Others are suggesting that you prevent your child from going to college, that you force a gap year. Well, you are a better person than me if you achieve this. I wouldn't have been able to - an eighteen year old, set on going. And it wouldn't have improved anything, I am sure. It would only have made him dead set to go against what he knew I believed - that no one can change sex. I tried to go along with the whole thing because I love him and want him to be happy, but in the end I lost him. Haven't seen or heard from him for three years
I was thinking the same thing. Most of these kids are complaint never have to tell them no, and this comes along. And we say no and they run the other way. These kids share so many similarities but they are different kids. However we parents want to tell others what happened and not make the same mistakes. Again why THIS is so damn hard! I’m sorry I hope one day your child returns. 💔
I cried when I finished reading your story - wow! You are amazing, and I admire you. You give us all hope that our child can be rescued, and I hope and pray that your son can and has put the trans-ideology behind him. Many years ago, my sister was caught off guard with her son's statement "I am trans." She began the same research, reading, and studying that you did. She also is Mom Phd and she had to educate me, her husband, family, friends, and she became a huge advocate. I will forever be proud of her. You should be proud of yourself because you are still helping to educate people on the sub stack - thank you! I have been very weepy because of yesterday's church shooting in Minneapolis by a lost trans kid - as negative and horrible as his actions were, I hope and pray that the world will stop and think about the trans ideology and that the blame will be on the lack of mental health support and awareness in our country. A year or two ago, the Govenor of Minnesota made loud statements that all "Transgender people were welcome in his state, that they would be accepted, embraced, affirmed and respected." Well...what do you have to say now Govenor Tim Walz? Who are you going to blame now?
We went through this 4 years ago and are going through it again as our daughter enters her last year of college. She's still entrenched in the ideology, but we laid out the ground rules before she left for college AND we got a FERPA waiver so we can see whether she is still registered under the name we gave her. She has a boyfriend but they consider it a gay relationship. She's been in intense therapy for 5 years and we see some improvement in her emotional stability, but we've a long way to go. From one PhD to another, you have my heart and I hope your situation resolves more quickly than ours.
Your instincts are right. ROGD is not a thing. It is not rapid onset anything. It is Systematically Engineered Institutional and Social Brainwashing. Sorry, it doesn’t make for a cutsie acronym, but that is the real truth of the many headed monster we face. It’s important that we recognize so called ROGD for what it is and not be deceived into believing that our children have just been overtaken by some vague and not well understood medical or psychiatric condition. ROGD is a con. It is cooked up to get adults to buy into the idea that kids announcing that they are transgender right out of the blue is a genuine medical/mental health thing. It is not. It is contrived and engineered.
For each individual that is seduced by the transgender narrative, there is a seed that makes them susceptible to the narrative. It is a feeling that is part of a healthy human experience but it is hijacked into something it is not, and then an unsuspecting child is innocently led down the path.
No child is in the wrong body, and transition does nothing but wreck and ruin something that is divine, beautiful and sacred.
I couldn't agree more. Clarity and the will to fight back arrive when one finally comes to the realization that this has always been INTENTIONAL. That they actually HAVE "come for your children".
Thank you for sharing your story. I too have a graduate degree in this topic! Sometimes I wonder if consumption of this information to the degree that we parents are consuming, makes our mental health worse. I feel at times like I am desperately searching for that one tidbit that will get us out of this. But I’m afraid there is no tidbit. Sometimes I have to give myself a break.
If your son is still under 18, I would do everything possible to retrieve him while still a minor. Easy to say, hard to do, I know.
I am sure all of us parents by now know more about this issue than all our kids’ counselors, teachers and therapists combined. I’ve been studying for my degree in TRANS for nearly ten years now.
Did you read the recent article in Beyond Gender by Jonathan Blackwell? Be sure to read it. This is his website: https://www.soulempoweredlife.net/. His email address is:Jonathan@SoulEmpoweredLife.net. Contact him immediately to ask him to help you and your son. Please do not let your son go to college without having established a good therapy relationship with Jonathan. I truly believe that once your son goes to college with his current state of being trans, you will lose him because, in college, he will be heavily influenced by transgender activists.
i agree, college will undo everything you have so far accomplished in deprogramming your son. have him take a year off or community college or trade school. a liberal arts college is the worst possible scenario.
I would suggest forcing a gap year. In college, you won't be a constant presence. In college, there will be people who will have nothing better to do than love bomb your son with this ideology.
