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Anon's avatar

Once again, as with all these posts, your sentiments echo my own. We are now entering our third Xmas & our son is estranged completely. Siblings do not share anything about him (who they refer to loyally as a ‘they’ as some kind of weird compromise). So there is nothing fun & joyful anymore about family get togethers. They have been sullied. I prefer to keep my memories because it is a fact that they were happy ones. As you say, accepting that this is our lives now is very difficult & cannot be fast forwarded. Unfortunately we have to go through this pain. Life goes in one direction. I inquire & challenge very little as my kids are old enough to make their own decisions & choices & will have to live with the consequences. I don’t want to offer myself as a punch bag they will later regret. Enjoy the time with your husband, look after each other & stay strong for when they need you. They’ll miss it one day

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Rachel S's avatar

I am so glad you put words to this particular part of the painful experience we are all going through. Makes me feel less alone. I have also switched from individual names to "love from the family". I don't include any descriptions of our lives. I chose the photos with care to downplay obvious changes. Just one more area that is a minefield and extra draining! Sigh.

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