A friend of mine went through this with his teenaged son, who was really struggling, including with same-sex attraction as it turned out. He sent him to a psychiatrist, who put him on a full-scale course of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy). Basically, DBT teaches emotional intelligence skills. The kid realized he wasn’t trans - he’s gay. He’s doing well now. For more on DBT, you’ll find an interview of Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT, on YouTube - search “Marsha Linehan interview, HSE Ireland” to find it. I’ll include the link below.
Lots of trans people have gone through puberty. Why didn’t they stop having gender dysphoria? Is It because they had more negative inputs about their natural selves than positive? On the negative side is the possibility of abuse or peer pressure or social networking influence, and on the positive - what?
Most of victims are adults anyway. We need to totally forbid this crime! Being "an adult" does not make you allowed to hurt yourself or others hurt you.
Amazing re-discovery!!! Leave kids alone and don’t socialize them in the ideology and they will turn out fine. Love them. Spend time with them. Get them off social media. Love them even more. Spend even more time with them. I love this “new” discovery.
We are stunting children’s development in the name of kindness and activism. Thank you for this piece. I’m saving it for my daughter who was in this but now has a child. I worry she will support the idea of trans children.
After the first paragraph I thought oh they are going to say the intervention is do nothing, let nature take its course and have them go through puberty and most of these things will take care of themselves. I knew that because I am an educator, who has taken several courses on adolescence development. In each of these courses we learn about the proper and normal development of young people. So here is my biggest gripe. If every teacher has to learn this to be a teacher and of course every doctor, oh yeah, and every psychologist, therapist etc. how can these people ignore the “science”? How could anyone with this knowledge in good conscience allow children to become underdeveloped in body and mind and think that is the right answer? How can so many people be captured by this? Are they not able to think or reason for themselves? Even if you didn’t know that blocking hormones will halt brain development, you have to know that it would stop your body developing, and that can’t be good for your body. And yet they recommend it. It’s mind boggling.
Until a couple of decades ago, the issue of people who wished to be the opposite sex was very marginal, essentially comprising two groups: prepubescent children and young men and adults with autogynephilia*. [*Men who find arousal in seeing themselves as women].
The 11 longitudinal studies conducted with children demonstrated that the thesis presented in this article is correct: the vast majority of boys and girls accepted their bodies after puberty.
But currently, a new group of young people with different conditions has emerged who, succumbing to the social pressure of the new gender ideology, widespread even among many healthcare professionals and in much of the youth and media, declare themselves “trans,” “non-binary,” or experiencing “gender dysphoria.” When they seek help—or even outside of it—they begin social or medical “transitions” with the vain hope of overcoming their anxieties, fears, and depression.
The parents' grief is immense, and the feeling of helplessness is overwhelming and agonizing. What can be done about it? There is no foolproof, magic solution. We are facing a problem that transcends the medical realm: it is a social problem. I don't know when it will be overcome, but I am convinced that it will happen. What we can do is work together to make this happen as soon as possible: by researching, learning, becoming spokespeople for the reality, and supporting and joining forces with the organizations that are already doing so.
Let's not remain silent. Giving up is not an option.
My son went through puberty, had a girlfriend in High School, a successful career after college and moved to a very liberal city out of state where his very liberal girlfriend had moved to. She was a year older. They became engaged when he was 24. I was excited.
He was very involved in gaming, Discord and anime. Sadly too involved.I believe his fiance encouraged his transition along with people he met on discord. Less than a year into their engagement I noticed changes. He seemed a little more distant. So did his fiance. She grew cold. He was growing his hair longer. I didn’t think too much about it though. Especially that!! He never had the qualities of being a girl. After his last visit though he sent me a text saying he was part of the transgender community after going silent for a couple of months . No discussing anything. I don’t hear from him anymore. About a year after that text his fiance left him for another transgender friend. M to F. She’s says she’s a lesbian. It will be 3 yrs this June since I heard from my son and my heart is broken.
Puberty is not of course an "intervention", but it is the opposite of what transgender activism advocates for, which is puberty blockers for children and adolescents who are distressed about their sexed bodies and the changes in anatomy, physiology and social relationship[s which puberty brings about. The intervention which is a problem is administering puberty blockers!
Same here. Our son joined the trans cult at 23 but he was indoctrinated at college. Big regrets. He is at the lowest point of his life but in denial of it. We are living inside a nightmare that we can’t wake up from. It’s destroying our family to watch him crash and burn while we sit quietly at the sidelines, feeling powerless and knowing he’s the victim of a greedy industry that has much to profit from “informed consent” and no mandatory real psychological evaluation. We are broken.
