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Beautiful. I'll never stop reaching out and praying she grabs my hand to help her out of this. Never.

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Thankyou for your response I will hold on to hope and I will never stop. Also to you and your daughter my most fervent wish is that they are all saved from the brink of this madness.

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Powerful, gripping, painful and the truth. This is exactly what is happening. Once the momentum gets started it is impossible to stop it. Do not give up your hope, your child still needs you even though he/she may not realize it now. All of these children connected to PITT are taking horrible tumbles and they will hit the bottom and it will hurt. We can only stand helplessly at the top of the stairs and wait for them to land, to look up at us, and need our help once again.

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Keep fighting. Keep showing, living and sharing your values. Don’t be afraid to be annoying. Plant seeds and nurture saplings but don’t expect trees. Just because your child doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean you aren’t reaching your child. Trust. Time heals. Hoping all these kids see the light.

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When my daughter fell down the stairs at three years, I rushed her to a doctor and in my first-time-mom-fog didn't realize until later that the doctor had been asking me probing questions throughout the exam ...about how the fall had happened. If he'd gotten the message I was hiding something there would have been a call to CPS for abuse. As there should have been. Now, in my state (WA), if the doctor, or teacher or neighbor saw a parent trying to save their child from falling down the trans stairs what would happen?

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Oh my goodness! This is heart rending and so beautifully articulated. I know this so profoundly in every cell of my body and it is exactly how I feel as I watch my wonderful 18 year old daughter start her first course of Testosterone today!!! She is so excited as she actually said to me she just “knows” it will solve all her “perceived” problems. My poor baby! I feel sick!

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Letting go is the hardest thing, but it's also the most necesssary thing... for both of you. Be certain that you are doing the right thing by letting go... Be as graceful as you can, while still loving and let the chosen chips fall where they may. This is their life. They are living it. You do not have to. You cannot. They must. May the beauty of holiness reach your loved one and change their path.

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😔

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So heartbreaking!💔🙏

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That’s exactly what my son yelled to me when he left my home.... “let me go”

This poem brought me to tears. I miss my son so much.

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Lovely and tragic.

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These words cut deep. So Heartbreaking because we are living this nightmare of watching our children fall and we are helpless to stop their life altering decisions AND we are not allowed to intervene, which is our job to keep them safe from harm, or to grieve the loss. I can’t think of another situation in which loving parents try to get their child help and are called abusive AND there is nowhere to go to get help for the child or the parents.

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This made me cry so hard because it is so true. And somehow they have convinced our kids and themselves that the parent is abusive if they tried to prevent the fall, hateful if they try to catch you and didn’t try hard enough if you fell all the way and got hurt. Sobbing right now. I want to hug every single parent out there right who is doing their best. I know you are doing everything you can. Don’t give up.

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Very powerful! I am sorry for you and the rest of us with the same pain.

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That's powerful. I'm so sorry.

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