Our son cut us off for the same reason. And there is no question that I had times I have thought to myself what a complete idiot. The cutoff started when, after he dropped the trans bomb, I tried to continue to have contact with them but I was not able to call him what he demanded we call him. One day he stood up in a restaurant, screaming "f you mom! F you! You're triggering me!" Just my presence alone. No words I was saying as I was explaining to him the new violin I had just gotten. The triggering came from the enemy. The dark side that he had turned to. He couldn't be in the presence of light. And within months he cut us off completely because we exposed what he knew to be false. And he could not bear to be around the truth. All we have to do is exist to our trans kids and to them we are toxic. Of course we are. Because we remind them of who they actually are. Who they are running from. I know he will be back. I have full faith and confidence in that. But I have to be honest. We've been no contact due to his choice for 3 and 1/2 years and the lack of toxicity in our life has been glorious. Do I miss him? Who he used to be, yes. But not this complete and utter crazy person that he is currently trying to live as. Thanks for putting it so bluntly, Dad. Us moms would agree with you, too.
“Again, if something is true, if it sustains and makes for a better life, if it builds on what came before to make the next generation, and celebrates beauty and life and the beauty in life, then you might be on to something enduring.
But that’s not what this identity of your does. It destroy, it alienates, it will make your life harder and harder. It is unsustainable, it is life-shortening, and it is ugly.
And again, if it is so true, and I am an idiot, let your light shine. Then my fog should just lift.”
This is exactly right. Reasonable, logical, intuitively true.
I find this incredibly refreshing to read this morning. So often, heartbreak over our children seems to only fit in the boxes of anguish or acceptance. The frankness in the title and writing resonates with this no-nonsense Mama. It doesn't mean we don't love them or feel pain at their choices. But the ability to call things as we see them without wrapping our words in batting is incredibly needed these days.
Those behind the trans agenda are successfully destroying the Christian countries;no families, no children to carry on the civilisation ( not enough to replace the older generations) , in addition to the clotshot , also responsible for a plunge in births. In adition thre has been the cultur of the idea of job over family,moving from one place to another to break family ties, now it has reached severing ties even between parents and kids. i wonder when the christians will wake up.
Well said. A few months back my son admitted to me the obvious. That he had estranged himself from me. In the next breath he said, "because you deny my humanity.
Me, the guy who created his humanity, protected, birthed, nurtured, helped build, tenderly guided from the time I was aware of his humanity till the day he left.
Yeah, screw him. I'm pissed. This bridge he burned is his to repair.
I lost my son to trans a few years ago, but I think for a couple years before that, while he was still in high school, he was consuming content about going "no contact". It's such a widespread fad, even for those who don't go down the trans rabbit hole. How did so many young adults come to believe they were traumatized by their parents? Is it the fault of therapists? At least, as the author notes, it makes some sense to hide from your family when you know you're living a lie and harming yourself. Many of the parents on the estranged adult children sites (not having to do with trans) have not seen their children in a decade or more. Will those who had children in our 40's ever see our kids again? It's sad for the young adults too. They don't know what they're missing, and maybe it will be too late when they do. See the ones who are in the trans cult on r/transpassing obsessing about how their bodies still fall short of their ideal even after years of hormones. What a waste of precious time.
BowWow, yes, there has been a lot written on young adults (not in the trans cult) who believe their families are toxic or harmful. It does seem to be widespread - that and even family members cutting off contact with others who don't vote the same way or who have different ideas. Putting people into all or nothing categories is not realistic. I feel like social media is partly to blame for this issue - algorithms that push certain content into someone's feed.
I love this. It just cuts through the bullshit of it all. ‘Trans’ is such utter nonsense. Remember ‘tough love’? That’s what this is. And after the years of ridiculousness we’ve experienced, it’s beautiful to see.
