Big ❤️ for @PITT. Such courage. Such unbearable stories to have to bear witness to. One cannot unsee their stories or those of Detransitioners. They have moved me and so many others to action so thank you for sharing them.
Sahaj Kaur Kohli. I used to think that individuals with non-European ancestry may be more resistant to the Trans cult. What Clown World has consistently shown me is that an entire generation of children and young adults have fallen prey to it. The ancestry and background seem not to matter (if they live in the West). I hope this individual wakes up to the fact that she is actively misleading and damaging human beings. I admire you for your courage and tenacity, Kara.
The sheer cruelty, the silent torture. Thank you for actually writing these words. My daughter says she s a man and her two now adult siblings never questioned this. Where are my children? Who are they? I wasn't prepared for this. I'm sorry.
Kara- thank you so much for writing this piece and acknowledging the cruelty and harm that gender ideology directs at parents.
It starts with the deeply insulting query "Would you prefer a dead daughter or live son?" - a choice that is not only misleading and harmful, but also completely misunderstands the true definition of love, parenthood, and power. Parents do not "prefer" one child over the other - no matter their sex - no matter their being alive or dead. Parents do not have the ability to chose life or death for our children. Once our children are born, parental love is all consuming, completely self-sacrificing, fully dedicated to the survival our our children. That is not a "choice" or a "preference." Only the most cruel and abhorrent people frame caretaking as a choice.
This compulsion is natural - and almost always leads to good and moral actions. The "Momma Bear" parents of PITT are using this to fight for our kid's survival. The "Momma Bear" transactivist moms are funneling this urge, too. ***The difference is the pro-trans parents have been tricked.***
The truth and science is that no one is born in the wrong body. Transition increases suicide. Transition harms bodies. Transition does not improve mental health.
"You say your “daughter has become an entirely different person these past two years,” but what I am hearing is your son is becoming who he has always been and is now feeling confident enough to emerge more fully as himself. Your question should be less “How do I get my old child back?” and should move toward “How do I show up for the adult child I have now, so he wants to stay connected to me?” That"s ultimately the only sustainable way to “improve” your situation.'
I agree, Kara, this is not only cruel, but viciously so. The unspoken accusation that it is the Parent who has lied to a child about her sex and her identity for her entire life. It is the Parent who is accused of denying the child's right to become their "true selves" and to live their life "authentically". That the parent colluded in the arbitrary "assignment" of the child's gender and that failure to do an about turn means that the child's decision to estrange was justified.
This is hideously cruel and a symptom of the sense of entitlement which is so deeply embedded in this ideology.
Thank you for this Kara, your response pretty much matches mine as well.
As the parent of an offspring who transitioned at 40, who became an incredibly angry, mean and unrecognisable person, who lost all sense of family, all sense of values, and everything that they were growing up, who totally distanced himself because we did not accept it, this blame the parents mentality is absolutely insane. It's actually frightening to think about. Especially for the people like those who post here who mourn the loss of their child, who ask for help and advice, or someone just to listen.
The blame lies on the psychiatric community that encouraged children to transition, and I can state that with utmost truth as my own was told they should transition immediately. The blame lies on the education system who teach children the insanity that they can be whatever they want. And the blame lies on the medical community that support and perform these horrific procedures on both children and adults causing life long issues. You cannot deny the huge amounts of money being made on this farce. And yes, blame the parents who encouraged their children to do this and failed them by not teaching them reality. Something I cannot fathom. The blame also lies on society and politicians so wrapped up in feelings over facts that those that participate in this made it the catastrophe it is.
Shame on all of them, they are to blame, not the parents who have had their children stolen from them which has caused immense, unfathomable heartbreak and destruction of families.
I, too, am furious at those who defend gender identity, many of whom have never had to deal with how it can adversely effect families. I read similar advice to a parent about a year ago from some columnist- I think it was published in the NYT. Said columnist also said the grieving parent should affirm their child without question and get on with life.
Furious after reading this, I immediately e-mailed the columnist, sending her links to various groups and books about how harmful this ideology is. Unsurprisingly, I heard nothing back. It’s not the first time I felt myself screaming into the wind and it won’t be the last.
Kara, thank you for this. I’m “that mom” who signed the papers legally changing my daughter’s name after everyone convinced me that she would kill herself if I didn’t and my husband of nearly 30 years threatened to divorce me unless I signed. I felt like I had a metaphorical gun to my head. I regret it every day and cry for the loss of my daughter’s birth name nearly every night. No one in my life cares and I know I will never get it back. Knowing what I know now, I would have refused to sign. Andy Ngo did a great piece on this for anyone interested in further details about the motivations of the shooter’s mother.
I am so sorry. I am sure that there are many mothers like yourself who were pressured into submitting to this insanity. As always the mothers get the blame when things fall apart. No one sees the pressure and the threats which preceded signing the papers.
I suspect the WaPo's advice columnist is indifferent or lazy. She has not performed due diligence by researching the gender identity movement. Instead, she has taken the easy route by echoing whatever leaders of the movement say.
I suspect they are a demonic minion. Maybe 10 years ago I'd have given benefit of doubt of simply being brainwashed. Not anymore with these influencers.
