Closer still, a new dawn rises. Caught off guard, a relieved sob escapes. Four cruel, grueling years, we’ve held our breath, walking on eggshells, ruminating on what went wrong. The metamorphosis of others soaked down to our daughter’s seeking soul. Layers of rage, self-hatred, deception melt, puddled like rocky road on blazing blacktop. Cautiously optimistic joy climbs to the surface of my mind. Could we get our prodigal back? Safe in our embrace, embracing her destiny? Good omens abound like the hint of lip gloss, the smile at old photos, The melting façade of manufactured indignation and subjective truth Our sweet baby girl, laughing, back in our arms, uplifting, not crushing our spirits. Hint of compassion, contrition, connection loft through the air like spring lilac dew. We toss our pills with hopeful hands, gallop into the garden and touch supple grass, escaping the mindless prisons of Netflix and grazing to faze the pain. With broad, confident strides, we step out into the blazing sunshine of a life restored… thank you, Lord.
Fingers crossed! Really hope it works out for you!! 🙂❤️
Also, not to be prejudiced, or to assume you must have views that you don’t have, just because you mentioned lipgloss, and you referenced the “Lord», thus are most likely a Christian. There are plenty of actually progressive and open-minded Christians, too! Plus also, I do get that if your daughter made a point out of disavowing everything «feminine», as a part of her newfound «gender identity» convictions, it could be seen as a good sign that she’s becoming more okay with once again embracing some of that «femininity» that she rejected! As her rejection of it was part of her cult induction / indoctrination, and the new cult personality that she took on! (Especially if she previously used to appreciate «feminine» things.) However, speaking as a woman, and as a feminist, (the radical / real kind, not the fake «choice feminist» kind), I just hope she won’t be expected to engage in «feminine» behaviors, just because she is a woman, and this society arbitrarily expects that of women. I think so many women dissociate from their sex, and take on a «trans» identity, as a way of saying they want none of that horse shit, and they perceive it as a REBELLION against sexism! Even though it is actually just «progressive» sexism, 2.0! With old-school sexism being: «because you are a girl, you HAVE TO like frilly, pink, glittery things!» Whereas according to the new sexism: «if you are a girl who does not like frilly, pink, glittery things, that means you’re not really a girl!» Which is SO completely infuriating, if you think about it… BOTH versions of it, really!! Although sexism 2.0 is arguably even worse, as it also destroys healthy bodies, and induces mental illness and mind-body dissociation.
So yeah… Very likely, you may already be aware of this! But I just felt like making the point, anyway. If she wants to engage in some level of «femininity» now, so be it. Perhaps she’s missed it, and some part of her always wanted to, but she simply did not feel like she could, if she wanted to be taken seriously as a supposed «trans man»! In which case, I guess reclaiming her right to, for instance, wear lipgloss, can feel powerful and rebellious to her… In which case, good for her! But I also hope she won’t be EXPECTED to be any more «feminine», just because she may gradually be coming to accept her sex now. That for instance, if she wants to wear a suit to a formal occasion instead of a dress, no one will bat an eye, and if she’s not interested in boys, or does not ever want to have children, also, no one will bat an eye. Sex is real and unchangeable, and it has SOME following biological consequences for us all, that are completely unavoidable. But other than that, it should not put any restrictions on who we can be, as people. Just my take. 🙂
"The metamorphosis of others soaked down to our daughter’s seeking soul."
Detransitioners are the key to transformation in a culture that values "influencers." These brave individuals risk everything, and their example is essential.
I'm thrilled that your family is intact and stronger than ever.
Dear One, thank you for this beautiful poem. So hope it is reality for your family. If so, I am, so happy for you! This gives us all hope for our loved ones. Sending love and prayers.
Thank you for this Hope. It's been three years. Yesterday I was caught by surprise at an unexpected outpouring of grief. It may have been connected to a feeling loss at the prospect of attending our daughter's college graduation without contact or acknowledgement. All that we were not able to share in. The idea that we won't know about her life going forward unless she relents. I am glad you were able to change your relationship with your adult child.