My son was 21 when he met up with “friends” from a Discord “alphabet” group. They offered him their medication until he could get in with an affirming physician.
He has now gained 50lbs & should be on high blood pressure medication NOT cross-sex hormones. The internist prescribing them doesn’t address it therefore my son doesn’t think it’s a problem.
I am grateful we do get along with the “agree to disagree” stance on the MTF ideology. My prayer is for him to stop the meds & let them clear his system, get the true healing his mind and body needs to progress as a functional member of society who is truly happy in his own life. I also pray that he finds a woman who loves him and accepts him despite all he has put his body through. *I say this b/c he says he is a lesbian (insert eyeroll)
My heart started racing as I read your comment. While I understand that his friends are just as lost as he is and are likely children of other PITT members... gosh, I wish they got arrested and went to jail for giving your son their prescription meds. There are federal and state laws against it , at least in the USA. If a few got arrested, perhaps it would be a deterrent to others. I cannot believe how cavalier young people are with their bodies!
It’s crazy how you raise your kids to be situationally aware and recognize dangerous behaviors to keep them safe. Do not take others medication or accepting things from strangers were high priorities. Never would I ever have thought he would have done that. The lure of the internet can be all consuming and a black hole for those quiet, shy souls who seek friendship and connection. I thought our family and friend groups were enough. I was wrong.
I’m saddens to hear that. I made sure my oldest had long and short term health insurance with his job. I said it would not be fair for your little brother or I to give up jobs and livelihood due to his choice to take these life altering meds. When he has cancer, a heart attack or stroke, his online friends will not be the ones at his bedside teaching him how to use a spoon or helping him to the bathroom.
Sadly, our son was 23 when he went down this road and five years later, he is still far away. Puberty did distress him. We just didn’t know how much until long afterward.
After my son discovered the trans lunacy, we tried puberty with presenting lots of information, reasonable therapy, and encouraging positive activities. And our son still succumbed to the trans disease freshman year of college. I regret sending him away to college.
A friend of mine went through this with his teenaged son, who was really struggling, including with same-sex attraction as it turned out. He sent him to a psychiatrist, who put him on a full-scale course of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy). Basically, DBT teaches emotional intelligence skills. The kid realized he wasn’t trans - he’s gay. He’s doing well now. For more on DBT, you’ll find an interview of Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT, on YouTube - search “Marsha Linehan interview, HSE Ireland” to find it. I’ll include the link below.
https://youtu.be/fR7Oi0cyoVo?si=ltsPOOpNCs6MawM1
Lots of trans people have gone through puberty. Why didn’t they stop having gender dysphoria? Is It because they had more negative inputs about their natural selves than positive? On the negative side is the possibility of abuse or peer pressure or social networking influence, and on the positive - what?
Most of victims are adults anyway. We need to totally forbid this crime! Being "an adult" does not make you allowed to hurt yourself or others hurt you.
Amazing re-discovery!!! Leave kids alone and don’t socialize them in the ideology and they will turn out fine. Love them. Spend time with them. Get them off social media. Love them even more. Spend even more time with them. I love this “new” discovery.
We are stunting children’s development in the name of kindness and activism. Thank you for this piece. I’m saving it for my daughter who was in this but now has a child. I worry she will support the idea of trans children.
After the first paragraph I thought oh they are going to say the intervention is do nothing, let nature take its course and have them go through puberty and most of these things will take care of themselves. I knew that because I am an educator, who has taken several courses on adolescence development. In each of these courses we learn about the proper and normal development of young people. So here is my biggest gripe. If every teacher has to learn this to be a teacher and of course every doctor, oh yeah, and every psychologist, therapist etc. how can these people ignore the “science”? How could anyone with this knowledge in good conscience allow children to become underdeveloped in body and mind and think that is the right answer? How can so many people be captured by this? Are they not able to think or reason for themselves? Even if you didn’t know that blocking hormones will halt brain development, you have to know that it would stop your body developing, and that can’t be good for your body. And yet they recommend it. It’s mind boggling.
My first thought duh 🙄 duh when I first heard this duh today. How did so many throw common sense out the window.
Until a couple of decades ago, the issue of people who wished to be the opposite sex was very marginal, essentially comprising two groups: prepubescent children and young men and adults with autogynephilia*. [*Men who find arousal in seeing themselves as women].
The 11 longitudinal studies conducted with children demonstrated that the thesis presented in this article is correct: the vast majority of boys and girls accepted their bodies after puberty.
