Daycare(and schools, in general) ...where they are digging into the kids heads about feelins and emotions...
Also, you said before that there is too much relying on the parent instead of the village. This contrasts with your comment here that we are sending them off to daycare...the village. So you simultaneously believe we are relying o…
Daycare(and schools, in general) ...where they are digging into the kids heads about feelins and emotions...
Also, you said before that there is too much relying on the parent instead of the village. This contrasts with your comment here that we are sending them off to daycare...the village. So you simultaneously believe we are relying on the parent too much while also saying we rely on the village (daycare) too much.
I 100% believe that we rely on daycare too much and that kids need to be at home with their parents. While I believe that kind of nurturing is important and needs to increase BADLY, I do not agree that we need to continue this sissifying and feminization of boys. That is part of the problem.
Daycare = serial losses, low-paid strangers; same-age peers.
Village = kin, intimacy, neighbors, multi-age peers... a natural network that surrounds Mom, well known people, concording values. Village is totally different.
Why is sissifying or feminizing that I suggest?
I raised two feeling, sharing, lap-time boys and have two manly men at 25 and 31.
People need to learn how to cope with their *feelings*. It's called Emotional Self Regulation and it is the CORE of feeling a confident sense of self. It's a human skill that boys and girls both need. Boys have a harder time learning it because they have slower neurological maturation.
My sissifying comment was due to you saying boys are being robbed of nurture by "macho, tough it out" values.
Yes, you can teach kids how to cope without tinkering in their brains all day, like schools are doing with things like SEL, for instance. You can also teach coping without babying and feminizing them. We did it throughout all of life before now.
A secure attachment for Boys results in Compassionate & Empathic Men.
The “SEL” being done in Schools - Is Manipulation being done by People who don’t know anything about Child Development.
These people could supervise Play making sure no anxious preoccupied or avoidant/disorganized kid gets bullied or becomes overly aggressive to a Peer but doing the “Privilege” walks etc is Pure Manipulation.
I did all my work with poor Rural White Boys. They are Doing just as Poorly as Inner city Black Kids.
Even Alicia Lieberman put out a paper that shows that Race and Poverty isn’t the deciding factor. So did Stephen Soumi and James Heckman.
The difference is the quality of Maternal Attachment aka Maternal Care.
Yes, Prescott looked at the anthropological studies in tribes showing that a permissive sexual attitude in adolescence provides the last 20 percent of variance in violent societies. Okay, let’s look at that. BUT what is being done in school (by people who in my mind are engaging in incredibly unethical behavior such as keeping secrets from parents, cross dressing kids, keeping a separate medical record) IS NOT what he was referring to.
Messages are being given to white kids that are not at all subtle that scream, “You are a Bad Person for Being White & Male. You are NO GOOD as you are.”
This is absolutely NOT APPROPRIATE! There are kids coming to school from families riddled with Violence and Abuse only to be Abused even more by adults with an Abusive, Manipulative, Malevolent Agenda. This is not what school is for.
I want a non-violent society. This is achieved by providing a secure attachment with safety & love to all children.
Daycare(and schools, in general) ...where they are digging into the kids heads about feelins and emotions...
Also, you said before that there is too much relying on the parent instead of the village. This contrasts with your comment here that we are sending them off to daycare...the village. So you simultaneously believe we are relying on the parent too much while also saying we rely on the village (daycare) too much.
I 100% believe that we rely on daycare too much and that kids need to be at home with their parents. While I believe that kind of nurturing is important and needs to increase BADLY, I do not agree that we need to continue this sissifying and feminization of boys. That is part of the problem.
Daycare = serial losses, low-paid strangers; same-age peers.
Village = kin, intimacy, neighbors, multi-age peers... a natural network that surrounds Mom, well known people, concording values. Village is totally different.
Why is sissifying or feminizing that I suggest?
I raised two feeling, sharing, lap-time boys and have two manly men at 25 and 31.
People need to learn how to cope with their *feelings*. It's called Emotional Self Regulation and it is the CORE of feeling a confident sense of self. It's a human skill that boys and girls both need. Boys have a harder time learning it because they have slower neurological maturation.
My sissifying comment was due to you saying boys are being robbed of nurture by "macho, tough it out" values.
Yes, you can teach kids how to cope without tinkering in their brains all day, like schools are doing with things like SEL, for instance. You can also teach coping without babying and feminizing them. We did it throughout all of life before now.
A secure attachment for Boys results in Compassionate & Empathic Men.
The “SEL” being done in Schools - Is Manipulation being done by People who don’t know anything about Child Development.
These people could supervise Play making sure no anxious preoccupied or avoidant/disorganized kid gets bullied or becomes overly aggressive to a Peer but doing the “Privilege” walks etc is Pure Manipulation.
I did all my work with poor Rural White Boys. They are Doing just as Poorly as Inner city Black Kids.
Even Alicia Lieberman put out a paper that shows that Race and Poverty isn’t the deciding factor. So did Stephen Soumi and James Heckman.
The difference is the quality of Maternal Attachment aka Maternal Care.
Yes, Prescott looked at the anthropological studies in tribes showing that a permissive sexual attitude in adolescence provides the last 20 percent of variance in violent societies. Okay, let’s look at that. BUT what is being done in school (by people who in my mind are engaging in incredibly unethical behavior such as keeping secrets from parents, cross dressing kids, keeping a separate medical record) IS NOT what he was referring to.
Messages are being given to white kids that are not at all subtle that scream, “You are a Bad Person for Being White & Male. You are NO GOOD as you are.”
This is absolutely NOT APPROPRIATE! There are kids coming to school from families riddled with Violence and Abuse only to be Abused even more by adults with an Abusive, Manipulative, Malevolent Agenda. This is not what school is for.
I want a non-violent society. This is achieved by providing a secure attachment with safety & love to all children.