me Up Scotty" .... trans and their allies have infiltrated the law makers of society, parental rights now account for nothing. Better get building lots more residential care homes as it looks a danger now to be a fostercarer with the police knocking on your door should you use the wrong pronoun or "dead name ....psueudo-science wins ?
Oh I’m so sorry. My heart continually breaks for these children that we all raised in loving environments, and for us parents who have been vilified by them. Please know that you are not alone!
There were nine accusations including lifelong abuse and death threats. But police interview began with, -Do you have anything against trans people?- which says something about their need to interview.
Respond and investigate, definitely. But surely not arrest and jail in these circumstances. Usually the Police would have normally applied common sense and dismissed it as simply the normal teen/parent conflict, that's part of life. Especially without any corroborating evidence, of anything more. I know we don't know the salient facts but simply based on the OC. What a toxic, teen power move.
That's why more and more people are leaving the West and moving to countries that have traditional values, where 'gender' is not even a word in their vocabulary and respect, particularly for those older than you (even a twin 2 minutes older), reigns supreme and is embedded in the culture. Their scientists and medics are not in labs thinking of how to develop ways to deconstruct and dehumanise, the human race, by creating the next frankenstein style body.
There were nine accusations, including lifelong abuse and death threat. She is totally off her tree, foaming at the mouth with rage, I have glimpsed her rage it just is heart rendering and alarming. I am the only person who knows she is a woman which I suspect is the reason she cuts me off. She will have a job desisting if ever.
It's so incredibly tragic and my heart goes out to you and your daughter. Society created, enabled and has attempted to destroy the relationship between you and your child. Yes, your daughter (like my own daughter - minus the trans manifestation and version of narcissism) sees you as the light bearer of truth, which she is running away from right now.
I feel for you and I know the situation seems dire and irredeemable but please, don't give up hope. People can and have wrestled this dark 'stronghold' out of their bodies and minds, after years ie decades of being totally committed to this falsehood and they have lived to tell amazing testimonies. So please do keep hope very much alive. My thoughts are 100% with you & your daughter.
Thank you Nicki. I realize that this will require much resilience but that there is always hope. They say everything has a solution except for there's unfortunately a marriage coming up, -to a non binary- and we feel his family are exploitative.
Oh, I just can't with this 'non-binary' nonsense! It's like what is so incredibly wrong with simply just 'being you', particularly in the West, and not 'identifying' as anything.
Your story was excruciating to read. The sick power of this cult is astonishing, made all the more real by the fact that you have a Masters in Psychology and Research Methods and still fell for it. It's no wonder many regular Joe-public members accept the gender BS being shovelled so hard and fast we are all drowning in it. My husband and I have experienced hatred from our daughters over this, but did not have the police experience. I know many families have had police or social services come to their door just as you had.
I wasn't sure what you meant by, "And by the time my older daughter struck her little sister, my baby girl, considered me to be an evil, abusive, neglectful, and neglecting mother." I assume "struck her little sister" meant making her sister believe the gender lies and the evil "non-affirming" parent?
I hope you have a support group you can lean on. I've been in this fight for 2.5 years - one desisted kid, the other still dealing with multiple mental health issues, including a T identity. It's an exhausting road.
I'm so sorry to hear. I'm glad you're here with us on these threads, sharing what you know. It helps me as a non-parent to learn from parents here, and what you're going through, what this cult is doing to families. Sending you my best wishes. May your children finally wake up from this.
Speechless. I would definitely consider her behavior to be at least somewhat related to testosterone, but that doesn't change your experience. The wholesale destruction of our families is easily ignored because when you're instantly relegated to the "ignorant bigot" position, your suffering and trauma can't possibly matter.
Exactly! Again, it's that narcissistic characteristic of discarding those that can 'expose' the false image. Those that can expose the truth from the deluded and totally contrived narrative they've got away with presenting to everyone else.
