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BowWow's avatar

Beautifully written. Thank you.

I found myself tearing up when I passed by the football team practicing and yelling "hup," or whatever it is they say, in unison. As a feminist and lefty, I always scoffed at team sports and the military, but now these male versions of protective instincts seem so quaint, innocent, and lovely. I know I'm romanticizing these things and that there's often much to criticize in sports and the military, but I would take all of that over the narcissism and self-pity of our current "activist" kids, who hate the things that are often positive aspects of their biological sexes (maternal and paternal instincts, for example). Although perhaps our kids reject these aspects of "man" or "woman" because they didn't think they could live up to them? As a mom of a trans-identifying son, I wish my son could love whatever version of man he is.

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Mrs Miller's avatar

"...it is a grieving that is not at all understood by others."

I understand your grief. So many of us do who read your essay. You are not alone. ❤️

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