🫂I feel so much of this. In my case, my daughter. One who gave me no trouble until the plague kidnapped her mind at an age (23) I thought we were past teenage cult concerns. Yet the vampires came and sucked the life from her and it so few people in my circle can even remotely empathize what it feels like to try to sleep at night and the dread of another morning each day revealing the reality of a nightmare I haven't awakened from.
We're in the same boat together. My son is planning his surgery for this July. I don't know what to do or how to cope. It feels like thats his death day and I want to die with him.
A bicycle. THAT is what you need. Yes, an "E-bike" will suffice, but an old fashioned pedal-powered bicycle will also do nicely. Then, ride that bicycle every day, (or at least most days!). You don't have to ride fast, or far, just get out and get some exercise, relax, have fun, see new places and see new sights from a new perspective. Or you can waste your life at home sitting on the couch doom-scrolling on your screen....AI loves the data you generate for them.... But I think a bicycle will make you happier & healthier....
I like the bicycle advice. It might seem irrelevant, in the sense that cycling won’t affect your tragic situation. But the very basic thing is not to let grief and emotional distress pull you down. What i would most fear is telling a doctor you are sad. Because the doctor will put you on drugs. The drugs will trap you and destroy you. So be strong and have courage. Maybe you cannot see your way out of the calamity that is happening. Just see one day at a time.
Keep strong. Eat clean, whole healthy food. Get regular sleep. Don’t let a doctor give you pills to make you sleep. Taking safe nutrition supplements like magnesium and vitamin B can help. And do kindness to others. If your child is out of reach, there is surely someone you can help. Try to make the world better in any small way that you can.
In all fairness doom scrolling helps - every time I see news of a rainbow business going under or now that I’ve read that the supply of wrong sex hormones will also be affected by Hormuz I get relief. I firmly believe that God will avenge us.
From what I'm seeing, the whole "trans agenda"/"trans ideology" is collapsing under the weight of it's false-ness.... The individual tragedies remain what they are, but maybe, if we can see them in a larger context, that larger perspective WILL have some greater healing effect. That's my hope here.... Thank-you, Natalia
Yes, yes, yes, and yes. I want to scream this to every person who wants to affirm , who thinks i should revise the memories of my son to be that of a girl child.... yes, i feel you, i know your pain. I understand.
My heart breaks with yours but I am learning to cope with my daughter cutting contact with us nearly 3 years ago by socialising a lot (but only with genuine people) - and now it is a great source of comfort that with the trouble at Hormuz the supply of cross sex hormones will be affected too yippee!
I guess I just want to write and let you know that everything you wrote is the exact way we feel. I guess I want to tell you I wish I could hold you bc I know the depths of your pain. It's unending even though we step through every day doing everyday things because we have to. Just keep praying. Just keep having hope and just keep loving him.
I can relate to all of your feeling, I have them too! I’m praying for my son and all of our lost children and us parents daily! Only God can break the chains that bind them!!
It’s been four years for me. Three of those were no contact which was my choice because I simply could not cope with the sheer horror of seeing my son destroying himself.
I think he was one of the worst cases as he very quickly got himself involved in porn and prostitution and heavy drugs.
For the first year I cried at least once every day and then eventually I began to live my life again and sometimes even enjoyed it. The cost of this is that I have become far less and pathetic and emotional, but at least it’s more peaceful.
I honestly think the exposure to porn comes first. How many of these kids and perhaps especially the boys spend an unhealthy amount of time online. They are catching all kinds of perverts online now...in chat rooms and gaming rooms...trying to exploit these young people. I don't know my son's whole story because although he is very articulate with many things sharing his feelings is not one of them....he just gets extremely angry (he has always lived at home). I'm just praying this nightmare ends soon for all of us.....and I believe it will.
Such good questions you posed. And yes, we all hope that our dreams will not be tainted by the waking nightmare of our lives. Many of us find our dreams are affected too. So few understand how this nightmare finds it way into everything. We must all fight to keep going and carry on through the tears. Thank you for writing this post.
I understand the pain. Sometimes it all feels like an unreachable ache that swirls and churns and is beyond tears. Only parents of a child lost to this horror can truly understand. Thank you for giving voice to this depleting, disorienting trauma.
Migraines
I hear the grief in your message.
I want to address one thing you mentioned: Migraine headaches
Lifestyle factors support brain health.
Nutrition patterns link to cognitive support.
These aren’t cures, but they’re for brain health.
Ketogenic or low‑carb diets.
ketogenic diets influence brain energy metabolism and reduce neuroinflammation.
- People report improved mental clarity and mood.
Stable blood sugar
- Avoiding large glucose spikes can help with mood stability.
- achieved through protein‑rich meals, animal fats like butter, and minimizing ultra‑processed foods.
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Nutrients for brain function
Magnesium (including bisglycinate)
- for nervous system regulation and sleep quality.
- Magnesium bisglycinate is known for good absorption and gentler GI effects.
Omega‑3 fatty acids (EPA/DHA)
- Found in fatty fish or supplements.
- Associated with brain health and reduced inflammation.
Iodine - from ocean foods or iodine drops.
B‑vitamins (especially B1, B6, B9, B12)
- Important for neurotransmitter synthesis and energy metabolism.
- Deficiencies affect mood and cognition.
Vitamin D
- Plays a role in immune function and brain signaling.
- Low vitamin D is common in most people.
Creatine
— the brain uses it for energy buffering.
- especially under stress or sleep deprivation.
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Sleep and circadian rhythm.
Sleep is one of the strongest levers for brain function.
- Consistent sleep/wake times
- Morning light exposure
- Limiting screens 1–2 hours before bed
- Keeping the bedroom cool and dark
These support melatonin rhythms and cognitive recovery.
