Whispers behind our backs. A friend of a friend of a friend. ‘Did you know? Did you know they won’t call their son their daughter? Why not? Because. Because they’re transphobic.’ They know. Those who have not read anything about this. They know what’s going on and they know what we are. We’re transphobic. ‘It’s like gay. Only trans. Same thing.’ They know. ‘Transphobic!’ But they can’t say it to us. They say it behind our backs. Better that way. They want to be nice. ‘Defend themselves?? How could they possibly defend themselves? There is nothing they can say anyway. They’re transphobic. Why would we have a conversation with them? La la la.’ But we love our son!! Wait....please...listen to us! Did you know they are cutting the breasts off of 14 year old girls? ‘La la la. They are not doing that! We don’t believe you. Anyway they just want to be their authentic selves. Leave them alone!’ No! Listen! Please! They think there is no reason except transphobia to not call our son our daughter. Nobody wants to hear that you can’t actually be born in the wrong body. ‘La la la’. Nobody wants to hear how devastating it is to have a beloved son enter into a cultish delusion where the end game is cutting off body parts. ‘La la la’. Nobody wants to hear how deeply it hurts us to know that everyone is celebrating him...celebrating what?
The kidnapping of my precious son's body, mind & spirit by this cult helped me become a person that cares little what fools think or say about me. It helped me to easily walk away from a dear friend who shared that there were multiple mothers in her playgroup socially transitioning their toddlers & that she saw nothing wrong with it. (She actually unfriended me when I already had one foot out the door, in response to my posts declaring that masking young children is child abuse, but that's another story). Anyway, I know Christ better now & keep in mind that not only did he come with a sword, but that the world hated him first! Forge on my broken hearted brothers & sisters!
It is getting better. I'm now aware of some trans supporters being afraid to speak their opinions. The shoe is slowly going on the other foot. Time is on our side.
Most relatable text I have read about being a trans parent so far. I just met some old friends. They pretend to listen, but they don't. "But it is possible to look like a woman, a Barbie doll, and yet feel like a man!" La la la. I told them the whole world supports trans, I told them I haven't met one doctor who didn't support affirmative care, and I was shocked by my own statement but I knew it was true. I've talked to family physicians, an endicronologist, a cardiologist, a gynaecologist, a head nurse at the gender clinic. Lalala.
I wake up nightly--and realize that what is going on in our lives is our living nightmare. And it's his nightmare to bare too, daily. All I do is incessantly beg God for His intervention. Take the blinders off of my son- release him from the constant barrage of affirmation and celebration from peers. I fear his family are the only ones left not telling him it's awesome.
The media makes everyone think all parents of trans-identified kids should affirm and are heartless and evil if they don't. The media rarely tells the stories of non-affirming families and wants people to believe nearly all parents are desperate to medicalize their "trans" children.
So we can't totally blame the general public for their attitudes. They just haven't been given full information.
"Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-5)"
Actually I think we really need to blame people here, they should not get away with this. But it is not the transitioners, not the gullible people affirming them, but the powers behind this cult, and the doctors and journalists who should do the research.
Not sure what the pitch is here. There are no gullible people (aside from those in the wider population who, perhaps, are not informed…).
Cult - that sounds fun… though it isn’t one.
The doctors/opinions of the American Medical Association (AMA), that key reputable. representative of the (no longer united) States of America Physician's group count I guess? The AMA has "come out" strongly in their support for the established, scientifically (that's fact based) medical protocols on working with the transgender community. - as an Other group that exists (like so many in that world of natural diversity).
The AMA voice joins that of the existing strong medical guidelines for interactions with this diverse community in place in more progressive countries - ie those supporting diversity in all there forms. Including the perspectives given by the British Medical Association (BMA) and the Australia Medical Association (AuMA) to name but two.
And yes these medical communities opinions are based on science.