I know what you mean and you are correct in that sense, only some people genuinely believe they are and I find it narcissistic. Most don't even have gender dysphoria -basically a wanting sense of self perception.
I am so very sorry. this is so evil. thank you for sharing. hang in there, sister.
Oh my god. I don't have any words. Good for you for sharing that HELL.
This trans cult ideology feeds the same poisonous lies to our innocent children no matter what country or continent they live on. The hatred, annoyance, lack of parental respect and back talking is mimicked by these confused children who suddenly feel empowered by saying they are “trans”. The schools encourage and support this behavior which places a painful wedge between the parent/child relationship. When our parenting authority was undermined by the very first person in authority (teacher, coach, principal, doctor, therapist) it caused a negative destructive ripple effect that has been felt around the world. We need to continue our fight, gather our strength from one another, and demand the respect we deserve! These are OUR children. God help us!
Unbelievable! I am so sorry. Please know that you’re not alone, Mom. You have done nothing wrong. This world is losing its mind! 💔
I would like to add some specifics to my previous comment.
The support groups which are run by laymen and LGBTQ Allies are a problem for me. My family attended a PFLAG group run by “trained” volunteers and “trained” teenagers ran the teen portion. It was a mouthpiece for all that is woke, trans and hedonistic. It had no basis in science and no mental health professional supervision. It was a gripe session, a cheering session for anyone who wanted to claim to be persecuted and an indoctrination soup that told my kid what to think and say. I only went because I wanted my kid to know I love her.
On the other hand, I have had more positive experiences with support groups lead by qualified mental health professionals. One that I recommend is the Gender Dysphoria Support Network. Meetings are directed by social workers.
I also had a social worker at the partial hospitalization program demand to know why I did not use my child’s chosen name and pronouns. I replied that my daughter’s symptoms got much worse, the more focus was put on gender. Furthermore, my child told me that I was only to use her given name and pronouns.
These are very difficult times to navigate. If something doesn’t sit right with you, pay attention!
I would ask any group:
How do you deal with Gender Dysphoria, comorbid mental health conditions, affirming and non-affirming issues, keeping the family together?
The world has gone mad. Hang in there friend. Don't give up hope. Live and take care of yourself, your future, your health, so that when your children see you being healthy, happy (I know it's hard to think that will ever come, but it will), they will see you as a stable and loving place to come back to. In the meantime, you have to go on. You are given this one life. Keep getting up and going. Show them what resilience, strength, and grace looks like.
There it is, enduring with resiliency and strength
"Beam Me Up Scotty" .... trans and their allies have infiltrated the law makers of society, parental rights now account for nothing. Better get building lots more residential care homes as it looks a danger now to be a fostercarer with the police knocking on your door should you use the wrong pronoun or "dead name ....psueudo-science wins ?
Exactly! It begs belief.
Oh I’m so sorry. My heart continually breaks for these children that we all raised in loving environments, and for us parents who have been vilified by them. Please know that you are not alone!
DYSTOPIAN!!!!
I know, right?! It's like a dystopian horror movie but it's actually real life!
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I cannot believe the police took you to jail. Shocking. Your story is very sad, and I am very sorry. This stuff makes no sense.
There were nine accusations including lifelong abuse and death threats. But police interview began with, -Do you have anything against trans people?- which says something about their need to interview.
Shocking!
They had a duty to respond to allegations
Respond and investigate, definitely. But surely not arrest and jail in these circumstances. Usually the Police would have normally applied common sense and dismissed it as simply the normal teen/parent conflict, that's part of life. Especially without any corroborating evidence, of anything more. I know we don't know the salient facts but simply based on the OC. What a toxic, teen power move.
That's why more and more people are leaving the West and moving to countries that have traditional values, where 'gender' is not even a word in their vocabulary and respect, particularly for those older than you (even a twin 2 minutes older), reigns supreme and is embedded in the culture. Their scientists and medics are not in labs thinking of how to develop ways to deconstruct and dehumanise, the human race, by creating the next frankenstein style body.
