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Mothers Grim's avatar

Yes! Escapism is never the answer and deprogramming is key. One of my early posts was on 'gender dysphoria' (a subjective bunch of bull). In that post, I wrote, "Ever seen a drug addict do anything for that next high? Imagine that as desperate families try to keep their loved ones from gruesome industry offerings."

Testosterone is a controlled substance is for a reason! Psychological addiction is also real. With tech, the addiction to curated online persona is happening. It is performance on steroids. Once the self is destroyed by tech initiatives, groomers, apps, Orwellian words, etc, following medical masters who guide the gender confused step by step for their next surgical update happens.

You write, "These systems are designed to reward dysfunction, to turn pain into profit, dependence into data, and confusion into currency." All so true and with this data (ever so easy with mental health apps, telehealth, and professionals keen on lies) they have created a multi billion dollar industry.

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Deb's avatar

This is Absolutely and Spot On!

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StillHaveHope's avatar

This was an excellent and a mesmerizing article, thank you for writing it. Too bad parents aren’t given a handbook of what to teach your children to let them grow up to be discerning adults. This article should definitely be in there. All parents should teach their children from the day they are able to understand (age 7) that all these things could happen to them if they’re not careful and if they don’t have the wisdom to resist. You didn’t mention it but in my opinion we need God in everything. God should be the number one in everyone’s minds every day and that should be sealed into children’s minds everyday. That’s the problem - we don’t teach our kids to worship and trust in God over every earthly thing or person. We look to the doctor to heal us, to the psychologist (quacks in my opinion) to figure out what’s inside our minds, the nutritionist to tell us what to eat, the physical trainer to tell us how to exercise and on and on > people making money off of what one could figure out for themselves if they’re tried or they had one mustard seed of confidence in themselves.

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Linda Grajewski's avatar

Thank you and definitely agree

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Elise Guidoux's avatar

Thank you, very poignant. You have been to the depths of the human condition in this insane twisted culture and articulated it spot on accurately. If I were a high school teacher I’d make it required reading with a follow up essay on what it what it personally means to them. ( and likely get suspended or fired for doing so🙄)

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

"Adults have the right to make decisions about their own bodies, absolutely, and that’s true even when those choices carry risk." I really don't think gender medicine is something to be framed in terms of anyone's rights. Do people have the RIGHT to take phen phen to lose weight? Um.. moot point, it was a dangerous drug taken off the market. Do people have the RIGHT to get a lobotomy to relieve their depression or OCD? Moot point again, this dangerous procedure is no longer offered. The issue is about taking harmful, unscientific treatments off the market, not about anyone's rights to live as they want.

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distressed parent's avatar

Completely agree. No impossible sex "change" heinous "treatment" for anyone at any age.

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StillHaveHope's avatar

Also Cross Sex Hormone should be outlawed. It should be a law to not be able to prescribe a hormone estrogen -testosterone to the opposite sex and those physicians and clinics that do should have licenses revoked and face prison sentences. Cross sex hormones at the beginning of Trans journeys.

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Erin A. Quinn's avatar

Thank you for your insight and willingness to show share your lived expérience. Please keep writing, you have so much to share. Best to you.

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Jennie Brown's avatar

A beautiful and intelligent read. It's early morning and I'm picturing a young man and woman at their wedding. And then the picture of the young man in his cute jeans, tank top with long hair and makeup. He's trying out a sexy smile, but it doesn't reach his eyes. He's playing dress-up for her. He is the sad pug in the silly costume. He has changed everything for her, and she has changed nothing for him. So far, it's just hormones and cosmetic changes, but his family lives in fear of what comes next.

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EyesOpen's avatar

Excellent article. I particularly liked: "Addiction and gender identity1 often grow from the same soil, a culture that teaches us escape is the cure. They share the same root: the belief that changing our external reality will ease what is unbearable inside. They grow the toxic idea that the problem lies in suppression of who we are rather than facing the emotions underneath such as loneliness, fear, shame, and abandonment. Whether through substances, sex, shopping, hormones, or surgery, we are taught that changing form will silence pain."

I wrote a bit about this concept myself in this article: https://thetranstrain.substack.com/p/enabling-is-misguided-love

Thank you for discussing this issue.

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