Thanks for writing exactly how I feel. Every single day. It’s been 4 years and 2 months. My 28 year has shut me and our family off a year and 2 months ago. We miss him so much. I pray everyday for him. I know someday he’ll come to realize he isn’t a woman. I pray I’m here to witness that moment and be reunited with him. God bless us parents for enduring this cross every single day.
Let me set this issue on the table next to my fellow parent of a teen not infected with this mind virus and I am quite certain that 99.9% of the time, I will swap issues! At least with other "problems" I will have actual support from doctors, therapists, teachers, and community -- not encouragement of a delusion which leads to ruin!
Most of us here know exactly what you're going through, you are not alone. I am sorry that you have had to contend with some uncomprehending naysayers among the comments here. I choose to think that many of our kids will exit the cult eventually. As the tide of public opinion turns, as physical side effects catch up with them, as the whole trans mania becomes uncool. Meanwhile, the loss of family, of family moments, family progression, grandchildren -- it does hurt. It that's NOT because we're all narcissists.
I am so happy when I hear about kids or young adults who have escaped the cult. But at the same time I can’t help wondering why not my beautiful daughter. Why can’t she break free? It’s bittersweet.
Each time I met my friends, with their almost grown up daughters who are happy and confident in their bodies I ask myself where I went wrong. They worry about things t that to me are trivial. I can only wish that all I was worried about was their first boyfriend, exams results or getting a place a uni. My heart is broken. My mind will never be the same. Im green with envy when I see normal, happy families. They don't know how lucky they are. I feel empty inside.
I feel the envy too. I see mothers and daughters at the store shopping together and I want that back so much. Something so simple. I miss that so much!
Even though I have been lucky protecting my kids so far, I feel so much anger and rage for the doctors, therapists, counselors and teachers that have done this to your boy and to you - for all the children and parents that are victims of these degenerates and mindless do-gooders. It won't go away until there is justice.
From a brown eyed mother, I feel your pain. Jealousy and envy are two sins I try to avoid, but I do see your point. Seeing other young men marrying a wife and having children, it’s hard to watch. I don’t ever expect to have that, but who knows maybe my son could change, he’s 36 now says he’s dating a trans woman which I guess is a man. I don’t know. I can’t even fathom the whole thing. It’s just too much for my aging mind. I have been part of the Y me crowd too. It’s another cross I bear in my life with many crosses. I have decided to stop contacting my son because everything I get back is mean and negative and horrible and he just loves his glitter family. I just hope I’m alive when he does decide to come back if he does. I can’t believe there’s so many of us mothers suffering in a way others really don’t understand. I pray for all of us and our affected adult children. May God grant us special blessings of Peace and Hope. 🙏
I totally get these emotions. My daughter transitioned at around 31 so I don't hold out much hope. I feel so much for all the parents that have had to watch their teens disappear before their eyes. My daughter chose to move to Canada before informing us of her decision so I don't have to physically witness the slow motion car crash that is transition.
I too envy my friends who have 'normal' families, with weddings and grandchildren etc. I love being apart of their lives and sharing in the happy experiences that I will never have. It gives me joy to be apart of 'normal' life but the pain and grief never leaves my mind. As others have expressed here, we must hold onto hope and enjoy the support of one another. Bless us all.
Please don't give yourself a hard time for longing for a normal life without this nightmare cult poisoning your family.
EVERYONE longs for a normal life without this nightmare cult poisoning their family. EVERYONE.
Some are lucky.
Some are not lucky.
It has nothing to do with who you are and everything to do with being stuck living through this era with this particular nightmare cult going on all around us.
Longing for a normal life like everyone else just makes you normal. In fact, that is the quintessence of being normal.
And yet the guilt is worse, because I let her out into a world that condones this madness; that I did not protect her from it, that I did not grab her & shake her & whisk her off on a world cruise to escape this insanity. Because never in a million zillion years did I think my kid would fall for this BS.
But because ultimately we created this sick corrupt world that exists, or allowed it to exist.
I relate very much to this. I was never a jealous person but I can’t help comparing myself to parents who have happy, healthy kids and envying them their “normal” problems. I have sworn off social media - I don’t want to post photos or any information about my family for people who wouldn’t understand, and I don’t want to see the beautiful normal families of people I know who were luckier or better parents, and I definitely don’t want to see heartbreaking pictures of other families who are similarly afflicted, and I REALLY don’t want to see propaganda from people (who have no clue what they are really supporting) posting about how important it is to “support trans kids” or use preferred pronouns or give up women’s sports in the name of inclusion.
