Whispers behind our backs. A friend of a friend of a friend. ‘Did you know? Did you know they won’t call their son their daughter? Why not? Because. Because they’re transphobic.’ They know. Those who have not read anything about this. They know what’s going on and they know what we are. We’re transphobic. ‘It’s like gay. Only trans. Same thing.’ They know. ‘Transphobic!’ But they can’t say it to us. They say it behind our backs. Better that way. They want to be nice. ‘Defend themselves?? How could they possibly defend themselves? There is nothing they can say anyway. They’re transphobic. Why would we have a conversation with them? La la la.’ But we love our son!! Wait....please...listen to us! Did you know they are cutting the breasts off of 14 year old girls? ‘La la la. They are not doing that! We don’t believe you. Anyway they just want to be their authentic selves. Leave them alone!’ No! Listen! Please! They think there is no reason except transphobia to not call our son our daughter. Nobody wants to hear that you can’t actually be born in the wrong body. ‘La la la’. Nobody wants to hear how devastating it is to have a beloved son enter into a cultish delusion where the end game is cutting off body parts. ‘La la la’. Nobody wants to hear how deeply it hurts us to know that everyone is celebrating him...celebrating what?
The kidnapping of my precious son's body, mind & spirit by this cult helped me become a person that cares little what fools think or say about me. It helped me to easily walk away from a dear friend who shared that there were multiple mothers in her playgroup socially transitioning their toddlers & that she saw nothing wrong with it. (She actually unfriended me when I already had one foot out the door, in response to my posts declaring that masking young children is child abuse, but that's another story). Anyway, I know Christ better now & keep in mind that not only did he come with a sword, but that the world hated him first! Forge on my broken hearted brothers & sisters!
It is getting better. I'm now aware of some trans supporters being afraid to speak their opinions. The shoe is slowly going on the other foot. Time is on our side.
Most relatable text I have read about being a trans parent so far. I just met some old friends. They pretend to listen, but they don't. "But it is possible to look like a woman, a Barbie doll, and yet feel like a man!" La la la. I told them the whole world supports trans, I told them I haven't met one doctor who didn't support affirmative care, and I was shocked by my own statement but I knew it was true. I've talked to family physicians, an endicronologist, a cardiologist, a gynaecologist, a head nurse at the gender clinic. Lalala.
I wake up nightly--and realize that what is going on in our lives is our living nightmare. And it's his nightmare to bare too, daily. All I do is incessantly beg God for His intervention. Take the blinders off of my son- release him from the constant barrage of affirmation and celebration from peers. I fear his family are the only ones left not telling him it's awesome.
The media makes everyone think all parents of trans-identified kids should affirm and are heartless and evil if they don't. The media rarely tells the stories of non-affirming families and wants people to believe nearly all parents are desperate to medicalize their "trans" children.
So we can't totally blame the general public for their attitudes. They just haven't been given full information.
The accusation of "transphobia" is a thought stopping phrase, used to frame criticism and critical thought as hateful. Listed alongside things like racism homophobia and sexism, to frame it as though you "hate" someone for an immutable trait and not hating an ideology. I've seen people say there is a trans genocide and list transphobia as a human rights violation or use ethnic cleansing, the holocaust, and the Israel Palestine conflict to compare, as ridiculous as it sounds for anyone who hasn't seen it I see it time and time again I have the screenshots to prove it. To not be an "evil" person you have to deny the evidence of your eyes and ears, deny your own memory if it doesn't fit a narrative. People prey on your vulnerability as a person to control you. The threat of alienation and shunning is something most people are vulnerable to just because they're human, we're social creatures and we need each other, we are all vulnerable to peer pressure and manipulation because being alone is a threat to us, look to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. They say "be kind", "help the people you love", "this is suicide prevention", to persuade you into abandoning thought for the sake of your child, your friend, your partner, etc. It is to further frame any dissenting voices as evil. "Trust the science", "this is proven to work", to frame those questioning as stupid. A complete flip of the script, if you say i refuse to look at a man and call him a woman, you are framed as "denying science" because "trans people always existed" "trans women are women" or any other mantra. "Puberty blockers are safe and reversible, hormones are safe and reversible, surgeries never happen to minors, and all of these are suicide prevention and healthcare". They have you deny the evidence of your eyes and ears again. I am Jazz aired on TV and a large amount of people saw Jazz Jennings getting vaginoplasty as a teenager. We know people who have gotten surgeries as minors. Doctors have reported trans related double mastectomies on minors as young as 13 and vaginoplasty on minors as young as 15. But you'll notice that every discussion with trans supporters about minors getting surgeries are just the narcissist's prayer. The studies for puberty blockers were on children with precocious puberty, not trans patients who would never "unpause" puberty, they were not proven safe for this person, and theres risks even for kids with precocious puberty. Hormones are irreversible and can damage your body. But it doesn't fit a narrative so saying so makes you "transphobic", makes you hateful, ignorant, dangerous, like a racist, like a nazi. And they're instilled in kids and teens like truth "be kind trust science trans women are women always affirm dont be hateful". Repeated like cult tought stopping techniques, so that the cost of thinking and questioning is your social acceptance, and to your brain the cost is your safety. Trans is a cult.