I absolutely agree with Gayle R. And, talk to Jonathan Blackwell. Force your child to do a gap year. Put him in an Outward Bound program. I have heard from a detransitioner I listened to through Genspect that this really helps to break the trans trance. The detransitioner was advising parents and recommended an Outward Bound experience. Another person detransitioned after getting away from his/her environment when hiking in the rockies. My son needed an Outward Bound self-exploration and confidence-building experience between high school and college. I realize now that he was so psychologically vulnerable after high school and in college.
Thank you for this; very enlightening read. I admire you for being so brave and aggressive in pursuing knowledge about this social contagion/cult. I believe you are well-equipped knowledge wise. There’s no doubt you love your child very much.
I’m also afraid and very scared because I have a child who’s been in this trans madness for years now; afraid of what she’s gonna do; she’s an adult now and been for a few years. I call it delusional mindset. My unwavering faith in our Lord keeps me going and the thing that her dad and I do is to keep her constantly engaged especially with her love of music and playing her instrument; taking lessons which keeps her away from her room. We as a family, go out every weekend; watch concerts now and then and keep conversations and jokes going but avoiding the big elephant in the room although her dad is more vocal than I am.
It’s a very stressful and heartbreaking situation; may God bless us all and keep our precious children out of harm’s way❤️.
I feel the same way. Please be sure to read my message below about Jonathan Blackwell. He may be able to help your child to overcome trans ideology and detransition.
“I don’t think I, or anyone else has the right to decide who is or isn’t a woman. So I leave it for them to decide, and I trust in what they tell me”
“Your idea of gender and sex doesn’t get to step over mine or anyone elses. I don’t want to make you think the same way I do, I want you to let everyone think for themselves”
I have a PhD in this subject too. I even created a website resource page. https://lisashultz.com
And you gave me more resources to check out and perhaps add to the page I created. And none of my research or personal experience has converted me to see "trans" as a positive choice for our kids or direction for our society. I write on Substack, and I talk with people about the subject. And I'm getting better about articulating the topic in a way that some people can hear.
Sometimes I'm exhausted by it all, and I take a break. But let's all keep doing what we can to move the dial to change the culture for all families everywhere. It is too important to quit. Hang on everyone!
I would add those two books How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion and How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide Book.
Giving kids facts and sharing detrans stories only makes them dive deeper into their beliefs!
Exactly parents often try to change their kids minds! Don’t take hormones, don’t cut off your body parts, don’t drink at parties, don’t pick that college, don’t pick that career because (insert facts).
Facts don’t work. I found these books explain how to approach everyone with the topic of trans very eye opening.
A friend of mine gave me the idea of submitting a list of books on trans to my local library in an effort to oppose the pro-trans books at bookstores and libraries and as a way to educate the public on the harms of trans ideology. (BY THE WAY, TO ANY OF YOU WHO ARE LISTENING, PLEASE RECOMMEND ANY BOOKS THAT TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT TRANS TO YOUR LOCAL LIBRARY SO THAT THEY WILL AT LEAST CHOOSE ONE OF YOUR RECOMMENDATIONS FOR THEIR COLLECTION. THIS WILL HELP THE PUBLIC TO BECOME EDUCATED ON THE REALISTIC TRUTH.) So, I went to the library and learned how to 'suggest' books for their collection which meant that I had to submit information on each book via their website. Later, I asked the library about what happened to my suggestions, that is, I wondered if any of these books had been accepted into their collection, I was told that only ONE book out of the six I had suggested would be purchased by the library and placed in their collection. And, guess what? The book they chose was YOUR book, The Trans Train.
I am working with a few people on the idea of suggesting these books to all of the libraries in our county and the neighboring county. We need to create a team of people who can help us to make this happen. Each person can contact one or two libraries to find out how they can recommend these books for the library collection. And, your book will be on the list. I hope that other people who are reading this comment will do the same in their communities.
I’ve been walking the same path. I feel your pain. It’s so hard. Hang in there. Sending you healing thoughts and hope for your child to wake up sooner than later. 🤗
Wow! Way to go, Mom! Thank you for all that!