Thanks for writing exactly how I feel. Every single day. It’s been 4 years and 2 months. My 28 year has shut me and our family off a year and 2 months ago. We miss him so much. I pray everyday for him. I know someday he’ll come to realize he isn’t a woman. I pray I’m here to witness that moment and be reunited with him. God bless us parents for enduring this cross every single day.
I have felt that jealousy as well. Hoping someday we might be joyfully surprised to get back some of what we lost.
Let me set this issue on the table next to my fellow parent of a teen not infected with this mind virus and I am quite certain that 99.9% of the time, I will swap issues! At least with other "problems" I will have actual support from doctors, therapists, teachers, and community -- not encouragement of a delusion which leads to ruin!
Me too!
Most of us here know exactly what you're going through, you are not alone. I am sorry that you have had to contend with some uncomprehending naysayers among the comments here. I choose to think that many of our kids will exit the cult eventually. As the tide of public opinion turns, as physical side effects catch up with them, as the whole trans mania becomes uncool. Meanwhile, the loss of family, of family moments, family progression, grandchildren -- it does hurt. It that's NOT because we're all narcissists.
I am so happy when I hear about kids or young adults who have escaped the cult. But at the same time I can’t help wondering why not my beautiful daughter. Why can’t she break free? It’s bittersweet.
Each time I met my friends, with their almost grown up daughters who are happy and confident in their bodies I ask myself where I went wrong. They worry about things t that to me are trivial. I can only wish that all I was worried about was their first boyfriend, exams results or getting a place a uni. My heart is broken. My mind will never be the same. Im green with envy when I see normal, happy families. They don't know how lucky they are. I feel empty inside.
I feel the envy too. I see mothers and daughters at the store shopping together and I want that back so much. Something so simple. I miss that so much!
Even though I have been lucky protecting my kids so far, I feel so much anger and rage for the doctors, therapists, counselors and teachers that have done this to your boy and to you - for all the children and parents that are victims of these degenerates and mindless do-gooders. It won't go away until there is justice.
From a brown eyed mother, I feel your pain. Jealousy and envy are two sins I try to avoid, but I do see your point. Seeing other young men marrying a wife and having children, it’s hard to watch. I don’t ever expect to have that, but who knows maybe my son could change, he’s 36 now says he’s dating a trans woman which I guess is a man. I don’t know. I can’t even fathom the whole thing. It’s just too much for my aging mind. I have been part of the Y me crowd too. It’s another cross I bear in my life with many crosses. I have decided to stop contacting my son because everything I get back is mean and negative and horrible and he just loves his glitter family. I just hope I’m alive when he does decide to come back if he does. I can’t believe there’s so many of us mothers suffering in a way others really don’t understand. I pray for all of us and our affected adult children. May God grant us special blessings of Peace and Hope. 🙏
I totally get these emotions. My daughter transitioned at around 31 so I don't hold out much hope. I feel so much for all the parents that have had to watch their teens disappear before their eyes. My daughter chose to move to Canada before informing us of her decision so I don't have to physically witness the slow motion car crash that is transition.
I too envy my friends who have 'normal' families, with weddings and grandchildren etc. I love being apart of their lives and sharing in the happy experiences that I will never have. It gives me joy to be apart of 'normal' life but the pain and grief never leaves my mind. As others have expressed here, we must hold onto hope and enjoy the support of one another. Bless us all.
Please don't give yourself a hard time for longing for a normal life without this nightmare cult poisoning your family.
EVERYONE longs for a normal life without this nightmare cult poisoning their family. EVERYONE.
Some are lucky.
Some are not lucky.
It has nothing to do with who you are and everything to do with being stuck living through this era with this particular nightmare cult going on all around us.
Longing for a normal life like everyone else just makes you normal. In fact, that is the quintessence of being normal.
And yet the guilt is worse, because I let her out into a world that condones this madness; that I did not protect her from it, that I did not grab her & shake her & whisk her off on a world cruise to escape this insanity. Because never in a million zillion years did I think my kid would fall for this BS.
But because ultimately we created this sick corrupt world that exists, or allowed it to exist.
I feel you sooooo soooo much 😢
I relate very much to this. I was never a jealous person but I can’t help comparing myself to parents who have happy, healthy kids and envying them their “normal” problems. I have sworn off social media - I don’t want to post photos or any information about my family for people who wouldn’t understand, and I don’t want to see the beautiful normal families of people I know who were luckier or better parents, and I definitely don’t want to see heartbreaking pictures of other families who are similarly afflicted, and I REALLY don’t want to see propaganda from people (who have no clue what they are really supporting) posting about how important it is to “support trans kids” or use preferred pronouns or give up women’s sports in the name of inclusion.
Your envy is justified. I am so sorry for you, and all parents watching their kids self destruct.