I wish I can give you a big hug. I resonate with your feelings so much, and it gives me pain to hear your pain. Sometimes, I feel like I am in denial...I pray that because my son has been on hormones for only a few months, that he changes his mind. What if he does? That hope exists for me and because of it, every morning I wake up and move forward with life. I don't know what is going to happen to my son. I can't control him. I know that I did everything I could to help him think this through and understand the grave future consequences of his actions. I am glad that at least he will never be able to say, "no one ever told me." Because I did. Also, I know that God has me in this world, existing each day, for many other reasons other than witnessing what my son is experiencing. I have a purpose, a reason for being alive. I can't forget that. I can choose to contribute to life around in me in countless ways and attempt to make a difference in that way. I still have my days though, like when my son happily told me over the phone the other day that he got both his ears pierced. That hit me hard and knocked me out for a few days. But then, I got back up. Because God expects me to, as well as the rest of world around me that I have an opportunity to affect positively. This is the relationship I have with God: He gives me challenges and a purpose to live, and I focus on my part, leaving the part I can't control in His hands. I pray to him often. I know He hears me. I have a professional I speak to who helps me process all of this. Now, regardless the good attitude I attempt to cultivate on a daily basis, I still expect that I WILL have hard days--very hard days. And that's the time I need to be especially kind to myself. I pray every day that God bless me with everything I need to handle this challenge and help me reach my full potential. And I pray the same for you, and for all of us parents who are helplessly watching our grown child do the unthinkable....YOU have a purpose, a reason to live. Don't forget that.
Very sad! Gender ideation is ruining more than thousands of young people and their families. Gender affirming care is a crime not a health care. Many parents think transgender will not happen to their kids and keep quiet. However, this is like flu, spread very quickly. Did you know there is 4000 times increased number of children declared as trans in the past 10 years! Speak up! Say no to schools’ sexuality education!
Well said! That is the very definition of life in these times for people who sees and thinks about what is going on all around. Sometimes I think that it was happening to me I couldn't deal with such an experience and I would kidnapped my son and take it to an isolate place and have him in a room until the madness ends or redirects to the madness that to be kidnapped for your Mom or parents can produce you, I chose the last one. Of thinking alone in the extremism of castration and another surgeries to became a bad copy of a woman that he would never be is more than traumatic but there aren't enough words to describe what do we live at the moment. It is not your son, it is the society and the times we are living in. We used to recurse to drugs now the youth prefer something more drastic, like a cry of hopelessness. They don't teach philosophy any longer in HS where the purpose of life could be debated and concluded that life had a purpose, less of all talk about a Creator and how we are sacred and our bodies are sacred. All the pillars that used to hold civilization together have been destroyed in the last one hundred years and we have been left with nothing, ziths, only illusions and dreams of becoming something else but that is a solution that comes from the outside, from a world that is broken, we all are. Look for help? Good luck, few therapists would speak the truth because the truth is a sacrilege nowadays, still we have Dr Myriam Grossman, our advocate but look for her in Wikipedia, not that we should relay in WP for real info, but in the description of her you can see why doctors are afraid to speak out, where is their bone? They are cowards, they shut their mouths knowing that people cannot change their nature, theirs biology, and men are not God, we cannot change anything that was a given and if we try, there are consequences, nature will prevail. We must fasten our seat-bells when all this get to the logical conclusion. Continue speaking up, the good news are that more and more people are getting aware of the horrors of this savagery that is transgenderism, more destructive that nihilism or lack of love because at the end is about lack of love for themselves and for the people who love them, the narcissistic ideal. WElcome to the club TET, the eternal traumatized . And that is where we need to be at the moment, that means you understand what it is at stake, don't give up, you are alive!
Grief. Neverending grief. Disenfranchised grief. Past, present , future grief. Grief without end. I can slip into worlds where trans doesn't exist- an escape. But I cannot regain my innocence.
I am truly sorry for what you are going through, it's not fair. The only one who can help you is the Great Healer, Jesus Christ. Seek Him through His Word, the Bible. Start reading at John and give your sorrows over to God by laying them at His feet. The things of this world will never give you what He can through His Holy Spirit. Speak to Him through prayer and ask for strength and comfort.
You have articulated what so many parents are going through. It’s a never ending hell on earth. My fabulous psychologist retired afew years ago & I would never trust another health professional ever again. My family & parent support groups are my help: other than that it’s just as you describe. No respite from the assault on our sanity.
I suggest looking for a Catholic psychiatrist or psychologist. Many of them will see patients even if they're not Catholic. If they follow the faith, they are unlikely to tell you to go along with everything but instead may provide very useful ways to ease your anguish. I wish you the best of luck and I pray you find peace.
