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Hippiesq's avatar

It's even harder when the elephant is very active. My 18-year-old daughter is taking hormones and has legally changed her name and there is not a damned thing I can do about it. She lives here and attends college, which she is enjoying. We still connect like before, watching movies or tv shows, listening to music, walking outside, eating food we like, joking, but there is always an elephant between us. It's so big and clumsy that it occasionally painfully steps on my feet when I walk with her, or on my chest when I lay down on the couch near her. It's very strange pretending all is normal and fine when she is anything but normal and fine. NO HEALTHY TEENAGE GIRL SHOULD BE TAKING TESTOSTERONE OR PRETENDING SHE IS MALE. It simply should not be happening. But I have to live with it, and see what becomes of all of this. What a strange life this has become!

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Lantyslee's avatar

Also in the same boat, watching and waiting with our son. We don’t talk about the gender elephant in the room. He’s 21 and my list of desistance and not-desistance is similar to yours. He’s left home for university so we can’t be sure what he’s doing but he hasn’t joined the LGBT society and none of his friends are trans as far as we know.

We’re holding our breath, keeping him close and crossing our fingers.

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