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Physical activity.
Not for fitness — for neurobiology.
- Aerobic exercise increases BDNF (a growth factor for neurons).
- Strength training supports metabolic health and hormone balance.
- Even 10–15 minutes of walking can shift stress chemistry.
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Stress‑regulation practices.
- Slow breathing (especially long exhales) activates the parasympathetic system.
- Time in nature reduces cortisol and improves cognitive performance.
- Social connection — even brief, low‑stakes interactions — buffers stress.
Cognitive load management
Your brain is overloaded. Reducing unnecessary inputs helps.
- Limiting doom‑scrolling
- Reducing multitasking
- Creating small pockets of quiet
- Using lists or journaling to reduce mental clutter
Avoid known cognitive stresses.
- sleep deprivation
- alcohol
- Ultra‑processed foods
- High‑conflict environments
- Constant digital stimulation
🫂I feel so much of this. In my case, my daughter. One who gave me no trouble until the plague kidnapped her mind at an age (23) I thought we were past teenage cult concerns. Yet the vampires came and sucked the life from her and it so few people in my circle can even remotely empathize what it feels like to try to sleep at night and the dread of another morning each day revealing the reality of a nightmare I haven't awakened from.
We're in the same boat together. My son is planning his surgery for this July. I don't know what to do or how to cope. It feels like thats his death day and I want to die with him.
I am so, so sorry. How painful. Sending prayers and wishes for your son to wake up and come back to you.
A bicycle. THAT is what you need. Yes, an "E-bike" will suffice, but an old fashioned pedal-powered bicycle will also do nicely. Then, ride that bicycle every day, (or at least most days!). You don't have to ride fast, or far, just get out and get some exercise, relax, have fun, see new places and see new sights from a new perspective. Or you can waste your life at home sitting on the couch doom-scrolling on your screen....AI loves the data you generate for them.... But I think a bicycle will make you happier & healthier....
Walking, running, kickboxing - anything physical helps a little
I like the bicycle advice. It might seem irrelevant, in the sense that cycling won’t affect your tragic situation. But the very basic thing is not to let grief and emotional distress pull you down. What i would most fear is telling a doctor you are sad. Because the doctor will put you on drugs. The drugs will trap you and destroy you. So be strong and have courage. Maybe you cannot see your way out of the calamity that is happening. Just see one day at a time.
Keep strong. Eat clean, whole healthy food. Get regular sleep. Don’t let a doctor give you pills to make you sleep. Taking safe nutrition supplements like magnesium and vitamin B can help. And do kindness to others. If your child is out of reach, there is surely someone you can help. Try to make the world better in any small way that you can.
In all fairness doom scrolling helps - every time I see news of a rainbow business going under or now that I’ve read that the supply of wrong sex hormones will also be affected by Hormuz I get relief. I firmly believe that God will avenge us.
From what I'm seeing, the whole "trans agenda"/"trans ideology" is collapsing under the weight of it's false-ness.... The individual tragedies remain what they are, but maybe, if we can see them in a larger context, that larger perspective WILL have some greater healing effect. That's my hope here.... Thank-you, Natalia
Yes, yes, yes, and yes. I want to scream this to every person who wants to affirm , who thinks i should revise the memories of my son to be that of a girl child.... yes, i feel you, i know your pain. I understand.
My heart breaks with yours but I am learning to cope with my daughter cutting contact with us nearly 3 years ago by socialising a lot (but only with genuine people) - and now it is a great source of comfort that with the trouble at Hormuz the supply of cross sex hormones will be affected too yippee!
I’m crying from start to finish; so similar to mine having a TIK - my daughter whom I love to death.
God bless you and your family; praying fervently for our kids to find their way back🙏
Eloquently said and the anguish shared by all of us...Praying daily for the healing and deliverance of our children
Exacting in the portrayal of a mother’s inner anguish at losing a son to this sick ideology.
You describe well what many of us are feeling/enduring. Thanks for sharing.❤️🙏🕊️
I guess I just want to write and let you know that everything you wrote is the exact way we feel. I guess I want to tell you I wish I could hold you bc I know the depths of your pain. It's unending even though we step through every day doing everyday things because we have to. Just keep praying. Just keep having hope and just keep loving him.
I can relate to all of your feeling, I have them too! I’m praying for my son and all of our lost children and us parents daily! Only God can break the chains that bind them!!
It’s been four years for me. Three of those were no contact which was my choice because I simply could not cope with the sheer horror of seeing my son destroying himself.
I think he was one of the worst cases as he very quickly got himself involved in porn and prostitution and heavy drugs.
For the first year I cried at least once every day and then eventually I began to live my life again and sometimes even enjoyed it. The cost of this is that I have become far less and pathetic and emotional, but at least it’s more peaceful.
I wish you peace.
I honestly think the exposure to porn comes first. How many of these kids and perhaps especially the boys spend an unhealthy amount of time online. They are catching all kinds of perverts online now...in chat rooms and gaming rooms...trying to exploit these young people. I don't know my son's whole story because although he is very articulate with many things sharing his feelings is not one of them....he just gets extremely angry (he has always lived at home). I'm just praying this nightmare ends soon for all of us.....and I believe it will.
Such good questions you posed. And yes, we all hope that our dreams will not be tainted by the waking nightmare of our lives. Many of us find our dreams are affected too. So few understand how this nightmare finds it way into everything. We must all fight to keep going and carry on through the tears. Thank you for writing this post.
I understand the pain. Sometimes it all feels like an unreachable ache that swirls and churns and is beyond tears. Only parents of a child lost to this horror can truly understand. Thank you for giving voice to this depleting, disorienting trauma.