If it helps, you are fighting for so many others harmed by this evil cult. They destroyed my women's and Lesbian community, erasing the histories of famous Lesbians and other women, taking over our last organizations and all we created in over half a century. We said no to this mess from the beginning, but increasingly, almost everyone I know is absolutely terrified to say no to their lies. They are not even afraid of the threatened rapes, mutilations, and murders that the trans cult aims at anyone who dares say no (and there have been too many of those, but hidden in the media when they call the male killers "women") but are terrified to lose friends and the remaining betrayed community, afraid of being accused of being "transphobic," when not one is trans and no one is "transphobic."
Bev Jo, I read the letters from Australian women who have been harmed by the trans agenda on "No Conflict, They Said" (LGB Alliance). It was stunning. They describe a sense of powerlessness that is overwhelming. I tried to get my wife to read them, to make her understand why this is such an important issue for women's rights. She declined. A good lefty, she's alert to any rabbit holes that could lead to the dark side. I should know. I was also a good lefty once upon a time.
Then, of course, there is Reduxx for the even worse stuff. That the captured media and legal system actually possess the gaul to refer to the male predators as female is so beyond the pale I have no words. It infuriates me, as a man.
paleblue -I am following the court rulings about Sall Grover and Tickle vs Giggle. It is utterly absurd that we have gotten here. I have commented multiple times on social media about how so many women are throwing their own sex-class under the bus. How can women not see how the trans movement has harmed them? I feel for the parents on PITT whose sons have been caught up in the lies, but I see comments from them that even they recognize the harm to women and girls. Thanks for seeing through the nonsense. I can't understand how men can see it, but some women cannot. Hopefully your wife will see the light. Follow Amy E. Sousa on Facebook. She is excellent at calling out the nonsense and holding the line on women's and girls' boundaries.
I appreciate this article. So many times I find myself questioning again what I did wrong what if I would’ve just said it differently, but this is the truth. They are being asses. A priest even told me I’m not the one who did wrong - that our kids need to respect us. Yea, go figure.
I can not stop using the word stupid to describe what my son is doing. He is a very smart person doing a very stupid thing. I will add that he is an ass in his own way too. He is using a superficial, silly notion of what a woman is in order to feel better about himself. Pretty narcissistic as well. Nonetheless my love stays strong for him and I long for him to come back to his senses. In addition he has hurt me, his mom, and his late dad terribly. Pretty assholy behavior in my opinion.
I wish you could talk to my husband. Your strength in the truth is unwavering and refreshing! Mine has chosen to ignore this evil, after our daughter has been on wrong sex hormones for 4.5 years now and cut us off two years ago. Not a day goes by that I don't miss her. He refuses to try to do anything else, at this point. Another Mother's Day just past, ignored. She used to be so smart, top of her class. Now she's also an idiot, making terrible choices and choosing bad influences as friends. Dropped out of college, went on drugs, and is destroying herself in this sinister death cult. She's an ass too, and I'm glad someone is finally speaking the truth on this nonsense! Doubt I'll ever see her again...lost, somewhere in Seattle. We start to lose hope as devastated parents.We start to give up.
Ok, well if that is true, why? Revenge for what? Our daughter grew up in a loving, supportive home. The trans cult has a way of twisting viewpoints, turning our kids against us, unjustifiably. We did not harm our child and don't deserve such horrible treatment. If it gives her power, as you wrote, then I hope she can learn to harness it for more positive, healthy choices in her life. So far, this sense of power is only creating a downward spiral. Evil muck, this trans agenda. I want no part of it!
Why? Because you as loving person is an easy and safe target. You she can punch without fear that you strike her back. Because she was made to believe, that you have thraumatized her and caused her suffering by not believing. Because till the genderpoint you gave her everything sie want and this important thing you just cannot give.
I see. Thank you for the clarification. You're right. I cannot support her delusion and lies. We have offered much help but cannot fix this for her. You can lead a horse to water but cannot make him drink. So, yes, it is a power play on her part. Our duty, as parents, is to support truth and discourage anything that would harm our child. It puts us in such a helpless, difficult position. If we cave, then they learn that we are weak and easily manipulated. They "win" and we end up living at their mercy. It is utter disrespect for a parent and I will not allow myself to be put in that position. It is mostly their loss, in the end.