The accusation of "transphobia" is a thought stopping phrase, used to frame criticism and critical thought as hateful. Listed alongside things like racism homophobia and sexism, to frame it as though you "hate" someone for an immutable trait and not hating an ideology. I've seen people say there is a trans genocide and list transphobia as a human rights violation or use ethnic cleansing, the holocaust, and the Israel Palestine conflict to compare, as ridiculous as it sounds for anyone who hasn't seen it I see it time and time again I have the screenshots to prove it. To not be an "evil" person you have to deny the evidence of your eyes and ears, deny your own memory if it doesn't fit a narrative. People prey on your vulnerability as a person to control you. The threat of alienation and shunning is something most people are vulnerable to just because they're human, we're social creatures and we need each other, we are all vulnerable to peer pressure and manipulation because being alone is a threat to us, look to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. They say "be kind", "help the people you love", "this is suicide prevention", to persuade you into abandoning thought for the sake of your child, your friend, your partner, etc. It is to further frame any dissenting voices as evil. "Trust the science", "this is proven to work", to frame those questioning as stupid. A complete flip of the script, if you say i refuse to look at a man and call him a woman, you are framed as "denying science" because "trans people always existed" "trans women are women" or any other mantra. "Puberty blockers are safe and reversible, hormones are safe and reversible, surgeries never happen to minors, and all of these are suicide prevention and healthcare". They have you deny the evidence of your eyes and ears again. I am Jazz aired on TV and a large amount of people saw Jazz Jennings getting vaginoplasty as a teenager. We know people who have gotten surgeries as minors. Doctors have reported trans related double mastectomies on minors as young as 13 and vaginoplasty on minors as young as 15. But you'll notice that every discussion with trans supporters about minors getting surgeries are just the narcissist's prayer. The studies for puberty blockers were on children with precocious puberty, not trans patients who would never "unpause" puberty, they were not proven safe for this person, and theres risks even for kids with precocious puberty. Hormones are irreversible and can damage your body. But it doesn't fit a narrative so saying so makes you "transphobic", makes you hateful, ignorant, dangerous, like a racist, like a nazi. And they're instilled in kids and teens like truth "be kind trust science trans women are women always affirm dont be hateful". Repeated like cult tought stopping techniques, so that the cost of thinking and questioning is your social acceptance, and to your brain the cost is your safety. Trans is a cult.
What I equally hate are the pioneers and older ones who claim transitioning is the only way to alleviate their dysphoria or distress. If you listen carefully to the pioneers, they don’t seem to question whether that’s right and don’t follow up long term.
My sister in law is friends with an old transman living a quiet life in a village nearby. Few people know he used to be a woman. Lived with his mom his whole life. At first his mom was very worried about it. He had a short relationship with a widow with kids "but it was not possible". People ask him to come and speak in schools and clubs but he always refuses. He must have been one of the first ones in Belgium to transition, hormones at 25, operations at 31. His doctors told him: be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed. I wonder how much he knows about the current frenzy and if he knows, what he thinks about it. I can’t ask him, he refuses to meet me.
"WARNING: Be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed." This needs to be in bold letters on every container of synthetic sex hormones, along with the horrific side effects -- Like cigarettes
They have a narrative to push, they don't look at their situation objectively. Your brain will always look for reinforcement of things you believe. If you believe your life got better since transitioning you will notice all the evidence that you're happier now and not notice any ways your life has gotten worse or any alternative explanations as to why you are happier in those moments. The kids who are told this since they were young just see it as the truth. They dont know a world without trans ideology, to them transitioning treating any kind of gender related distress is as scientific as glasses fixing your vision and braces straightening your teeth. Source being I was that kid who grew up with this along with all of my peers who are young adults now
lol, that's the first time in my life someone has accused me of not reading enough. Usually people think I read too much. Well of course you don't know me, even though you think you can tell me what to do. ... That SciAm article is infamous abandonment of scientific knowledge. You think the sex binary is illusory? sure, and Santa Claus and the Tooth-Fairy are real, right? ... But even if the sex binary has some spectrum on it, the binary itself is not rendered inexistent. And what does that have to do with the rhetoric about being born in the wrong body? What other body might a person inhabit except for their own? One body, one life, that is the human situation. We are born, we live, we die, all in one body. We get two eyes, two lungs, one heart ... and either a female or male reproductive system and chromosomes. The Disorders of sexual development, very rare as they are, only prove that binary is the usual and optimal course of things. ... Anyway, when you get your new body let me know. I sure would like an identity as a twenty year old.
I have no idea what made you think that I suggested that I can tell you what to do. My apologises if my substack piece suggested that.
You indicate you are well read, and at this risk of being taken as patronising - excellent! While I have the feeling that your reading might be a little skewed and if your comment re the article “Sex Redefined: The Idea of 2 Sexes Is Overly Simplistic” Scientific America 22/10/2018“ I used it as a quote since (as you know) Scientific American is “accessible” science. I have the sense that Bioessentialism (a theory that suggests sex assignments are straightforward, objective, and purely biological differences) is your domain. Personally I go with a transgender identity is a "mosaic" of brain development. It’s not a straightforward “male” or “female” but then the natural world and its diversity is rarely so (even though the human psyche prefers “simple”, and often abhors uncertainty). This Google AI summary says it we;; “The gender binary is the social, cultural, and legal classification of gender into two distinct, opposite, and1 fixed categories: male/man and female/woman. It assumes that gender aligns with sex assigned at birth, enforcing strict roles, behaviors, and expectations. This framework is a social construct, not a universal biological fact” Google AI 04/03/2026 And if that 2018 science article is “questionable” I guess the opinions of the American Medical Association (AMA), that key reputable. representative of the (no longer united) States of America Physician's group means little. The AMA has "come out" strongly in their support for the established, scientifically (that's fact based) medical protocols on working with the transgender community. - as an Other group that exists (like so many in that world of natural diversity).
