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Midwest Molly's avatar

Thank you for your beautifully written post; I am sorry for what your family is going through.

I too have thought of myself as liberal, and progressive. What changed me was the vitriol with which I was attacked when I questioned the trans ideology. I saw then that my "own side" was every bit as unscientific, in group-out group focused, and intolerant as the right. There is no way that there is not a social contagion going on and "my side" not only refuses to see it, they try to destroy the lives and careers of anyone who even considers it. We are supposed to know better. We are supposed to BE better.

No one who refuses to ALWAYS consider they could be wrong is not a good thinker.

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LovingMother's avatar

I am so sorry to hear about your situation - now all too common. I would encourage you to use your daughter’s real name only, even if she has a fit. She is still very young and you can still help her. All of the best advice out there is not to affirm but calmly to uphold reality at home. Just because a young person rages does not mean she does not also appreciate the boundaries you set.

Like you I believe in an individual’s right to live according to his or her beliefs, so long as they do not harm others. But don’t force others to live according to them, too. The problem is that upending reality itself to indulge what is at core an autogynephilic fantasy is damaging an entire generation and likely our democracy. If you can force society to agree that "Trans Women Are Women," you can make them agree to anything. Anything. We have gone from wanting to be "non-judgmental" to having no judgment at all. I was always a "live and let live" sort. That’s not what this is.

And it is wrong and frightening for other people - especially in schools - to violate what parents want for their minor children by promoting an ideology (do we promote other religions behind a parent's back?) and use names & such that a child invented, often under the influence of groomers. The first lawsuits (Littlejohn, Florida) have begun.

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