You and your wife are incredible parents for holding fast to the truth in the face of immense pain. You're doing the right thing by not giving in to the demands of the cult. No one should negotiate with a terrorist, especially one whose own demands are non-negotiable.
Somewhere deep inside, she knows you and your wife have her best interests at heart. One day she'll realize her "rainbow family" is simply an echo chamber of confused people repeating the same talking points to each other in service of their load-bearing delusions. Until then, I encourage you to spread the word about the real-world harm these lies cause. The public is completely ignorant of how families are torn apart by the gender shitshow. If you have the wherewithal, put your righteous anger to work - find a podcaster or YouTuber who would be willing to interview you. Maybe even write to CBS with your story - with Bari Weiss at the helm, 60 Minutes may be ready to speak the truth.
I recently attended a funeral from someone in a former neighborhood. The place was full of people I hadn't seen in 5 years. Normally when people ask about my trans daughter, I give a vague "shes the same" and change the subject. But that day, I dropped the truth and let er rip with the "she's terrible and its ridiculous".
No, they were rip roaring mad that some idiot doctor was poisoning my kid. They would have known my daughter from age 6 to 15. They know full well she's not a boy, and not even particularly masculine.
Oh thank goodness you have normal old friends in your life!!! My daughter desisted after a few months of pretend, but she was only 14. I will be praying for you and your family for a similar outcome.
I have to say: it’s still shocking to me how many putative adults are willing to lie. I’m glad you have friends who are grounded in truth. 💕
Stellar work. Really resonated with me. I find myself disgusted with the whole thing around this trans cult and whatever evil started this with our kids not to mention the popularized notion that parents who disagree are now vilified as dangerous. Disagreement = danger?! Good grief. Prayers for us all to maintain and overcome this evil.
Our son cut us off for the same reason. And there is no question that I had times I have thought to myself what a complete idiot. The cutoff started when, after he dropped the trans bomb, I tried to continue to have contact with them but I was not able to call him what he demanded we call him. One day he stood up in a restaurant, screaming "f you mom! F you! You're triggering me!" Just my presence alone. No words I was saying as I was explaining to him the new violin I had just gotten. The triggering came from the enemy. The dark side that he had turned to. He couldn't be in the presence of light. And within months he cut us off completely because we exposed what he knew to be false. And he could not bear to be around the truth. All we have to do is exist to our trans kids and to them we are toxic. Of course we are. Because we remind them of who they actually are. Who they are running from. I know he will be back. I have full faith and confidence in that. But I have to be honest. We've been no contact due to his choice for 3 and 1/2 years and the lack of toxicity in our life has been glorious. Do I miss him? Who he used to be, yes. But not this complete and utter crazy person that he is currently trying to live as. Thanks for putting it so bluntly, Dad. Us moms would agree with you, too.
“Again, if something is true, if it sustains and makes for a better life, if it builds on what came before to make the next generation, and celebrates beauty and life and the beauty in life, then you might be on to something enduring.
But that’s not what this identity of your does. It destroy, it alienates, it will make your life harder and harder. It is unsustainable, it is life-shortening, and it is ugly.
And again, if it is so true, and I am an idiot, let your light shine. Then my fog should just lift.”
This is exactly right. Reasonable, logical, intuitively true.
Just stop. Please stop.
Yes to all of it.
I find this incredibly refreshing to read this morning. So often, heartbreak over our children seems to only fit in the boxes of anguish or acceptance. The frankness in the title and writing resonates with this no-nonsense Mama. It doesn't mean we don't love them or feel pain at their choices. But the ability to call things as we see them without wrapping our words in batting is incredibly needed these days.
Those behind the trans agenda are successfully destroying the Christian countries;no families, no children to carry on the civilisation ( not enough to replace the older generations) , in addition to the clotshot , also responsible for a plunge in births. In adition thre has been the cultur of the idea of job over family,moving from one place to another to break family ties, now it has reached severing ties even between parents and kids. i wonder when the christians will wake up.
aida, I'm an atheist and I have been fighting against the pernicious "trans" agenda for years.
This has nothing to do with religion. "Trans" an anti-science cult.
