"The heavy sadness becomes your shadow." What a haunting description but it is indeed the truth. I have a five-year old granddaughter, and I worry constantly that she will be exposed, indoctrinated, or groomed once she starts Kindergarten this fall. Her parents, my daughter and son-in-law are fully aware of the trans cult and ideology lies but can they really protect her? Protect her for the rest of her life? My sister and her husband were blindsided by their son years ago and it ended in tragedy. My granddaughter knows her big cousin went to heaven, but she does not understand why. When she is older and asks questions how do we tell her, how do we explain it? I want to shield her from all of this insanity, but it is everywhere. She loves rainbows and has unicorns and we all try to pretend that they still have an innocent meaning. Pride month is coming up, will she notice it more this year? Will she ask questions? I am terrified, just like you. I was hoping that this cult would disappear and be long forgotten before my granddaughter could be seduced. I pray daily and beg God to right the wrong, to stop this madness. You are in a difficult situation, and I am afraid that many of us will be faced with the next generation being exposed. It breaks my heart. I said a prayer for you and your family just now and I hope that somehow your grandchildren will be protected, as I pray for my own grandchild.
I am so sorry. My heart aches for you and your grandchildren. And, yes, all of the next generation. I don't know what's harder, truly losing your child; meaning no contact, or having to face it every day as we walk the precarious pathway to keep them in a relationship with us. I have one daughter that I haven't seen or spoken to in over three years, and another daughter that currently lives with us. Both relationships (or lack there of), are heart wrenching in their own ways.
This horrific ideology contaminates & tries to destroy all that is good & positive & healthy in life. It brings no joy, it just creates layer upon layer of anguish. Such a heartbreaking read.
I say leave the little ones out of this. They do not need to be subjected. The problem belongs to the one who created it if they are an adult. Hildren should be protected from the ideology.
I agree that they don’t leave them alone. My point is that the children in the family are the ones we have to protect. The adults (who are very likely our grown children whom we love) should be separated from the vulnerable children who are also members of the family. As an adult, my son has the right to make personal decisions about his life. As a grandma and as far as his brother is concerned, children don’t need subjected to my trans son’s ideology. That means the children don’t their uncle right now.
I'm a father of one son who very fortunately never succumbed to this madness. I've been reading these letters to better understand it, and my heart goes out to all the parents whose children and families have been impacted. I agree that the delusions should not normally be affirmed. But I'm wondering if it could potentially be effective to forcefully address the "alternate personality" as if it WAS real (using the new name), and letting it know the terrible pain it has inflicted on the family of the beloved son or daughter. Intimating that it has essentially "kidnapped" the son or daughter, who will always be loved and welcomed home. These children and young adults have basically dissociated from their former selves and lives. That dissociation is real, and acknowledging it could potentially trigger the internal conversation necessary for resolution. It just seems to me that simply refusing to acknowledge the alternate personality reflects a static position by the parent(s) that is effectively and easily countered by resistance on the part of the child or young adult.
Interesting insight, definitely is dissociation, exasperated by the substance abuse of wrong sex hormones. I believe I have read one parent saying similar things to their child, but I don't remember if it helped. I'm considering pointing out the differences between the loving daughter and the demanding, angry person she has become. Unfortunately, any mention of our pain or pain caused to others is considered manipulation and grounds for estrangement. Of course we were estranged immediately for asking her not to medicalize, so I've only recently regained a small amount of communication. I don't think I can force myself to address her by the name, but I will probably have to address the unkindness of the alternate personality.
It is impossible to understand the trans cult and it's shattering impact on a parent unless you are one! I admire you for wanting to learn more. As a mum who will not affirm my daughters choice to take the trans path I can tell you that it is not negotiable for me to live or entertain a lie! I will always follow truth & love & therefore suffer the consequences of 'no contact'. I can assure you that anything other full affirmation, using the fake name & pronouns is demanded & anything else will be rejected with contempt! Trust me when I say that they have no interest in hearing about "your pain". We need an end to this death cult & only love & truth can achieve this!