The AMA voice joins that of the existing strong medical guidelines for interactions with this diverse community in place in more progressive countries - ie those supporting diversity in all there forms. Including the perspectives given by the British Medical Association (BMA) and the Australia Medical Association (AuMA) to name but two. But I guess these don’t count for much either.
Nevertheless, just in case, here are some other science / gender oriented thoughts/reading… that might help (this bit is patronising)
And I would suggest that yourself, and others in the same sad perspectives on the natural world and its diversity, reflect on this biblical quote: Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-5)
And in my world I have (finally) youth, as a woman.
>>Yesterday we were nice people.
Today we’re transphobic.
Everyone is so sure of themselves.
They know.
Actually.
They have no idea.<<
This, exactly.
The kidnapping of my precious son's body, mind & spirit by this cult helped me become a person that cares little what fools think or say about me. It helped me to easily walk away from a dear friend who shared that there were multiple mothers in her playgroup socially transitioning their toddlers & that she saw nothing wrong with it. (She actually unfriended me when I already had one foot out the door, in response to my posts declaring that masking young children is child abuse, but that's another story). Anyway, I know Christ better now & keep in mind that not only did he come with a sword, but that the world hated him first! Forge on my broken hearted brothers & sisters!
Is the author "unknown?" Just wondering to give credit. I don't think I've ever felt more "heard"
This is fantastic!
It is getting better. I'm now aware of some trans supporters being afraid to speak their opinions. The shoe is slowly going on the other foot. Time is on our side.
I share in your frustration and anger at this madness. We are the side of sanity in a truly dystopian world.
Yes, they have no idea.
Most relatable text I have read about being a trans parent so far. I just met some old friends. They pretend to listen, but they don't. "But it is possible to look like a woman, a Barbie doll, and yet feel like a man!" La la la. I told them the whole world supports trans, I told them I haven't met one doctor who didn't support affirmative care, and I was shocked by my own statement but I knew it was true. I've talked to family physicians, an endicronologist, a cardiologist, a gynaecologist, a head nurse at the gender clinic. Lalala.
So true!! Thank you for sharing!
We are blessed to have a small community who support us and pray for our son alongside us, but outside of that - yes, apparently we are transphobic. 🙄
The smugness is unbearable. I'm so sorry.
Great way to describe it. The smugness is the worst!
I wake up nightly--and realize that what is going on in our lives is our living nightmare. And it's his nightmare to bare too, daily. All I do is incessantly beg God for His intervention. Take the blinders off of my son- release him from the constant barrage of affirmation and celebration from peers. I fear his family are the only ones left not telling him it's awesome.
I actually think that now some people are starting to change their minds because they know people like us, parents who resisted.
The media makes everyone think all parents of trans-identified kids should affirm and are heartless and evil if they don't. The media rarely tells the stories of non-affirming families and wants people to believe nearly all parents are desperate to medicalize their "trans" children.
So we can't totally blame the general public for their attitudes. They just haven't been given full information.
100% agree. I blame MSM almost entirely for allowing this disaster to continue.
The media also ignores those who have de-transitioned. They are out there and they have stories which are impactful.
These words from the bible often come to my mind. "Forgive them because they don't know what they are doing."
Or perhaps this one:
"Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-5)"
Actually I think we really need to blame people here, they should not get away with this. But it is not the transitioners, not the gullible people affirming them, but the powers behind this cult, and the doctors and journalists who should do the research.
Not sure what the pitch is here. There are no gullible people (aside from those in the wider population who, perhaps, are not informed…).
Cult - that sounds fun… though it isn’t one.
The doctors/opinions of the American Medical Association (AMA), that key reputable. representative of the (no longer united) States of America Physician's group count I guess? The AMA has "come out" strongly in their support for the established, scientifically (that's fact based) medical protocols on working with the transgender community. - as an Other group that exists (like so many in that world of natural diversity).
