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Helene's avatar

I feel you did the right thing to move out to protect your daughter and your sanity. The way he treats you is unacceptable. I strongly suggest you give him a deadline to get out. Inform him that by summer or whatever time-line you choose, he, as an adult, needs to find other lodging accommodations. You gave him plenty of time,

he can't accuse you of " throwing him out because he's trans ". And if he does, it will clearly come out as dishonest. The narrative is on your side now. Don't think for one second that he loves you more or respect you more for letting him live in your house free of charge. The opposite actually. As a desistor, I remember those nasty narcissistic feelings of disrespect I had towards my parents for any help I got from them

(instead of being thankful like a decent human being). Any chance at him waking up from his trans coma starts with tough love. Wishing you the best💓

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BowWow's avatar

My son also underwent a personality change when he got into the cult, becoming hostile bordering on violent. The fear I would have in your situation is that by providing him a house to live in, it will be easier for him to afford surgeries if he wants them. There is no end to the trans money suck (clothes, make up, laser hair removal especially), and I doubt your son will have any empathy for you and your daughter, or gratitude. Your daughter deserves to live there more than he and his boyfriend do. Sorry if I sound critical. I don't mean to add insult to injury.

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