I am a little hopeful because at least the tide is turning right now as compared to when my daughter transitioned in the height of the insanity. Maybe it will be a little harder for her than it was for my daughter and a little less popular.
I so feel this as well, my son was premature and deathly ill in the Nicu for about six weeks. When we finally got him home, I pumped for almost 6 months because he would not latch. Miraculously he did one day, and he continued to nurse until he was almost two. Despite the odds and what Dr said, could transpire due to his prematurity and illness, he did not have any vision loss, cognitive impairment, etc. he went on to be gifted at everything in sports academically musically…. At 16, during Covid, he found the dark world that we were all familiar with. He’s now 21 and still living in delusion, no ambitions to speak of dropped out of post secondary, and still gaming into the wee hours with online friends that he’s never met in person. I’m not aware of him having a social life or any hobbies outside of the computer screen. Heartbreaking for sure, but there’s absolutely nothing I can do now other than care for my own well-being and mental stability.
The extraordinarily successful indoctrination, the media sell out....the greed of the gender identity industry, the absence of critical thinking of many in the medical & psychological fields...what a catastrophic coming together of forces that've provided troubled youngsters with a false solution to their anguish. I fear that the world is so turned upside down there seems to be little opportunity for clarity on any of this just now but I hope I'm wrong.
There may now be less suppression of some of the scientific studies that clearly show harm with so-called affirmation, but once someone is captured, evidently even looking at these studies or listening to de-transitioners is forbidden. What will it take???
Thank you to everyone for writing, including those who have offered some suggestions as to how to approach confused and unhappy kids.
I hope your daughter somehow may have a change of heart.
She IS truly a miracle, and so you know that miracles DO happen.
Your story resonates so much with me. My child also has a complicated medical history. We worked so hard for health. To get off any treatments… reduce doctor visits… ensure our child is as strong as possible. And this has our child diving right back in to it all. Into the deep end or a stormy pool with no lifeguard on duty, while my husband and I are stuck behind a fence, trying desperately without success to get through, watching it all happen as we try to call out how dangerous this is. It’s very hard. You have my empathy. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. We have a similar story of a struggling sibling. Our daughter who had everything going for her fell for this delusion in college.
I wonder how common this is, as I see several other comments about similar situations.
I'm holding onto hope that this mass delusion will fade and our sons and daughters will wake up and remember who they are. Praying for all of us and our loved ones.
I'm so sad reading your story. You did so much to help your babies to live and be healthy and now one of them has taken this destructive path. I know how if feels to live with a child who believes they are trans. You are on eggshells all the time. Your experience with your daughter sounds very like mine with my son - a kid who kept taking up different interests, becoming bored when he knew how they worked. He learned the harmonica - when he was able to play he dropped it, likewise piano. He could have been excellent. Fencing - running,, the list goes on. I did hope that trans might go the same way but as i haven't seen or heard from him for three years I don't have any idea. But I can hope.
Please look at what Marcus Evans has been writing about siblings where one is very ill or otherwise struggling, and the other becomes trans identified. Maybe it will help you understand some angles so you can help your child!!
Also, if the MD follows wpath please note that wpath calls for parents to be involved even if the kid is over 18 in some circumstances. Given your bring informed and your history of supporting your child you have claims to being heard!!!
Interesting, we have the same sibling situation and I notice several other parents commenting the same. Thank you for recommending this information; I'll be interested to read it.
Horrible for you watching her go down this rabbit hole. Would you take her so called healthcare away unless she grants you access to her records & are involved in discussions or do you think she’ll dig her heels in or worse, get funding elsewhere. There’s more to life than trying the impossible lie of changing your sex.
‘She is enough’. Indeed. The culture has betrayed us us and our children and they are no longer allowed to just take the time to grow into themselves and learn to just be. I am so sorry. I would advise to NoT send her to college but form another plan. College is a cesspool of this. Not kidding.
I am filled with sadness reading this. I hope your girl manages to find her true self before she perpetrates any more mental or physical harm on herself. Shame on those who are encouraging this sort of self-harm.
"Adults who encourage and celebrate children’s unhappiness with their sexed bodies are perpetrating great harms and injustices against children because they are cementing in confused and delusional thinking and making them promises that cannot be kept.
Agreeing with those who have bought into a faulty belief system that tells them that external changes are an easy fix for complex problems is just plain wrong. There is never a “wrong” body for any of us." https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/be-thankful-for-what-youve-got
Thank you for sharing your story. Heartbreaking. This fits into the pattern of trans identifying kids having a "high needs" sibling. This was true in our case, and in many other cases as well as Gender a Wider Lens podcast talked about this as well. This said, she is only 18, and there is still hope. Lots of hope. She is a miracle and she is enough, and she will see this too.
I am a little hopeful because at least the tide is turning right now as compared to when my daughter transitioned in the height of the insanity. Maybe it will be a little harder for her than it was for my daughter and a little less popular.