Right there with you. I often wonder how a dangerous idea or ideology spreads among a susceptible population. And it seems to me that anyone who hasn't thought about it independently and in depth can be swayed, almost by sheer force. It seems that they just "flip" in the direction of the current and then serve as vectors by conducting it. One could say that the brainless Kohli is simply acting in this manner. But when the ideology is objectively destructive and, yes, evil?
"I dedicated my 2021 book, The Abolition of Sex: How the ‘Transgender’ Agenda Harms Women and Girls to “the parents who watch in silent agony while a vicious industry works relentlessly to annihilate their children’s bodies and lives.” I stand by that today."
Thank you, Kara. I really appreciate all that you do.
I feel your rage and agree with you 100%. How can people be so insensitive? There is a horrible War Against Children happening around the world, every day, and people are cheering on the sidelines! Enough! I have often wondered how we will put the pieces back together, how will any of these manipulated and scarred trans-children fit back into our society? How will we rebuild the family dynamics? Our children are suffering, and now killing each other, and also killing themselves. What is it going to take to stop this madness? I am furious with the media, the politicians, the groomers, the Woke crowd, and the evilness of this trans cult and the ideology that is poisoning our world. Children are being fed lies and highly educated adults are supporting these lies. This is worse than any horror movie or book I have seen or read. The shooting in MN is just another example of our failed society, and the blame should not be put on the mother - because we all know that her son was groomed, brainwashed, and affirmed by outside resources for years - by the internet games, and searches, and encouraged by teachers and doctors and therapists. We must hold accountable Medicaid, Planned Parenthood, and Big Pharma. Follow the money! I seriously worry that there will be an uprising, and the tricked trans-kids are going to turn on all of us and the war on children will become the war of the world. This is a nightmare!
In my coaching practice, I encourage parents to blame the toxic institutional systems, not their ensnared family member(s). The current phenomenon we are witnessing is a divide & conquer tactic that is not grass roots evolved at all, but instead funded and groomed by the ruling class. Their goal is to separate youth from family support, so that they can be exploited. And to divert public attention from ongoing massive theft of the public commons. And to isolate family elders from future family care in order to take financial advantage of them too.
It takes tremendous courage and some cunning for parents to sidestep rather than fall into the traps set by the cults involved in this scheme.
Great piece.
have cross posted
https://dustymasterson.substack.com/p/they-call-me-mr-tibbs-part-3
Dusty
Big ❤️ for @PITT. Such courage. Such unbearable stories to have to bear witness to. One cannot unsee their stories or those of Detransitioners. They have moved me and so many others to action so thank you for sharing them.
Sahaj Kaur Kohli. I used to think that individuals with non-European ancestry may be more resistant to the Trans cult. What Clown World has consistently shown me is that an entire generation of children and young adults have fallen prey to it. The ancestry and background seem not to matter (if they live in the West). I hope this individual wakes up to the fact that she is actively misleading and damaging human beings. I admire you for your courage and tenacity, Kara.
The sheer cruelty, the silent torture. Thank you for actually writing these words. My daughter says she s a man and her two now adult siblings never questioned this. Where are my children? Who are they? I wasn't prepared for this. I'm sorry.
Kara- thank you so much for writing this piece and acknowledging the cruelty and harm that gender ideology directs at parents.
It starts with the deeply insulting query "Would you prefer a dead daughter or live son?" - a choice that is not only misleading and harmful, but also completely misunderstands the true definition of love, parenthood, and power. Parents do not "prefer" one child over the other - no matter their sex - no matter their being alive or dead. Parents do not have the ability to chose life or death for our children. Once our children are born, parental love is all consuming, completely self-sacrificing, fully dedicated to the survival our our children. That is not a "choice" or a "preference." Only the most cruel and abhorrent people frame caretaking as a choice.
This compulsion is natural - and almost always leads to good and moral actions. The "Momma Bear" parents of PITT are using this to fight for our kid's survival. The "Momma Bear" transactivist moms are funneling this urge, too. ***The difference is the pro-trans parents have been tricked.***
The truth and science is that no one is born in the wrong body. Transition increases suicide. Transition harms bodies. Transition does not improve mental health.
"You say your “daughter has become an entirely different person these past two years,” but what I am hearing is your son is becoming who he has always been and is now feeling confident enough to emerge more fully as himself. Your question should be less “How do I get my old child back?” and should move toward “How do I show up for the adult child I have now, so he wants to stay connected to me?” That"s ultimately the only sustainable way to “improve” your situation.'
I agree, Kara, this is not only cruel, but viciously so. The unspoken accusation that it is the Parent who has lied to a child about her sex and her identity for her entire life. It is the Parent who is accused of denying the child's right to become their "true selves" and to live their life "authentically". That the parent colluded in the arbitrary "assignment" of the child's gender and that failure to do an about turn means that the child's decision to estrange was justified.
This is hideously cruel and a symptom of the sense of entitlement which is so deeply embedded in this ideology.
Thank you for this Kara, your response pretty much matches mine as well.