Your emotions are raw and real. I understand. I have been seeing a grief counselor since early May and I am also on an antidepressant because of trauma from a family tragedy. I understand how worried you are about your son and about his health and state of mind because of this cult. For over a year I worried about my nephew who claimed he was trans and then secretly moved out of my sister’s home unannounced and insisted on “no contact”. Not knowing where he was, or if he was taking hormones, or if he was safe and eating caused me anxiety. I woke up in the middle of the night and prayed, many times cried, and every morning he was my first thought. I read every story published on PITT, listened to podcasts, and bought and read the PITT book. I was 100% consumed with fighting the trans lies. I even went to a rally and held anti-trans signs at a busy intersection. I needed to support my sister and help carry her worry and heartache. 15 months later, my nephew desisted and returned to his childhood home. There was healing and understanding and bonding. This cult is beyond evil and it has come to rob and steel and destroy families. Please get the help you need to survive this ordeal. I am sad for your loss, grief and pain. I know what it feels like - most of us do on this sub stack. You are not alone, but you need to take care of YOU and let yourself heal. Best wishes to you.
I get you! Nothing anyone says at the moment will alleviate your suffering only you can do that. I wish for you that you find your way to do that. Treat yourself kindly and find your way it is there even now just beyond your reach.
I am a therapist specialized in treating clients with PTSD. People think that trauma comes only from things like being in war or after being in an accident. This is not the case. Seek a therapist who specializes in trauma and who will respect your experience as a grieving/traumatized parent of a transgender child. Ask for this right up front when you vet a therapist. State that if they can't validate your experience, would they please refer you elsewhere. My heart truly goes out to you, and I wish you healing and peace. Here are the criteria for PTSD according to the DSM-5: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/treat/essentials/dsm5_ptsd.asp
Yes, there are specialists in PTSD, Seek them out through through the military veteran's resources. Yes, you need to speak to someone who can help you to downgrade the symptoms to a more manageable case of adjustment disorder, and then time will become your ally.
Select the psychologist by age, and so much better if he or she is a veteran. The last thing you need is to even begin sessions with someone that will axiomatically pathologize your sorrow as maladaptive. I know of two in this area who were very good, but both have retired. It's worth the time and effort to interview a psychologist, but the odds are against you if they're under fifty years old.
Someone told me there is a good book for trauma, "full catastrophe living". I have not yet read it through but maybe it is of use (if it is not, please someone correct me and I will remove this, thank you).
Why? That's a very simple question to answer. I'm here to give my support to every parent who is suffering from this pernicious ideology. To shout out as loud as I can that this ideology needs to be stopped. I am prepared to put my head above the parapet and be prepared to be fired at. I'm not using a pseudonym; everyone can see who I am. My clients may terminate my contracts but children's lives are too important. Thats why.
I wish I can give you a big hug. I resonate with your feelings so much, and it gives me pain to hear your pain. Sometimes, I feel like I am in denial...I pray that because my son has been on hormones for only a few months, that he changes his mind. What if he does? That hope exists for me and because of it, every morning I wake up and move forward with life. I don't know what is going to happen to my son. I can't control him. I know that I did everything I could to help him think this through and understand the grave future consequences of his actions. I am glad that at least he will never be able to say, "no one ever told me." Because I did. Also, I know that God has me in this world, existing each day, for many other reasons other than witnessing what my son is experiencing. I have a purpose, a reason for being alive. I can't forget that. I can choose to contribute to life around in me in countless ways and attempt to make a difference in that way. I still have my days though, like when my son happily told me over the phone the other day that he got both his ears pierced. That hit me hard and knocked me out for a few days. But then, I got back up. Because God expects me to, as well as the rest of world around me that I have an opportunity to affect positively. This is the relationship I have with God: He gives me challenges and a purpose to live, and I focus on my part, leaving the part I can't control in His hands. I pray to him often. I know He hears me. I have a professional I speak to who helps me process all of this. Now, regardless the good attitude I attempt to cultivate on a daily basis, I still expect that I WILL have hard days--very hard days. And that's the time I need to be especially kind to myself. I pray every day that God bless me with everything I need to handle this challenge and help me reach my full potential. And I pray the same for you, and for all of us parents who are helplessly watching our grown child do the unthinkable....YOU have a purpose, a reason to live. Don't forget that.
Very sad! Gender ideation is ruining more than thousands of young people and their families. Gender affirming care is a crime not a health care. Many parents think transgender will not happen to their kids and keep quiet. However, this is like flu, spread very quickly. Did you know there is 4000 times increased number of children declared as trans in the past 10 years! Speak up! Say no to schools’ sexuality education!