Well said. A few months back my son admitted to me the obvious. That he had estranged himself from me. In the next breath he said, "because you deny my humanity.
Me, the guy who created his humanity, protected, birthed, nurtured, helped build, tenderly guided from the time I was aware of his humanity till the day he left.
Yeah, screw him. I'm pissed. This bridge he burned is his to repair.
I lost my son to trans a few years ago, but I think for a couple years before that, while he was still in high school, he was consuming content about going "no contact". It's such a widespread fad, even for those who don't go down the trans rabbit hole. How did so many young adults come to believe they were traumatized by their parents? Is it the fault of therapists? At least, as the author notes, it makes some sense to hide from your family when you know you're living a lie and harming yourself. Many of the parents on the estranged adult children sites (not having to do with trans) have not seen their children in a decade or more. Will those who had children in our 40's ever see our kids again? It's sad for the young adults too. They don't know what they're missing, and maybe it will be too late when they do. See the ones who are in the trans cult on r/transpassing obsessing about how their bodies still fall short of their ideal even after years of hormones. What a waste of precious time.
BowWow, yes, there has been a lot written on young adults (not in the trans cult) who believe their families are toxic or harmful. It does seem to be widespread - that and even family members cutting off contact with others who don't vote the same way or who have different ideas. Putting people into all or nothing categories is not realistic. I feel like social media is partly to blame for this issue - algorithms that push certain content into someone's feed.
All cults operate like this, convincing their adherents to cut off all ties with friends and family. And "trans" is a cult.
Brutally honest. Unfortunately in my case, it would push my kid (an maybe my hubby) out the door. But it says all I've wanted to say!
I love this. It just cuts through the bullshit of it all. ‘Trans’ is such utter nonsense. Remember ‘tough love’? That’s what this is. And after the years of ridiculousness we’ve experienced, it’s beautiful to see.
If it helps, you are fighting for so many others harmed by this evil cult. They destroyed my women's and Lesbian community, erasing the histories of famous Lesbians and other women, taking over our last organizations and all we created in over half a century. We said no to this mess from the beginning, but increasingly, almost everyone I know is absolutely terrified to say no to their lies. They are not even afraid of the threatened rapes, mutilations, and murders that the trans cult aims at anyone who dares say no (and there have been too many of those, but hidden in the media when they call the male killers "women") but are terrified to lose friends and the remaining betrayed community, afraid of being accused of being "transphobic," when not one is trans and no one is "transphobic."
I so hope this will end some day....
Bev Jo, I read the letters from Australian women who have been harmed by the trans agenda on "No Conflict, They Said" (LGB Alliance). It was stunning. They describe a sense of powerlessness that is overwhelming. I tried to get my wife to read them, to make her understand why this is such an important issue for women's rights. She declined. A good lefty, she's alert to any rabbit holes that could lead to the dark side. I should know. I was also a good lefty once upon a time.
Then, of course, there is Reduxx for the even worse stuff. That the captured media and legal system actually possess the gaul to refer to the male predators as female is so beyond the pale I have no words. It infuriates me, as a man.
paleblue -I am following the court rulings about Sall Grover and Tickle vs Giggle. It is utterly absurd that we have gotten here. I have commented multiple times on social media about how so many women are throwing their own sex-class under the bus. How can women not see how the trans movement has harmed them? I feel for the parents on PITT whose sons have been caught up in the lies, but I see comments from them that even they recognize the harm to women and girls. Thanks for seeing through the nonsense. I can't understand how men can see it, but some women cannot. Hopefully your wife will see the light. Follow Amy E. Sousa on Facebook. She is excellent at calling out the nonsense and holding the line on women's and girls' boundaries.
I appreciate this article. So many times I find myself questioning again what I did wrong what if I would’ve just said it differently, but this is the truth. They are being asses. A priest even told me I’m not the one who did wrong - that our kids need to respect us. Yea, go figure.