Yep that is correct we are all PhD of Trans U thanks to the Obergefell v. Hodges opening this pandora box
Others are suggesting that you prevent your child from going to college, that you force a gap year. Well, you are a better person than me if you achieve this. I wouldn't have been able to - an eighteen year old, set on going. And it wouldn't have improved anything, I am sure. It would only have made him dead set to go against what he knew I believed - that no one can change sex. I tried to go along with the whole thing because I love him and want him to be happy, but in the end I lost him. Haven't seen or heard from him for three years
I was thinking the same thing. Most of these kids are complaint never have to tell them no, and this comes along. And we say no and they run the other way. These kids share so many similarities but they are different kids. However we parents want to tell others what happened and not make the same mistakes. Again why THIS is so damn hard! I’m sorry I hope one day your child returns. 💔
I cried when I finished reading your story - wow! You are amazing, and I admire you. You give us all hope that our child can be rescued, and I hope and pray that your son can and has put the trans-ideology behind him. Many years ago, my sister was caught off guard with her son's statement "I am trans." She began the same research, reading, and studying that you did. She also is Mom Phd and she had to educate me, her husband, family, friends, and she became a huge advocate. I will forever be proud of her. You should be proud of yourself because you are still helping to educate people on the sub stack - thank you! I have been very weepy because of yesterday's church shooting in Minneapolis by a lost trans kid - as negative and horrible as his actions were, I hope and pray that the world will stop and think about the trans ideology and that the blame will be on the lack of mental health support and awareness in our country. A year or two ago, the Govenor of Minnesota made loud statements that all "Transgender people were welcome in his state, that they would be accepted, embraced, affirmed and respected." Well...what do you have to say now Govenor Tim Walz? Who are you going to blame now?
We went through this 4 years ago and are going through it again as our daughter enters her last year of college. She's still entrenched in the ideology, but we laid out the ground rules before she left for college AND we got a FERPA waiver so we can see whether she is still registered under the name we gave her. She has a boyfriend but they consider it a gay relationship. She's been in intense therapy for 5 years and we see some improvement in her emotional stability, but we've a long way to go. From one PhD to another, you have my heart and I hope your situation resolves more quickly than ours.
Your instincts are right. ROGD is not a thing. It is not rapid onset anything. It is Systematically Engineered Institutional and Social Brainwashing. Sorry, it doesn’t make for a cutsie acronym, but that is the real truth of the many headed monster we face. It’s important that we recognize so called ROGD for what it is and not be deceived into believing that our children have just been overtaken by some vague and not well understood medical or psychiatric condition. ROGD is a con. It is cooked up to get adults to buy into the idea that kids announcing that they are transgender right out of the blue is a genuine medical/mental health thing. It is not. It is contrived and engineered.
For each individual that is seduced by the transgender narrative, there is a seed that makes them susceptible to the narrative. It is a feeling that is part of a healthy human experience but it is hijacked into something it is not, and then an unsuspecting child is innocently led down the path.
No child is in the wrong body, and transition does nothing but wreck and ruin something that is divine, beautiful and sacred.
I couldn't agree more. Clarity and the will to fight back arrive when one finally comes to the realization that this has always been INTENTIONAL. That they actually HAVE "come for your children".
Thank you for sharing your story. I too have a graduate degree in this topic! Sometimes I wonder if consumption of this information to the degree that we parents are consuming, makes our mental health worse. I feel at times like I am desperately searching for that one tidbit that will get us out of this. But I’m afraid there is no tidbit. Sometimes I have to give myself a break.
If your son is still under 18, I would do everything possible to retrieve him while still a minor. Easy to say, hard to do, I know.
Sending you some peace.
I am sure all of us parents by now know more about this issue than all our kids’ counselors, teachers and therapists combined. I’ve been studying for my degree in TRANS for nearly ten years now.
An education that none of us ever wanted!
Did you read the recent article in Beyond Gender by Jonathan Blackwell? Be sure to read it. This is his website: https://www.soulempoweredlife.net/. His email address is:Jonathan@SoulEmpoweredLife.net. Contact him immediately to ask him to help you and your son. Please do not let your son go to college without having established a good therapy relationship with Jonathan. I truly believe that once your son goes to college with his current state of being trans, you will lose him because, in college, he will be heavily influenced by transgender activists.
i agree, college will undo everything you have so far accomplished in deprogramming your son. have him take a year off or community college or trade school. a liberal arts college is the worst possible scenario.
Definitely. Take the advice from those of us who have sent their kids to college and have learned just what Asa is saying.
I would suggest forcing a gap year. In college, you won't be a constant presence. In college, there will be people who will have nothing better to do than love bomb your son with this ideology.
I absolutely agree with Gayle R. And, talk to Jonathan Blackwell. Force your child to do a gap year. Put him in an Outward Bound program. I have heard from a detransitioner I listened to through Genspect that this really helps to break the trans trance. The detransitioner was advising parents and recommended an Outward Bound experience. Another person detransitioned after getting away from his/her environment when hiking in the rockies. My son needed an Outward Bound self-exploration and confidence-building experience between high school and college. I realize now that he was so psychologically vulnerable after high school and in college.