What I equally hate are the pioneers and older ones who claim transitioning is the only way to alleviate their dysphoria or distress. If you listen carefully to the pioneers, they don’t seem to question whether that’s right and don’t follow up long term.
My sister in law is friends with an old transman living a quiet life in a village nearby. Few people know he used to be a woman. Lived with his mom his whole life. At first his mom was very worried about it. He had a short relationship with a widow with kids "but it was not possible". People ask him to come and speak in schools and clubs but he always refuses. He must have been one of the first ones in Belgium to transition, hormones at 25, operations at 31. His doctors told him: be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed. I wonder how much he knows about the current frenzy and if he knows, what he thinks about it. I can’t ask him, he refuses to meet me.
"WARNING: Be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed." This needs to be in bold letters on every container of synthetic sex hormones, along with the horrific side effects -- Like cigarettes
They have a narrative to push, they don't look at their situation objectively. Your brain will always look for reinforcement of things you believe. If you believe your life got better since transitioning you will notice all the evidence that you're happier now and not notice any ways your life has gotten worse or any alternative explanations as to why you are happier in those moments. The kids who are told this since they were young just see it as the truth. They dont know a world without trans ideology, to them transitioning treating any kind of gender related distress is as scientific as glasses fixing your vision and braces straightening your teeth. Source being I was that kid who grew up with this along with all of my peers who are young adults now
The kidnapping of my precious son's body, mind & spirit by this cult helped me become a person that cares little what fools think or say about me. It helped me to easily walk away from a dear friend who shared that there were multiple mothers in her playgroup socially transitioning their toddlers & that she saw nothing wrong with it. (She actually unfriended me when I already had one foot out the door, in response to my posts declaring that masking young children is child abuse, but that's another story). Anyway, I know Christ better now & keep in mind that not only did he come with a sword, but that the world hated him first! Forge on my broken hearted brothers & sisters!
Is the author "unknown?" Just wondering to give credit. I don't think I've ever felt more "heard"
This is fantastic!
It is getting better. I'm now aware of some trans supporters being afraid to speak their opinions. The shoe is slowly going on the other foot. Time is on our side.
I share in your frustration and anger at this madness. We are the side of sanity in a truly dystopian world.
Yes, they have no idea.
Most relatable text I have read about being a trans parent so far. I just met some old friends. They pretend to listen, but they don't. "But it is possible to look like a woman, a Barbie doll, and yet feel like a man!" La la la. I told them the whole world supports trans, I told them I haven't met one doctor who didn't support affirmative care, and I was shocked by my own statement but I knew it was true. I've talked to family physicians, an endicronologist, a cardiologist, a gynaecologist, a head nurse at the gender clinic. Lalala.
So true!! Thank you for sharing!
We are blessed to have a small community who support us and pray for our son alongside us, but outside of that - yes, apparently we are transphobic. 🙄
The smugness is unbearable. I'm so sorry.
Great way to describe it. The smugness is the worst!
I wake up nightly--and realize that what is going on in our lives is our living nightmare. And it's his nightmare to bare too, daily. All I do is incessantly beg God for His intervention. Take the blinders off of my son- release him from the constant barrage of affirmation and celebration from peers. I fear his family are the only ones left not telling him it's awesome.
I actually think that now some people are starting to change their minds because they know people like us, parents who resisted.
The media makes everyone think all parents of trans-identified kids should affirm and are heartless and evil if they don't. The media rarely tells the stories of non-affirming families and wants people to believe nearly all parents are desperate to medicalize their "trans" children.
So we can't totally blame the general public for their attitudes. They just haven't been given full information.
100% agree. I blame MSM almost entirely for allowing this disaster to continue.
