Whispers
Whispers behind our backs. A friend of a friend of a friend. ‘Did you know? Did you know they won’t call their son their daughter? Why not? Because. Because they’re transphobic.’ They know. Those who have not read anything about this. They know what’s going on and they know what we are. We’re transphobic. ‘It’s like gay. Only trans. Same thing.’ They know. ‘Transphobic!’ But they can’t say it to us. They say it behind our backs. Better that way. They want to be nice. ‘Defend themselves?? How could they possibly defend themselves? There is nothing they can say anyway. They’re transphobic. Why would we have a conversation with them? La la la.’ But we love our son!! Wait....please...listen to us! Did you know they are cutting the breasts off of 14 year old girls? ‘La la la. They are not doing that! We don’t believe you. Anyway they just want to be their authentic selves. Leave them alone!’ No! Listen! Please! They think there is no reason except transphobia to not call our son our daughter. Nobody wants to hear that you can’t actually be born in the wrong body. ‘La la la’. Nobody wants to hear how devastating it is to have a beloved son enter into a cultish delusion where the end game is cutting off body parts. ‘La la la’. Nobody wants to hear how deeply it hurts us to know that everyone is celebrating him...celebrating what? That he will pretend to be what he is not for the rest of his life? Devastating to us. Everyone else celebrates. Yesterday we were nice people. Today we’re transphobic. Everyone is so sure of themselves. They know. Actually. They have no idea.
You captured my feelings exactly… I have to distance myself from several close relatives because they are so smug and self-righteous. It is so hurtful.
The accusation of "transphobia" is a thought stopping phrase, used to frame criticism and critical thought as hateful. Listed alongside things like racism homophobia and sexism, to frame it as though you "hate" someone for an immutable trait and not hating an ideology. I've seen people say there is a trans genocide and list transphobia as a human rights violation or use ethnic cleansing, the holocaust, and the Israel Palestine conflict to compare, as ridiculous as it sounds for anyone who hasn't seen it I see it time and time again I have the screenshots to prove it. To not be an "evil" person you have to deny the evidence of your eyes and ears, deny your own memory if it doesn't fit a narrative. People prey on your vulnerability as a person to control you. The threat of alienation and shunning is something most people are vulnerable to just because they're human, we're social creatures and we need each other, we are all vulnerable to peer pressure and manipulation because being alone is a threat to us, look to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. They say "be kind", "help the people you love", "this is suicide prevention", to persuade you into abandoning thought for the sake of your child, your friend, your partner, etc. It is to further frame any dissenting voices as evil. "Trust the science", "this is proven to work", to frame those questioning as stupid. A complete flip of the script, if you say i refuse to look at a man and call him a woman, you are framed as "denying science" because "trans people always existed" "trans women are women" or any other mantra. "Puberty blockers are safe and reversible, hormones are safe and reversible, surgeries never happen to minors, and all of these are suicide prevention and healthcare". They have you deny the evidence of your eyes and ears again. I am Jazz aired on TV and a large amount of people saw Jazz Jennings getting vaginoplasty as a teenager. We know people who have gotten surgeries as minors. Doctors have reported trans related double mastectomies on minors as young as 13 and vaginoplasty on minors as young as 15. But you'll notice that every discussion with trans supporters about minors getting surgeries are just the narcissist's prayer. The studies for puberty blockers were on children with precocious puberty, not trans patients who would never "unpause" puberty, they were not proven safe for this person, and theres risks even for kids with precocious puberty. Hormones are irreversible and can damage your body. But it doesn't fit a narrative so saying so makes you "transphobic", makes you hateful, ignorant, dangerous, like a racist, like a nazi. And they're instilled in kids and teens like truth "be kind trust science trans women are women always affirm dont be hateful". Repeated like cult tought stopping techniques, so that the cost of thinking and questioning is your social acceptance, and to your brain the cost is your safety. Trans is a cult.