The AMA voice joins that of the existing strong medical guidelines for interactions with this diverse community in place in more progressive countries - ie those supporting diversity in all there forms. Including the perspectives given by the British Medical Association (BMA) and the Australia Medical Association (AuMA) to name but two.
And yes these medical communities opinions are based on science.
Hope the above helps clarify.
Take care
JoAnne
"They have no idea."
True, they don't see what's outside of their social & media bubbles.
Trans is a cult.
Is everyone who identifies as trans in a cult? No.
Are the young people who cut contact, erase history, cut off breasts, etc. in a cult? Yes.
Great & true points!
The accusation of "transphobia" is a thought stopping phrase, used to frame criticism and critical thought as hateful. Listed alongside things like racism homophobia and sexism, to frame it as though you "hate" someone for an immutable trait and not hating an ideology. I've seen people say there is a trans genocide and list transphobia as a human rights violation or use ethnic cleansing, the holocaust, and the Israel Palestine conflict to compare, as ridiculous as it sounds for anyone who hasn't seen it I see it time and time again I have the screenshots to prove it. To not be an "evil" person you have to deny the evidence of your eyes and ears, deny your own memory if it doesn't fit a narrative. People prey on your vulnerability as a person to control you. The threat of alienation and shunning is something most people are vulnerable to just because they're human, we're social creatures and we need each other, we are all vulnerable to peer pressure and manipulation because being alone is a threat to us, look to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. They say "be kind", "help the people you love", "this is suicide prevention", to persuade you into abandoning thought for the sake of your child, your friend, your partner, etc. It is to further frame any dissenting voices as evil. "Trust the science", "this is proven to work", to frame those questioning as stupid. A complete flip of the script, if you say i refuse to look at a man and call him a woman, you are framed as "denying science" because "trans people always existed" "trans women are women" or any other mantra. "Puberty blockers are safe and reversible, hormones are safe and reversible, surgeries never happen to minors, and all of these are suicide prevention and healthcare". They have you deny the evidence of your eyes and ears again. I am Jazz aired on TV and a large amount of people saw Jazz Jennings getting vaginoplasty as a teenager. We know people who have gotten surgeries as minors. Doctors have reported trans related double mastectomies on minors as young as 13 and vaginoplasty on minors as young as 15. But you'll notice that every discussion with trans supporters about minors getting surgeries are just the narcissist's prayer. The studies for puberty blockers were on children with precocious puberty, not trans patients who would never "unpause" puberty, they were not proven safe for this person, and theres risks even for kids with precocious puberty. Hormones are irreversible and can damage your body. But it doesn't fit a narrative so saying so makes you "transphobic", makes you hateful, ignorant, dangerous, like a racist, like a nazi. And they're instilled in kids and teens like truth "be kind trust science trans women are women always affirm dont be hateful". Repeated like cult tought stopping techniques, so that the cost of thinking and questioning is your social acceptance, and to your brain the cost is your safety. Trans is a cult.
What I equally hate are the pioneers and older ones who claim transitioning is the only way to alleviate their dysphoria or distress. If you listen carefully to the pioneers, they don’t seem to question whether that’s right and don’t follow up long term.
My sister in law is friends with an old transman living a quiet life in a village nearby. Few people know he used to be a woman. Lived with his mom his whole life. At first his mom was very worried about it. He had a short relationship with a widow with kids "but it was not possible". People ask him to come and speak in schools and clubs but he always refuses. He must have been one of the first ones in Belgium to transition, hormones at 25, operations at 31. His doctors told him: be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed. I wonder how much he knows about the current frenzy and if he knows, what he thinks about it. I can’t ask him, he refuses to meet me.
She.
She's still a woman. Always will be. In 1000 years when they dig up her bones, they will know she was a woman.
"WARNING: Be aware that we cannot turn you into a man, these interventions are just cosmetic. If you don’t realize that, you will be disappointed." This needs to be in bold letters on every container of synthetic sex hormones, along with the horrific side effects -- Like cigarettes
They have a narrative to push, they don't look at their situation objectively. Your brain will always look for reinforcement of things you believe. If you believe your life got better since transitioning you will notice all the evidence that you're happier now and not notice any ways your life has gotten worse or any alternative explanations as to why you are happier in those moments. The kids who are told this since they were young just see it as the truth. They dont know a world without trans ideology, to them transitioning treating any kind of gender related distress is as scientific as glasses fixing your vision and braces straightening your teeth. Source being I was that kid who grew up with this along with all of my peers who are young adults now
Yes, Ghost12, especially your words here:
"These kids don't know a world without trans ideology".
🙏🩵🩷
It's a cult, and a game I am not playing.
exactly.