The media also ignores those who have de-transitioned. They are out there and they have stories which are impactful.
These words from the bible often come to my mind. "Forgive them because they don't know what they are doing."
"They have no idea."
True, they don't see what's outside of their social & media bubbles.
Trans is a cult.
Is everyone who identifies as trans in a cult? No.
Are the young people who cut contact, erase history, cut off breasts, etc. in a cult? Yes.
Great & true points!
The accusation of "transphobia" is a thought stopping phrase, used to frame criticism and critical thought as hateful. Listed alongside things like racism homophobia and sexism, to frame it as though you "hate" someone for an immutable trait and not hating an ideology. I've seen people say there is a trans genocide and list transphobia as a human rights violation or use ethnic cleansing, the holocaust, and the Israel Palestine conflict to compare, as ridiculous as it sounds for anyone who hasn't seen it I see it time and time again I have the screenshots to prove it. To not be an "evil" person you have to deny the evidence of your eyes and ears, deny your own memory if it doesn't fit a narrative. People prey on your vulnerability as a person to control you. The threat of alienation and shunning is something most people are vulnerable to just because they're human, we're social creatures and we need each other, we are all vulnerable to peer pressure and manipulation because being alone is a threat to us, look to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. They say "be kind", "help the people you love", "this is suicide prevention", to persuade you into abandoning thought for the sake of your child, your friend, your partner, etc. It is to further frame any dissenting voices as evil. "Trust the science", "this is proven to work", to frame those questioning as stupid. A complete flip of the script, if you say i refuse to look at a man and call him a woman, you are framed as "denying science" because "trans people always existed" "trans women are women" or any other mantra. "Puberty blockers are safe and reversible, hormones are safe and reversible, surgeries never happen to minors, and all of these are suicide prevention and healthcare". They have you deny the evidence of your eyes and ears again. I am Jazz aired on TV and a large amount of people saw Jazz Jennings getting vaginoplasty as a teenager. We know people who have gotten surgeries as minors. Doctors have reported trans related double mastectomies on minors as young as 13 and vaginoplasty on minors as young as 15. But you'll notice that every discussion with trans supporters about minors getting surgeries are just the narcissist's prayer. The studies for puberty blockers were on children with precocious puberty, not trans patients who would never "unpause" puberty, they were not proven safe for this person, and theres risks even for kids with precocious puberty. Hormones are irreversible and can damage your body. But it doesn't fit a narrative so saying so makes you "transphobic", makes you hateful, ignorant, dangerous, like a racist, like a nazi. And they're instilled in kids and teens like truth "be kind trust science trans women are women always affirm dont be hateful". Repeated like cult tought stopping techniques, so that the cost of thinking and questioning is your social acceptance, and to your brain the cost is your safety. Trans is a cult.
What I equally hate are the pioneers and older ones who claim transitioning is the only way to alleviate their dysphoria or distress. If you listen carefully to the pioneers, they don’t seem to question whether that’s right and don’t follow up long term.
My sister in law is friends with an old transman living a quiet life in a village nearby. Few people know he used to be a woman. Lived with his mom his whole life. At first his mom was very worried about it. He had a short relationship with a widow with kids "but it was not possible". People ask him to come and speak in schools and clubs but he always refuses. He must have been one of the first ones in Belgium to transition, hormones at 25, operations at 31. His doctors told him: be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed. I wonder how much he knows about the current frenzy and if he knows, what he thinks about it. I can’t ask him, he refuses to meet me.
"WARNING: Be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed." This needs to be in bold letters on every container of synthetic sex hormones, along with the horrific side effects -- Like cigarettes
They have a narrative to push, they don't look at their situation objectively. Your brain will always look for reinforcement of things you believe. If you believe your life got better since transitioning you will notice all the evidence that you're happier now and not notice any ways your life has gotten worse or any alternative explanations as to why you are happier in those moments. The kids who are told this since they were young just see it as the truth. They dont know a world without trans ideology, to them transitioning treating any kind of gender related distress is as scientific as glasses fixing your vision and braces straightening your teeth. Source being I was that kid who grew up with this along with all of my peers who are young adults now
Yes, Ghost12, especially your words here:
"These kids don't know a world without trans ideology".
🙏🩵🩷
It's a cult, and a game I am not playing.
exactly.
Why do people even entertain the idea that a person can be "born in the wrong body"?
It is a complete absurdity. Full stop. End of story.
Me, a total stranger, is sending you a pat on the back and a "Hail, well done!"