I realize that I will never be able to understand the cult and its impact nearly as well as a PITT parent does. Reading these letters is indeed like descending into the pit of hell, in my fortunate case as a mere observer. But my own son revealed to me 3 or 4 years ago that he had considered suicide. His closest friend did commit suicide at 17, and I realize that that could have been my son. So it seems to me that a great evil has descended over much of the Western world, and has brought such a hopelessness to our children that they turn themselves over to it, whether by drugs, the trans cult, or suicide. I absolutely believe you when you say that: "anything other than full affirmation, using the fake name & pronouns will be rejected with contempt", and that "they have no interest in hearing about your pain". My thinking, obviously, is to tactically undermine the fortified position of the new identity by acknowledging the REALITY of the dissociative event. And from everything I've read here those positions may be heavily fortified. Trust me when I say that I'm not asking you "to live or entertain a lie".
Kara Dansky mentioned Emilia Perez. Like her, I couldn't face watching it. It's all so false. Even the fact that we are told we must use certain pronouns. No one should be forced to lie. I understand your pain, writer. I haven't seen my son for over three years. In order to try to stay sane I have had to mentally divorce myself from him. I am off to the lawyer today to remove him from my will. I hate to do this as I still love him very much but I don't believe he should profit when I die. If he came home, even as a woman, and wanted a relationship that would be different. But I still couldn't lie: men can never become woment.
I feel like my heart is being pried open with a finger pointing at each care that weighs on my heart. As I stated above we now have grandchildren as well - five beautiful blessings. The agony of a near 10 year estrangement now seems just a little less burdensome as I am reminded how it is sparing our grandchildren. And the absence of our children acknowledging his existence too feels less weighty. Strange blessings.
We have had an encouraging experience that I hope gives you a measure of comfort as well. Our last two children came later in life with the peak of their adolescence landing in the middle of the COVID lockdown and during the explosion of the trans contagion. Our daughter was in an arts friend group where the contagion was running rampant. She faced pressure to be one of them such as suggesting the way she dressed confirmed it. But this time, we were ahead of the game. Our daughter didn’t take a stand against it but she knew very well what it was and wanted no part in it. In a recent birthday note she wrote, “I wouldn’t be where I am without you.” What I really think is she was spared because she was well aware of what this cult does.
It’s as if we live in another world. We all get it. I’m surprised we haven’t all lost our minds, when, as you say, we are surrounded by friends & family who just get on with calling your son a girl, aunt. I went for my annual check up at the docs recently & told him that I thought I was losing my mind over gender ideology. I identified myself as male on my check in questionnaire & he wrote up my visit notes in my chosen gender! No questions asked. That’s insane. I think I would tell your grandkids he’s not a girl, he’s just pretending. But I’m sure that won’t go down too well. I’m so sorry.
Thank you, Author, for telling us your pain-filled story. And for all your honesty.
To answer the title Question of your Substack about whether the gender ideologues' contagion will spread to the next generation, you better believe that they will TRY.
I also commented to another commenter named "Jeasica" on this page, but instead of just copying it here, I will add that, of course, the fight continues.
We have to try to NOT give ground whenever possible, REPEATEDLY using our prepared sound bites like "Biology is NOT bigotry" or "Transing is the new misogyny", etc.
You better believe that the "transmafia" cult is repeating their slogans in their various platforms to get and keep the minds of the vulnerable!
In the public space, I go out every month, including today (March 19, 2025) to fight against the transmafia in our NYC public schools, which are quickly developing the reputation as the WORST in the world, partly due to the transmafia agenda's nonsense.
Here's what this is about: Every month, the Community Education Council District 2 has a public meeting. They PASSED a commonsense Resolution #248 that would allow for the RESEARCH into the impact of having biological males, who say they are girls, play on girls' sports teams.
As a former female competitive athlete, I oppose having biological males play on girls' sports teams. I also think that this is just a very profitable way for the medical establishment to get their hands on the kids, since a child, now that Prop 1 has passed in NYC, can consent to permanent, life-altering "trans" medicalization procedures before they are even legally allowed to consent to sex! And the pharma-medical complex makes upwards of 1 MILLION dollars for each child that they get to go on this medical merry go-round.
Further, Pfizer Pharmaceuticals has donated millions to the NYC public schools.
I could describe these meetings so much more, but I am placing a Video at the bottom of this where you can actually witness how disruptive the transmafia is. I have placed it before, but I am repeating it here in case you haven't seen it. There will be more Videos after today.
The meetings are open to the public, with sign-up sheets for the first and second sessions, but the transmafia actually tried to PREVENT me from speaking by snatching up the sign-up sheet, which I mention when I get to speak.
