The Transgender Crossfire: When Illusion Leads to Isolation
In recent years, the transgender issue has become a true minefield, a topic filled with confusion, contradictions, and pain.
What began as a plea for understanding and rights has evolved into a war of ideology, now marked by regret, loneliness, and a deepening sense of isolation.
For a long time, the trans movement found refuge under the LGBT umbrella. But increasingly, many gays and lesbians are distancing themselves from trans activism, especially as it denies the very basis of sexual orientation: the biological reality of male and female. After all, how can a gay man exist if “man” and “woman” are no longer defined? This tension has led to the rise of groups like “LGB Without the T,” reflecting a painful but growing divide.
A Manufactured World, Real Consequences
While mainstream culture insists this is about “identity” and “acceptance,” the truth emerging online is far darker.
On sites like Reddit, among trans communities themselves, countless posts now echo despair and confusion:
“The government is making it harder.”
“No one supports us anymore.”
“We feel left behind.”
These are not words of empowerment. They are cries of isolation. But isolation from whom, and why?
When Ideology Collides with Reality
No ideology can survive once it denies biological truth. No matter how many slogans or hashtags are used, nature does not bend to human feelings. Hormones and surgeries cannot change one’s sex. They can only alter a healthy body into one that is mutilated, dependent, and often filled with regret.
At some point, this make-believe role-playing game becomes exhausting. Pretending day after day takes a toll. Some eventually mature, open their eyes, and walk away from the illusion. But others become trapped in the game, convinced it was real all along.
Those are the ones who suffer the most, especially if they go all the way, making irreversible changes to their bodies in pursuit of something that could never be found through surgery or hormones.
This tension between what is promised and what is lived is now breaking many hearts. The dream sold as “liberation” often ends in lifelong medication, infertility, and deep emotional pain.
The Rising Voice of Regret
The number of detransitioners, those who once transitioned but later returned to their birth sex, is growing every year. Their stories share a common theme:
“I was told this would fix everything.”
“No one warned me about the cost.”
“I wish someone had told me the truth.”
Yet the media and activist circles often silence these testimonies. But truth cannot be buried forever. Behind every colorful flag is a human soul, longing not for affirmation of illusion, but for real healing and honest love.
The Path of Compassion and Truth
True compassion is not about agreeing with every feeling. It is about loving enough to tell the truth. Real love does not affirm confusion. It guides with grace, offering a hand toward reality, not fantasy.
The solution is not in more surgeries or hormones, but in restoring the heart, accepting the body, and finding purpose in the Creator, who made us male and female with intention, wisdom, and love.
“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
(John 8:32)
“[F]inding purpose in the Creator”…you were doing so well until you brought religion into it. That’s a sure way to alienate most of the people who need to hear this. Of course, it’s your right to frame the issue this way; it’s just going to make you message less persuasive.
I often pray for the children who have fallen into this pit, and for their parents whose suffering even surpasses that of the children because of our bottomless love for them. One of my kids, now in her 20's got a smartphone way too early. We were ignorant of the power it possessed back then. She went through a time of believing she was ADHD and needed medication. After all, we did a poll in our suburban, filled with kids I was driving to an event. Every single one of them was on ADHD meds. Then her obsession became anxiety and depression, and again, she needed meds for that. I appeased her and took her to therapists and even had her evaluated (major $$), and she was never satisfied because no one told her what she wanted to hear. and I also informed her that even if she were to be diagnosed that I would not give her meds under any circumstances, because the side effect could be--anxiety and depression! I told her that we would see a nutritionist, and get her on a weekly workout program and then we would determine the course. Predictably, she declined. She moved from anxiety and depression to dissociative disorder. I did my research and found there was about a one in a million chance and that some psychologists didn't even believe it was real, so she explored more. Then she worried about turrets, because there was an online group of mainly girls who had it (really!!) and would post themselves. I could not use the word "puberty" because that sent her into a spiral of anger, but I stayed up till all hours letting her vent and saying little. I learned to say little after being burned and realizing she needed the rant. She graduated during covid (the nightmare that made this all explode) with all D's after bringing them up from F's. I was happy she graduated, but she was still adrift. I spent the years in prayer for her, and I asked all praying friends to add her to their prayers. She is now a thriving beautiful woman, and I am thankful for who she is, but I am not deluded by thinking I know the way. It was the grace of God. And that grace does not always mean there won't be pain and consequences. This trans phenomenon is my number one cause, because it's our children who are at stake. I pray for each one of you often, because i know it could be me and it could be her