The enemy uses protected environments like loving Christian homes against ALL the members and causes doubt to all. We know he is a thief....but guess what? Jesus Christ said he is coming as a thief at an unexpected time....may that time be soon and very soon, please Lord steal the hearts of our children away from the wicked pied piper .
Well said. The right for parents to raise their children as they see fit has been turned on its head. Families suddenly find themselves on defense of this looming 'affirmation' narrative. Even worse, countless 'experts' weigh in with prescriptions of what is wrong with families always failing to look at the industry creating the madness. At its core is Marxist theory where families are offensive the rising social order. It is past time to reclaim what rightfully belongs to the family.
100% spot on. Our daughter was in this all four years of high school (where school, friends, teachers, environment constantly reinforced the fake narrative) and then desisted (thanks to efforts we made and some lucky breaks and plain growing up). We were fortunate that this insanity brewed while she was still at home at we could exert some influence.
Like many of you, I digested every firsthand story and analysis could find. It frustrated me that so many had stories of abuse, neglect, psychological issues, or suffering—none of which applied to our family. Like the OP, my husband and I had devoted our life to family above all else.
I couldn’t figure out why this had happened to our family. I finally left it to ‘wrong place, wrong time.’ I think our sensitive, altruistic, beautifully geeky daughter would have never crossed paths with this evil had COVID + extreme community T celebration not been a constant occurrence.
We tried to raise our kids the same way - lots of love, stability, striving to be good role models.
I would add another point: we tried to raise our kids without the emotional baggage our own parents put on us, and we were clear with our kids: We are not your friends; we are your parents.
We thought we were doing a proper job of it….until this 💩landed on us!
Amen, this is correct, the is the way for us PITT parents stuck in this strange state of being, if not for Jesus there would be no hope for my family. I would have just given up and thrown her into exile with many a harsh word and would be carrying around a lot of anger, I would be poisonous to everything, instead thanks be to God and his son Jesus we are just the opposite.
Thank you for this. I could’ve written it. Only difference is I’m the mom and his dad passed away 4 years before the madness started. But I appreciate this perspective - we provided nothing but love, stability and the best of everything. To have all of that villainized is such a travesty but I too pray every day. I believe Jesus is pursuing his lost sheep and one day they will hear his voice.
I pray this for every parent enduring this trial. It’s God’s way of showing up that we are powerless. We have no control over the lives of our children. But He does. And so we pray for the promise of scripture
I can completely relate! Not that we were such great parents, we certainly had significant failures, but we were always there for our children, always loving them. Your prayer is exactly the prayer I have been praying for years for my children (both trapped in the trans cult), please Lord bring them back to you first and foremost, and then back to us. May the Lord Jesus Christ hear our prayers and graciously break through the delusions, narratives and influences that hold our children!
Thank you for sharing your letter! SO good!! I was especially happy when you spoke of your faith in Jesus Christ as being what held you up when the pain was too much. I also pray that our daughter finds her way back to truth and to God and then hopefully back to our family. I'll add your son to my prayers.
From my experience with an adult child with a personality disorder, it is not indifference, but rather deep personal shame, because deep down, they know how privileged they are to have been raised in such a warm and loving home by such sacrificial parents, and it it just too hard for them to admit it. So keep sending the sweet memories & texts, etc. and one day your child may very well come around and acknowledge how blessed they are to have you and your family. A good psychiatrist helped us to see that the anger & vitriol once displayed and spewed towards loving family members was actually a hatred of herself. With much therapy, education, and hard work, this has for the most part passed and we have our lovely child back [for the most part].
Very well articulated, thank you. Praying that all our children will find the truth and that the truth will set them free.
I appreciate this article. We share the grief.
The enemy uses protected environments like loving Christian homes against ALL the members and causes doubt to all. We know he is a thief....but guess what? Jesus Christ said he is coming as a thief at an unexpected time....may that time be soon and very soon, please Lord steal the hearts of our children away from the wicked pied piper .
Standing with you all. My heart breaks with yours. None of this makes any sense. May you encounter the goodness of the Lord today.
Amen brother!!
Well said. The right for parents to raise their children as they see fit has been turned on its head. Families suddenly find themselves on defense of this looming 'affirmation' narrative. Even worse, countless 'experts' weigh in with prescriptions of what is wrong with families always failing to look at the industry creating the madness. At its core is Marxist theory where families are offensive the rising social order. It is past time to reclaim what rightfully belongs to the family.
100% spot on. Our daughter was in this all four years of high school (where school, friends, teachers, environment constantly reinforced the fake narrative) and then desisted (thanks to efforts we made and some lucky breaks and plain growing up). We were fortunate that this insanity brewed while she was still at home at we could exert some influence.
Like many of you, I digested every firsthand story and analysis could find. It frustrated me that so many had stories of abuse, neglect, psychological issues, or suffering—none of which applied to our family. Like the OP, my husband and I had devoted our life to family above all else.
I couldn’t figure out why this had happened to our family. I finally left it to ‘wrong place, wrong time.’ I think our sensitive, altruistic, beautifully geeky daughter would have never crossed paths with this evil had COVID + extreme community T celebration not been a constant occurrence.
❤️This is wonderful … thank you …Hope your son and all of our kids return to us all 🙏🏻
Hello, fellow Gen-Xer here. What a great essay.
We tried to raise our kids the same way - lots of love, stability, striving to be good role models.
I would add another point: we tried to raise our kids without the emotional baggage our own parents put on us, and we were clear with our kids: We are not your friends; we are your parents.
We thought we were doing a proper job of it….until this 💩landed on us!
Amen, this is correct, the is the way for us PITT parents stuck in this strange state of being, if not for Jesus there would be no hope for my family. I would have just given up and thrown her into exile with many a harsh word and would be carrying around a lot of anger, I would be poisonous to everything, instead thanks be to God and his son Jesus we are just the opposite.
Thank you for this. I could’ve written it. Only difference is I’m the mom and his dad passed away 4 years before the madness started. But I appreciate this perspective - we provided nothing but love, stability and the best of everything. To have all of that villainized is such a travesty but I too pray every day. I believe Jesus is pursuing his lost sheep and one day they will hear his voice.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6 ESV
https://bible.com/bible/59/pro.22.6.ESV
I pray this for every parent enduring this trial. It’s God’s way of showing up that we are powerless. We have no control over the lives of our children. But He does. And so we pray for the promise of scripture
I can completely relate! Not that we were such great parents, we certainly had significant failures, but we were always there for our children, always loving them. Your prayer is exactly the prayer I have been praying for years for my children (both trapped in the trans cult), please Lord bring them back to you first and foremost, and then back to us. May the Lord Jesus Christ hear our prayers and graciously break through the delusions, narratives and influences that hold our children!
I speak to many estranged parents from all over. They are all devoted and loving parents.
Thank you for this.
That is what I am praying. That my children come back to God and truth.
Thank you for sharing your letter! SO good!! I was especially happy when you spoke of your faith in Jesus Christ as being what held you up when the pain was too much. I also pray that our daughter finds her way back to truth and to God and then hopefully back to our family. I'll add your son to my prayers.
From my experience with an adult child with a personality disorder, it is not indifference, but rather deep personal shame, because deep down, they know how privileged they are to have been raised in such a warm and loving home by such sacrificial parents, and it it just too hard for them to admit it. So keep sending the sweet memories & texts, etc. and one day your child may very well come around and acknowledge how blessed they are to have you and your family. A good psychiatrist helped us to see that the anger & vitriol once displayed and spewed towards loving family members was actually a hatred of herself. With much therapy, education, and hard work, this has for the most part passed and we have our lovely child back [for the most part].