****The next meeting is on March 19th, 2025 (TODAY, which is WEDNESDAY) at 6pm at Public School 183, which is at 419 EAST 66th Street in Manhattan*******
Below I am Linking the Video to close to where I start talking, which is about 1 hour and 11 minutes into it, but you may want to watch more of the Video to see how INSANE these people behave:
What a beautiful, thoughtful, troubling piece. Thank you so much for writing it, for sharing it. We’ve been in this nightmare for 10 years, with my oldest son (who’s now 29), and I have to confess, I hadn’t considered the grandchildren angle yet. How naive of me.
With all the ebbs and flows, the bits of hope gained then lost in this terrible journey, I’ve conditioned myself to live only in the moment. I don’t look ahead with any kind of joyful anticipation. I hadn’t considered what life will look like with grandchildren. But how complicated those days will be…
I'm sad to read your 29 year old son has been stuck 10 years in in this horror. I keep hoping my 23 year old son who has clung to this destructive fantasy since he was 19 will still wake up to reclaim his deteriorated (now obese) body and his mental health. I know I need to accept that he may live out his pathetic choices for a very long time, perhaps his likely shortened life. This will never not be deeply sorrowful.
Brings tears to my eyes. It has been about 4 years since my oldest son, in this mid 30´s, informed us of his transitioning and I can see (and feel) myself and famly in all these words.
"The heavy sadness becomes your shadow." What a haunting description but it is indeed the truth. I have a five-year old granddaughter, and I worry constantly that she will be exposed, indoctrinated, or groomed once she starts Kindergarten this fall. Her parents, my daughter and son-in-law are fully aware of the trans cult and ideology lies but can they really protect her? Protect her for the rest of her life? My sister and her husband were blindsided by their son years ago and it ended in tragedy. My granddaughter knows her big cousin went to heaven, but she does not understand why. When she is older and asks questions how do we tell her, how do we explain it? I want to shield her from all of this insanity, but it is everywhere. She loves rainbows and has unicorns and we all try to pretend that they still have an innocent meaning. Pride month is coming up, will she notice it more this year? Will she ask questions? I am terrified, just like you. I was hoping that this cult would disappear and be long forgotten before my granddaughter could be seduced. I pray daily and beg God to right the wrong, to stop this madness. You are in a difficult situation, and I am afraid that many of us will be faced with the next generation being exposed. It breaks my heart. I said a prayer for you and your family just now and I hope that somehow your grandchildren will be protected, as I pray for my own grandchild.
I think that was the entire intention... to completely rid society of gender 🥺💔
Excellent and moving piece.
What a situation!!!
Have cross posted (and posted another PITTS piece)
https://dustymasterson.substack.com/p/sky-west-and-crooked-part-1
Dusty
I am so sorry. My heart aches for you and your grandchildren. And, yes, all of the next generation. I don't know what's harder, truly losing your child; meaning no contact, or having to face it every day as we walk the precarious pathway to keep them in a relationship with us. I have one daughter that I haven't seen or spoken to in over three years, and another daughter that currently lives with us. Both relationships (or lack there of), are heart wrenching in their own ways.
I pray this comes to an end soon. For all of us.
This horrific ideology contaminates & tries to destroy all that is good & positive & healthy in life. It brings no joy, it just creates layer upon layer of anguish. Such a heartbreaking read.
I say leave the little ones out of this. They do not need to be subjected. The problem belongs to the one who created it if they are an adult. Hildren should be protected from the ideology.
I agree that they don’t leave them alone. My point is that the children in the family are the ones we have to protect. The adults (who are very likely our grown children whom we love) should be separated from the vulnerable children who are also members of the family. As an adult, my son has the right to make personal decisions about his life. As a grandma and as far as his brother is concerned, children don’t need subjected to my trans son’s ideology. That means the children don’t their uncle right now.
But they don't leave the little ones alone. The point is to capture their minds as early as possible.
Truly terrifying!!!!