As the parent of an offspring who transitioned at 40, who became an incredibly angry, mean and unrecognisable person, who lost all sense of family, all sense of values, and everything that they were growing up, who totally distanced himself because we did not accept it, this blame the parents mentality is absolutely insane. It's actually frightening to think about. Especially for the people like those who post here who mourn the loss of their child, who ask for help and advice, or someone just to listen.
The blame lies on the psychiatric community that encouraged children to transition, and I can state that with utmost truth as my own was told they should transition immediately. The blame lies on the education system who teach children the insanity that they can be whatever they want. And the blame lies on the medical community that support and perform these horrific procedures on both children and adults causing life long issues. You cannot deny the huge amounts of money being made on this farce. And yes, blame the parents who encouraged their children to do this and failed them by not teaching them reality. Something I cannot fathom. The blame also lies on society and politicians so wrapped up in feelings over facts that those that participate in this made it the catastrophe it is.
Shame on all of them, they are to blame, not the parents who have had their children stolen from them which has caused immense, unfathomable heartbreak and destruction of families.
I, too, am furious at those who defend gender identity, many of whom have never had to deal with how it can adversely effect families. I read similar advice to a parent about a year ago from some columnist- I think it was published in the NYT. Said columnist also said the grieving parent should affirm their child without question and get on with life.
Furious after reading this, I immediately e-mailed the columnist, sending her links to various groups and books about how harmful this ideology is. Unsurprisingly, I heard nothing back. It’s not the first time I felt myself screaming into the wind and it won’t be the last.
The absolute cruelty at the heart of this movement is mind boggling. God Bless all the families affected by it 🙏🙏🙏
Oh man....YES.... there are some many people (99.9% conservative/republican/Christian?) Who BLAME THE PARENTS!
Sorry but, yes I'm not perfect, but my trans son(mtf) and Lesbian daughter? NOT MY FAULT.
Kara, thank you for this. I’m “that mom” who signed the papers legally changing my daughter’s name after everyone convinced me that she would kill herself if I didn’t and my husband of nearly 30 years threatened to divorce me unless I signed. I felt like I had a metaphorical gun to my head. I regret it every day and cry for the loss of my daughter’s birth name nearly every night. No one in my life cares and I know I will never get it back. Knowing what I know now, I would have refused to sign. Andy Ngo did a great piece on this for anyone interested in further details about the motivations of the shooter’s mother.
I am so sorry. I am sure that there are many mothers like yourself who were pressured into submitting to this insanity. As always the mothers get the blame when things fall apart. No one sees the pressure and the threats which preceded signing the papers.
I suspect the WaPo's advice columnist is indifferent or lazy. She has not performed due diligence by researching the gender identity movement. Instead, she has taken the easy route by echoing whatever leaders of the movement say.
I suspect they are a demonic minion. Maybe 10 years ago I'd have given benefit of doubt of simply being brainwashed. Not anymore with these influencers.
Right there with you. I often wonder how a dangerous idea or ideology spreads among a susceptible population. And it seems to me that anyone who hasn't thought about it independently and in depth can be swayed, almost by sheer force. It seems that they just "flip" in the direction of the current and then serve as vectors by conducting it. One could say that the brainless Kohli is simply acting in this manner. But when the ideology is objectively destructive and, yes, evil?
"I dedicated my 2021 book, The Abolition of Sex: How the ‘Transgender’ Agenda Harms Women and Girls to “the parents who watch in silent agony while a vicious industry works relentlessly to annihilate their children’s bodies and lives.” I stand by that today."
Thank you, Kara. I really appreciate all that you do.
I feel your rage and agree with you 100%. How can people be so insensitive? There is a horrible War Against Children happening around the world, every day, and people are cheering on the sidelines! Enough! I have often wondered how we will put the pieces back together, how will any of these manipulated and scarred trans-children fit back into our society? How will we rebuild the family dynamics? Our children are suffering, and now killing each other, and also killing themselves. What is it going to take to stop this madness? I am furious with the media, the politicians, the groomers, the Woke crowd, and the evilness of this trans cult and the ideology that is poisoning our world. Children are being fed lies and highly educated adults are supporting these lies. This is worse than any horror movie or book I have seen or read. The shooting in MN is just another example of our failed society, and the blame should not be put on the mother - because we all know that her son was groomed, brainwashed, and affirmed by outside resources for years - by the internet games, and searches, and encouraged by teachers and doctors and therapists. We must hold accountable Medicaid, Planned Parenthood, and Big Pharma. Follow the money! I seriously worry that there will be an uprising, and the tricked trans-kids are going to turn on all of us and the war on children will become the war of the world. This is a nightmare!
Thank you.
Love, Indio
In my coaching practice, I encourage parents to blame the toxic institutional systems, not their ensnared family member(s). The current phenomenon we are witnessing is a divide & conquer tactic that is not grass roots evolved at all, but instead funded and groomed by the ruling class. Their goal is to separate youth from family support, so that they can be exploited. And to divert public attention from ongoing massive theft of the public commons. And to isolate family elders from future family care in order to take financial advantage of them too.
It takes tremendous courage and some cunning for parents to sidestep rather than fall into the traps set by the cults involved in this scheme.