Why do people even entertain the idea that a person can be "born in the wrong body"?
It is a complete absurdity. Full stop. End of story.
Sounds like you should read more...
“Sex Redefined: The Idea of 2 Sexes Is Overly Simplistic” Scientific America 22/10/2018
lol, that's the first time in my life someone has accused me of not reading enough. Usually people think I read too much. Well of course you don't know me, even though you think you can tell me what to do. ... That SciAm article is infamous abandonment of scientific knowledge. You think the sex binary is illusory? sure, and Santa Claus and the Tooth-Fairy are real, right? ... But even if the sex binary has some spectrum on it, the binary itself is not rendered inexistent. And what does that have to do with the rhetoric about being born in the wrong body? What other body might a person inhabit except for their own? One body, one life, that is the human situation. We are born, we live, we die, all in one body. We get two eyes, two lungs, one heart ... and either a female or male reproductive system and chromosomes. The Disorders of sexual development, very rare as they are, only prove that binary is the usual and optimal course of things. ... Anyway, when you get your new body let me know. I sure would like an identity as a twenty year old.
I have no idea what made you think that I suggested that I can tell you what to do. My apologises if my substack piece suggested that.
You indicate you are well read, and at this risk of being taken as patronising - excellent! While I have the feeling that your reading might be a little skewed and if your comment re the article “Sex Redefined: The Idea of 2 Sexes Is Overly Simplistic” Scientific America 22/10/2018“ I used it as a quote since (as you know) Scientific American is “accessible” science. I have the sense that Bioessentialism (a theory that suggests sex assignments are straightforward, objective, and purely biological differences) is your domain. Personally I go with a transgender identity is a "mosaic" of brain development. It’s not a straightforward “male” or “female” but then the natural world and its diversity is rarely so (even though the human psyche prefers “simple”, and often abhors uncertainty). This Google AI summary says it we;; “The gender binary is the social, cultural, and legal classification of gender into two distinct, opposite, and1 fixed categories: male/man and female/woman. It assumes that gender aligns with sex assigned at birth, enforcing strict roles, behaviors, and expectations. This framework is a social construct, not a universal biological fact” Google AI 04/03/2026 And if that 2018 science article is “questionable” I guess the opinions of the American Medical Association (AMA), that key reputable. representative of the (no longer united) States of America Physician's group means little. The AMA has "come out" strongly in their support for the established, scientifically (that's fact based) medical protocols on working with the transgender community. - as an Other group that exists (like so many in that world of natural diversity).
The AMA voice joins that of the existing strong medical guidelines for interactions with this diverse community in place in more progressive countries - ie those supporting diversity in all there forms. Including the perspectives given by the British Medical Association (BMA) and the Australia Medical Association (AuMA) to name but two. But I guess these don’t count for much either.
Nevertheless, just in case, here are some other science / gender oriented thoughts/reading… that might help (this bit is patronising)
https://www.google.com/search?q=main+transgender-associated+genetic+research+%28TAGR%29+article+on+what+makes+someone+transgender+post+2020&client=safari&hs=WBxU&sca_esv=d525e7905da52187&rls=en&sxsrf=ANbL-n745gKs_TZbD96FOO22yeYz8-7q3Q%3A1774932785551&ei=MVPLabKrIdeb0PEPkvTfiAM&biw=1680&bih=938&ved=0ahUKEwjyh7vxq8mTAxXXDTQIHRL6FzEQ4dUDCBE&uact=5&oq=main+transgender-associated+genetic+research+%28TAGR%29+article+on+what+makes+someone+transgender+post+2020&gs_lp=Egxnd3Mtd2l6LXNlcnAiZ21haW4gdHJhbnNnZW5kZXItYXNzb2NpYXRlZCBnZW5ldGljIHJlc2VhcmNoIChUQUdSKSBhcnRpY2xlIG9uIHdoYXQgbWFrZXMgc29tZW9uZSB0cmFuc2dlbmRlciBwb3N0IDIwMjBI6hxQAFj9DXAAeAGQAQCYAWugAWuqAQMwLjG4AQPIAQD4AQGYAgCgAgCYAwDiAwUSATEgQJIHAKAHcbIHALgHAMIHAMgHAIAIAQ&sclient=gws-wiz-serp
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sn83zlQj6ns
https://medicine.yale.edu/news-article/decision-to-abolish-gender-testing-at-sydney-olympics-supported-by-yale-physician/
And I would suggest that yourself, and others in the same sad perspectives on the natural world and its diversity, reflect on this biblical quote: Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-5)
And in my world I have (finally) youth, as a woman.
Take care
JoAnne