I'm a father of one son who very fortunately never succumbed to this madness. I've been reading these letters to better understand it, and my heart goes out to all the parents whose children and families have been impacted. I agree that the delusions should not normally be affirmed. But I'm wondering if it could potentially be effective to forcefully address the "alternate personality" as if it WAS real (using the new name), and letting it know the terrible pain it has inflicted on the family of the beloved son or daughter. Intimating that it has essentially "kidnapped" the son or daughter, who will always be loved and welcomed home. These children and young adults have basically dissociated from their former selves and lives. That dissociation is real, and acknowledging it could potentially trigger the internal conversation necessary for resolution. It just seems to me that simply refusing to acknowledge the alternate personality reflects a static position by the parent(s) that is effectively and easily countered by resistance on the part of the child or young adult.
Interesting insight, definitely is dissociation, exasperated by the substance abuse of wrong sex hormones. I believe I have read one parent saying similar things to their child, but I don't remember if it helped. I'm considering pointing out the differences between the loving daughter and the demanding, angry person she has become. Unfortunately, any mention of our pain or pain caused to others is considered manipulation and grounds for estrangement. Of course we were estranged immediately for asking her not to medicalize, so I've only recently regained a small amount of communication. I don't think I can force myself to address her by the name, but I will probably have to address the unkindness of the alternate personality.
It is impossible to understand the trans cult and it's shattering impact on a parent unless you are one! I admire you for wanting to learn more. As a mum who will not affirm my daughters choice to take the trans path I can tell you that it is not negotiable for me to live or entertain a lie! I will always follow truth & love & therefore suffer the consequences of 'no contact'. I can assure you that anything other full affirmation, using the fake name & pronouns is demanded & anything else will be rejected with contempt! Trust me when I say that they have no interest in hearing about "your pain". We need an end to this death cult & only love & truth can achieve this!
"I will always follow truth & love & therefore suffer the consequences of 'no contact'."
I understand this as an act of courage. It's practically unfathomable what this evil has extracted.
I realize that I will never be able to understand the cult and its impact nearly as well as a PITT parent does. Reading these letters is indeed like descending into the pit of hell, in my fortunate case as a mere observer. But my own son revealed to me 3 or 4 years ago that he had considered suicide. His closest friend did commit suicide at 17, and I realize that that could have been my son. So it seems to me that a great evil has descended over much of the Western world, and has brought such a hopelessness to our children that they turn themselves over to it, whether by drugs, the trans cult, or suicide. I absolutely believe you when you say that: "anything other than full affirmation, using the fake name & pronouns will be rejected with contempt", and that "they have no interest in hearing about your pain". My thinking, obviously, is to tactically undermine the fortified position of the new identity by acknowledging the REALITY of the dissociative event. And from everything I've read here those positions may be heavily fortified. Trust me when I say that I'm not asking you "to live or entertain a lie".
Kara Dansky mentioned Emilia Perez. Like her, I couldn't face watching it. It's all so false. Even the fact that we are told we must use certain pronouns. No one should be forced to lie. I understand your pain, writer. I haven't seen my son for over three years. In order to try to stay sane I have had to mentally divorce myself from him. I am off to the lawyer today to remove him from my will. I hate to do this as I still love him very much but I don't believe he should profit when I die. If he came home, even as a woman, and wanted a relationship that would be different. But I still couldn't lie: men can never become woment.
I feel like my heart is being pried open with a finger pointing at each care that weighs on my heart. As I stated above we now have grandchildren as well - five beautiful blessings. The agony of a near 10 year estrangement now seems just a little less burdensome as I am reminded how it is sparing our grandchildren. And the absence of our children acknowledging his existence too feels less weighty. Strange blessings.
We have had an encouraging experience that I hope gives you a measure of comfort as well. Our last two children came later in life with the peak of their adolescence landing in the middle of the COVID lockdown and during the explosion of the trans contagion. Our daughter was in an arts friend group where the contagion was running rampant. She faced pressure to be one of them such as suggesting the way she dressed confirmed it. But this time, we were ahead of the game. Our daughter didn’t take a stand against it but she knew very well what it was and wanted no part in it. In a recent birthday note she wrote, “I wouldn’t be where I am without you.” What I really think is she was spared because she was well aware of what this cult does.
Heartbreaking, all the issues you now have to deal with on top of what was already unbearable. I’m so sorry.
It’s as if we live in another world. We all get it. I’m surprised we haven’t all lost our minds, when, as you say, we are surrounded by friends & family who just get on with calling your son a girl, aunt. I went for my annual check up at the docs recently & told him that I thought I was losing my mind over gender ideology. I identified myself as male on my check in questionnaire & he wrote up my visit notes in my chosen gender! No questions asked. That’s insane. I think I would tell your grandkids he’s not a girl, he’s just pretending. But I’m sure that won’t go down too well. I’m so sorry.
