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I read this story and it's a horror story - but I am so glad you stopped and have begun to heal and support your sons going in the right direction. However I admit it is hard to be truly happy for you. You are one of the people that has helped ruin my own son's life, our family, his future ... you've done this to so many people. Good for you that you've gotten a second chance ... so many of us out here that haven't.

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Wow this is an awful story. Thank G-d you stopped it when you did. Hard to believe you took 4 years (4 years!) to undue the horrible abuse you perpetrated.

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Thank you for writing what happened to you and your son. You have given him the basis for growing up into a beautiful healthy young man. He and you perhaps have more empathy for those who haven't learned that there are lots of ways of being a boy.

I am sorry to see insults to you on this page. And to LGBT people. You went well beyond what most parents have managed in this, to help your kids. So glad you did! Thank you for your courage and your voice.

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Whatever happens in the future, you're hardwired to still believe slogans and platitudes the same way some Germans did once from their leader.

You're a true idiot and that'll never change.

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From an outside perspective— of course your son wanted to be a girl to attach himself to you. He had no male FATHER to which to create a healthy attachment to.

That’s another area where ideaology meets reality— it’s one thing to have a gay or lesbian sexuality in theory, or even for oneself, but how does that affect children who deserve both a mother and a father?

I say this not to call judgement on the author of this article or anyone else who identifies as gay/lesbian. But our society has accepted these forms of “marriage” without thinking about the unintended consequences of kids having two dads and no mom or two moms and no dad. Don’t children have a right to both a mother and a father? We assume one can easily replace the other, but I suspect that the reality of the fallout of transgender ideology will show us to be wrong. We don’t necessarily need the old-school gender roles of working dad and stay-at-home mom—- but we do need the biological reality of male and female for children to develop healthfully.

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Thank you for being brave to share your experience. Would you be brave enough to go out into the world and broadcast your experience so that others may be diverted from the same road you trod?

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Thank you so much for sharing My daughter recently decided to socially transition my 6 year old granddaughter . She now has a new name, wears her brothers old clothes and has a shaved head Everyone is supposed to use the he/ him pronouns when speaking about her. Since I dared to question my daughter about why this came about so suddenly my daughter stopped speaking to me and I am not allowed to see my three young grandchildren I think it would be hard for her to admit she has made a mistake. I hope I do not have to wait until my younger granddaughter says she wants to be a boy for my daughter to realize what she has done. I find little written about parents who social transition small children

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Bless you and your family. If you are not aware there is a group called gays against groomers that as a straight old person I give $$ to monthly. Strange bedfellows they work with Mothers for Liberty to organize. The founder has been on Tucker Carlson to spread the word. As a conservative I wanted to reach out to comment on your courage to write about this and know that despite the divisive media there is a lot of common ground between us. I now have a better understanding of why parents are ok with taking off healthy breasts, shoving hormone blockers and the like. I didn't realize the industrial complex that has exploded about this. Quite shocking I plan to repost this as many places as I can. Again thank you for your courage.

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Thank you so much. I was a part of this cult as well. I’m So grateful that the scales fell from my eyes and that I left. I’m so grateful to people like you who publicly speak up and inspire other parents to listen to their instincts and protect their children.

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Thank you for writing this, and for speaking on the Wider Lens podcast, which I've also listened to. The ability to entertain the idea we could be wrong about things is a desperately scarce thing these days. We all make mistakes (I'm wrestling with many of my own) but it's what we do once we realise that counts.

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I just listened to your podcast on Gender a Wider Lens. Thank you for your eloquent account of your experience! I want to comment on what you said about suicide ideation being real for parents. It is so very true! Whilst everyone is worried about the poor trans child commiting suicide, nothing is said about the parents. Finally, you said it! I still have suicide ideation at times, 18 months after learning that my daughter started hormones and has estranged herself from my husband and I. It was severe on the beginning! This is a whole topic that needs to be discussed more. Thank you for shedding light on it!

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I think it's so brave of you to write this. There are truly few things harder than saying you changed your mind as a result of new information. I can tell through your words how much you care about being a good parent, partner and role model.

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I listened to your interview on Triggernometry recently and decided to also read your article. You're so brave to be speaking up about this! I wish you, your wife, and your sons all the best. Thank you for speaking up about this very important issue.

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I think the clearest insight to come out of the last few years is that "transgender people" as such... simply do not exist.

It is not an immutable identity characteristic and never was one, no matter how much certain ideologues try to proclaim otherwise by fiat. Transgender is something some people *have,* not something that they *are.* It's a temporary condition that almost always clears itself up within a few years, as long as outside agents don't teach them to reconstruct their self-image around it.

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What a dedicated and courageous parent you are... Always trying so hard to do the best for your children. Thank you for sharing your story

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Thank you for having the courage to share your story. It's very hard to admit a mistake, especially around parenting.

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