I can not stop using the word stupid to describe what my son is doing. He is a very smart person doing a very stupid thing. I will add that he is an ass in his own way too. He is using a superficial, silly notion of what a woman is in order to feel better about himself. Pretty narcissistic as well. Nonetheless my love stays strong for him and I long for him to come back to his senses. In addition he has hurt me, his mom, and his late dad terribly. Pretty assholy behavior in my opinion.
I wish you could talk to my husband. Your strength in the truth is unwavering and refreshing! Mine has chosen to ignore this evil, after our daughter has been on wrong sex hormones for 4.5 years now and cut us off two years ago. Not a day goes by that I don't miss her. He refuses to try to do anything else, at this point. Another Mother's Day just past, ignored. She used to be so smart, top of her class. Now she's also an idiot, making terrible choices and choosing bad influences as friends. Dropped out of college, went on drugs, and is destroying herself in this sinister death cult. She's an ass too, and I'm glad someone is finally speaking the truth on this nonsense! Doubt I'll ever see her again...lost, somewhere in Seattle. We start to lose hope as devastated parents.We start to give up.
I see this silence as an act of power and revenge. Its harm on purpous.
Ok, well if that is true, why? Revenge for what? Our daughter grew up in a loving, supportive home. The trans cult has a way of twisting viewpoints, turning our kids against us, unjustifiably. We did not harm our child and don't deserve such horrible treatment. If it gives her power, as you wrote, then I hope she can learn to harness it for more positive, healthy choices in her life. So far, this sense of power is only creating a downward spiral. Evil muck, this trans agenda. I want no part of it!
Why? Because you as loving person is an easy and safe target. You she can punch without fear that you strike her back. Because she was made to believe, that you have thraumatized her and caused her suffering by not believing. Because till the genderpoint you gave her everything sie want and this important thing you just cannot give.
I see. Thank you for the clarification. You're right. I cannot support her delusion and lies. We have offered much help but cannot fix this for her. You can lead a horse to water but cannot make him drink. So, yes, it is a power play on her part. Our duty, as parents, is to support truth and discourage anything that would harm our child. It puts us in such a helpless, difficult position. If we cave, then they learn that we are weak and easily manipulated. They "win" and we end up living at their mercy. It is utter disrespect for a parent and I will not allow myself to be put in that position. It is mostly their loss, in the end.
You and your wife are incredible parents for holding fast to the truth in the face of immense pain. You're doing the right thing by not giving in to the demands of the cult. No one should negotiate with a terrorist, especially one whose own demands are non-negotiable.
Somewhere deep inside, she knows you and your wife have her best interests at heart. One day she'll realize her "rainbow family" is simply an echo chamber of confused people repeating the same talking points to each other in service of their load-bearing delusions. Until then, I encourage you to spread the word about the real-world harm these lies cause. The public is completely ignorant of how families are torn apart by the gender shitshow. If you have the wherewithal, put your righteous anger to work - find a podcaster or YouTuber who would be willing to interview you. Maybe even write to CBS with your story - with Bari Weiss at the helm, 60 Minutes may be ready to speak the truth.
There you are. In my brain.
I recently attended a funeral from someone in a former neighborhood. The place was full of people I hadn't seen in 5 years. Normally when people ask about my trans daughter, I give a vague "shes the same" and change the subject. But that day, I dropped the truth and let er rip with the "she's terrible and its ridiculous".
How did your old friends respond? With understanding & sympathy, or did they call you names & sidle away?
No, they were rip roaring mad that some idiot doctor was poisoning my kid. They would have known my daughter from age 6 to 15. They know full well she's not a boy, and not even particularly masculine.
Oh thank goodness you have normal old friends in your life!!! My daughter desisted after a few months of pretend, but she was only 14. I will be praying for you and your family for a similar outcome.
I have to say: it’s still shocking to me how many putative adults are willing to lie. I’m glad you have friends who are grounded in truth. 💕
Stellar work. Really resonated with me. I find myself disgusted with the whole thing around this trans cult and whatever evil started this with our kids not to mention the popularized notion that parents who disagree are now vilified as dangerous. Disagreement = danger?! Good grief. Prayers for us all to maintain and overcome this evil.