There are times I'm not sure I haven't lost my mind. I live most of the time in a daze. Like I'm observing someone else's life.
😞
Thank you, Author, for telling us your pain-filled story. And for all your honesty.
To answer the title Question of your Substack about whether the gender ideologues' contagion will spread to the next generation, you better believe that they will TRY.
I also commented to another commenter named "Jeasica" on this page, but instead of just copying it here, I will add that, of course, the fight continues.
We have to try to NOT give ground whenever possible, REPEATEDLY using our prepared sound bites like "Biology is NOT bigotry" or "Transing is the new misogyny", etc.
You better believe that the "transmafia" cult is repeating their slogans in their various platforms to get and keep the minds of the vulnerable!
In the public space, I go out every month, including today (March 19, 2025) to fight against the transmafia in our NYC public schools, which are quickly developing the reputation as the WORST in the world, partly due to the transmafia agenda's nonsense.
Here's what this is about: Every month, the Community Education Council District 2 has a public meeting. They PASSED a commonsense Resolution #248 that would allow for the RESEARCH into the impact of having biological males, who say they are girls, play on girls' sports teams.
As a former female competitive athlete, I oppose having biological males play on girls' sports teams. I also think that this is just a very profitable way for the medical establishment to get their hands on the kids, since a child, now that Prop 1 has passed in NYC, can consent to permanent, life-altering "trans" medicalization procedures before they are even legally allowed to consent to sex! And the pharma-medical complex makes upwards of 1 MILLION dollars for each child that they get to go on this medical merry go-round.
Further, Pfizer Pharmaceuticals has donated millions to the NYC public schools.
I could describe these meetings so much more, but I am placing a Video at the bottom of this where you can actually witness how disruptive the transmafia is. I have placed it before, but I am repeating it here in case you haven't seen it. There will be more Videos after today.
The meetings are open to the public, with sign-up sheets for the first and second sessions, but the transmafia actually tried to PREVENT me from speaking by snatching up the sign-up sheet, which I mention when I get to speak.
****The next meeting is on March 19th, 2025 (TODAY, which is WEDNESDAY) at 6pm at Public School 183, which is at 419 EAST 66th Street in Manhattan*******
Below I am Linking the Video to close to where I start talking, which is about 1 hour and 11 minutes into it, but you may want to watch more of the Video to see how INSANE these people behave:
https://www.youtube.com/live/7blNYocj-cE?si=NkcX64RI-7JWt8oK&t=4302
And I also speak at about 3 hours and 33 minutes into it:
https://www.youtube.com/live/7blNYocj-cE?si=FVYrv9RBc4CjxWQ-&t=12787
-Joanna from NYC's Medical Freedom Alliance
Email: JoannaVitalHealth@protonmail.com
Thank you for fighting in the belly of the beast!
What a beautiful, thoughtful, troubling piece. Thank you so much for writing it, for sharing it. We’ve been in this nightmare for 10 years, with my oldest son (who’s now 29), and I have to confess, I hadn’t considered the grandchildren angle yet. How naive of me.
With all the ebbs and flows, the bits of hope gained then lost in this terrible journey, I’ve conditioned myself to live only in the moment. I don’t look ahead with any kind of joyful anticipation. I hadn’t considered what life will look like with grandchildren. But how complicated those days will be…
I'm sad to read your 29 year old son has been stuck 10 years in in this horror. I keep hoping my 23 year old son who has clung to this destructive fantasy since he was 19 will still wake up to reclaim his deteriorated (now obese) body and his mental health. I know I need to accept that he may live out his pathetic choices for a very long time, perhaps his likely shortened life. This will never not be deeply sorrowful.
Thank you so much for your piece. I sympathize with you with your fears about contagion to your dear little ones.
May we all do our parts in counteracting this narrative in whatever ways we can.
May you find the strength to keep your balance and sanity HOWEVER YOU CAN; to hang on to truth while this craziness gets exposed and turned around.
Brings tears to my eyes. It has been about 4 years since my oldest son, in this mid 30´s, informed us of his transitioning and I can see (and feel) myself and famly in all these words.