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Georgie K's avatar

My heart goes out to you. You are being overly hard on yourself, although I understand the temptation. There are stories from parents of all styles and approaches who have watched as a similar situation unfolds. Some have been ‘warrior-like’, others more watchful, some hands-on, others hands-off. You could have approached things differently and met with the same result. This is not on you. Conversely, I see accounts sometimes from self-congratulatory parents of children who have either never ID’d as trans or who have desisted, sharing with the world how they did things right. I don’t buy that either. You didn’t create this, and your parenting is not at the heart of it.

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Sarah C's avatar

This made me tear up ..my soon to be 16 year old daughter was nearly captured by this madness. I went scorched earth,took her out of school, threatened the teacher who had told her she might be trans with legal action(I actually wanted to strong him up but saying or doing so would only result in a lengthy stay at his majestys pleasure).

I refused to change her name,I refused point blank to buy binders although I did get her a few minimising bras as the women in our family are over blessed in the boob department and I remember feeling so uncomfortable myself at that age.

Suddenly adult men won't stop staring,many many more than anyone could imagine said 'age doesn't matter',if people knew just how many..

So I stuck to my guns and we got through but for you your beautiful daughter was nearly grown.

I understand if this had happened to my lass at 19 I would have no say so

I hope against all hope that she will turn on a pin and let this go before she has anything too invasive,I hope that the biological tick tock that we all as women have picks up,she see's a friend's baby and has that twinge deep down,the want for one of her own

I never thought I could live in a time where this was all ushered in under being kind,where the same people fighting GM in Africa trans their own bloody offspring.

I truly wish you and your girl all the best and a way out of this madness

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