I very much appreciate your essay. I too have let go of my daughter and reached a plateau of acceptance. My job is done. I was her parent and my job is done. I miss her terribly but my worry for her no longer consumes me. She may never open her eyes to the lies she followed. Or she may and suffer for it. She may never come back. I have faith she will, hope she does but If she does, our old relationship is forever over. Can we forge a new different one? If she comes back she will not be the same person. She will have been on a journey of her very own. It will leave scars. We all carry scars. If she ever needs my help or wants it. I will be there, full of love and as her mother. I give it to God daily as I had to let go of her. I reached the plateau of acceptance that there is no more that I can do
Thanks for your essay. I am working on acceptance / making my peace with my son's path away from myself, his father, and his sister -- and most sadly, HIM self. I, too, do not want to squander my life consumed by this loss. I, too, strive to live with a hollow ache as best I can.
Thank you for sharing some of your journey with us. I am so thankful your son has chosen to return to life as a man. I am sorry that he has yet to return to you, the family who has never stopped loving him or praying for him. I pray that there would be no barriers or obstacles to prevent him from reaching out to you. I pray that any shame, anger, disappointment or disillusionment he may be feeling would not come between you and that he would remember above all things your love. I pray for his healing - physical, emotional, spiritual. 🙏🏻
I also really appreciated your thoughts on grief and coming to a place of acceptance. When we shared with our pastor, (who is incredibly compassionate) what was happening to our son, he said something I’ve held onto tightly and continue to take to heart. He said, “Remember that life is for the living.” Yes, what my son has chosen is awful, it’s a kind of death, really. But we have a beautiful family we love and enjoy time with. We have a full life. I do my best to live my life with open hands and open heart. I am aware of what my son is missing out on and I feel sad at times and I recognize how much I miss him, but my husband and I have had to come to a place of accepting that this is how it is right now….and Life is for the living and the joy of the Lord is my strength.
Praying for each family represented here - for strength and defiant joy in the face of such challenging and painful circumstances.
I remember your first article on the Prodigal Son. I am about 8 years into this issue. I also have learned to not allow my son to completely monopolize my head space. He did for a while. I also have learned that he's a grown a$$ adult and is free to make his own choices. He doesn't need my approval nor I his. I pray daily for my son, I trust God will provide, and I too am moving toward joy. I am still in relationship with my son, but idk for how much longer. But honestly, the person I'm in relationship is not my son, it's someone who has been co-opted.
I just wish for one SECOND these trans supporters/deluded kids/cult followers/unethical doctors can see the absolute pain and horror they are wrecking on so many lives in promoting an idea that is fantastical at best and evil at worst. I'm so entirely sick of it.
Another heartbreaker. For so many of us this is true, we never thought it could go on for so many years. I keep looking in the mirror, time has slipped away, enough is enough. Radical acceptance, what choice do we have
I appreciate both of your articles. Thank you for contributing your words and thoughts with others. Grief is even more intense when the griever is isolated from others who might understand and acknowledge it. You have connected others who are in various stages of this experience. Thanks again.
I am so sorry for you. It’s good that you have other children. I hope this trans ideology will go away soon. Enough people know how damaging it is and at least some states have passed laws that protect children.
I very much appreciate your essay. I too have let go of my daughter and reached a plateau of acceptance. My job is done. I was her parent and my job is done. I miss her terribly but my worry for her no longer consumes me. She may never open her eyes to the lies she followed. Or she may and suffer for it. She may never come back. I have faith she will, hope she does but If she does, our old relationship is forever over. Can we forge a new different one? If she comes back she will not be the same person. She will have been on a journey of her very own. It will leave scars. We all carry scars. If she ever needs my help or wants it. I will be there, full of love and as her mother. I give it to God daily as I had to let go of her. I reached the plateau of acceptance that there is no more that I can do
Thanks for your essay. I am working on acceptance / making my peace with my son's path away from myself, his father, and his sister -- and most sadly, HIM self. I, too, do not want to squander my life consumed by this loss. I, too, strive to live with a hollow ache as best I can.
Thank you for sharing some of your journey with us. I am so thankful your son has chosen to return to life as a man. I am sorry that he has yet to return to you, the family who has never stopped loving him or praying for him. I pray that there would be no barriers or obstacles to prevent him from reaching out to you. I pray that any shame, anger, disappointment or disillusionment he may be feeling would not come between you and that he would remember above all things your love. I pray for his healing - physical, emotional, spiritual. 🙏🏻
I also really appreciated your thoughts on grief and coming to a place of acceptance. When we shared with our pastor, (who is incredibly compassionate) what was happening to our son, he said something I’ve held onto tightly and continue to take to heart. He said, “Remember that life is for the living.” Yes, what my son has chosen is awful, it’s a kind of death, really. But we have a beautiful family we love and enjoy time with. We have a full life. I do my best to live my life with open hands and open heart. I am aware of what my son is missing out on and I feel sad at times and I recognize how much I miss him, but my husband and I have had to come to a place of accepting that this is how it is right now….and Life is for the living and the joy of the Lord is my strength.
Praying for each family represented here - for strength and defiant joy in the face of such challenging and painful circumstances.
I remember your first article on the Prodigal Son. I am about 8 years into this issue. I also have learned to not allow my son to completely monopolize my head space. He did for a while. I also have learned that he's a grown a$$ adult and is free to make his own choices. He doesn't need my approval nor I his. I pray daily for my son, I trust God will provide, and I too am moving toward joy. I am still in relationship with my son, but idk for how much longer. But honestly, the person I'm in relationship is not my son, it's someone who has been co-opted.
I just wish for one SECOND these trans supporters/deluded kids/cult followers/unethical doctors can see the absolute pain and horror they are wrecking on so many lives in promoting an idea that is fantastical at best and evil at worst. I'm so entirely sick of it.
Thank you for “I worked hard in the parent underground” in some way I’m sure it has touched my life in a positive way somehow.
I’m so happy to hear you are able to be present with your family now. It’s awful feeling not to be and has so many negative repercussions.
I hope one day all the children return one day trans pied piper stops piping.
😢😢😢😢😢
Another heartbreaker. For so many of us this is true, we never thought it could go on for so many years. I keep looking in the mirror, time has slipped away, enough is enough. Radical acceptance, what choice do we have
I appreciate both of your articles. Thank you for contributing your words and thoughts with others. Grief is even more intense when the griever is isolated from others who might understand and acknowledge it. You have connected others who are in various stages of this experience. Thanks again.
I am so sorry for you. It’s good that you have other children. I hope this trans ideology will go away soon. Enough people know how damaging it is and at least some states have passed laws that protect children.
My best to you.