Well said! That is the very definition of life in these times for people who sees and thinks about what is going on all around. Sometimes I think that it was happening to me I couldn't deal with such an experience and I would kidnapped my son and take it to an isolate place and have him in a room until the madness ends or redirects to the madness that to be kidnapped for your Mom or parents can produce you, I chose the last one. Of thinking alone in the extremism of castration and another surgeries to became a bad copy of a woman that he would never be is more than traumatic but there aren't enough words to describe what do we live at the moment. It is not your son, it is the society and the times we are living in. We used to recurse to drugs now the youth prefer something more drastic, like a cry of hopelessness. They don't teach philosophy any longer in HS where the purpose of life could be debated and concluded that life had a purpose, less of all talk about a Creator and how we are sacred and our bodies are sacred. All the pillars that used to hold civilization together have been destroyed in the last one hundred years and we have been left with nothing, ziths, only illusions and dreams of becoming something else but that is a solution that comes from the outside, from a world that is broken, we all are. Look for help? Good luck, few therapists would speak the truth because the truth is a sacrilege nowadays, still we have Dr Myriam Grossman, our advocate but look for her in Wikipedia, not that we should relay in WP for real info, but in the description of her you can see why doctors are afraid to speak out, where is their bone? They are cowards, they shut their mouths knowing that people cannot change their nature, theirs biology, and men are not God, we cannot change anything that was a given and if we try, there are consequences, nature will prevail. We must fasten our seat-bells when all this get to the logical conclusion. Continue speaking up, the good news are that more and more people are getting aware of the horrors of this savagery that is transgenderism, more destructive that nihilism or lack of love because at the end is about lack of love for themselves and for the people who love them, the narcissistic ideal. WElcome to the club TET, the eternal traumatized . And that is where we need to be at the moment, that means you understand what it is at stake, don't give up, you are alive!
I'm so sorry.
Grief. Neverending grief. Disenfranchised grief. Past, present , future grief. Grief without end. I can slip into worlds where trans doesn't exist- an escape. But I cannot regain my innocence.
I was so stupidly innocent.
I am truly sorry for what you are going through, it's not fair. The only one who can help you is the Great Healer, Jesus Christ. Seek Him through His Word, the Bible. Start reading at John and give your sorrows over to God by laying them at His feet. The things of this world will never give you what He can through His Holy Spirit. Speak to Him through prayer and ask for strength and comfort.
You have articulated what so many parents are going through. It’s a never ending hell on earth. My fabulous psychologist retired afew years ago & I would never trust another health professional ever again. My family & parent support groups are my help: other than that it’s just as you describe. No respite from the assault on our sanity.
I suggest looking for a Catholic psychiatrist or psychologist. Many of them will see patients even if they're not Catholic. If they follow the faith, they are unlikely to tell you to go along with everything but instead may provide very useful ways to ease your anguish. I wish you the best of luck and I pray you find peace.
I'm so sorry and am in the same boat with you. It's a living hell.😢
Your emotions are raw and real. I understand. I have been seeing a grief counselor since early May and I am also on an antidepressant because of trauma from a family tragedy. I understand how worried you are about your son and about his health and state of mind because of this cult. For over a year I worried about my nephew who claimed he was trans and then secretly moved out of my sister’s home unannounced and insisted on “no contact”. Not knowing where he was, or if he was taking hormones, or if he was safe and eating caused me anxiety. I woke up in the middle of the night and prayed, many times cried, and every morning he was my first thought. I read every story published on PITT, listened to podcasts, and bought and read the PITT book. I was 100% consumed with fighting the trans lies. I even went to a rally and held anti-trans signs at a busy intersection. I needed to support my sister and help carry her worry and heartache. 15 months later, my nephew desisted and returned to his childhood home. There was healing and understanding and bonding. This cult is beyond evil and it has come to rob and steel and destroy families. Please get the help you need to survive this ordeal. I am sad for your loss, grief and pain. I know what it feels like - most of us do on this sub stack. You are not alone, but you need to take care of YOU and let yourself heal. Best wishes to you.
Evil is afoot my friends!
I get you! Nothing anyone says at the moment will alleviate your suffering only you can do that. I wish for you that you find your way to do that. Treat yourself kindly and find your way it is there even now just beyond your reach.
I am a therapist specialized in treating clients with PTSD. People think that trauma comes only from things like being in war or after being in an accident. This is not the case. Seek a therapist who specializes in trauma and who will respect your experience as a grieving/traumatized parent of a transgender child. Ask for this right up front when you vet a therapist. State that if they can't validate your experience, would they please refer you elsewhere. My heart truly goes out to you, and I wish you healing and peace. Here are the criteria for PTSD according to the DSM-5: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/treat/essentials/dsm5_ptsd.asp
Yes, there are specialists in PTSD, Seek them out through through the military veteran's resources. Yes, you need to speak to someone who can help you to downgrade the symptoms to a more manageable case of adjustment disorder, and then time will become your ally.
Select the psychologist by age, and so much better if he or she is a veteran. The last thing you need is to even begin sessions with someone that will axiomatically pathologize your sorrow as maladaptive. I know of two in this area who were very good, but both have retired. It's worth the time and effort to interview a psychologist, but the odds are against you if they're under fifty years old.
Someone told me there is a good book for trauma, "full catastrophe living". I have not yet read it through but maybe it is of use (if it is not, please someone correct me and I will remove this, thank you).
I'm not a parent of a transgender child but I am here.
Why?
Why? That's a very simple question to answer. I'm here to give my support to every parent who is suffering from this pernicious ideology. To shout out as loud as I can that this ideology needs to be stopped. I am prepared to put my head above the parapet and be prepared to be fired at. I'm not using a pseudonym; everyone can see who I am. My clients may terminate my contracts but children's lives are too important. Thats why.
Thank you for being here