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Laura G's avatar

Thank you for these so eloquently put words. As I read this I imagined my son pacing around my home the day he left for the second time. So heart breaking…. It’s just so heart breaking. So many firsts… jumping off the high dive on his 5th birthday, ice skating, water skiing, snow skiing, hiking and camping, paddle boarding, fixing the washer and replacing a garbage disposal, putting new flooring in the family room… I taught him all this stuff. I tried to teach morals and compassion and love and common sense. He seemed like he was getting it…. Until he wasn’t.

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Gay J's avatar

I am so sad to hear your story and I can understand. My son turned 21 on November 11. Actually I was in hospital and quite ill. I would have loved to be able to tell him how proud I am of him but I haven't seen or heard from him for three years. As parents we always seem to be in the wrong no matter how hard we try to love and understand our kids.

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Mama Bear Proud's avatar

I"m sorry, it's painful when they estrange. This is a cult - unless we affirm 100% and pay for it, we will be on the opposite side. I hope you are well after your illness.

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AnnR's avatar

I'm so sorry for your loss. I offer you my sincerest condolences. To you, and all the parents who have lost their children to this cult.

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Colleen's avatar

Oh dear one, this brought me to tears. I feel so sorry for us all but the way you told us about your lovely son is really heartbreaking. I wish I could soothe your soul. There is one who can . I recommend God's Son Jesus to heal your heart.

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Poeima's avatar

I am so sorry to hear your story. Unfortunately, there are so many stories like yours. I pray that one day your son will return and you will be able to hold him in your loving arms.

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ccGrandpa's avatar

I read the essays here every day, and each essay touches my heart in a different way. Thanks for posting yours.

God Bless.

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Joan P's avatar

Oh my gosh, this made me cry. So beautifully captured. And so similar to the nightmare we’ve lived. Dreadful, dreadful, dreadful. Our handsome, spirited, confident boy is gone. Taken by a cult. And leaving us tied and bound and hopeless. Without support or recognition that what these evil indoctrinators are doing is criminal. It’s vicious.

I wish I could say that it gets better, but it doesn’t. I feel, in a way, like I’m the living dead. I have to get through every day - I have a husband, other children, a job - but all my thoughts are always with the child I’ve lost.

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Mama Bear Proud's avatar

It's so true that our thoughts are always with the one lost to the cult - the times living in the moment are rare. I hope your son comes back to your family soon.

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Joan P's avatar

Thank you. ❤️

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Ann's avatar

This is heartbreaking. Too many parents and families going through this. It must end.

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Emily Ann's avatar

I am so sorry. The children do not see what we see. They don't see the wasting away of a life, the degradation in their mental and physical health, the destruction. They are so deeply embedded in the cult that they have been conditioned to speak like good little robots, repeating the buzz-phrases, saying their parents are the enemy, and insisting they've never looked or felt happier, despite all evidence pointing to the contrary.

Don't give up. He's still young. It's not too late for him to come back.

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for the kids's avatar

he would have been 21 today but he did not make it. horrific tragedy.

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Emily Ann's avatar

I am so sorry I misread the story :( I thought he had just left and gone no contact. My deepest apologies - and sympathies.

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for the kids's avatar

Many people reading this substack probably needed to hear those words for themselves, your generous kindness is not wasted.

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Melissa R.'s avatar

I am so sorry.

I recall worrying about my teenage daughter--unplanned pregnancy, drugs, drinking and driving?

The trans cult was not on my radar.

May your son come back to you soon.

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LAZULI's avatar

I am so sorry 🙏

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Natalia's avatar

What a horrific cult. All of our stories are so similar it’s crazy!! The difference between my situation and yours I guess is that I’ve come across lots of photos of my daughter on Instagram since she left us. She seems to be doing nothing other than partying. Of course, the social workers are plying her with money even though she’s already 19 years old. If she was ever unhappy is because we discovered her lies. She also fell in love with a lunatic girl who considers herself “straight”. Both homophobes. My daughter must have realised with some anxiety that she was same sex attracted and to keep this girl she had to make herself a man. Every person who colluded is a criminal. We’ve survived the first anniversaries and now are surviving the second set of important dates.

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L RiverOtter's avatar

I’m so sorry to hear this; I understand your struggle. My son turned 21 in December. The end of February was the second anniversary of his leaving home and cutting me out of his life. It is painful, but I hope you never give up on yourselves. And I hope there will someday be new firsts in your life with your son that are causes for joy rather than grief.

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Victoria's avatar

He is no longer of this world, and all hope for new firsts is truly gone now. 😢

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L RiverOtter's avatar

I am so terribly sorry - I did not realize. You still have my hopes and prayers for strength for you and all the parents having to face this unreal reality.

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Grandma Eileen's avatar

Wow - too many firsts. Tears are streaming down my face. I am so sad for your loss; this is just heartbreaking. 21 years ago, he made you a mother, and I know you would give anything to have him with you on this special day. The trans cult robs, steals, takes, and destroys and your story is a perfect example of the brainwashing that is happening. Innocent children are groomed, affirmed, and tricked into believing the trans lies. I am saying prayers for you and your family and for all the other families who have had to deal with a loss. May God give your peace and comfort.

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John Davies's avatar

This article has raised a new life lesson that I am going to instill into my kids -"Often, people who make bad choices try to get you to do the same thing, so they feel better about what they did."

Thank you for sharing your story.

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George Q Tyrebyter's avatar

Yes, the trannies vindicate their delusional choice by getting others to make the same mistake.

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Natalia's avatar

Recruitment takes almost a desperate level. And they get more aggressive as they double down

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Un-silent's avatar

I agree. I recently watched a video about a satanic acceleration cult. Children were pulled in and made to do terrible things and some even ended their lives. I couldn't help but think about this trans/alphabet cult doing similar things and trapping these kids, but in a different way. Both are satanic, but one is just more obvious.

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Victoria's avatar

This poor boy's parents are so courageous, and my heart goes out to them 💔

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Karen's avatar

This is so heartbreaking , I'm so sorry. I am still very much involved with my daughter who is trans male. It hurts so much because I want her around me but because of the way she looks now I can't introduce her to people as my son. I just can't do it.... I pray everyday that God please bring her back to me as my daughter and I'll pray for all families going through this horrible ordeal. Keep the faith and stay strong. Most importantly don't give up!

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Anne's avatar

😪🙏

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