For anyone interested here are the side effects.
https://www.midwesterndoctor.com/p/the-dark-history-of-hormone-and-puberty
I so feel this as well, my son was premature and deathly ill in the Nicu for about six weeks. When we finally got him home, I pumped for almost 6 months because he would not latch. Miraculously he did one day, and he continued to nurse until he was almost two. Despite the odds and what Dr said, could transpire due to his prematurity and illness, he did not have any vision loss, cognitive impairment, etc. he went on to be gifted at everything in sports academically musically…. At 16, during Covid, he found the dark world that we were all familiar with. He’s now 21 and still living in delusion, no ambitions to speak of dropped out of post secondary, and still gaming into the wee hours with online friends that he’s never met in person. I’m not aware of him having a social life or any hobbies outside of the computer screen. Heartbreaking for sure, but there’s absolutely nothing I can do now other than care for my own well-being and mental stability.
So sad to read your story.
The extraordinarily successful indoctrination, the media sell out....the greed of the gender identity industry, the absence of critical thinking of many in the medical & psychological fields...what a catastrophic coming together of forces that've provided troubled youngsters with a false solution to their anguish. I fear that the world is so turned upside down there seems to be little opportunity for clarity on any of this just now but I hope I'm wrong.
There may now be less suppression of some of the scientific studies that clearly show harm with so-called affirmation, but once someone is captured, evidently even looking at these studies or listening to de-transitioners is forbidden. What will it take???
Thank you to everyone for writing, including those who have offered some suggestions as to how to approach confused and unhappy kids.
I hope your daughter somehow may have a change of heart.
She IS truly a miracle, and so you know that miracles DO happen.
Your story resonates so much with me. My child also has a complicated medical history. We worked so hard for health. To get off any treatments… reduce doctor visits… ensure our child is as strong as possible. And this has our child diving right back in to it all. Into the deep end or a stormy pool with no lifeguard on duty, while my husband and I are stuck behind a fence, trying desperately without success to get through, watching it all happen as we try to call out how dangerous this is. It’s very hard. You have my empathy. ❤️
As a retired pediatrician I am so ashamed of my profession.
Thank you for sharing your story. We have a similar story of a struggling sibling. Our daughter who had everything going for her fell for this delusion in college.
I wonder how common this is, as I see several other comments about similar situations.
I'm holding onto hope that this mass delusion will fade and our sons and daughters will wake up and remember who they are. Praying for all of us and our loved ones.
I'm so sad reading your story. You did so much to help your babies to live and be healthy and now one of them has taken this destructive path. I know how if feels to live with a child who believes they are trans. You are on eggshells all the time. Your experience with your daughter sounds very like mine with my son - a kid who kept taking up different interests, becoming bored when he knew how they worked. He learned the harmonica - when he was able to play he dropped it, likewise piano. He could have been excellent. Fencing - running,, the list goes on. I did hope that trans might go the same way but as i haven't seen or heard from him for three years I don't have any idea. But I can hope.
Please look at what Marcus Evans has been writing about siblings where one is very ill or otherwise struggling, and the other becomes trans identified. Maybe it will help you understand some angles so you can help your child!!
Also, if the MD follows wpath please note that wpath calls for parents to be involved even if the kid is over 18 in some circumstances. Given your bring informed and your history of supporting your child you have claims to being heard!!!
So sorry.
Interesting, we have the same sibling situation and I notice several other parents commenting the same. Thank you for recommending this information; I'll be interested to read it.
Horrible for you watching her go down this rabbit hole. Would you take her so called healthcare away unless she grants you access to her records & are involved in discussions or do you think she’ll dig her heels in or worse, get funding elsewhere. There’s more to life than trying the impossible lie of changing your sex.
‘She is enough’. Indeed. The culture has betrayed us us and our children and they are no longer allowed to just take the time to grow into themselves and learn to just be. I am so sorry. I would advise to NoT send her to college but form another plan. College is a cesspool of this. Not kidding.
You did not mention her social media presence. How much a role did it play and did you try to limit it?
It's good that you protected her as long as you could. Hopefully she thinks this through more.
I am filled with sadness reading this. I hope your girl manages to find her true self before she perpetrates any more mental or physical harm on herself. Shame on those who are encouraging this sort of self-harm.
"Adults who encourage and celebrate children’s unhappiness with their sexed bodies are perpetrating great harms and injustices against children because they are cementing in confused and delusional thinking and making them promises that cannot be kept.
Agreeing with those who have bought into a faulty belief system that tells them that external changes are an easy fix for complex problems is just plain wrong. There is never a “wrong” body for any of us." https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/be-thankful-for-what-youve-got
praying
Thank you for sharing your story. Heartbreaking. This fits into the pattern of trans identifying kids having a "high needs" sibling. This was true in our case, and in many other cases as well as Gender a Wider Lens podcast talked about this as well. This said, she is only 18, and there is still hope. Lots of hope. She is a miracle and she is enough, and she will see this too.