Thank you for this; very enlightening read. I admire you for being so brave and aggressive in pursuing knowledge about this social contagion/cult. I believe you are well-equipped knowledge wise. There’s no doubt you love your child very much.
I’m also afraid and very scared because I have a child who’s been in this trans madness for years now; afraid of what she’s gonna do; she’s an adult now and been for a few years. I call it delusional mindset. My unwavering faith in our Lord keeps me going and the thing that her dad and I do is to keep her constantly engaged especially with her love of music and playing her instrument; taking lessons which keeps her away from her room. We as a family, go out every weekend; watch concerts now and then and keep conversations and jokes going but avoiding the big elephant in the room although her dad is more vocal than I am.
It’s a very stressful and heartbreaking situation; may God bless us all and keep our precious children out of harm’s way❤️.
I feel the same way. Please be sure to read my message below about Jonathan Blackwell. He may be able to help your child to overcome trans ideology and detransition.
A real PhD would be a cake-walk compared to this.
YES, there would be no crying in bed about your child!
What did he say after you said, “no, do you?” Don’t keep us in suspense!
“I don’t think I, or anyone else has the right to decide who is or isn’t a woman. So I leave it for them to decide, and I trust in what they tell me”
“Your idea of gender and sex doesn’t get to step over mine or anyone elses. I don’t want to make you think the same way I do, I want you to let everyone think for themselves”
Love it. Best wishes from the mother of a desister.
I have a PhD in this subject too. I even created a website resource page. https://lisashultz.com
And you gave me more resources to check out and perhaps add to the page I created. And none of my research or personal experience has converted me to see "trans" as a positive choice for our kids or direction for our society. I write on Substack, and I talk with people about the subject. And I'm getting better about articulating the topic in a way that some people can hear.
Sometimes I'm exhausted by it all, and I take a break. But let's all keep doing what we can to move the dial to change the culture for all families everywhere. It is too important to quit. Hang on everyone!
https://youtu.be/eR42M1phjSM?si=GTC_MUCbXOlj500a
Ha!
I would add those two books How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion and How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide Book.
Giving kids facts and sharing detrans stories only makes them dive deeper into their beliefs!
The books are meant more for parents and others interested in the subject, not the kids who identify as trans.
Exactly parents often try to change their kids minds! Don’t take hormones, don’t cut off your body parts, don’t drink at parties, don’t pick that college, don’t pick that career because (insert facts).
Facts don’t work. I found these books explain how to approach everyone with the topic of trans very eye opening.
I like your use of "eye opening". Goes well with my Substack handle!
TY for the link to your resources page. I highly encourage folks take a look. It’s sincerely a well researched and exhaustive list.
A friend of mine gave me the idea of submitting a list of books on trans to my local library in an effort to oppose the pro-trans books at bookstores and libraries and as a way to educate the public on the harms of trans ideology. (BY THE WAY, TO ANY OF YOU WHO ARE LISTENING, PLEASE RECOMMEND ANY BOOKS THAT TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT TRANS TO YOUR LOCAL LIBRARY SO THAT THEY WILL AT LEAST CHOOSE ONE OF YOUR RECOMMENDATIONS FOR THEIR COLLECTION. THIS WILL HELP THE PUBLIC TO BECOME EDUCATED ON THE REALISTIC TRUTH.) So, I went to the library and learned how to 'suggest' books for their collection which meant that I had to submit information on each book via their website. Later, I asked the library about what happened to my suggestions, that is, I wondered if any of these books had been accepted into their collection, I was told that only ONE book out of the six I had suggested would be purchased by the library and placed in their collection. And, guess what? The book they chose was YOUR book, The Trans Train.
Wow. Thank you for suggesting it. I'm a bit shocked they chose it.
It's a good thing you wrote your book!!!! It clearly has an impact!!!
I don't get feedback often, so that is good to hear.
I am working with a few people on the idea of suggesting these books to all of the libraries in our county and the neighboring county. We need to create a team of people who can help us to make this happen. Each person can contact one or two libraries to find out how they can recommend these books for the library collection. And, your book will be on the list. I hope that other people who are reading this comment will do the same in their communities.
If you'll be at the conference in Albuquerque, I hope to see you there!
Hang in there. Senior year is very hard. I hope your son wakes up and comes to his senses very soon. Hugs.
I’ve been walking the same path. I feel your pain. It’s so hard. Hang in there. Sending you healing thoughts and hope for your child to wake up sooner than later. 🤗