There were nine accusations, including lifelong abuse and death threat. She is totally off her tree, foaming at the mouth with rage, I have glimpsed her rage it just is heart rendering and alarming. I am the only person who knows she is a woman which I suspect is the reason she cuts me off. She will have a job desisting if ever.
It's so incredibly tragic and my heart goes out to you and your daughter. Society created, enabled and has attempted to destroy the relationship between you and your child. Yes, your daughter (like my own daughter - minus the trans manifestation and version of narcissism) sees you as the light bearer of truth, which she is running away from right now.
I feel for you and I know the situation seems dire and irredeemable but please, don't give up hope. People can and have wrestled this dark 'stronghold' out of their bodies and minds, after years ie decades of being totally committed to this falsehood and they have lived to tell amazing testimonies. So please do keep hope very much alive. My thoughts are 100% with you & your daughter.
Thank you Nicki. I realize that this will require much resilience but that there is always hope. They say everything has a solution except for there's unfortunately a marriage coming up, -to a non binary- and we feel his family are exploitative.
Oh, I just can't with this 'non-binary' nonsense! It's like what is so incredibly wrong with simply just 'being you', particularly in the West, and not 'identifying' as anything.
Your story was excruciating to read. The sick power of this cult is astonishing, made all the more real by the fact that you have a Masters in Psychology and Research Methods and still fell for it. It's no wonder many regular Joe-public members accept the gender BS being shovelled so hard and fast we are all drowning in it. My husband and I have experienced hatred from our daughters over this, but did not have the police experience. I know many families have had police or social services come to their door just as you had.
I wasn't sure what you meant by, "And by the time my older daughter struck her little sister, my baby girl, considered me to be an evil, abusive, neglectful, and neglecting mother." I assume "struck her little sister" meant making her sister believe the gender lies and the evil "non-affirming" parent?
I hope you have a support group you can lean on. I've been in this fight for 2.5 years - one desisted kid, the other still dealing with multiple mental health issues, including a T identity. It's an exhausting road.
I am very sorry to hear. My three children are totally captured too. It breaks communication.
I have a support group which has been absolutely fabulous, Ourduty. My kids look down on me for this.
I meant that my youngest was brainwashed for years by my trans daughter and believes I'm horrible.
I'm so sorry to hear. I'm glad you're here with us on these threads, sharing what you know. It helps me as a non-parent to learn from parents here, and what you're going through, what this cult is doing to families. Sending you my best wishes. May your children finally wake up from this.
Thanks a lot. I am glad I can make a difference.
Speechless. I would definitely consider her behavior to be at least somewhat related to testosterone, but that doesn't change your experience. The wholesale destruction of our families is easily ignored because when you're instantly relegated to the "ignorant bigot" position, your suffering and trauma can't possibly matter.
Actually the police said as much about her using testosterone, probably illegally.
My youngest daughter's secondary school think I am being rightly punished and yes, they might even consider me a moron.
Standing with you ......we all must keep shouting the truth!
Just doing that helps me to keep the pain of losing my child at bay.
They cut us off because we are the only person who knows best, that they aren't actually transgender.
Exactly! Again, it's that narcissistic characteristic of discarding those that can 'expose' the false image. Those that can expose the truth from the deluded and totally contrived narrative they've got away with presenting to everyone else.
No one is "actually transgender." No one. Nope. Not anyone's favorite friend because she's their favorite friend.
No one is born in the wrong body. No one is "transgender."
This lie doesn't stop until *we* stop propping it up.
The entire idea is a lie. There's no "nuance". It's just a lie.
Josh, you said exactly what needed to be said and what needs to be said more often.
I know what you mean and you are correct in that sense, only some people genuinely believe they are and I find it narcissistic. Most don't even have gender dysphoria -basically a wanting sense of self perception.
Wow, this is just horrifying, I am so sorry for your terrible experience here.
My heart bleeds for you and your children. I pray you find peace and forgiveness.