I could have written this a hundred times. You capture the hearts of us moms, and dads. It would be easier to forget and move on. But we keep waiting, hoping, praying. When no one is else is left, you will be there. Hang in there friend.
You're welcome. If you must respond, make sure he knows that you're here for him. They can push us away but the loving bonds with our children will always tie us together. Someday (I hope), after he's experienced his chosen school of hard knocks, he might just return as your prodigal son.
You are not alone as you wait for your wayward child to come to their senses. My son gave me an extra long hug a year and a half ago before he spent a semester in Australia. It was during that time that I believe he began his transition. He probably knew but I had absolutely no clue. He hasn't had contact with us for 15 months. I fluctuate from horror to grief to shock to just plain feeling empty. I trust in the God of the Bible to have a perfect plan for us in this very imperfect world. There is no other place I can turn to for hope.
Sad words from a broken 💔 with a lucid mind from a parent who has a deep love for their kid and enough self respect to not espouse the gender lies.
Talking about "respect", it's one of those many words that have been hijacked by the trans cult. In my book, respect has 2 sides. First, human value based : everyone deserves respect ( I prefer the word " deserve" to the more charged term of "entitled ") just for being a precious human being created in God's image. Second, behavior based : respect is earned from exhibiting behaviors associated with being among the adults in the room. When someone's offspring (of any age) discards scientific, accurate and potentially life saving documentation, shared out of love and concern, about the terribly harmful effects of transition at any stage, and call it " disinformation" as instructed to do so by the cult creed, or demand parents to "change their mind" as a trantruming toddler would or risk verbal abuse and being ignored or disowned, then true respect needs to take the shape of unconditional love and gentle but firm guidance while standing my ground instead of affirming my precious offspring's obnoxious immaturity posing as "adult wisdom" and its ensuing devastating life "choices". Many times, the great concept of "agreeing to disagree" in the trans identifying mind is best described as "get in line with my delusion or get ghosted" on top of being labeled an intolerant bigot. I know. I did just that.
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I'll say it again: true love doesn't lie, it doesn't crave social recognition, true love doesn't harm or participate in harming.
No parent, deserving of that name would stay idle and silent on the sidelines while their kid (of any age) is joyfully running down a hill towards a deadly cliff.
Manipulation of the parents, in the name of "respect", to get them to accept the unacceptable and comply with the insanity and the associated devastation of their beloved kiddos (of any age) is NEVER ok.
Birth gender affirming parents, you get it right. Don't let compassionate misguidance tell you otherwise. And keep standing up for those you love even if you're the last one standing. And keep walking that lonely and counter current path even if you're walking alone.
( The good news is that in 2024, you're no longer alone and the tide is turning)
I could have written this a hundred times. You capture the hearts of us moms, and dads. It would be easier to forget and move on. But we keep waiting, hoping, praying. When no one is else is left, you will be there. Hang in there friend.
I'm so sorry. My heart aches for you. Stay strong. 🙏
Thank you Helene for your wise advice to us grieving parents.
You're welcome. If you must respond, make sure he knows that you're here for him. They can push us away but the loving bonds with our children will always tie us together. Someday (I hope), after he's experienced his chosen school of hard knocks, he might just return as your prodigal son.
I’m glad for you …it’s baby steps now but congratulations you got him back at least! Blessings and good luck to you 🙏❤️
This is so true. We need to keep their history alive so that one day they will come back to us and remember the truth and our love for them.
This rang true for me too; this grief is so hard. Hope and faith are all we have, at times
I felt every word of this. These are my thoughts and feelings, too. God bless you. I hope your daughter returns soon. 💗🙏🏼
You are not alone as you wait for your wayward child to come to their senses. My son gave me an extra long hug a year and a half ago before he spent a semester in Australia. It was during that time that I believe he began his transition. He probably knew but I had absolutely no clue. He hasn't had contact with us for 15 months. I fluctuate from horror to grief to shock to just plain feeling empty. I trust in the God of the Bible to have a perfect plan for us in this very imperfect world. There is no other place I can turn to for hope.
That's so painful Elise. I pray he will miss you intensely, and understand that you love him more than anyone, and return to you.
Sad words from a broken 💔 with a lucid mind from a parent who has a deep love for their kid and enough self respect to not espouse the gender lies.
Talking about "respect", it's one of those many words that have been hijacked by the trans cult. In my book, respect has 2 sides. First, human value based : everyone deserves respect ( I prefer the word " deserve" to the more charged term of "entitled ") just for being a precious human being created in God's image. Second, behavior based : respect is earned from exhibiting behaviors associated with being among the adults in the room. When someone's offspring (of any age) discards scientific, accurate and potentially life saving documentation, shared out of love and concern, about the terribly harmful effects of transition at any stage, and call it " disinformation" as instructed to do so by the cult creed, or demand parents to "change their mind" as a trantruming toddler would or risk verbal abuse and being ignored or disowned, then true respect needs to take the shape of unconditional love and gentle but firm guidance while standing my ground instead of affirming my precious offspring's obnoxious immaturity posing as "adult wisdom" and its ensuing devastating life "choices". Many times, the great concept of "agreeing to disagree" in the trans identifying mind is best described as "get in line with my delusion or get ghosted" on top of being labeled an intolerant bigot. I know. I did just that.
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I'll say it again: true love doesn't lie, it doesn't crave social recognition, true love doesn't harm or participate in harming.
No parent, deserving of that name would stay idle and silent on the sidelines while their kid (of any age) is joyfully running down a hill towards a deadly cliff.
Manipulation of the parents, in the name of "respect", to get them to accept the unacceptable and comply with the insanity and the associated devastation of their beloved kiddos (of any age) is NEVER ok.
Birth gender affirming parents, you get it right. Don't let compassionate misguidance tell you otherwise. And keep standing up for those you love even if you're the last one standing. And keep walking that lonely and counter current path even if you're walking alone.
( The good news is that in 2024, you're no longer alone and the tide is turning)
Sabbremom,
Thank you for those warm, sad, yet lovely words. It’s like a poetic hug.
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Beautiful, well said and heartbreaking.
❤️❤️Beautiful
Keep hope and keep praying.
A bit off topic, but I found this essay on puberty blockers by Substack reporter “A Midwestern Doctor” to be very insightful.
https://www.midwesterndoctor.com/p/puberty-blockers-are-incredibly-dangerous?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web