But currently, a new group of young people with different conditions has emerged who, succumbing to the social pressure of the new gender ideology, widespread even among many healthcare professionals and in much of the youth and media, declare themselves “trans,” “non-binary,” or experiencing “gender dysphoria.” When they seek help—or even outside of it—they begin social or medical “transitions” with the vain hope of overcoming their anxieties, fears, and depression.
The parents' grief is immense, and the feeling of helplessness is overwhelming and agonizing. What can be done about it? There is no foolproof, magic solution. We are facing a problem that transcends the medical realm: it is a social problem. I don't know when it will be overcome, but I am convinced that it will happen. What we can do is work together to make this happen as soon as possible: by researching, learning, becoming spokespeople for the reality, and supporting and joining forces with the organizations that are already doing so.
Let's not remain silent. Giving up is not an option.
To learn more about autogynephilia:
https://transpolicy.substack.com/p/trans-memo
My son went through puberty, had a girlfriend in High School, a successful career after college and moved to a very liberal city out of state where his very liberal girlfriend had moved to. She was a year older. They became engaged when he was 24. I was excited.
He was very involved in gaming, Discord and anime. Sadly too involved.I believe his fiance encouraged his transition along with people he met on discord. Less than a year into their engagement I noticed changes. He seemed a little more distant. So did his fiance. She grew cold. He was growing his hair longer. I didn’t think too much about it though. Especially that!! He never had the qualities of being a girl. After his last visit though he sent me a text saying he was part of the transgender community after going silent for a couple of months . No discussing anything. I don’t hear from him anymore. About a year after that text his fiance left him for another transgender friend. M to F. She’s says she’s a lesbian. It will be 3 yrs this June since I heard from my son and my heart is broken.
😢
Puberty is not of course an "intervention", but it is the opposite of what transgender activism advocates for, which is puberty blockers for children and adolescents who are distressed about their sexed bodies and the changes in anatomy, physiology and social relationship[s which puberty brings about. The intervention which is a problem is administering puberty blockers!
Same here. Our son joined the trans cult at 23 but he was indoctrinated at college. Big regrets. He is at the lowest point of his life but in denial of it. We are living inside a nightmare that we can’t wake up from. It’s destroying our family to watch him crash and burn while we sit quietly at the sidelines, feeling powerless and knowing he’s the victim of a greedy industry that has much to profit from “informed consent” and no mandatory real psychological evaluation. We are broken.
😢
Yes, my son was also beyond puberty, so this new intervention is not available for us. Let me know when there's a pathway out for young adults!
My son was 21 when he met up with “friends” from a Discord “alphabet” group. They offered him their medication until he could get in with an affirming physician.
He has now gained 50lbs & should be on high blood pressure medication NOT cross-sex hormones. The internist prescribing them doesn’t address it therefore my son doesn’t think it’s a problem.
I am grateful we do get along with the “agree to disagree” stance on the MTF ideology. My prayer is for him to stop the meds & let them clear his system, get the true healing his mind and body needs to progress as a functional member of society who is truly happy in his own life. I also pray that he finds a woman who loves him and accepts him despite all he has put his body through. *I say this b/c he says he is a lesbian (insert eyeroll)
My heart started racing as I read your comment. While I understand that his friends are just as lost as he is and are likely children of other PITT members... gosh, I wish they got arrested and went to jail for giving your son their prescription meds. There are federal and state laws against it , at least in the USA. If a few got arrested, perhaps it would be a deterrent to others. I cannot believe how cavalier young people are with their bodies!
It’s crazy how you raise your kids to be situationally aware and recognize dangerous behaviors to keep them safe. Do not take others medication or accepting things from strangers were high priorities. Never would I ever have thought he would have done that. The lure of the internet can be all consuming and a black hole for those quiet, shy souls who seek friendship and connection. I thought our family and friend groups were enough. I was wrong.
In four years, my son has gained around 100 pounds on his poisonous cocktail of hormones.
I’m saddens to hear that. I made sure my oldest had long and short term health insurance with his job. I said it would not be fair for your little brother or I to give up jobs and livelihood due to his choice to take these life altering meds. When he has cancer, a heart attack or stroke, his online friends will not be the ones at his bedside teaching him how to use a spoon or helping him to the bathroom.
Thank you.
Sadly, our son was 23 when he went down this road and five years later, he is still far away. Puberty did distress him. We just didn’t know how much until long afterward.
😢
After my son discovered the trans lunacy, we tried puberty with presenting lots of information, reasonable therapy, and encouraging positive activities. And our son still succumbed to the trans disease freshman year of college. I regret sending him away to college.