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Marie's avatar

It is crushing! Our son asked us to tell his niece that he was now her aunt. My response was “pigs will fly before we tell a 3 year old that her uncle is now her aunt.” Pigs didn’t fly and she doesn’t know. Her mother agreed with us 100%. He abandoned us all. My granddaughter has been broken and traumatized by her beloved uncle’s abandonment. But she still hasn’t encountered an insane world of gender bending madness. One day, when she’s mature enough to understand mental illness, she will know what happened to her uncle. But until that day we want to protect her innocence. P.S. she’s now in elementary school and homeschooled by me. I’ve given up my retirement to be her teacher.

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With great sadness, I know exactly how you feel and am feeling such severe pain and loss from my young adult son who’s been transitioning the last 5 years. I’m not sure if he’s done the surgery yet (and I don’t want to know cause honestly I’m not sure I am strong enough to know). He won’t have anything to do with me even though I would still like to be in his life and spend time with him but not on his terms. With a bit of compromise that I won’t call him he/him or his birth name but I also won’t call him she/her or his new name. I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy. As a loving and dedicated mother who sacrificed everything raising this child, I am completely devastated and feel like I’ve lost him to an evil ideology that is harming him in so many ways. My daughter though is kind enough when she’s around me, to call him by his birth name even though I know she goes along with it in his presence. I too, worry about the following generations and where all this exposure to so many trans people who have been manipulated and haven’t been able to except their true selves so in turn they believe that this will be the miracle, the answer, or the cure to all their problems, when it’s only going to bring on a slew of many more problems most importantly including dangerous side effects and severe health problems. This isn’t how I ever saw his once promising future. He had everything going for him and now he has dropped out of college, feels lonely and still seems to be searching for something more. I hate to think about how much of his life he will spend (time and money) on trying to transition to “be” a woman, which he never ever will be, and the harm that will entail. My heart is broken, completely shattered but I keep going for my daughter, and I mourn his decision to do this every single day since he announced it. I am so sorry that these people who make this dangerous and devastating life altering decision feel so much pain and conflict, and can’t find the peace and acceptance they need to feel complete. But I know 100%, that this isn’t going to heal them. And I’m so very sorry and feel so much empathy for all the family members and friends who feel this loss, pain, and have to mourn everyday for their loved one who is self harming and suffering. May we all find peace and find a way out of these dangerous waters. For now, let’s keep our head up above those waters and stay positive that this too shall pass. Take care and keep fighting.

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