May all the lost children find their way back .....🙏🏼
Fingers crossed! Really hope it works out for you!! 🙂❤️
Also, not to be prejudiced, or to assume you must have views that you don’t have, just because you mentioned lipgloss, and you referenced the “Lord», thus are most likely a Christian. There are plenty of actually progressive and open-minded Christians, too! Plus also, I do get that if your daughter made a point out of disavowing everything «feminine», as a part of her newfound «gender identity» convictions, it could be seen as a good sign that she’s becoming more okay with once again embracing some of that «femininity» that she rejected! As her rejection of it was part of her cult induction / indoctrination, and the new cult personality that she took on! (Especially if she previously used to appreciate «feminine» things.) However, speaking as a woman, and as a feminist, (the radical / real kind, not the fake «choice feminist» kind), I just hope she won’t be expected to engage in «feminine» behaviors, just because she is a woman, and this society arbitrarily expects that of women. I think so many women dissociate from their sex, and take on a «trans» identity, as a way of saying they want none of that horse shit, and they perceive it as a REBELLION against sexism! Even though it is actually just «progressive» sexism, 2.0! With old-school sexism being: «because you are a girl, you HAVE TO like frilly, pink, glittery things!» Whereas according to the new sexism: «if you are a girl who does not like frilly, pink, glittery things, that means you’re not really a girl!» Which is SO completely infuriating, if you think about it… BOTH versions of it, really!! Although sexism 2.0 is arguably even worse, as it also destroys healthy bodies, and induces mental illness and mind-body dissociation.
So yeah… Very likely, you may already be aware of this! But I just felt like making the point, anyway. If she wants to engage in some level of «femininity» now, so be it. Perhaps she’s missed it, and some part of her always wanted to, but she simply did not feel like she could, if she wanted to be taken seriously as a supposed «trans man»! In which case, I guess reclaiming her right to, for instance, wear lipgloss, can feel powerful and rebellious to her… In which case, good for her! But I also hope she won’t be EXPECTED to be any more «feminine», just because she may gradually be coming to accept her sex now. That for instance, if she wants to wear a suit to a formal occasion instead of a dress, no one will bat an eye, and if she’s not interested in boys, or does not ever want to have children, also, no one will bat an eye. Sex is real and unchangeable, and it has SOME following biological consequences for us all, that are completely unavoidable. But other than that, it should not put any restrictions on who we can be, as people. Just my take. 🙂
Beautiful!
"The metamorphosis of others soaked down to our daughter’s seeking soul."
Detransitioners are the key to transformation in a culture that values "influencers." These brave individuals risk everything, and their example is essential.
I'm thrilled that your family is intact and stronger than ever.
All my good wishes.
God above thank you for their miracle! May our family one day, too, rejoice- being our son back to us. I am so happy for your daughter’s return
Dear One, thank you for this beautiful poem. So hope it is reality for your family. If so, I am, so happy for you! This gives us all hope for our loved ones. Sending love and prayers.
Love, Indio
Our situation is improving, but it's a roller coaster with some days seeming closer to healthy than others.
From one mama's heart to another, so so very happy for you! ❤️
Thank you, Rachel.
Oh my gosh, I hope this means your daughter came back to her true self and that this is not just a poem.
I pray daily for my son’s healing🙏
Praise God if this is how things worked out for you and your family 🙏
She’s getting there. No longer angry w female pronouns or name, no longer trying to use men’s room.
Beautiful!! Thank you for sharing your hope-filled poem.
It sounds like a beautiful dream, waking up from the years long nightmare. Thank you for sharing your hopeful joy with us.
some hope on the horizon for hopefully many!
Thank you for this Hope. It's been three years. Yesterday I was caught by surprise at an unexpected outpouring of grief. It may have been connected to a feeling loss at the prospect of attending our daughter's college graduation without contact or acknowledgement. All that we were not able to share in. The idea that we won't know about her life going forward unless she relents. I am glad you were able to change your relationship with your adult child.
She is 17 and still slightly confused. It’s an emotional roller coaster.
Sending you a tremendous hug
sounds like their daughter changed her relationship with herself.
That is the draw to home - home to self, home to family.
So very happy for you 🥹🙏
Manufactured indignation; and also searing rage. May all the prodigals someday escape from the bonds of evil and untruth.
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So happy for you! ❤️
I can’t imagine the joy of getting a child back from this nightmare.